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Tess42
	Age: 43 Country: US Province/region: - City: - Partner: Jeff Children: Yes, 4 Pregnant: No Occupation: graphic artist
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I found this site when I was looking for pregnancy sites. Not that I didn't know anything about pregnancy -- it was my fifth pregnancy, but it was after a miscarriage and I hadn't given birth in 12 years. I've been married for 22 years and I have 18, 15, and 13 year old sons, and now a ten month old son.

Most people's reaction to a couple of 40-something year-olds having a baby was positive, but we had some negative reactions too. Some folks we know (and are related to) believe raising children is a drudgery you just have to get through.

My children and husband were especially happy that I had finally quit smoking. No, I didn't get any banners, flowers, cards -- or even an "atta girl!", but I know they're happy about it just the same, and I am too. For those mommies out there trying to quit, I recommend www.whyquit.com. There is no advertising, nothing to buy. Yes, it is radical, but I smoked for over 20 years and was up to 2 1/2 packs per day... so I needed something pretty radical because I tried everything. I know folks who quit and said, "Everything tastes better!" I didn't have that, but I do breathe better and the cold I got this year didn't turn into raging bronchitis. I still get cravings to smoke now and then, but they aren't nearly as bad as in the beginning. Your first craving for a cigarette is not the same as the one you will have two weeks later and that craving will not be the same as four months later. I wish the best of luck to all pregnant mothers trying to quit and I want them to know that someone "out there" is not condemning them or thinks they are terrible. I want them to know there is a mommy out there just like them and she is praying for them.

My husband and I still hear the "Glad it's you and not me" comments regarding having another baby at our age, but what else were we doing for the next 20 years anyway?

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Irenemow - 40.3 hours ago
Tess42, thanks a lot! I wish you all the best too!

gigimuffin1 - Wednesday, 23 July
Thaks so much for the wordsof encouragement! I am really getting excited now as the idea of having another son in our family approaches. I went today for a NST and a biophysical and they said he looked great. I am having no problems- they are just being very careful with me- I am grateful for that. I know I don't feel the fear I had with my 1st pregnancy- I love hearing that you are more relaxed this time! :0) Have a wonderful day- The pictures are beautiful!!

maha55 - Tuesday, 22 July
hey Tess..thanks for your comment!!!
that was a big, nice surprise.....
all is good..how are you and your little one???
I cant believe I am entering thrid trimester and will do it all over again!!! Looking at babies now I am starting to go all soft and gooey!!!

take care x

KelliMG - Monday, 21 July
I KNOW...I'm so excited...but still scared that she will turn into a he!!!

And your right...my boys are SOOO excited to finally be getting a sister, it's going to be so strange around here with another XX in the house!!!

My brother called my mom and totally blew his stack finally after hearing the news that it was a girl. He is jealous, but he was off about how in the world could we justify having 5 kids in this day and age, and don't I know that Keith is going to have to work till he's 80 to support them (we're 39)...so it's the age thing as well. Also about the Autism and how we dare have any more children knowing the chances of passing on the Autism since it seems to be genetic for us etc.....EEGADS!!! My mom eventually just went silent, then did the quick, "well, I gotta go". So I totally understand the "age" related comments. I get them from everyone, family, friends, and strangers. AS far as the smoking forum and comments,....I just want everyone else to know that there are those of us who have been there, and as far as addiction, still are there, even though we're not physically smoking now. And there are going to be those that will judge and will speak their peace about how they feel, but we all have opinions just like them. About all things. So to take it with a grain of salt and just keep trying. I hope you and yours are continuing to do well.

niseybear - Sunday, 20 July
Hello everyone!

I just wanted to let you all know that I won't be on as much. Nothing is wrong, I just do better when I visit here every 4 days or so instead of everyday. We are well with the exception of my husband working 6 days a week and not having any family time. Today (sunday) is supposed to be our day together, but he's at work. I'm hoping he's feeling okay when he gets off and maybe if it's not too late, he, Mo, and I can go for a drive and then later him and I to a movie. Work is cool and I'm only one month away from starting school. I know what I want to be when I grow up....A TEACHER!

