My name is Trenita and i'm expecting my first child, A BOY NAMED CAUR'DE KANEIL. This has been the wildest experience for me and i'm soo nervous especially with the countdown to delivery approaching. I like this site because you get to read others experiences and know what to look forward to, although I know everyone's different it makes me feel secure. One of the things i'm most concerned about is my little boy having a circumcision, i dont want him to be in pain so i've been looking for moms of boys to see how they handled it. Soo far i've gained 12 pds as of my 35 check up, its amazing!!!

SO ME AND MY SONS FATHER HAVE BEEN DATING FOR 3 YEARS AND HE'S 35 BUT

ACTS 20 (NOT IN A GOOD WAY). THINGS STARTED TO GET ROCKY AROUND THE

TIME I CONCEIVED, WE WERE'NT GOING IN THE SAME DIRECTION AND I'M IN

SCHOOL, BASICALLY I HAVE MY LIFE PLAN AND HE DOES NOT. SO AFTER A NIGHT

OF PASSION I WOKE UP AND SAID I CANT DO THIS ANYMORE, I LOVE YOU BUT I

LOVE ME MORE. THATS WAS IT, SUMMER OF 07 WAS HERE, MY B-DAY

CELEBRATION WAS IN HIGH GEAR, AND SUMMER SCHOOL WAS FAST

APPROACHING. I BASICALLY WENT ALL SUMMER NOT KNOWING UNTIL I STARTED

LOSING WEIGHT AND BECOME VERY TIRED. I WAS 13 WEEKS AND I SAID OH NO I

CAN'T DO THIS, I JUST KNEW I WAS GOING TO THE CLINIC. THEN I REMEMBERED

ALL OF MY OTHERS TRIPS TO THE CLINIC AND HOW I PROMISED GOD THAT IF IT

HAPPENED AGAIN I WOULD KEEP IT. SO NOW WHAT AM I TO DO, I CANT LIE TO GOD,

BUT I'M SCARED AND THIS IS NOT MY AMERICAN DREAM. DAYS WENT BY AND MY

FRIENDS WERE STILL SAYING " YOU HAVE TO MAKE A DECISION". I WENT TO BED

AND HAD A DREAM THAT I BECAME BARREN BECAUSE OF THE ABORTION AND

WOULD NEVER CONCEIVE AGAIN. THAT WAS MY SIGN, AND THE REST IS HISTORY

BECAUSE DEEP DOWN I ALWAYS LOVED MY SON AND WOULD HAVE PROBABLY

BEEN MANIC DEPRESSIVE IF I HAD GONE THRU WITH MY DECISON TO NOT KEEP HIM.

MY BIRTH PLAN
Name: Trenita Yancey
Partner's Name: Gregory Reynolds
Doula/labor assistant: N/A
Due Date: February 21,2008
Allergies: none
Blood Type: AB-
Rh Factor: NEGATIVE
Health Care Provider Name: DR. Joel Pleeter/ DR.Mary Ann Sorra
Hospital/Birthing Center where you plan to deliver: Sinai Hospital
Labor induction/augmentation
If I go past my due date if baby and I's health is not at risk, I would prefer to be induced
I would prefer trying the following methods to induce labor:
* Prostaglandin gel * Pitocin
Environment
I would like the following to be present during labor: N/A
I would like the following to be present during actual birth: N/A
I would like to be able to film baby's birth. I would like to be able to walk around, mobility is important to me. I would prefer a warm bath over walking. Please let me try that if I do not feel up to walking.
Equipment
I would like the following equipment available to me. If unavailable, I would like to bring them with me, if possible.
* Birthing pool or tub * Shower
Preparation
I would prefer not to be given an enema
I would prefer to be able to eat and drink during labor.
Monitoring
I would prefer external monitoring if monitoring is necessary. I am comfortable using an internal monitor.
Anesthesia - Pain medication
I would prefer to try laboring without pain medication. I will ask if I would like something for pain. Please do not ask me. I would like a walking epidural.
First Stage of Labor
I do not want to be separated from my partner during labor or birth. I would like no time limits on laboring and prefer labor not to be augmented unless medically necessary. I would prefer my water not be broken during labor.
Episiotomy
I'd prefer not to have an episiotomy, UNLESS NECESSARY
Second Stage of Labor (pushing)
I would like to be able to try any position comfortable during pushing. I would like to wait to push until I feel the urge even if I am fully dilated.
After Birth
I would like to have my partner cut the cord. I would like to have baby's first bath and assessment to be done in my presence. I do not wish to see my placenta after birth. Please do not show it to me. I would like baby to room in with me. I would like to stay as long as possible.
Cesarean Section
I would like to avoid a c-section if possible. If c-section is necessary, I would like my partner present I would like to breastfeed baby as soon as possible.
Breastfeeding
I would like to try to Breastfeed if it’s not possible I’ll opt to bottle-feed I do not want my baby to have a pacifier, I will provide my own I would like to see a lactation consultant.
Circumcision
I would like my baby circumcised in the hospital. I would like anesthesia used during circumcision.

