Hi Everyone!
I'm 23, I have a 5 year old daughter of my own and I am now step mum to 3 of my partner's children. It's a bit complicated but the eldest, Jasmine, is 12 and my partner has sole custody, his youngest, Paige age 5, we have shared access so she's here Thursday, Friday and Saturday morning (no where near enough time I might add) and my partner also has a son who he didnt know untill he was 6, Jordan is 12 and we see him every other Sunday.
I was a single mum from when my daughter was 6 weeks old until August last year. That's when I met Steve, my soul mate. The news that we were pregnant was actually very welcome, I had been broody for a while which for someone who was determined never to have any more kids was quite strange!! I guess I'd never felt I had my own family and wouldnt want to end up raising two kids on my own!
I was only 18 when I got pregnant last time, I was scared and in denial, I didnt tell anyone until I was 24 weeks! I was ashamed too, my parents are well respected and I felt I couldnt tell them. The were fantastic about it though, we got on with it and havent looked back since!
My Daughter Morgen is perfect I could never be without her now, we just had a parents evening and the teacher said her literacy and numeracy skills are "quite remarkable for a child her age." I'm sooo very proud of her and it's one in the eye for all those who look down their noses at single mums. It's bloody hard work, but the joy you get of knowing that perfect little one is all your own doing, there's no better feeling.
This time round is wonderfully different, I am enjoying EVERY MINUTE, it's so lovely to share it with a partner, I do feel like I missed out last time and I certainly didnt enjoy my pregnancy.






The Story So Far...
I took an extra week of my patch because I didnt want to be on over xmas, and I hadnt realsied I'd run out of patches so the week after I couldnt start again. The weeks after I rather foolishly assumed that we'd be ok not to use contraception in the 1st week. Now however I'm not sure where I was in my cycle, was I still in the cycle as if I'd come on the week before!? I had a gut feeling and had a few days wait before I could take a test, but tiredness had set in, I was constantly on the loo and I was convinced I was, which I had very mixed feelings about. I didnt drink and cut down the fags just incase.
When we did the test it looked like a negative, and I actually felt a bit sad which was VERY unexpected. On closer inspection though there is a very faint pink dot on the test. I was still convinced and booked a doc appointment, I thought she'd do the test there and then and had prepared myself, but she wanted me to do a morning sample and send it off, MORE WAITING!! I had mixed emotions, sometimes I thought it would be great, then I had times when I thought Oh My God and had a sick feeling about the whole thing. When we got the positive result a few days later I was still mixed but had already had time to get used to the idea.
Now I'm Thrilled, it's wonderful, Steve and I had thought about children and said we would next year. We've got the room, Steve has a 6 Bedroom house so there's no problem there, and we're pretty secure financially to cope, all we need to worry about is a healthy happy pregnancy.
Symptoms! I seem to have had every one possible so far!
- Unbearable Tiredness
- Hilarious Wind
- Really really thirsty no matter how much water I drink
- M/s wasn't too bad at first as long as I kept eating, was only sick a couple of times if I ate too much (which actually wasnt very much at all
- Weight gain
- I've gone completely dippy, forgetful, clumsy and always
off balance :-D
- Was sleeping fine at night until week 9, now Im up
every hour for a drink and the loo
- Sense of smell is unbelievably
accute
- Gone off tea & coffee, onions & garlic plus loads
others
- Having loads of cravings, mainly anything orange and meat :-D
- Getting dizzy and out of breath alot even though I'm fit and healthy
- Had a headache for the last 2 days
- Itchy sore BBs
- Too Hot, Too
cold, never just right
- My nose is congested, not runny, it's just been a bit bunged up since about 4 weeks.
- I've woken up every morning since week 8 with what feels like a hangover! Nausious and dehydrated :-( I wouldnt mind but I havent touched a drop of alcohol since I suspect I was pregnant not long after we would have conceived!
This is a Baby at 11 weeks and if you click him/her you'll hear the 1st
time we found the babies heartbeat together at 11 weeks exactly :-) I
had found it breifly 3 times the other night but each time Steve'd
popped out the room! haha
Updates....