I don't want to be a server when I'm 50.

I only need 4 courses for my AA and then I can start my work for my BA in elementary education. I'M SCARED TO DEATH, but I know if it's meant to be, G-d will see to it.

Mo is 7 months old now and is an official crawler!

He only scoots every now and again. He was standing up in his crib this morning and I just about died!

He was more on his toes, but it was so cute! Looks like he may be walking soon. I haven't breastfed in nearly a month and a half and it's odd, I do miss it. What a closeness Mo and I had while I was doing it. We still have that bond, but breastfeeding made it even more special. I haven't had a period in about 3 months now, but I did bleed for about a day and a half last month. I'm going to talk to my OB if I don't see a cycle once I hit the green pills on my BC. Of course I'm not pregnant, no signs whatsoever. And I know what they mean when they say, once you've been pregnant, you know instantly the next time you are. I took 2 tests over 2 months and of course BFN and I'm okay with that. I want to enjoy Mo for a little while longer. And this house just isn't big enough for another little one.

Our stimulus check arrived on July 7th and it was SO NICE to finally receive it. Money was low and now we're on the high end once again and I'm hoping it stays that way for a bit. Well, let me go, my little man has been in his activity center long enough watching Baby Einstein. He's such a good boy...even if he does wake up at 2:45 in the AM and doesn't go down again til nearly 4AM!

Oh I was MAD this AM because I was SO tired. I put him back in his crib because I was upset and a few minutes later hubby stepped in and took over. I didn't hear him again til 6am and I was okay with that. Got him a bottle and he fell asleep about 30 minutes later and we BOTH slept til nearly 8:30!

Hope all you guys are well. Be blessed and take care!

Tastiecake731 - Wednesday, 9 July
Things are pretty slow and the moment, I've been waiting to "feel" better, however that's been taking a long time to happen. I'm tired all the time. Doing regular stuff has been such a chore. But I need to get my butt in gear the bills are coming in and my husband is out on disability with no pay right now.

lin - Wednesday, 9 July
You probably do remember me from the forums when I was pregnant with my son...I was addicted.. and still am a little. hehe.

Thanks for your comments! I appreciate it so much. I quite so easily both times i was pregnant, but I couldnt believe after after 1 year of not smoking, i could pick it up so quickly again!! I will certainly be looking into some help for after baby is here because I want to be done FOREVER!!

Tastiecake731 - Tuesday, 8 July
That's funny..I actually just made up the screen name a long time ago..Tastiecake (731 was my old house number) and it all worked out for me because I began to bake cakes for a living. I don't work for the company Tastiecakes but I do Tina's Tastiecakes. LOL

bigmuma - Tuesday, 8 July
Hey tess, i am doing ok but still smoking. I guess at the moment i have to choose my battles and that isnt one of them. I still beat myself up on a daily or should i say cigarette basis. Im just not strong enough right now. I dont know why.

niseybear - Monday, 7 July
Mo turned 7 months on the 4th of July!

Where the heck did the time go???

He's such a BIG boy now! Although we had trouble in the Walmart buggy today.

Don't think mommy had his little belt placed correctly. He fell to the side twice, but luckily never hit his head.

He's in his new Britax car seat and it's SO much easier getting him in and out. I wanted to buy myself something for my birthday on Friday, but Walmart didn't have the DVD I wanted so I purchased some more clothes for Mo. If I can't buy for me then I will ALWAYS buy for Mo.

I got him a puzzle that makes sounds when you put the pieces back in. It's so neat. It's called Farm Animals Puzzle. Got it for $10 at BELK'S.
I hope all of you are well. Take care!

bigmuma - Wednesday, 2 July
Well im not doing that great but not that bad either. Ive just cut right down and im going to stay that way until i feel the urge to just go off the cigs. Im not in any state of mind to do it right now and im not going to beat myself up over it anymore. WHat will be will be. I wont stop trying to quit. I have to go to the doctors to have another ecg this week cos of some heart palpatations ive had for a while so that may scare me into doing the right thing.

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