JANUARY 20, 2008- I GUESS IT WONT END I WENT FOR MY 35 WEEK APPOINTMENT AND TO MY DISMAY NOTHING, I MEAN ABSOLUTELY NOTHING HAS HAPPENED. I'VE BEEN LOOKING FOR MY MUCOUS PLUG TO COME OUT AND IT HASNT. I WAS CHECKED AND ITS AS TIGHT AS A FIST UP THERE. I'M HAVING ACHES, AND PAINS ALONG WITH CANKLES. AT THIS POINT I DONT EVER WANT TO DO THIS AGAIN. THE STRETCH MARKS ARE HORRIBLE BADGES OF HONOR!!!

JANUARY 21,2008- CAN YOU SAY INSOMNIA, AND LOST OF BLADDER CONTROL, I'VE USED MORE ROLLS OF CHARMIN THAN THE AVERAGE U.S. CITIZEN. DONT BELIEVE THE HYPE, THIS BABY DOES WHATEVER HE DESIRES AND SLEEP ISNT ONE OF THEM. I'M UP AT 2:30 INTHE MORNING BECAUSE IT DAWNED ON ME THAT I HAVENT PICKED OUT SOEMTHING FOR HIM TO WEAR FOR HIS FIRST PICTURES AND I DIDNT WASH ANY OF HIS SOCKS. IT FEELS AS IF TIME IS DRAGGING EVERY MOMENT I'M CHECKING TO SEE IF ANY CHANGES ARE HAPPENING DOWN BELOW (HA HA), TALK ABOUT DESPERATE. BY ME NOT WORKING ANYMORE I'M SO BORED AND EVERYONES FAVORITE WORD FOR ME IS "SIT DOWN", THIS SUCKS

FYI- WHO SAID BEING PREGGO IS ALL BAD, I'VE MOVED ON FROM MY SONS FATHER LONG AGO AND ITS FOR THE BEST. I HAVE BEEN DATING A GUY WHO EVEN AFTER KNOWING MY SITUATION INSISTED ON TAKING ME OUT SO I FINALLY LET HIM AND IT WAS SOOO MUCH FUN. HA HA MAMAS STILL GOT IT GOING ON!!! IT MADE ME FEEL GOOD ABOUT MY SELF, AND ANYTHING I NEED HE'S AT MY BECK AND CALL- SUPERMAN IS WHAT I'LL NAME HIM!!!