Friday, 21 Mar
We havent told the kids yet, but we're dying too! They're going to be soooooo exited!!! I'm really looking forward to my U/S I've got a suspicion I might be carrying twins! I've noticed my symptoms are much more similar to the girls in the twin forum :-) April the 3rd will tell. probably not, but I've got a gut feeling hehe finger's crossed.
Wednesday, 26 Mar
Hurray! Im finally 12 weeks!! It `s come around quicker than I thought, just looking forward to my scan now, unfortunately it `s in another week but never mind, I `m sure it `ll come around quickly. I feel well in myself, still got the tiredness but the nausea seems to have gone. Still not told the children, I think it would be ok to tell them as the HB is very strong on the doppler but we `re waiting until we have the scan picture to show them, it `ll make it more real :-)
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Laura Ward -
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Saturday, 22 Mar Thats ok! I've been wanting to say something for a while now but never had the guts to! My sister comes on this website too, she's 31 wks now after having IVF, she drove us all mad at the beginning of her pregnancy with constantly worrying over the slightest thing, i suppose in her circumstances it was understandable that she wanted everything to be ok but a couple of times me and my mum had to tell her to stop coming on here because she was reading things that were really upsetting her, i'm not much of a worrier like her but you can't help but read them and then sit and wonder if/when its going to happen to you! If they want to talk about it they should go to a website for M/C and do it there! Well i've had my rant now!! It just makes me so cross! Anyway hope you're feeling ok at the moment, not long to go til 12 wks! sparklyval -
Friday, 21 Mar HI, I just read your message on the 11 wks forum. My hubby was bursting to tell our two girls (age 8 and 4) as soon as we found out I was pregnant. I was very nervous about doing so because I was worried about anything being wrong with the baby, m/c etc. We compromised and told our older daughter and explained about all the things that could go wrong/risks etc. She promised to keep it quiet from her sister, but we let her tell her the news on Mothering Sunday when I was 8 weeks.
It is a really hard thing to decide when the 'right' time is - I guess it depends on how well you think your children would cope if things didn't work out.
In the end I am glad that we did tell the girls because I have been feeling pretty rough since I fell pregnant. At least they understand why I have been poorly and grumpy!
Good luck with what you decide to do. From the sounds of it you are have a strong, healthy pregnancy, so I am sure that it will be fine to tell your other children. Whenever you do they are sure to be excited! mummydawni -
Friday, 21 Mar Hey thats fab about hearing the heartbeat. my OH got a stethoscope and thinks he heard soemthing but it was probably my tummy grumbling lol. Are you as sad as me and counting the days to the 3rd April? We can't wait to see him as then it will seem very real. Alot of people at my work are asking if I am alright and can't wait to tell them all but at the moment its still my secret lol. Hugs Dawn x jodiej04 -
Thursday, 20 Mar Congrats on hearing your baby's heartbeat. I bought a fetal doppler but can't hear anything yet. What brand are you using? We are only 2 days apart and i've seen my baby's heartbeat on the u/s but they wont let me hear it until 16 weeks. Krissy-U -
Thursday, 20 Mar Hey! How in the world did you get to listen to your baby at home? I'm so curious. mollie26 -
Thursday, 20 Mar That was so cool!! I want to listen to my baby. What brand of machine were you using? Did you buy it? asya -
Tuesday, 18 Mar Congrats on ur pregnancy! I know what u mean about changing ur mind about food all the time. It has been so weird since i got pregnant. Things i used to love before don't taste as good anymore. And sometimes (like today) i vomit after eating something, and i have no idea why. Last time i vomited cause of eating a pear, this time it was chicken salad O_o And endeed sometimes i can't decide what to eat for several hours, cause everything makes me wanna throw up... How r u doing otherwise? Excited? I'm counting the days too. can't wait to see how it looks for real :) kellisue -
Monday, 17 Mar I am thirsty all the time too! Nothing, however, tastes good to drink; not juice, not water, not soda, nothing! Also, I will crave something for two or three days and then it sounds and smells disgusting to me! misz-cashis-oct08 -
Tuesday, 12 Feb congrattzzz my fellow 6 weeker! go0d luck! and i wish u a safe and healthy pregnancy! x0!
**baby dust** brown28 -
Monday, 4 Feb Congrats on the baby!!! tto -
Saturday, 2 Feb Congratulations!! This site is great as an outlet to talk about your pregnancy when you can't tell anyone yet. So post away!
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