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BeccaBoo3912
Age: 22
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My name is Becky. I'm 22 and I live in Minnesota. This is my first pregnancy.

I love these stories! I thought I'd share mine...Chance and I met about 3 1/2 years ago. We both worked at the car wash together. I was instantly attracted to him because he had the best personality. Always funny, and sarcastic, positive, and extremely smart. Not to mention he was cute :) I was about 50 pounds overweight at the time and I thought that he would never consider me in a romantic sensibility...I moved out of my parents house not to long after we met into a house with my gay best friend and his new roomate. Well, I started dating the roomate. He was my first, and I thought I was in love. About four months after I had started dating Kris (the roomate) Chance asked me if he could move in with us because he needed to get out of his parents house. I still had a thing for Chance even though I was with Kris, and even though I got the occassional vibe from Chance, I still didn't think he was interested in me like that. A few months passed and I found out that Kris wasn't that great of a guy. He couldn't hold down a job, he always made me feel bad about myself and there were instances of physical abuse. Around that time I found out I was pregnant. Sadly, I decided to have an abortion. I was constantly depressed, suicidal, I began struggling with an eating disorder, and I was into drinking and drugs. All of these factors made me sure that I was not ready to raise a child and I was not willing to give one up. At 6 weeks pregnant I had an at home abortion. It is something that I have to live with to this day and it will never fade from my memory. I moved out of the house I was living at into an apartment with Kris. We tried to make it work but he was abusive, he was a porn addict, and a compulsive lier...things I didn't understand until I got stuck in a lease at an apartment complex. Chance was always there giving me support...Picking me up or meeting me at the bar to talk or just hangout. He would tell me I deserve better. That Kris is an idoit...but I never listened to anybody. I thought I was in love. One night I had a lot to drink and I finally told Chance that I had feelings for him for a long time and that I never thought he was interested in me, in that way. Little did I know that he was...That he was waiting for me to make the move because I had a boyfriend and he didn't want to be the one to screw things up. I kissed him that night and I fell in love with my best friend. It took me five more months to fully have Kris out of my life and my heart. One June 15th, 2007 I went out with my older brother and sister and Chance to the bar and then to a friend's house. We spent the night talking about how crazy things have been, how much they have changed, etc...We just couldn't believe that we had met each other and that we could have such a great friendship...we all headed to my brother's house at around 4 in the morning and Chance and I got into the hot tub...One thing lead to another and the first night we were together we concieved our child. We spent every day together after that night...I started spending the night at his parent's house...We slept on his trampoline underneath the stars on a few warm summer nights...and after only sleeping together a few times we told each other we loved one another...It wasn't about sex like my last relationship with Kris...I loved this man. He had the biggest heart I had ever been priviledged to be loved by...At the beginning of July I felt different and I had a good feeling that I could be pregnant because of how I felt the last time it had happened. I explained to Chance that it could be possible and that I might have to take a test if my period never came. Well, he and his family left for a week in Canada on a houseboat trip. They asked me to watch the house and take care of the animals. Only a few days after they left I felt the need to take a test. I went to the store and when I came back I took one right away. I prayed to god that I wasn't because I was worried of what this would do to our relationship, how my parents would feel about it (they were for my previous abortion), and how I could handle being a mother at that point in my life. After three minutes I looked into the window of the test..."Pregnant"...I instantly started crying and called my best friend. She didn't have much to say except for "congratulations...this could be a good thing"...Next thing I did was hop into my car and head to the teen clinic to have a real test taken. I was pregnant...no doubt about it...I couldn't get a hold of Chance, being in Canada he was out of range, so I called my sister in law. I was too emotional to tell my parents, and my sisters would just be angry and not supportive. She asked me to come over and she asked me what I wanted to do...I told her that I don't think I could have another abortion because that was one of the most devistating things I've ever gone through. She then told me "there's your answer". As I watched her hold my year old nephew Matthew I knew that I was ready...How could I not want such a sweet perfect person in the world...A person who is part me and part my best friend...I spent the rest of the day alone at Chance's parent's house just thinking and reading books about pregnancy that my SIL had given me. Around 6 hours after first finding out I was in the bathtub when I got the long awaited phone call from Chance. I told him. He didn't have much to say. He was pretty shocked. He told me he loved me and that he had to go. An hour later he called me again. I missed the call but he left me a voice mail. He apologized for not saying much but he was in shock. He told me that he's happy about it and that he loved me very much. I knew right then that this was a good thing. I was happy that he wanted me to keep this child and that he would be there no matter what.

We now own a house together and are engaged...I couldn't be happier...This is a love and a happiness I never knew existed!


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peanutmommie - Tuesday, 8 Jan
hey, just wanted to let you know that after i had my son my 1st husband and i only waited about 2 weeks (3 at the absolute most) until we had sex again. i had to be on top b/c i tore pretty badly and it put too much pressure on my stitches in any other position. (and this was w/ a man i didn't like having sex with, lol). so this time around when i LOVE having sex w/ my husband i think it'll be about the same. there is no way we can go 6 weeks w/out having sex. yeah, there is a lot going on, but you still have needs. :)


iamnesting - Friday, 4 Jan
don't stress... my hubby & I are in the same boat - we really want two children but we also want to NOT put our children in daycare... I think things have a way of working themselves out though...don't make any rash decisions until you're a year in. Good luck - only 8 or 9 weeks to go!


