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mama40 - Tuesday, 30 December
MIke got his first tooth. It is the bottom one. One more step toward growing. I wish this first baby year wasnt going by so fast.

mama40 - Sunday, 28 December
I think the reason why we both so worried is that we still cant fully believe that at our advanced age we are blessed with perfect babies:) Of course I already read all about autism, I am happy to admit that the description doesnt fit him. he becomes more social now - looks almost like he wants to say something but cant. His sound assortment is slowly expending now. He says dada and gaga and some other things that can be count as beginning of language. We bought him a larger playpen - it is kind of enclosure made from plastic panels. To me there is enough space for him to explore, but all he does now is standing there and complaining. he stands until he falls and then complain more. His toys are not interesting him any more. All he wants to be picked up and played with. My husband says this is enough argument against autism, because autistic children are quite happy to entertain themselves. Maybe he is right. I now BF only at night. I don't have your determination to keep pumping during the day. I hope he eats enough during the night to keep him protected. By the way, how is your younger daughter interact with the baby? Does she seem feel affection to him yet? My gilrs sometimes show some affection to MIke, but not much still.

mama40 - Thursday, 25 December
You know, I would prefer him to slower down on physical development and speed up a bit his social interaction. he is not autistic, I think, since he reacts on us and smiles and makes some noises, but this is so different from what I read in the literature. But maybe i am reading too much. I am dreading walking stage, since he is bound to fall and bump into sharp corners more often. he is also becomes kind of big for his pl;aypen, which is so convenient place to keep the baby. By the way, how you dress up Antoshka? Mike is still in short-sleeved bodysuits . The other day I bought him long pants, because it is cold on the floor, and when I put them on, he became so clumsy. He couldnt crawl or stand at all. So I took them off and allowed him to remain lightly dressed. Even socks already hamper his movements, but my husband is afraid he gets cold without socks, so i put them on. I know one lady who dress his baby in adult-type clothing and this baby doesnt move much despite him being older then Mike. But the more MIke learn to move around, the less he is content in his playpen or crib.

mama40 - Wednesday, 24 December
My girls didnt go to Moscow at the end. We had so much snow, it was impossible to get to the airport. They go this summer instead. They gave us a credit, so we can use this tickets up to a year. MIke hit a standing stage. THis is really tiresome, since he pulls himself up at every opportunity (see picture in photobook), but is not stable enough and keeps falling. Today he played on the floor and stood up holding my chair and then fell down hitting his head on the base of my desk. He cried so hard. Now I try to make him safe playing areas with pillows and other stuff. His language development is still not very good though. he makes some noises, but definitely not gagaga or dadada and such like he is supposed to. It is more like brr, frr, trr. He also screams just for fun. I hope he will catch up with language eventually. Maybe he wil grow up to be an athlete, not speaker, who knows.

ama-llama - Sunday, 21 December
lol! Yeah, he doesnt seem to be a very easy baby..then again I have nothing to compare him to. I really am of two minds with the whole crying thing...but Im starting to come around to the idea that if we go through a rough week then it will bring much more happiness and calm in the long term. I can handle the crying up util about an hour and a half. Then I start to crumble

mama40 - Sunday, 21 December
Mike cryes wit tears sometimes, but I also feel so sorry for him. He now becomes aware of strangers and he starts criying with tears every time there comes some good willing lady who thinks that pinching other people's babies by cheeks and poking them in the tummy with her finger is a jolly good idea. he also sometimes bumps his head while trying new tricks, like standing in his crib. But imagine just sitting there seeing your baby cry and doing nothing - this is impossible. I also feel my baby is precious and I just determined to do everything to make him happy.

ama-llama - Saturday, 20 December
Thanks! I have read it and I think I will use parts of it. Im not looking forward to this, last night we tried to get him to sleep at first leaving him , then rocking , using a paci and the whole thing took HOURS. even WITH the crutches....and he trhew up. We havent even really started it yet. Yikes.

mama40 - Saturday, 20 December
For spoon food, I use normal teaspoons and just fill it up, put to his lips and let him slurp or sip the food. It is very messy, since lots of food end up on his face and bibs and often on other surfaces. I don't mind, but my husband is repulsed by this and always leaves the room when I start feeding. First feeding most of the food ended up around the baby instead of inside him, but now it is much better. he now eats a cup of cereal or a jar of stage 1 food without problem.
With sleep programs I have the same problem as you. My husband needs his sleep every day, so we cannot aford to have rough couple of weeks. When I feed Mike at night, my husband doesn't wake up, so everyone is happy including Mike. And since he now never BF during the day, I am glad he does it at night at least.