JANUARY 23, 2007- SO I'M A INSOMNIAC AND WHEN I DO SLEEP ITS SITTING UP ( ITS VERY COMFORTABLE). I'VE BEEN HAVING TENDERNESS BUT NOTHING MAJOR. MY NEXY APPT IS JAN 31, AND I'M HOPING THEY WILL INDUCE ME AT 38 WEEKS, MY APPETITE IS DECREASING HORRIBLY, I STILL HAVE ALOT TO DO IN 2 WEEKS. I HAVE CANKLES. LIFE COULDNT BE BETTER, BLAH. I WASHED MY HAIR FINALLY AFTER ATTEMPTING FOR THE PAST WEEK. THIS BOY IS TOO COMFY

JANUARY 24, 2008- ON A LIGHTER NOTE I FELT CONTRACTIONS FOR THE FIRST TIME TODAY, OF I WAS DRIVING OH MY GOD WAS I SCARED. I PULLED OVER AND PRAYED THAT I COULD MAKE IT TO SCHOOL WITHOUT HURTING MYSELF OR ANYONE;THEY TOOK MY BREATHE AWAY LITERALLY AND ITS SOO NOT TRUE THAT THEY FEEL LIKE MENSTRUAL CRAMPS, AMP IT UP ABOUT 1000 NOTCHES. ON A VENTING NOTE I TALKED TO MY SONS FATHER LAST NIGHT ABOUT THE LIST THAT I GAVE HIM TO FULFILL HIS PARENTAL DUTIES IN PREPARATION FOR THE LITTLE ONE, AND DID HE DO THEM NO BECAUSE IT WOULD BE TOO MUCH LIKE RIGHT. BUT I TOOK A DEEP BREATH AND TOLD HIM TO GET THE GOOK OUT HIS ASS!!! LOL NOT TO MENTION HE'S A SMOKER AND I ASKED HIM TO NOT SMOKE IN HIS APT A LONG TIME AGO AND HE STILL DOES AND I REFUSE TO LET MY NEWBORN GET A RESPITORY INFECTION SO HE JUST CAN'T STAY THERE WITH HIM. YOU WOULD THINK AT 35 I WOULD NOT HAVE TO TELL HIM THIS BUT SOME PEOPLE JUST DONT MATURE.

OMG I'M SORT OF TORN NOW I AM TOTALLY LIKING THE NAME LIHNNEX(LENNOX) WHAT DO YOU THINK IS IT A GO COMPARED TO THE NAME I HAVE ALREADY CHOSEN?

JANUARY 28,2008- I FEEL LIKE SHYT TO B BRUTALLY HONEST. I'M TIRED CANT GET ANYTHING ACCOMPLISHED BECAUSE OF IT. IT SEEMS LIKE NO ONE UNDERSTANDS MY SACRIFICE.3 MORE WEEKS OF THIS MAKES ME CRUELLA DEVILLE. TALK ABOUT MORNING SICKNESS AT 9 MONTHS, I DONT UNDERSTAND HOW, AND THE ONLY THING THAT MAKES ME FEEL GOOD ARE HOT SHOWERS. I TALK TO HIM AD TEL HIM "CAUR'DE PLEASE TAKE IT EASY ON MOMMY BUT THE LITTLE RUNT ATTACKS MORE. IF HE WANTS TO COME OUT I JUST WISH HE WOULD. I HAVE MOST OF MY TASK COMPLETED. I WANT OUT!!!!!!!

January 31,2008- YAY I SURVIVED JANUARY IT WAS FUN BUT ITS TIME TO MOVE ON AND OUT. i WENT TO MY 37 WEEK APPOINTMENT TODAY AND IT WAS GOOD I'M STILL MAINTAINING MY WEIGHT AND MY GROUP BETA STREP WAS NEGATIVE. ALTHOUGH I AM RH-NEGATIVE IT IS FINE BECAUSE I RECEIVED A SHOT AT WEEK 28 AND ANOTHER WHEN I DELIVER. IN CASE YOUR WONDERING WHAT IT IS; IT IS WHEN MY BLOOD AND THE BABY'S BLOOD ISNT IDENTICAL SO MY BODY CREATES ANTIBODIES TO PROTECT ME FROM THE BABY LIKE IT IS A FOREIGN OBJECT SO THE SHOT KEEPS THIS FROM HAPPENING. SO FAR ALL IS WELL NOW AND I'M NOT AS BOTHERED AS I WAS AT FIRST. I'M JUST PATIENTLY WAITNG FOR NOW. FYI ME AND MY SONS FATHER IS GETTING ALONG JUST GREAT AS LONG AS HE DOES WHAT I ASK. THIS LITTLE BOY HAS MORE THAN ENOUGH OF WHAT HE NEEDS. THE DOC SAYS HE WEIGHS 6LBS 25OZ .