peanutmommie - Friday, 4 Jan
wow!!! you have a lot going on! bless your heart. you need the 8 weeks. well hopefully they will set the date for your showers soon. generally they are about a month or so before you are due, so maybe you'll have them the end of this month or the beginning of feb - they need to get on it! lol. good luck to you!!!


first-time-momy - Friday, 4 Jan
Misspelling staff = stuff ;-)


first-time-momy - Friday, 4 Jan
This is my first pregnancy too. I have no idea how much my life will change after my baby is born. But at this point I am not working and will be staying at home mom and take care of the baby. I always wanted to have a job during my pregnancy. Place that I am living; I know no one and like to have a job to get me busy and not feel alone. But it is always like that we are not happy with what we have and in what situation we are. You are young and lots of staff in future to deal with. Enjoy being pregnant and take care of yourself.


srm31 - Friday, 4 Jan
Don't worry about the weight. I have gained 40lbs so far (yikes!) BUT I gained about 60lbs with my other 2 pregnancies and it came off just fine. Especially w/ the 1st one and you're young. I too am not having a shower until Feb. and have nothing for the baby ! It freaks me out a little being so unprepared but I think I'm going to register this weekend so that should be fun. Congrats !


jina - Friday, 4 Jan
It's good to know there are other people out there that haven't only gained 10 lbs! I'm sorry but that pisses me off when they brag about only gaining 10 lbs! I try to eat healthy, but at the same time I think I'm pregnant and I'm going to enjoy it. I already suffer with all the symptoms, why suffer with not eating what I want also???? Hang in there, we'll loose it after the baby comes. My bf had her baby in October and gained 50 lbs. She weighed 200 when she had a c-sec. She's now down to 130 which is lower than before she got preg!!!! She's my inspiration!


butterblocksmom - Friday, 4 Jan
Don't worry about the weight thing. I am in the exact same boat. I'm up 35+ lbs! Before I got preggers I lost 15 lbs just through portion control and walking. You are so young and baby will keep you busy. It will just fall off you! I think it is VERY sweet that you man tells you that you look awesome/sexy/pretty, etc.


jina - Friday, 4 Jan
I know. I only have a few tiny stretch marks and they're on the top of my thighs. I've always had big legs from being athletic when I was younger, but they're getting huge. I've even been walking the treadmill and it's not helping!!!


jina - Thursday, 3 Jan
I like that diet! I don't really care for doggie b/c I don't get any pleasure from it. I like it missionary or me on top! UGH! I feel like I'm just his rag doll b/c I don't get anything out of it. I definitely can't wait to do it normally and not have my HUGE belly in the way, and my thunder thighs!!!


jscottn401 - Thursday, 3 Jan
ughhh i know i hateee ittt :( i just have like 2 more weeks left thoooo sooo i just have to suck it up...... lol whast kind of job do u dooo and are u going to take a maternity leave at all?


peanutmommie - Thursday, 3 Jan
yeah, we don't use the vibrator inside either. i also bought a vibrating ring for my husband to wear, it has these prongs that are supposed to stimulate the clitoris. we've used it twice and it was very nice. :)


onmywayto3 - Friday, 28 Dec
Congrads on the engagement, I love the name...oh congrads on the little boy too :)


litlamy - Tuesday, 18 Dec
i have been taking 2 tums every night before I go to bed since the beginning! They are a great source of calcium I keep telling myself:) It will get better. Drink a glass of milk every once in a while as well!


SingleMommy1stBaby - Friday, 14 Dec
No, I never did watch Gilmore Girls. I heard the name on MTV's Wanna be a VJ when I was in Jr. High and I have loved it ever since! I am happy with Shayla, though... and it is THE name because it took us forever to agree on a name, I don't wanna go through that battle again! Some boy names that I liked were Jaydon and Kaden. You are more than welcome to use them!


jina - Thursday, 13 Dec
Thanks for the vote of confidence! I usually exercise a lot so I'm HOPING that it will come off easily. It's just scary when you look down and see all this weight that you normally don't have and you're still going to gain more! PLUS, my husband had mentioned that I eat more then him sometimes.


jina - Wednesday, 12 Dec
So your doc is okay with you aat 27lbs? I've gained the same and go to the doc next Tuesday and I'm scared now that I'm gaining too much. I started a diet. I'm eating carrots and healthy food. I cut out all sweets! I'm afraid I'm going to gain like 50 lbs!!!!


KRYSTAL4 - Wednesday, 12 Dec
BLESS YOUR HEART IM SO GLAD YOU AND BABY BOY ARE DOING WELL.WHEN WILL YOU STOP WORKING?IM READY NOW LOL!!!!!!! I WISH ITZ JUST IM ALL BY MYSELF WITH 3 OTHER CHILDREN MY HUSBAND IS A DEAD BET.TAKE CARE OF YOUR SELF AND KEEP WARM


kim123 - Wednesday, 12 Dec
Hi, I am glad everything turned out well for you! I had a similar experience also. I went to the hospital for contractions also and was dehydrated. I had also been drinking water all day. I don't get it!


9mo - Wednesday, 12 Dec
Excellent to hear that you and bub are fine. What an ordeal! Don't over do it at work if you can avoid it..you and bub are much more important than your boss and his dinner!!! (:


jina - Wednesday, 12 Dec
Well I'm glad to hear that everything is better! It's so scary when it's your first b/c you don't know if what you're feeling is okay or not! I keep reading about contractions but what do they feel like??? And what about Braxton Hicks contractions???




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