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Posie - Monday, 28 Jan
I left it up to my hubby re:circumcision. He wanted his son to look like him. I didn't care for it, but my son is 11 and says he wouldn't want it any other way... Aint it a pain to have to make decisions like this?

margysd - Monday, 28 Jan
Hi, I posted a message on the board about being concerned about not feeling my baby for a few days. I just got back from my doctor’s and heard my baby’s heart beat on the Baby Doppler and everything is TOTALLY NORMAL. Tomorrow I will be 5 months and 1 week along, but as the weeks progress, the doc said that I will feel the movements more frequently and stronger. He also said that if I get concerned I can go into the office and use there Doppler to listen if I need reassurance.

Thanks for your support and the support of all of the other mothers on this board. It has been amazing.

amberd - Monday, 28 Jan
Yall are a great couple!!!! I did on my first baby (I am haveing a girl this time so dont have to worry with it) he didnt act like it bothered him he didnt cry when we got it done and he didnt act like it bothered him afterwards. So its up to you I dont remmeber why or if you said why you didnt wont to its the baby brain again!!

mom2boy - Monday, 28 Jan
Oh yeah, my husband and I are in the same boat we cannot decide but are leaning towards not doing it.

mom2boy - Monday, 28 Jan
I posted this in the 30 week forum but I figure I will post it here too to make sure you see it. It is an article put out by the American Acadamy of Pediatrics. It is a good article that leaves opinion and horror stories out of the circumcision topic.
http://www.aap.org/advocacy/archives/marcircum.htm

Hoping4AGurl - Monday, 28 Jan
You should get it done.Hands down. Its not that bad obviously if boys have gotten it done and turned out better than fine. I had a bf who was 24 and he wasnt and he seriously felt embarrassed to show it. It took him about 3 months just to show me. He was looking into getting it done now even though he's 24, he seems to think its worth it and he hates his mom for not doing it. Plus you know boys dont wipe when they use the bathroom and you dont want that excess pee sutck in there eventually that can cause a smell and an infection.

mom-o-7 - Monday, 28 Jan
I'm having our fourth child, first son, I'm defintitely having him circumsised, I've only seen one man without his done, quite honestly, it looks very strange...I would never do that to my son. It may be painful for a while, but he won't remember, he will want to know when he gets older why we did that to him(or didn't do that to him)! My husband is definitely in favor of circumcision. I hope I don't sound too vain, I also work in the medical field and as men get older they have a hard time keeping it clean, I know that's looking way down the road..but why not go ahead and do it while they're young and won't remember the pain??

meerkat - Monday, 28 Jan
ahhh...this question came up a month or 2 ago. I'm from the UK & it is not standard procedure or a 'trend' to do it here but I do know an 11 year old & a 30 year old that have both been circumsised (for health reasons, not religious). In my personal opinion I take the view that we're all built the same way & it's not normal to do it here & we don't often hear of blokes having 'problems' so I guess if it ain't broke why fix it?!...as I say this really is a personal opinion but it may help you think about it in a different way. Good luck with making your decision!

miracle-baby - Sunday, 27 Jan
I see that you have a lot of opinions here. I just wanted to say that I had my son circumcised and I do not regret my decision. I have a nurse friend who works with older men and she said that it is awful the pain that they suffer because of not being able to clean it properly. Plus, my father was so against it because he is not done, yet a year later he came to me and said tat it was the best decision I ever made. Perhaps it doesn't pose a medical reason as young people but as men get older they tend to have more problems. What is a few minutes of pain as a newborn to years of pain as an adult. Most men would live with that pain without getting help due to embarrassment.
Now like everyone else, I agree that it is a personal choice and that you have to make this decision for your family. Hopefully, this helps a little.

just1sillygirl - Sunday, 27 Jan
This has been one of the hardest decisions for us, too. My husband is circumsized, but we're leaning toward not getting our little boy circumsized. There's no convincing evidence of any immediate medical benefit to it, and in the state we're in (in the US) the rate of uncircumsized boys (as of 2005) is slightly higher - so we figure there's not as much social pressure as we thought there would be either. I know that whatever decision you make, though, it'll be the right one!

