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![]() | Age: 25 Country: US Province/region: California City: Lancaster Partner: Joel Children: Yes, 1 Pregnant: Yes Due date: 13 Oct ,2008 Occupation: Metal Sales |
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Hi, My name is Valerie, I am 25 years old and pregnant with my 2nd daughter. My first daughter's name is Kali, she is 4years old and from my first marriage. She is a Scorpio, born November 6, 2003. Her due date was October 31, 2003, but she ended up going a week over, and finally broke my water on the 6th. She was born with a headfull of hair, and the most gorgeous blue eyes ever.
My husband Joel and I are expecting our 1st child. He is really nervous, and very GREEN to the whole experience. But we are both very excited. Our baby was not planned, but she is very much wanted and loved. Joel decided on her first name which is going to be Gwendalyn, and I came up with her middle name which is Faith. We can't wait to give her the best life possible.
Joel treats Kali with so much love, I am amazed with how accepting he was of my little girl. He has such a bond with her already, and it just shows me how great of a dad he will be to our own. Kali doesn't live with us, she lives with her Dad, stepmom, stepbrother (2yrs) and new baby sister (5 weeks). We only get to see her on Sundays from 10am - 5pm. This is because of a huge mistake that I made over a year ago, that sent me to jail to fight for my life. I was found innocent of the charges I was in jail for, however they convicted me of an accessory after the crime was commited. So I did a total of 6 months in county jail, and when I got out, I had to fight to see my daughter. At first monitored only, now I am upto 7 hours a week.
Joel and I live at his parents house, because he too has had problems with the law. He is on prop 36, which is a drug proposition. We have our ups and downs with this part of our life...And this can be a major stress for me. My whole pregnancy has pretty much been stressful due to this, and I worry about the effects this has on Gwendalyn. My stress gets to the point where I cant eat (when things get really bad), I'll smoke a couple cigarettes and I end up leaving to stay with my sister. These things make me feel like I am the worst mom ever!! I am scared of where Gwendalyn and I fall on his priority list when he falls behind. But I have Faith that once the Baby is here it will be an eye opener for him.
I am a fulltime sales person for a metal company, and Joel works full time with his dad as a A/C & Heating service tech/installer. I am really looking forward to taking the time off after Gwendalyn arrives, work and stress are definately tiring me out. I need a break from all of it. Where I can focus completely on my daughter when she is born. One of the great things about living at home is we dont have to worry about childcare, and the well being of Gwendalyn while we are working. Joel's mom is a very loving caring person, and I would trust her with my daughter any time.
We had one U/S May 29th and found out she is perfectly healthy, 4 days smaller than her due date. But the doc said everything looks good. Thank God...
October 3, 2008
My dh was released from jail early!! WOW! God definetly has His plan for the way things are going to be. I am just sticking by His plan, and I know it will all be good.
I have 10 days left, and am so uncomfortable, and my legs and pelvis are really sore! I look forward to having Gwendalyn at anytime now. Sometimes I am greatful that I havent had her just yet, and the next minute I feel the complete opposite and want her out NOW! lol...
I am still working, which sucks, but its my own fault. I am a chicken to tell work I "can't" work anymore, but I am literally exhausted, and feel like I need to spend the rest of my pregnancy relaxing. I want to sooo bad!!
Joel and I are hanging in there with our relationship. Though everyday is a struggle, and he has only been out of jail for 3 days. He wants me and the baby living with him once she is born, and I dont think we can fix our relationship in 10 days. I am really overwhelmed by this! I want us to be a family too, but at the same time, I dont want to leave my parents where I am stable and risk getting hurt and uprooting my baby if he messes up.
Well, like I said 10 days to go, give or take.... hopefully it goes smooth, would be nice!
September 10, 2008
Well my husband has been in jail since August 21, and for the past 3 weeks I have been anticipating him getting out on his court date. Well court has happened on September 4th, then again yesterday September 9th. And, he isn't home still, and his next court date isnt until October 21st....He is going to miss the birth of our baby :'0( I am so sad about this because I really wanted him there, especially so he could see the miracle of his daughter's birth, and I was also hoping maybe it would impact him to change...I know God has a plan and His plan is the best of all. So I accept and welcome His will. I am just diappointed. Plus on top of all this I cant talk to him on the phone. I am sad, and angry and wish this wasnt happening in my life...I want to write him a letter but have no clue what to say. I don't want to offer him all this support. I want him to learn from this mistake. Plus, he is not here to support me and the baby. So, I definetly don't want to be VERY supportive of him. I just want him to know that I care, and that I look forward to him coming home clean and sober and seeing him get his life together. I want him to know that the baby and I love him and she will be looking forward to meeting him ASAP....
On top of all this I caught a cold, and am so out of it. I went last night and ought Sudafed PE, I have taken 4 doses so far, only to find out that this is not the same as "sudafed" it is a new one that doesnt have ephedrin in it....So now I am worried about the baby. I have stopped taking the sudafed pe, and am just gonna suffer through this cold. I am just so miserable. It figures. One thing after another. I am in definate need of prayer. I feel like everything is going wrong! And dammit, I miss my husband.
August 4, 2008
Everything came back normal on the 3 hour glucose test. I see my ob on Wednesday. Last Wednesday I spent 8 hours in the ER for suicidal thoughts...My husband and I split up the next day. he didnt show up to the hospital, didnt call, and didnt come home until 330 in the morning. He is a drug addict. Has been since we got together. I just thought he was in recovery, and now I know he is not. He is fully into his drug addiction right now. I know it can't last forever, but I dont want to live my life like that anymore. It is too much stress on me and our baby. And once she is here I definatly will not allow her to be subjected to that. I need to protect her.