mama40 - Friday, 19 December
we all covered in snow. School canceled, people try to stay home. We went outside for a while - very pretty, but cold. Mike is very determined to wean himself. He now refuses breast during the day and takes it only at nights. I try to pump and give him bottle, but he is less interested in bottle also. he wants spoon. I feel that my milk supply is decreasing. Well, at least he stil BF at nights. My husband asked me when I am going to teach Mike to fall asleep on his own and I said - when he will understand at least some words. Until then he is my sweet baby and I do not mind all that rocking and singing and night time feeding.

thebigtomato - Wednesday, 17 December
All I can tell you about sleep sense is this. First, I removed ALL crutches starting on the first night (paci, bottle, falling asleep in my arms). I had to jiggle, bounce, make weird noises, and whatever else I could think of to keep him awake while feeding him his night time bottle. Second, you're going to have to listen to SOME crying or I don't recommend trying it. The first night, my little man cried like he was dying for 15 minutes straight and just passed out mid-cry. That was the worst night. Then he cried for about 5 minutes before falling asleep for the next week. Since then, he almost never cries at night time. Now, nap time is a different story. He will still cry for up to 10 minutes before sleeping at nap time. If he cries for longer than that, I will go get him, keep him awake for another half hour to an hour and try again. Usually anymore he only cries for about 5 minutes before sleeping at nap time as well. The key to this is finding a nap schedule that works for your baby and sticking to it. ALWAYS put them down in their crib. Since starting sleep sense, my baby was waking once a night for a bottle around 3 am for the first two weeks and then we cut out that last bottle. He would still wake at 3am and cry for 5-10 minutes and then would fall back asleep on his own. I have him in his own room (that was new for us when we started this program) and for the first couple of weeks I checked on him obsessively and rolled him from tummy to back any time he rolled onto his tummy. Now I just let the poor kid sleep. You get more confident that your baby is okay as you do the program and come in to them happy and rested in the mornings. He no longer uses a binky AT ALL. He dozes and his eyes roll around during his bottles, but he doesn't fully fall asleep until I lay him down now without me working to keep him awake. At night time, I lay him down and he falls instantly to sleep with no fuss. I have the monitor on, but turned down so that I will only hear him if he's really crying. I was having a lot of PPD and emotional issues that were getting worse as he was getting older. Since he's started sleeping through and I am sleeping through my emotional issues are almost 100% better. I had no idea what a huge role my lack of sleep was playing in my mood. Sorry this is so long. If you have any questions, feel free to message me. :)

nmck - Wednesday, 17 December
I'm sure as you read the program you will read that the author explains all of those things, paci, swaddle, rocking are all sleep crutches. But you are starting at the right time. I have the book Baby 411 that I keep on hand for advice. In that book, the doctor says you can do anything to get them to sleep until 2 months. Aound 4 months is when they start developing their self soothing skills, so she said the paci, etc had to go. When I read that, it seemed so harsh I couldn't imagine taking it away from him. But, he goes to my mom's while I am at work. She stopped giving him the paci at nap times because she said he took a longer nap if he did not have it. She was right! So we stopped giving it at bedtime too. It was perfect. he fussed the first night or two, and now he is fine.

He still does play with the paci as a teether, and during play times. We just don't use it to let him suck himself to sleep anymore. Anyway, sorry this is so long! Talk to you soon!

tpage - Wednesday, 17 December
Here you go, hope this helps!

The first night I tried this, it took me 3 1/2 hours to get him to sleep. But the next day it only took me 20 min. Now most of the time it only takes him about 5-10 min for him to fall asleep on his own. I notice that as the days have gone by, I’ve had to do less and less. I put him in his crib and he kind of just knows it’s bed time and falls asleep.

This is what I did the first night:

- I wore him out, playing, etc. until he got tired.
Then when I noticed he was sleepy, I started doing the usual things that I normally to do get him to bed. (bath time, feeding, rocking, etc. just so he got the idea that it was bed time)
- When he was sleepy, I put him in his crib and plaid some soft music that he was used to hearing before. and I gave him his pacifier. (I put it in his hand, because he likes to put his pacifier in his own mouth)
- He spent a lot of time rolling around in the crib. Every time he looked like he was about to get fussy I would pick him up, softly rocking him, do things that I usually do to comfort him and then put him down in his crib again when he was calm with his pacifier.
- He sleeps better when he has a nice full belly, so occasionally if he looked too energetic in his crib, I picked him up to feed him.
- For a long time he was moving all over his crib, then he did less and less. Towards the end, I turned off the music. And he eventually just rolled over and fell asleep. I was standing there pretty much the whole time. I put my hand down, so he could grab it if he wanted to. I stood there for a good 25 min while he was asleep, because he would wake up a couple of times and I wanted to make sure he knew that I was still there. So every time he showed signs of waking up, I lightly put my hand on his back. Then when I was sure that he was fast asleep, I left.