Gypsymama - Sunday, 27 Jan
We are having a boy too and will not have him circumcised. My DH is not either, and has never had any health problems related to that. He doesn't remember any teasing as a kid either. I think it's about 50/50 now with what people choose to do, so I imagine being not circumcised will more common in the future.

Jo-Mama - Sunday, 27 Jan
If I have a boy, I won't circumcise him because there is no medical reason for the procedure. I don't want to cut my baby if there is no compelling reason to do so. My husband is circumcised, but agrees that it's unnecessary for our son.

aderyn3 - Sunday, 27 Jan
Hi there! My son is not circumcised. He is 3 1/2 and has NEVER had any problems (and UTI's run in our family, at least in the women.) He stays nice and clean, never had a UTI, etc. If this baby is a boy, we will not circumcise him, either. It is a procedure not recommended by the American Academy of Pediatrics, due to the risks outweighing any potential benefit. The analogy I have for it is, it's like cutting off his trigger finger because one day he might come across a gun and shoot somebody. I do medical transcription, and I have typed innumerous reports of infections, bleeding, etc after the procedure. (honestly, would you want an open wound soaking in urine and feces all day?) There have also been a few local cases of boys who have been botched so bad, they've later killed themselves because of the effect it had on their self esteem. My husband is circumcised, and it was very important to him NOT to circumcise our son. He said he can tell he does not have all of the sensitivity he should. The way I look at it, IF he has problems in the future, it can always be done if MEDICALLY necessary with proper anesthesia. As long as you teach your son good hygiene (and yes, that is possible...my son is very particular about cleaning his parts and pieces from head to toes, and will even point out if I accidentally skipped his pinkie toe!) and press the importance of safe sex (which is much more important and effective than circumcision in preventing STD's) there is not really a good reason to do it other than 'fitting in.' For me, I teach my children be comfortable in their own skins, rather than think they need to conform to society's 'standards.' Good luck in your decision!

lilreysmama - Sunday, 27 Jan
I'm sure u have heard so many pros & cons on the circumsion subject by now,I thought I should add my 2 cents seeing as everyone else has...lol No but really my hubby & I were on thje same boat.He was going 2 leave it up to me to make the final decision.He said if he had it his way we would not circumsized but not b/c of the pain or the hygene or any other reason in the books but 4 the mere fact that he is not circumsised himself.So I did plenty of research & found out that the american pediatrics assoc no longer deems this procedure medically necessary.It is also no longer a covered benefit by most insurances.After doing much reading I found out this procedure is done with a mild anesthetic which is cruel if u ask me.I also read that circumsion was mostly done out precaution.Poor hygene.But studies do not reveal that boys that are ciscumsised suffer more from poor hygene vs boys that are.Before doing my research I was pretty set on having my baby boy circumsised but after doing much reading I have opted not to.I hope some of this helps u with your choice.Good luck with your pregnancy & god bless u & your family.

younghipmumma - Sunday, 27 Jan
Hi there hun! I know you are going to have a million opinions throwen at you about getting your little boy Circumcised but i just wanted to let you knw that i have two sons aged 4 and 2 and i did not get them done. There dad is done but after discussing the risks of the operation with a specialist and going over the pro's and con's including health and hygine plus talking to over 50 mothersat my play group we decided that it just was not neccasary. 40 out of the 50 mothers with children of the same age as my boys had not had it done so we felt that it may actually mak them feel out of place when they are older with friends and Girlfriends.
Plus my theorie is that if i get it done and he hates it when he is older he cant have it sewn back onbut if i dont and he decides he wants it done he can go and get it done.
I have not had any problems with y boys getting any infections and to be honest i consider it to be the same as getting a baby girls labia removed! They both do the same thing and we wouldnt even consider cutting those off!
Good luck with your decision and with your little boy, Dont let anyone push yu into going either way with this, its your son, its your choice.
P.s here in Australia they dont actually remove the whole foreskin anymore, they only remove the tip and you are very hard pressed to find a surgon willing to do it unless it is for medical reasons.

anfmom - Sunday, 27 Jan
Hey about circumsition I dont really see a diffrence BUT I know guys that wish their parents would have gotting it done. It is more cleaner and it easier for you to keep clean while he is a child. Not having it done they can gert infections alot easier even as adults. Thats just what I know from actual guys i know.

