About me
Aly Babynoy
Currently in: Germany
Age: 24
Induced Due date: MARCH 17 2008!!
Expected Due date: 3/29/08
Expecting:Makaila Jadyn
My name is Ali and I'm pregnant for the 2nd time! I
had stillbirth in 2005 when I was 21 years of age, with my 1st born babyboy. I named him Jea'deon Marcel. He was the most beautiful baby and still is to me. I will love him for eternity until I am with him in heaven. He made me view the world as I have never seen before. The cause for his stillbirth was placenta abruption. The placenta wall seperated from him and his oxygen level was gone. I would tell the whole story but everytime I do I cry for months. I also found out that I have a genetics disease called Alpha thalassemia to learn more about this condition please visit this website
http://healthatoz.com/healthatoz/Atoz/common/standard/transform.jsp?requestURI=/healthatoz/Atoz/ency/thalassemia.jsp
After
my son's death I went into a shell and now I've decided to create
awareness for this illness some people can be silent carriers and not
even know! I feel scared and uncertain of what will happen to my 2nd
baby. I am trying to keep a positive outlook.
INFORMATION ABOUT:
Placenta Abruption During Pregnancy
Placental abruption is when the placenta separates from the site which it is implanted in the uterus.
If the placenta begins to detach during the course of your pregnancy there will be some bleeding
as the blood vessels which attach to your placenta will begin to
detach. The larger the area which detaches, the greater the amount of
bleeding.
What may cause placenta abruption?
Previous pregnancies with placenta abruption
Hypertension (high blood pressure)
Cigarette smoking
Multiple pregnancy
Is placenta abruption dangerous?
Placenta abruption is dangerous mainly because of the risk of uncontrolled bleeding or
haemorrhaging which may occur as a result. It may also lead to other possible complications, such as:
Haemorrhage and shock
Disseminated vascular coagulation (DIC) - a serious blood clotting complication
Poor blood flow and damage to kidneys or brain
Stillbirth
Postpartum haemorrhage
What are the symptoms of placenta abruption?
Vaginal bleeding
Abdominal pain
Uterine contractions that do not relax
Blood in amniotic fluid
Nausea
Thirst
Feeling faint
Decreased fetal movements
Remember that these symptoms may reflect other similar issues and
you should always seek professional medical attention and advice from
your healthcare provider.
How is placenta abruption treated?
Treatment for placenta abruption will be determined by your healthcare provider based on:
Your pregnancy, overall health, medical history
Extent of the complication
Tolerance for specific medications, procedures, or therapies
Your opinion or preference
There is no treatment to stop placenta abruption or to reattach the
placenta. Once it is diagnosed, you and your baby's health depends on
the amount of bleeding, the gestational age and condition of the fetus.
In most cases a cesarean section is performed. Severe blood loss may also require a blood transfusion.
Hypertension During Pregnancy
Pregnancy induced hypertension only occurs during pregnancy. There is no real understanding
as to why some women develop this during the course of their pregnancy.
What are the symptoms of Pregnancy induced Hypertension?
Rising blood pressure
Protein in the urine
Swelling of the hands, feet and face
Rapid weight gain (4 to 5 pounds in one week)
Headaches
Dizziness
Nausea and vomiting
Blurred, double vision or seeing spots in front of the eyes
Excessive drowsiness
Pain in the upper abdomen
Decrease in urination
How is Induced Hypertension treated?
Treatment for pregnancy induced hypertension depends on a number of
different factors, including how far along your pregnancy may be, the
severity of the hypertension and how well the baby is tolerating the
increased pressure.
Generally the standard method of treating this is bed rest, with increased frequency of blood pressure monitoring.
Who is at risk of developing Pregnancy induced Hypertension?
Women who are pregnant for the first time.
Women who have had pregnancy induced hypertension in previous pregnancies.
Women whose mothers or sisters have developed pregnancy induced hypertension.
Women younger than age 20 or older than 40.
Women who are pregnant with more than one baby such as twins and triplets.
Women who already have medical conditions like diabetes, high blood
pressure (before becoming pregnant), kidney disease and lupus.
Women who are malnourished at the start of pregnancy.
Women who are carrying a baby with certain chromosomal abnormalities
and sometimes women with an abnormal maternal serum alpha feto protein.
As of today 03.13.08
I'm 37 weeks pregnant and my induction date is March 17!! On St. Patricks day and my babygirl will be a Pisces! AWWWWW! It's kind of funny because my tatoo is of 2 koi fishes! How ironic eh? I got the tatoo 2 years ago after Jea'deon. I just can't believe it's already time after being pregnant forever and forever! I ain't going to lie I feel very scared and nervous for what is to come. Half my heart is so happy and the other is so scared!! Her ultrasound pictures look so beautiful and I can't wait to hold her and hear her cry. My miracle has finally arrived and I feel very blessed and honored that God has finally gave me the wonderful blessing of baby!! I probably will be having a natural birth so wish me luck everybody!! Good Luck to all of you mommies as well! There is hope after a loss!!
As of today 03.02.08 I am 36 weeks pregnant. Makaila and
mommy watched Beowulf last night, oh man she was so excited jumping all around.
I do feel that she really loves everything that mommy loves. As we all know
that pregnancy changes a woman in the most incredible ways! In my last appointment
the doctor said that they will draw more blood from me to see how my platelets
counts are doing and if I’m going to need a blood transfusion. Last time I lost
A LOT of blood, they pumped a whole new human being inside of me! Enough of
that, don’t want to talk about my memories at the hospital 3 years ago. Makaila
counts are very strong and steady, she is letting me know that everything is
going to be ok and that she loves me everyday. I read and sing to her and she
just loves it. Now that I am having a baby girl, that things that girls do
totally annoys me! Such as wanting to be a playboy model, porn star, being a
lame ass realty television star. As a mom to be of a beautiful little girl I
really my Makaila to grow up and HELP people not entertain them. She may become
a nurse or even an ambassador for goodwill. Whichever route she goes down I
will love her regardless or have to kick her ass if she dares to be a nude
model!! She will always be my baby girl.
