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Danigirl79 - Friday, 25 Jan
I agree. Thank you for your complete honesty . I am finding that this is how how I also feel 50% of the time. I don't know if I'm cut out to be a mommy 24/7...

Martina26 - Wednesday, 23 Jan
Your posts are remarkably honest. What courage, I felt very pressured with my first pregnancy to feel and react a certain way. I had to hide and bury my true feelings of resentment, frustration and fear. It was poor timing and we were financially strapped. But I will say that I know many mothers that really dont like kids. Their needed and whinny and have attitudes. And ironically are some of the realest and best moms i know. They learned, hey i dont like kids but i love my kids. Since i never addressed my true feelings i suffered silently but obviously with minor post pardum after my first for about 6-9 months. I was really just going through the motions. But its true what they say--once you look into ur babies eyes its like someone gave you a free get out of jail pass. You get to start all over. This one thing in this world is urs all urs and nobody can tell you what to do with it. It wont judge you, only love you and want toplease you. Youll laugh and cry together it really is amazing. Then come those darn terrible two years when many find themselves on doorsteps lol ;) Keep it real and take care. If you ever want the real deal or just want to vent buzz me ;)

SHELLYMAC1970 - Tuesday, 22 Jan
Hi I read your post from Sunday and firstly do you still feel the same? If you do and its how you TRULY feel and not a reaction to something really bad happening to you either recently or years ago then you should consider putting this child up for adoption and starting over. I dont know anything about you and Im not judging but you sound very angry and thats not a good emotion when pregnant cos the hormones, I personally find, are confusing enough. If you need someone to talk to who knows nothing about you and will not judge you only listen Im here.

Diana1810 - Sunday, 6 Jan
I found your post very moving and totally agree with Girl-from-oz's comment below, you are quite entitled to feel what you feel, regardless of other people's problems. I can't see a day when I'll be bouncing up and down with joy any time soon, as I feel very pressured to do. Hope you are coping, and good luck x

sweets - Tuesday, 1 Jan
Sounds like your completley depressed:( Although I have no idea how far along you are but things do get a little better a little bit at a time. I too hated the beginning of my pregnancy, everything sucked and it made me say things that I didn't really mean.

Girl-from-oz - Wednesday, 12 Dec
I was so moved by your comment that I signed on to this website just to give you a little advice. Its ok to be disappointed. It will pass. Last week I was told that Im growing a little girl. I cried for three days. I grew up in an excellent family, but I wasnt as protected as my parents thought. Instead for years I secretly suffered terribly from sexual abuse, and now this has harboured fears about having a girl. I also didnt want a child to take after me physically as Im a tiny specimen with unproportionate breasts to my size (medical problems and unwanted and non permissional advances in my life havent helped either). If your disappointement is or is not caused by any personal or past fears, it is still ok to feel the way you do. Try not be offended by anyone who gives you harsh advice. They may not realize their comments are just painful and are in no way a bandaid to your situation. Your message was powerful enough to make all these people who have commented take notice, and whether they can sympathise or scoff at the way you are feeling, you have at leaset brought this part of pregnancy to awareness.
Yes, there are some people who cant concieve, and there are some people who are dying of cancer, and there are some people who a raising a child with severe disabilities ect. But unfortunatley that is their sorrow, not yours. Never discount the way you are feeling. You are valid in your life to feel the way you do. Who are we to judge negativity your way. This could be part of the way you handle your pregnancy hormones, and there is nothing wrong with a good sob and sads. I promise you will feel better in a few days, and if not, seek some friends or counselling.
'In seeking to find out path, we find others who travel with us'
Good luck in your health X

scrappy - Wednesday, 12 Dec
I know EXACTLY how you feel in the reverse. I am pregnant with my 3rd boy. I just found out yesterday. I cried the hr. home from my appt. This is our last baby and I was mourning all the mommy daughter moments I won't be having and the cute holiday dresses I won't be buying. Thankfully the baby is healthy. I look at this as an opportunity to come to terms with my feelings before the baby is born... so when he finally gets here I can enjoy him and not be disappointed. The feelings of disappointment will pass (they did with my 2nd boy and they are with this one too) and you can get excited about the birth of your daughter. :) Best of Luck!

mama08c - Wednesday, 12 Dec
I completely understand,I really wanted a girl so bad and last week I found out it was a boy and my first thought was I don't want a boy.I really felt bad about this thought because I should of asked more about the baby being healthy.When I got home I did not even call any one to tell them I really expected a girl.But God knows best and I am more focused on him being healthy now.Shopping really helped me to accept the fact that it was a boy.Trying to think about what he would look like in this outfit or that outfit.I did glance over at the girl stuff a few times though.Give it a few days you will start to be just as excited about your baby girl

jenifer - Tuesday, 11 Dec
Ready - here it is. ou are not stupid. You did need to give yourself tough love. You remind yourself how there are women out there who can't have babies at all. You think about someone dying in the hospital with cancer and know that they'd be telling you to enjoy being the luckiest person on earth. You think about your good fortune of a healthy baby girl versus the parents having a baby boy who will never see or speak and you SNAP OUT OF IT.
You're getting a beautiful gift that not everyone receives. Be thankful!

babyg - Tuesday, 11 Dec
I think it was COMPLETELY wrong for her to say it was 'stupid' for you to be upset about this. That was not right and not her place to say that. Im really sorry. I found out last Sat that we are having a girl too and we are thrilled. I went shopping over the weekend and it was SO fun! Girls really can be a lot of fun and you are very blessed to be having a healthy baby. Try to think of the fun things you will get to do with her that you might not be able to do with a boy. Think of the special 'girl bond' you two will have that you could never have with a boy and your little one could never have with her dad. Its something you can only have btwn a mom and a daughter... I have it with my mom! If you need to talk, just let me know.

paola - Monday, 10 Dec
Hello!!
Congrats on your baby girl!!! maybe is not what you wanted (sex) but I'm pretty sure this angel will make you a very happy/proud mommy.
everything happends for a reason!!
God Bless you.

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