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proud-mom - Saturday, 26 Jan
on the circumsising. it is totally up to you. we have two boys and they have been. we are expecting our third boy and he will also be done. i am a babysitter and have seen boys that are done and some that are not. i find it a pain when they are not because you have to be very careful that you clean under the fore skin so that they dont get infections. they have to contiune to clean it for the rest of their lives. i have done alot of reasearch on this and have found more pros to having it done then not. ya there are some risks to getting it done like the first week you have to make sure you clean around the area so that it doesnt get infected but that is just for the first week not the rest of their lives. but it is totally up to ever person that has a boy. i dont think it is a cosmetic thing. i think it is necissary. i have had guy friends that their parents didnt have them done and in high school they went and got it done cause they were sick of cleaning it. it was alot harder on them then on a baby that is done in the early stages. i had no problems with my two boy and honestly the shots are worst i think then having them done. i was in the room when they did it and they just cried the first few minutes and then they were fine. i am religious but our decision had nothing to do with the religion. i find it easier on the boys and in the long run the best thing to do. but research it and ask your doctor about it. there are still pros and cons on it but do what you think is best for you and your family in the LONG RUN.

jessicadarling - Saturday, 26 Jan
My boyfriend and I had discussed this too if we were having a boy. We decided to get our baby circumcised because my boyfriend didn't want to have to explain to our son why they look different. He thinks that if the father is the son should be to stop confusion or to have the son feel like he can't be just like his daddy. That was one of the reasons anyway.

momoffive - Saturday, 26 Jan
We had our first son circumsised and will have this baby done too. My OB who is a surgon does it the day after the birth. If it was just done in the pediatricians office I would probably not do it but My OB is amazing. My husband went with our son and said he only cried for a half a second while it was being done, his first shots hurt him worse. My best friend had her boys doen at almost a month old and they cried for like 30 min. They say that the baby's pain tollerence is much higher like the first ten days or something like that. So my opinion is, if it can be done by a surgon before even leaving the hospital go for it. I have met several MEN that had to have it done later in life due to infections. The thought of that terrified me for my poor baby boy.

katiemom - Saturday, 26 Jan
My husband is not circumcised, neither are my 3 step-sons. Go with your instincts, and do a little research, there are really no benefits to having it done. You will just have to make sure as he grows older that he learns how to clean it properly! My best advice would be to do what feels right for you, this is your baby, and you know what is best for him!

babydust87 - Friday, 25 Jan
im not having my baby boy circumsized. my mother is appalled and said that when she baby sits she is going to go do it and i said over my dead body. every guy she has ever been with was cicumsized so she just doesnt know what it looks like not. my fiance is not circumsized and even if he were i wouldnt let them do that to my baby. i have heard too many horror stories and i would just rather avoid that all together. my dad is circumsized and so is my whole family basically so im not against it i just dont think its right for me or my family. good luck to you!

mitzumama - Friday, 25 Jan
To circumcise or not can be a tough choice, especially if you don't have all the right info. I chose not to circumcise my son for a few reasons:
1. The newer medical data suggests that it is a totally unnessesary procedure and it is now categorized as , cosmetic.
2. The procedure does cause the baby pain. They are given pain medication to numb the area, but during the healing process they are uncomfortable.
3. because of the open wound in the diaper area, infection is more likely.
4. More and more families are choosing not to circumcise, so it is no longer a matter of wanting our sons to look like their peers.
5. My sister and best friend are nurses. My sister did not circumcise her boys because she says that once you've seen the procedure done, you can only feel guilty for wanting to put your baby through it just for looks. And my friend says after seeing it, she will never ever do it herself.
6. They have recently proven that when a circumcision is preformed the nerve endings on the penis are forever altered, many are removed with the foreskin. Which suggests that circumcision changes the way sex feels.
7. I think the final reason was because I didn't like the idea of having my new baby taken away from me right after birth to have his penis cut. That didn't set well with me. i just wanted him to feel good and safe in his first days in my arms.

All that said, it really is a matter of choice. You are not a bad person if you choose to do it, nor are you a bad person if you don't. It's just good to know that medically, the only reason for doing it is to make your son's penis look a certain way. There is no longer any evidence to prove that a circumcised penis is cleaner or easier to care for.

cnjsmum - Friday, 25 Jan
Hi, I don't agree with circumcision. My dh is not, my son is not and neither have had problems with their wee wees. LOL. Its more of a religious think now I think. There was a great you tube video someone posted when I was in the 20th or 21st week, that had testiments from a whole lot of docs and specialists who stated there is clearly no medical reason to do this, you should have a search for it on there, it is very well worth the watch, but also does not support circumcision, so is one sided, but all medically proven fact. And I do agree with your friend it is very old fashioned now. I don't want to sound pushy, pushing my ideals on to you. But I couldn't stand the thought of doing that to my own son. I think they are born with thouse parts for a reason. Good luck in your decision. take care

baby4aaden - Friday, 25 Jan
I have 2 boys (almost 3 boys) and they are not circumcised. They have never had any problems with infection or anything and the foreskin was put there by God why cut it off? It's really what you feel comfortable with but circumcism in America has gone from 90% to 50% in just a few years supporting the idea that we realize it is unneccesary. I see that your baby has a two vessel cord? They just found that mine does too, he has no other birth defects but they are monitoring him closely for growth and I can't help but worry about him so good luck and congrats you will see that everything will be okay!

jenn1022 - Friday, 25 Jan
I am having my thrid boy. I have my other two sons done. We have chosen not to do it again with this little guy, because of our second sons reaction was traumatic for me and the dh . He came back from it screaming his little head off and we both felt so guilty and wondered why the heck we did that to our precious little baby. Anyways I agree with you on the reason people get it done now our mainly cosmetic, and that is not a good enough reason for me. Thats all Hope I wasn't too preachy!