I miss him so much though, or at least the thoughts I have of the comfort of his kiss, or hug, or being held at night. But he hasnt been there for me like a husband should, he doesnt take care of me, or address my needs, He hasnt even bought anything for our daughter yet. I cry because I do love him and I miss him insanely, not the stressful stuff, the lovey dovey stuff. I dont ever want to be with another man in my life, I only want him. I know I cant be with him though, not like this.
I moved home to my mom and dads. They are pretty great, really supportive, but of course mom says if I go back they are not helping me anymore. I need them more than I need him for sure!!! They love me and this baby so much and will do what is best for us, unlike the babies Daddy. I can stay as long as I need to, which is great, and there is no stress there at all.
His family brushes his addiction off like its just another day. They are so used to it I guess, but they are willing to help me with the baby too. So, I think I will be asking for it as soon as I need it.
I want him there at the birth, but not if he is high. I know he has 10 weeks or so to straighten up, only God knows if he will. I pray he is there though I feel like I need him at the birth, I think it is important for his bond with his daughter....
If anyone is reading this, I had a question about the babies name, He picked out the first name Gwendalyn, and I was all for it while together with him. Now I am wondering if I should change it to something else....I know that is being spiteful, and it is a decision that lasts forever, but I dont feel like he should have such a big say when our daughter is not a huge priority for him anyways.... Any feedback is greatly appreciated.
I need so much help its not even funny.... How do I do this?? I know I am not alone, but I dont have the person I want next to me in all this...Like I said I love him, I want him, but not the stress and addiction....grrrr....
July 28, 2008
I went this Saturday for my 3 hour glucose test, and I must say that the experience was awful! I never really thought about what it would be like to sit in a waiting room starving for 3 hours, PREGNANT! Then to make me feel worse when he drew the last of my 4 tubes of blood I nearly passed out, He offered me water....(where's the juice)?? I am just glad that is over, and now I get to play the waiting game....Hopefully I wont be getting a call in the next few days...no news is good news right?
July 15, 2008
Joel and I have been getting along really good the last couple of days. Now that we are married I know that what we have is stronger than any obstacle that can come our way. I just need to keep reminding myself that I am strong, and what is going on is only effecting me because I allow it to. I know I am very sensitive because of the hormones, and once Gwendalyn is born, things will be better.
Joel's dad has been building a room in the garage, and yesterday I found out that he is going to let Joel and I have the room, which is very exciting for me. The room in the garage is twice the size of my room now. And will give us plenty of space for Gwendalyn. It also has a private entrance so we will feel like it is our own space...
No new symptoms this week, just a LOT of pressure down there, It is hard to get up in the middle of the night and morning.
I am craving Thai Tea this week, YUMMY :0)~ And I am steady at 30lbs total weight gain so far.
I am debating with myself this week about medicated delivery. With Kali my birthplan was no medication, just Lamaz. But the nurses freaked me out as soon as I arrived and were asking me if this was my first baby. When I said yes they laughed and said I would need something....Well, I had one dose of Stadahl (sp?) during transition, and that was it. So, now I am wondering, what to do this time around. I WILL NOT have the epidural, that thing scares the crap out of me!! But Joel will be totally freaked out if I am in too much pain. I think I will be fine, I have a pretty high pain tolerance and if it gets to be too bad, they will give me something as long as I have time and am not 8cm dialated...
I was curious too, about when her head should be in position, with all this pressure that I've been having I would say she is locked and loaded...I am a little concerned though that if she's not, how long till she gets there??
I hope all the mommies, and mommies to be are doing great and enjoying their pregnancies. It goes so fast, and once it is over, you can't go back. This is the MIRACLE OF LIFE :0)
About You JoelPregnancy Survey Name?: Valerie Age?: 25 Height?: 5ft 5 Pre-pregnancy weight?: 150lbs About The Father Name?: Joel Age?: 26 Height?: 5ft 9 Are you still together?: Yes, but not living together About Your Pregnancy Is this your first pregnancy?: No, 1 daughter already When did you find out you were pregnant?: February 16, 2008 Was it planned?: NO What was your first reaction?: Disbelief and scared Who was with you when you found out?: Who was the first person you told?: Joel/ my sister How did your parents react?: Happy How far along are you?: 27 weeks What was your first symptom?: Starving all the time What is your due date?: October 13, 2008 Do you know the sex of the baby?: Yes If so, what is it?: A little princess Have you picked out names?: yes If so, what are they?: Gwendalyn Faith How much weight have you gained?: 30lbs Do you have stretch marks?: Yes from my previous pregnancy Have you felt the baby move?: yes a lot Have you heard the heartbeat?: yes About the birth Will you keep the baby?: Yes! Home or hospital birth?: Hospital Natural or medicated birth?: we will see Who will be in the delivery room with you?: dont know yet, hopefully my mom and maybe Joel's mom Will you breastfeed?: Yes Do you think you'll need a c-section?: I pray not Will you cry when you hold the baby for the first time?:
possiblyWhat's the first thing you might say to her?: I love you! Would you let someone videotape the birth?: I would so Joel can see it Are you excited about the birth, or scared?: both
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