FEBRUARY 1,2008- ITS TAX TIME YAY!!! ALL MY MONEY IS ALREADY SPENT BEFORE I EVEN GET IT BECAUSE ITS ALL FOR JUICE!!! THATS HIS NICKNAME BECAUSE SINCE I'VE BEEN PREGGO THE ONLY TIME I CAN GET AN IMMEDIATE RESPONSE FROM HIM IS IF I DRINK JUICE. LOL ITS SOOO CUTE.

FEBRUARY 7,2008- OMG SOO EXCITED I'M 38 WEEKS TODAY!!!!! 80% EFFACED AND 1 CM. SO HOPEFULLY I WILL KEEP PROGRESSING BEFORE ACTUAL LABOR.

FEBRUARY 8, 2008- OKAY I THOUGHT I WAS READY BUT IN THE MIDDLE OF THE NIGHT I CAME UP WITH A TO-DO-LIST. SO TODAY ME AND MY SONS FATHER WILL BE OUT AND ABOUT. I FINISHED PACKING FOR MYSELF BESIDES MY SNACK PACK THAT I'M MAKING BECAUSE I REFUSE TO BE HUNGRY AND IN PAIN. I'M SOO EXCITED NOT NERVOUS BECAUSE I WANT TO SEE MY BABY.MY HAIR IS DONE SO I WONT LOOK LIKE WILD WOMAN.

FEBRUARY 11,2008- COULD IT BE? I FELT PAIN TODAY THAT WERE KNOCKING ME AWAY AND I CAN DEFINITELY FEEL THAT THE BABY HAS DROPPED, ITS LIKE A TICKLING FEELING WHEN HE MOVES AROUND DOWN BELOW. MY VAGINA ACHES SO I GUESS ITS ONLY A MATTER OF TIME. MY 39 WEEK APPT IS THURSDAY SO CROSS YOUR FINGERS!!!!

FEBRUARY 14,2008- YOU CAN UNCROSS YOUR FINGERS BECAUSE THERE HAS BEEN NO PROGRESS. I WAS SO DISAPPOINTED THAT I COULDNT KEEP MY COMPOSURE AND I STARTED TO CRY. I WANT HIM OUT, I'M SICK OF THIS AND PEOPLE TELLING ME THAT I'M ABOUT TO DROP. THE BEST ADVICE I HAVE RECEIVED IS TO HAVE SEX AND WALK A LOT. NEXT WEEK I'M NOT LEAVING WITHOUT A BABY!!!!!

FEBRUARY 16,2008- THE BEST ADVICE GIVEN TO ME WAS TO HIRE A DOULA, LUCKILY THEY ARE FREE HERE IN MARYLAND!!!! THE LAST THING I WANTED WAS MY FAMILY DELGATING AND PUTTING IN TOO MUCH OF THEIR 2 CENTS. FAMILY IS GREAT DONT GET ME WRONG BUT AT A HIGH TIME SUCH AS LABOR YOU NEED PEACE. I WANT THEM TO BE THERE AND OBSERVE AND THATS IT. I'VE BEEN SOO EMOTIONAL THIS PAST WEEK AND VERY SNAPPY. MY SONS FATHER IS NOT DOING ANYTHING AT ALL, HE IS ON HIS OWN TIME AND IT HURTS SOO BAD. I'M STUCK BETWEEN A ROCK AND HARD PLACE OF MY ENOTIONS AND WHAT IS POSSIBLY BEST FOR MY SON.