There have been a few times that I’ve done the following when he is resisting going to sleep. It usually takes me about 20 min:

- I notice that he’s tired, so I put him in his crib.
- I turn on the soft music
- I giv him his pacifier
- when he shows signs of getting fussy, I pick him up, slowly rocked from side to side for a little bit, then put him back in his crib when he’s calm and hand him his pacifier. After a while if he’s moving around in his crib a lot and he’s still not asleep, I’ll pick him up and feed him. (Sometimes I’ll do this a few times. I make sure not to over feed him though.)
- At that point he’ll usually be pretty drowsy and I put him in his crib awake.
- If he looks like he’s going to fall asleep while nursing. I wait until he’s really drowsy, stop the nursing and quickly put a pacifier in his mouth. While he’s drowsy and sucking on the pacifier, I put him in his crib awake and he falls right to sleep. (The reason I put him in his crib awake: 1. so that he can learn to fall asleep on his own. 2. If he falls asleep in the crib, he knows where he is. When he falls asleep in my arms and I put him down, he'll often wake up crying later, because I guess he expects to be in my arms)

I really hope this helps you like it's helped me! Let me know how it goes!

nmck - Wednesday, 17 December
The program might include some crying. But, if you would like more feedback than just me...ask about it in the 6 month group. A ton of the moms did it last month with fabulous results and a lot less crying than they expected. I did not have to do any cry-it-out at night. We had already had a rock solid nighttime routine, and our son would go right back to sleeep after eating a bottle in the night right from the beginning. We were very careful to follow advice we got from my mom and my sisters which ended up being extremely close to the sleep sense night time guidelines without realizing it. We set up a bedtime routine for own sanity due to his colic in the summer, but we have only deviated from it once since then when traveling.

But we did have to do a little crying to get him on a nap schedule. It was not much. Every time he cried I would tell myself I could go get him in 10 minutes. I never got the chance!! Most times it was less than 5 minutes.

If you decide to use it, or some of it, let me know how it goes for you. Good luck!!

mama40 - Monday, 15 December
Well, all my relatives in Moscow are in panic now:) They are all afraid how girl will travel alone. But they have to start gain independence someday. I will worry of course. The cosmetic company that pays me for writing stuff for them keeps iviting me in Israel to meet in person. They promise to pay for flight, to treat me in spa on Dead sea etc. But I am so afraid to go to Israel now. I been there about 10 years ago - it was much quieter. Now all those terrorists and wars etc. I am just afraid. But I am glad your daughter went. THis is great place to go. I still remember all those hills with olive trees and bright sun on blue sky. You know I am getting old, and my mother even more old. So we tend to worry. But young people, they want adventure. And they do not think about discomfort, danger etc. They just have great time. Well I hope everything will go well.

mama40 - Monday, 15 December
We made big decision and letting my girls to go to Russia for their winter break all by themselves. I am so worried, but they will be 17. I feel that they need some experience that wil help them to gain confidence in their strenght and to mature. And also their life is pretty much centered around computer and video there so it will be good for them to reconnect with family and to do something real. I found very cheap ticket with convenient flights. So I bought it and they are going on 21st. be back on 5th. By the way, they were very fast developing babies - always ahead of schedule to sit, stand crawl walk etc. But it really doesn't mean anything. They are mediocre girls. Maybe their talents will shine later, but now they are so average in everything. So just enjoy your baby achievements and try not to compare. Although I must admit, it is tempting to compare. MIke is stil says little. he smiles and reacts on our voices and even says some little sounds to our dog, but no big babling yet.

mama40 - Friday, 12 December
Thank you for offering dresses. My girls love to dress up. I can mail you a check with your postal expenses after that. Mike finally learned how to sit. It gave him a whole new area of occupation - he is now sitting and banging toys on the floor. He also started to make little happy sounds when he sees our dog. But dog does not respond tp him. Maybe he chose dog becuase they are similat size? I hope he will turn his attention on us also soon. Mike is definitely needs more than liquid food now. When I feed him my milk, he always eager to eat something solid after that too. Maybe you can start putting a bit of cereal into the bottle? By the way, how your little girl interact with Antoshka? Does he show any affection yet?

mama40 - Wednesday, 10 December
I think size 5 will be fine, but don't you want to save them for Lisa? She is 6 now, but time flies very fast.
To reduce reddedning in Antoshka's private areas, try to let him remain without diapers from time to time for several minutes a day/ Warm and wet make good ground for irritation, Also yeasts may grow and cause this problem. I hope MIke will talk more in the future. Maybe he is just silent type.