mintea - Saturday, 26 Jan
Circumcision is not medically necessary. It doesn't prevent infections, you don't pull back the foreskin to clean (don't ever let anyone tell you that...it shouldn't be pulled back until the kid is like 8 or 9 and he does it by himself or you could cause a real problem), and it most certainly does not cause yeast infections...some women are prone to that, but for multiple reasons not having to do with circumcision of her partner. You should look into the research if you don't know what to do about it, because there are definite opinions for both sides...but remember it’s not medically necessary, which is why your insurance won't pay for it. Also, the reason that circumcision became popular in the 50’s, other than for religious reasons, was because doctors thought it was a good idea to discourage masturbation. I know we were prudish in the 50’s, but that is ridiculous. It’s been found in some research that boys who’ve been circumcised feel more pain throughout childhood than uncircumcised boys. The theory is that they are pretty trusting that everything will feel ok, until they are strapped to the board and screaming in pain. Of course some doctors give them a little anesthetic so it’s not as bad. I feel like the circumcised penis does indeed look nicer…but that’s only because I grew up in the 80’s in the USA. My Swedish friends don’t have a problem with it; they think we are the weird ones for doing that to our boy children.

destineesmama - Saturday, 26 Jan
i have known guys who havent had it done and have alot of problems...infections is a big thing as an adult when they are sexually involved with someone, also i heard alot of my men friends say its embarressing to be undressed around their mate with the way it looks???...it is all up to you but also your young son is gonna turn into a young adult...and alot of men wished they would had have it done when they were a baby...i am gettin my sons done...but its the choice of u and ur husband...good luck!

laurada - Saturday, 26 Jan
Hi there. Circumcisions are very contraversial right now but I am going to tell you why I hhad my son done. I have people in my family that have had to have it done at an age where you don't forget about it. Its a major procedure at that point. Also I wanted him to look like daddy. On the day of his circumcision I was so scared. I started to regret my decision and then we left him and came bak 10 minutes later the procedure was done and he slept through the whole thing. I cried more then he did. the gave him freezin and he seriously slept the whole time. This is totally your decision but I am very thankful everyday that we had or son done. Good luck with your decision

momma-b - Saturday, 26 Jan
Wow. I see that your question has sparked quite a response. My husband and I are expecting a son as well, and he told me that he would never even consider not having the baby circumcised, and I agree with him. In the end, I think that you should do what you and your husband feel is right, and don't worry about what people say to you, or about horror stories that you hear.

flineagle - Saturday, 26 Jan
circumcisions are just cosmetic, so that your son won't 'look' different, which only seems to matter to some ppl in the USA. Its not harder to clean(it will only take a man 30 more seconds in the shower, which woudlnt be a bad a idea circumcised or not). I dont think its worth putting the child through pain, even if he wont remember it.

momi08 - Saturday, 26 Jan
I heard that circumcisions are for medical purposes. I have heard the same as amberizzle said, they keep infection away. I can't understand why (with the exception of the traditions of Judaism) a person would not want to go ahead and get it over with when the baby won't remember any of it.

amberizzle - Saturday, 26 Jan
This decision is yours and yours alone, but it's been proven that less infections occur once the foreskin is removed. Plus less cleaning -- your boy won't have to scoop out the smegma that forms beneath the foreskin (again, leading to less infections). People who argue there are 'no benefits' apparently allow the idea of their baby in pain to override fact. However, it is still YOUR decision. Your son won't be horribly mutilated if you do, and he won't be infection-prone and sick if you don't. He'll just have to clean more and so will you for the first few years. Also at the infantile age that circumcision occurs your child will never remember the experience or the pain. Personally -- and this is just me -- I would circumcise a boy for both the health benefits and the superficial ones. Either way you decide, good luck and God bless!

1blessedmomma - Saturday, 26 Jan
Barbi,
I haven't really seen this mentioned so I thought I'd point out that circumcision first started during the time of Abraham. This was a sign of the covenant made between God and Abram (Abraham). I honestly can't give you any medical statistics regarding cirumscision, however; both of my boys are circumcised and I do plan to have this one done as well. If you're interested in reading about it, go to Genesis chapter 17 verses 6-14. Hope this helps!

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