I now feel that pain of parents when there children venture off to stupid
journeys. Can you imagine seeing your little on in a profession? How heartbreaking!
Unless you are into that profession yourself. Look at me rambling on about her
adult life already! Ahh I’m so excited, but still very scared! The doc said
next appointment March 5, they will administer this vile to prepare me for
birth, then March 12 “talk about inducing” !! Ohhh I’m so ready to have her and
hold her in my arms NOW!! This week I’m having my babyshower! I was a bit wary
to have that. I wanted to have it after she was born because I am very superstitious
about having it before because of my last pregnancy. I got 4 appointments next
week then 3 more the next week. I’m happy to have them monitoring my pregnancy
closely so that’s just fine with me.
As of today 2-21-08 I am 35 weeks pregnant with my 2nd this time around she is a babygirl Makaila Jadyn. Right now I feel very nerve racking and unsure of the future. Everytime I feel her move it's a wonderful blessing to me. They will be be inducing my labor at 37 weeks March 10 week. I can't wait, but I know it's going to hurt a like a bitch as they will be doing the same procedure as I had with a stillbirth. Sometimes I can stay strong and other times I just breakdown in cry in the dark. Can I go through the same situation again? As I have read information about stillbirth and how parents should not blame themselves, all I can do blame myself. And all the little things people try to say to make me feel better about it 3 years later does not help. I especially hate it when people ask me "Is this your first baby", and when I reply NO, they ask How old is your other one? Then I reply "He is in heaven", then I feel there attitude turn happy to sour thinking that I am a bad omen or some shit. Walking around for 9 months constantly people asking nosey questions have built up and I'm tired of it, so here I am to vent my emotions before I have another emotional breakdown. I went to 2 child birth classes with my husband and I think that's it for me. I can't go any more, everybody in there this is their first birth and they are so jolly and happy. As I sit there in solitude world faking to not know what its like to give birth is killing me. So I stop it there no more for me. It's very hard to deal with another pregnancy and be all alone. My family isn't come to see me as I live in Germany. I just feel they think the same thing is going to happen again. My mother-in-law wrote me an email saying she isn't going to send anything for me, what kind of fuck shit is that? Whatever. Makaila Jadyn is going to be a healthy babygirl and when she comes out and everybody wants to love her, I'm going to have to be the stuck up mom and say no you can't see her. You didn't believe in me when I was pregnant nor did you show any support. So F- YOU! I know I shouldn't be like that, but that's how I feel at the moment. I feel so angry at my family and in laws, I probably won't even call them when she is born. And if we really have to then my husband will do the calling and talking. The emptiness and pain is just so over bearing right now because they will be inducing labor the same time as I lost my son at 37 weeks. I feel nobody understands, nobody can relate, I'm sick of smiling through it all. I'm no longer stronger. The wall of strong has broken down into particles of mass fear! This is something I found on the internet that helped me stop crying it may help those of you who can relate to me.
After a miscarriage/ stillbirth, DON’T tell a loved one ...
• “You can have another baby.” How do you know? Besides, I want this baby.
• “At least it happened before it was born. It’s not like you knew the baby.” I did know my
baby. For the short time s/he was with me, I loved my baby with all my heart. I had hopes
and dreams for this baby. I had names picked out and a theme for the nursery. I knew my
baby was going to be a special person.
• “It’s just one of those things.” It was not just “one of those things” from my viewpoint.
Miscarriage had a devastating effect on my life, and making it sound as though it was an
unimportant event doesn’t lessen its impact.
• “It’s common” or “It happens to a lot of women.” This happened to me, and all I want is
to have my baby back.
• “It was just a blob of tissue.” In my heart and in God’s eyes, I know I was carrying a living
being inside me from the moment s/he was conceived. Please don’t trivialize my beliefs
or that precious life.
• “You should be over it by now.” Even though the physical effects may have subsided, I am
still hurting emotionally. My child has died, and it takes much longer than a week or two
to recover from that pain.
• “You’ll get over it.” The miscarriage was the death of my child. I will never “get over it.”
The pain and grief will eventually lessen, but I will always wonder what my child would
have been like.
After a miscarriage/stillbirth, DO tell a loved one...
• Listen to me when I want, or need, to talk about what I am going through.
• Be sensitive to the fact that I probably won’t want to hear about your pregnant friend/
neighbor/cousin/daughter, or about your new grandchildren or nieces or nephews for a
while.
• Give me time to grieve. Some days I may need your shoulder to cry on after everyone else
thinks I should be “okay” by now.
• Understand that there are “milestone days,” such as the expected due date or the time I
should have felt the first kick, when I will be feeling the loss as deeply as when the miscarriage
occurred. I need your support then.
• Know that I am like any other person who has experienced the death of a loved one. I may
not feel like talking when you come for a visit, or I may do things you think inappropriate—
such as clean the house—just to have something to do so I don’t have to think. Be
patient with me.
• Show caring to others who have experienced miscarriage. Treat their loss with the same
respect and love you would give if they were suffering the death of any other loved one.
• Let those of us who are going through—or have gone through—a miscarriage know that
we are not alone. Send a note or make a phone call to let us know you’re thinking of us,
especially on those difficult “milestone days.” Sometimes we feel that we’re the only ones
who remember, and it’s nice to know that our baby was important to you too.