mama40 - Tuesday, 9 December
we are getting closer to the 6th months mark. Time flies so fast now. I stopped battling with MIke. I offer him breast, and if he refuses, just give him something else. So now he wants BF about three times during the day and about three times at night, which I think is enough. The rest he eats different cereals, mostly home made, and some fruits. he tolerates well mannaya kasha made on watered down cow milk, oatmeal and rice. He now developed some taste preferences. he likes all kashi, and some fruits with bland sweet taste like bananas, sweet popatoes, peaches. But he makes funny faces when I give him apples or pears. Looks like he is eating a lemon, not apple. I will give him what he likes for now and leave teaching him variety for after 6 months. I actualy like it that I no longer BF every 2-3 hours and can partially reclaim my body:) I don't think I will miss BF much. The only thing that keeps me from switching to pumping is my laziness. BF is just much easier. On 20th my girls will have BD party. I have no idea how I will endure it with baby on my arms. I think I will barricade in my room and ask them to bring me supplies until party is over. Bunch of teenage girls makes awaful lot of noise. Mike is trying to sit up - very funny since he keeps falling back. But still makes very little sounds unless he is upset. Hope it is just his personality, not some delay in his development.

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mama40 - Friday, 5 December
I think you done great giving him your breasmilk for so long. Even if ou stop now, still you done well. But I would try to keep pumping at least once a day until we are in the middle of flue season. Just recently both my girls had some kind of flu or cold and were coughing and sneezing all over the house. I was so glad that I BF, because Mike was fine and didn't get sick. Today he Bf only two times a day, and teh rest I euther gave him solids mixed with my milk or pumped milk from the bottle. I wish I knew why he is refusing breast like this. During thenight he eats well, so I am not concerned that he doesn't get enough breastmilk.

mama40 - Tuesday, 2 December
Our feeding goes like this. he eats freely during the night. Then he refuses BF until about 1 PM. So in the morning I pump and mix my milk with whatever solid he eating like cereals, sweet potatoes, bananas etc. I give him one solid feeding at about 10am, then next at about 12. And then I struggle with him to BF. Sometimes it is easier to let him sleep and then offer breast right aftre he woke up. I try not to give him solids afternoon, except cereals when he refuses BF for too long. so afternoons and evening the most challenging feeding time. i do not want to feed him while he is sleeping out of fear that it becomes a habit. i try wait out when he becomes hungry. sometimes it works, but other times i turn feeding into big battle when he is screaming and whirling like a worm and i try to stuff his mouth with my breast. and this is after 4-5 hrs interval!

mama40 - Tuesday, 2 December
I know how you feel about your son. My younger twin girl now goes through the difficult time of transition into adulthood and also often cries. She will turn 17 in three weeks, but to me she is a little girl. I have no idea how to help her because for me this stage was dificult too - she is shy, has problem skin, doesn't know how to dress well (I am no help here). It is difficult to be a teen girl. But being in the army is much harder. I seen enough movies to understand what your son is describing. I do not know the reason for this, why they treat people like dirt, because in Israel army as I was told there is no such treatment. And this army is the most efficient in the world. My friend in Israel has his daughter in the army now and there is no problem there. All you can do now is to offfer him your love and support. And hope that it will do him good - help to turn him into good adult.

mama40 - Tuesday, 2 December
Irena, what I want to ask you, how is Antoshka's intellectual and emotional development? O am a bit concerned that Mike still makes too little sounds. When he is upset, he can say a mouthful, but he rarely uses sounds to attract our attention except when crying. Does Antoshka babbles a lot? What sounds does he make? Does he copy your sounds? What other language-social interaction signs you already noticed? Mike is well-developed in the sense of motor skills, but seems much more vslowly in other aspects. Or may be I want too much? His bowel movements is ok again - every day without any help. But because of all those solids, he poops almost like adult now. And it smells too. My husband cannot stand watching him eating solids. he says that the picture of food running down his chin and bibs and clothes etc is awful. he also cannot understand why i am upset when Mike is not eating. he says - just wait, do not try to overfeed him. But sometimes I just loose my patience and engage in feeding battles. The result - baby is crying and stil not eating. May be I have to take a grip of myself and just let him decide when he wants to eat.

mama40 - Friday, 28 November
hi, irena 9typing with one hand, since mike doesnt want to play on his own0. happy thanksgiving. have you got my email with our family? i ask because sometimes letters got put into junk box, as it happened with your mesages for some reason, or simply cut off by filter. i write more when my hands will be free/

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