FirsttimemommaC - Friday, 25 Jan
I'm in the exact same boat as you with regard to circumcision. At first it seemed like a 'no brainer' that I would deffinately have it done. My husband felt the same even though he isn't. Well after going to classes and talking with medical professionals, we are leaning more toward not having it done. There is no medical reason for it and it's completely cosmetic. The whole hygeine thing isn't even an issue really and you'd be kidding yourself if you were to believe it doesn't hurt them. I just can't stand the thought of putting my baby boy through that when it's not even necessary. My husband grew up when it was a lot more common to be circumsised and he wasn't and he's a sports fanatic, played hockey all his life and he said the little bit of teasing he endured wasn't enough for him to want to have his son snipped and we are now in an era, where, like you said, it's pretty 50/50. I think because people are more aware now then they used to be. It's kind of viewed as a thing of the past. Anyways, sorry to rant, it's totally a decision for you and your hubby and you shouldn't feel bad either way. I certainly am not one to judge. I'm still a little undecided too. Great topic for discussion!

heather1218 - Friday, 25 Jan
Just alittle opion on having your son circumsized. it was a must have done with me. my son was fine with with it.i don't really think it is that painfull for them i think it is worse for mom to think about! wait till the 1st time they have to go an have shots and cry, that was the worst thing for me! i cried harder than they did!

mommyx2 - Friday, 25 Jan
hi there fellow albertan :) we didnt have our son circumcised because we felt that it is cruel and unnessesary...my husband wanst either so we kind of thought that when the time comes for him to learn about self hygeine and grooming and that sort of thing it would be easier for him to learn from a dad that is the same...and i also feel that if people want their sons to be circumcised then why dont they have their girls circumcised too? they do that in other countries which i think is awful...and people also do it for religious reasons but if god wanted boys to not have a foreskin then he wouldnt have created them that way...just a thought...but it is a very touchy subject for lots of people and each to their own but for me i didnt find it necessary...i think i was also scared to do it because a friend of mine has her little boy done and it got infected really bad and is now very scarred and mangled looking so that was enough for me...its a big decision so do lots of research and think it over :)

conita5 - Friday, 25 Jan
just read ur blog about circumcision. and for me it was a must i wouldn't want my son to be any different than the rest of the boys and when and if he decided to get it done later they said the older they are the more painful it is something to think about. hope all is well and congrats on the little boy they are a joy.

Mommy-to-BBQ - Friday, 25 Jan
Hey there.
My husband and I have been trying to figure out if we'll have our baby circumcised or not.
I never thought we would have trouble with this decision but now that we're having a baby, I can't imagine him going through such a procedure.
My husband is completely against having it done.
Decisions, decisions!
Good luck to you and your hubby!

cristty - Friday, 25 Jan
No I have not started anything yet... my house was under renovation and we still have another week to go because we are paiting everything still.... so I have not started looking yet because I was so focus on the renovation... I will probably start looking next weekend when the house is all done :)

cristty - Friday, 25 Jan
Really??? I hope he changes his habits then
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He moves when I'm watching TV... around 9/10 at night and then he wakes me up around 6 6:30 with movements again.... so I guess it's not hat bad... eeheheh
I feel great so far but starting to feel tired and sleepy again during the day... Have u started doing the nursery yet??

branbug - Friday, 25 Jan
Thanks a lot, and maybe he'll take off the 4 pts for the ticket as well! I don't have any as of yet. :)

Posie - Thursday, 24 Jan
I like the name Domonik (sp?). But H says no. We have agreed on the kids name so far but he has some wierd ideas for names (I think):) He wanted to name one of our girls India, Pheona, China, etc. I want something a little unusual, but not that much! Have a great day!

mommyx2 - Thursday, 24 Jan
thanks for the comment....my hubby already told all the guys that he wasnt going before he told me about it which i am happy that he stuck up to his friends and said that but what makes me mad is that his friends thought that it was a good idea in the first place and that i am being a control freak for 'not letting him' which was a decision BOTH of us came to....his friends are just immature and they have always treated me with respect and kindness so thats why this whole thing has me upside down...i know it will pass and i doubt that they can be organized enough to get everything together to go to the states...none of them even have passports yet haahah

branbug - Thursday, 24 Jan
Thanks so much for the comment. I think I will try to go to court. So when I talk to the judge should I explain exactly what happened? If i plead guilty is there still a chance of reduction of the fine? That is what I am hoping for. I don't mind taking the time off work, it'll be worth it, I have sick time. THANK YOU MUCH!!

Posie - Wednesday, 23 Jan
Thanks again and congrats on your first! Pretty interesting having that 'alien' feeling in your tummy eh? Even after three kids it feels wierd. I need a baby name. My hubby wants to name him Neil but I'd prefer something else. Problem is, my mother LOVES the name! :)

margysd - Wednesday, 23 Jan
Thanks so much for you posting on my page about my baby’s fetal movements. This week I have a doctor’s appointment so I will ask to hear the baby’s heartbeat on the doppler. Take Care.

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