FEBRUARY 20,2008- OKAY SO AS YOU SEE ONE DAY BEFORE MY DUE DATE AND HE'S STILL NOT HERE. HOPEFULLY AT MY APPOINTMENT TOMORROW THERE WILL BE A CHANGE OR TOPICS OF INDUCTION. THE PRESSURE IS DEFINITELY ON AND MY MUCUS PLUG IS COMING OUT IN INCREMENTS. EVERYDAY I'M LOOKING FOR NEW THINGS TO OCCUPY MY TIME OUTSIDE OF HOMEWORK AND THERE IS ABSOLUTLY NOTHING TO DO. I'M NOT SCARED OR NERVOUS I'M JUST READY FOR JUICE TO COME ON OUT. BY THE WAY ITS SNOWING AND I HOPED THAT IT WOULDNT, SO MUCH FOR MY WISHES.

FEBRUARY 24- SO I HAD MY 40 WEEK APPT ON LAST THURSDAY AND STILL NO PROGRESSION, SO I STARTED TO CRY AND MY DOC SAYS IF YOU ARE PATIENT YOU WILL LABOR NATURALLY AND SO HE SCHEDULES ME FOR A NON STRESS TEST ON MONDAY. BUT THIS PAST SATURDAY I STARTED FEELING MENSTRUAL CRAMPY BUT MORE INTENSE, FOLLOWED BY BROWN GOOPY DISCHARGE. I CALL MY DOC AND HE SAYS YOU ARE IN EARLY LABOR DONT PANIC JUST BE PATIENT. TODAY IS SUNDAY AND I'M STILL DISCHARGING AND IN PAIN BUT NOT ENOUGH TO GO TO THE HOSPITAL. I HOPE EVERYTHING GOES WELL. I'M GOING TO CALL MY DOC TOMORROW AND ASK TO BE STRIPPED. WISH ME LUCK, THIS SEEMS LIKE A NEVERENDING JOURNEY.

FEBRUARY 29,2008- WE ARE HOME I GUESS THE BLOG ABOVE WAS RIGHT IT WAS TIME.

MY STORY-I was having contractions all weekend long and didnt know ir, well i was having menstrual crampy pain so i didnt think thats was contractions i was waiting for it to get worst because i did not want to get sent home. Sunday night got really bad and the wee hours monday morning i called my doula and my ob and they instructed me to go to L&D. When i arrived my cervix was 3cm and 80% but since i was over due the ER techs was like lets find a reason for you to stay, they didnt HAVE TO LOOK FAR because my fluid levels were low and my placenta was starting to calcify. I endured labor pains for 10 hrs and then i needed an epidural which only took on my right side so i felt all my labor. Couple of hours and stitches later My Son was born and he was perfect, the talk of the maternity ward.

MARCH 1, 2008- MY BABY IS 4 DAYS OLD, I'M SO AMAZED THAT THIS PERFECT PERSON IS ALL MY CREATION. MY DAD AND MY AUNT GAVE MY SONS FATHER A 1, 2 PUNCH IN PATERNAL RESPONSIBILTY AND IT WORKED BECAUSE HE CAME OVER WITH SO MUCH STUFF AND HE TOOK THE BABY FOR ME SO I COULD HAVE A MOMENT TO MYSELF. I REALLY DONT CARE BECAUSE I DONT WANT THE BABY TO LEAVE MY SIGHT. THEY SAY A NEWBORN NEEDS 2OZ BUT HE DOES 40Z. HE LOVES TO EAT

MARCH 4, 2008- TODAY MY KING IS 1 WEEK OLD. ALREADY I FEEL LIKE HES GROWING TOO FAST. HE KNOWS HOW TO MANEUVER HIS PACIFIER, AND HE COOS TO YOU WHEN YOU ADDRESS HIM. HE EVEN HAS TANTRUMS I BELEIVE. I'M SOOO PROUD TO HAVE HIM IN MY LIFE. I FEEL LIKE MYSELF AGAIN ALREADY BUT I'M NOT GOING TO RUSH. THE ONLY PROBLEM AREA IS MY TUMMY I HAVE TO STRENGTHEN THE MUSCLES.