More.... It's a girl!!!!

I am pregnant with my second child. My son is now 7 years old and this will be his third sibling. He has 2 brothers on his dad's side that are younger then him. He is wanting another brother and so does my bf but of course I want a girl. We will see.

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6/22/2007: I will be 14 weeks tomorrow. I went to the doctor yesterday because I haven't been feeling real great. She told me that I had a flu like bug, that I needed to go home get some rest, drink plenty of fluids and try to eat something. So that is what I did. I started feeling better last night was actually craving Chinese and a diet dr pepper.

Anyways, I'm writting this because I'm having problems with my son's father's finacee. She has been in my son's life pretty much his whole life. His father and her started dating not long after he broke up with me when our son was 9 months old. Because she stays home during the day she watches her kids (she has a daughter from a previous relationship, who is only 3 days younger then my son, and 2 boys with my ex), her nephews and she watches 4 girls on Tuesdays and Thursdays. Because my son goes there during the day while school is out she wants me to provide them with 3 gallons of milk a week. Know I do not see why I need to give them milk or even money because he is at his own house not at a daycare. His dad works during the day so he doesn't spend time with him, he spends more time with her then his dad and I. So she told me to either provide the 3 gallons of milk a week or send a sack lunch for my son on my days. Which according to the court papers I have him 2/3 of the time, well now because it is Summer she is saying she is with them 2/3 of the time, in actuality he is with her 2/3 of the time. So I don't see why I need to provide milk for their house when not all that milk is going towards my son. So for the next week and the week of July 9th I will be providing a sack lunch for him at their house and pack him his own milk. I'm done playing her games, and I'm going to tell his father that our son will not be there starting the 19th of July during the day. He will not be happy but I don't care. I am going to tell him that our son will be there to spend time with you, so our son will only be going over to their house when I know he is going to be home. I need His father to understand I'm serious and I'm not backing down. Until they are legally married, this is the way it is going to be. So when school starts he will be going back to his dad's because he will not be there that much anymore. So starting Monday I will be taking him sack lunches for my days. I'm going to make sure they are some good lunches too. So that way she have to answer her kids questions of why he is eating something different then them. I feel sorry for the kids but this is the way it needs to be. I don't know what else to do. She'll ask for the milk and then she will not stop at that unless I put my foot down. So from now on I'm not dealing with her, it is known of her business really until they are legally married. Just because they live together and have two kids together doesn't make them a legal family. Yeah they are family but not in the churchs or courts eyes.

If any of you think I'm wrong or right let me know. If you have any advice for me I'm up for it. I just don't know what else to do about her.

For those of you that had some major questions. Does he pay child support? Yes he pays me $192 a month, but i'm to provide school shoes, school supplies, we both buy clothes for our houses, because they are Daylen's clothes not ours. When he wants to be in a sport i'm suppose to pay for all that stuff also... I'm not rich....I moved out of state back in 2002 because of their issues and pettyness, when in the long run it was just putting stress on Daylen because he was still suppose to be with his dad every other weekend and the whole summer. His dad and I live only a block away from each other so he can walk to both houses. I have given hand and foot for them because I knew that it would make Daylen happy. But it has gotten to the point where I don't know what to do. I'm a very trusting person and that's one of my down falls. I have gave and gave and gave to them. And the new bf doesn't want me to give into them, neither does his parents or my mom.

The new place that he would be going is my bf's fathers house, he has said we don't need to provide anything for him besides maybe him taking toys and stuff over there so he won't be bored and to make sure he takes his ADHD meds. He loves going over there, new bf's father wont be the only one there, there are three teenagers in the house also that can keep Daylen occupied. So i'm not worried.

The step mom and I were really good friends but lately since I have moved back things have changed and I don't talk to her like I use to. I set aside my differences because of Daylen. I understand that she is in his live and she loves him and streets him good, but there are certain things. I don't think she treats all the kids the same.

She also tells me that he is more pissed about this situation then she is. She tells him everything. So I'm sure he only knows one side of the story.

According to the court papers (the original ones) he is to pay half of the daycare but she has told me that if I were to put him in daycare when she can watch him then his father will not pay for it. In their house she is the boss, the way I see it and I told her today was he can't speak his own mind because of her.

UPDATE: 6/25/2007 I haven't talked to my son's father about this yet. I was expecting a phone call from him Saturday but didn't here anything from him, so then I was expecting a phone call from him Sunday but didn't receive one from him. I'm not going to bring it up to him unless he says something to me first. I did pack him a lunch today along with two little milks and a snack. I even fed him breakfast this morning, he of course had all kinds of questions of why he was eating breakfast at home. So I just told him that from now on he is going to be eating breakfast at my house (which would be Monday, Tuesday and Thursday mornings). So we see how long I have to keep this up. She didn't say anything to me when Daylen walked in their house carrying his lunch bag. Maybe she knows now that I'm not going to back down to her anymore. It's so funny, she still chats with me online like nothing has happened (like she demanded me to bring those 3 gallons of milk or else and I disagreed)

6/26/2007: Well, my bf and I asked how it went with Daylen's lunch yesterday and if he ate it all. He told me that his 'step-mom' told him he could share his lunch. So he said he did. So I told him I would rather you not share your lunch with anyone. And then I asked did they share their lunch with you. He told me that she told them that they could but he told me that he didn't want what they were eating. She also requested that I only bring one milk on my days instead of two. So that's what I'm going to do, it will make the milk last a little longer. And his father still hasn't said anything to me.

UPDATE 6/29/2007: Ok lets see if this time it goes through....Daylen's father and I finally talked about this whole milk situation last night....after arguing, raising our voices and me crying (which isn't hard to do now a days) I finally see his point....his father isn't expecting 3 gal of milk a week, he is hoping that I give them something though....i need to basically treat it as a FREE daycare, since his father isn't there....he told me that even if can give them a gal of milk and a loaf of bread and maybe a box of ceral then that would be ok....i told him that the way his gf or finacee made it sound was i had to send 3 gal of milk a week no matter what....he told me no that's not the case...he told me that when we took Daylen to his mom's for FREE daycare that he reacted the same way I did when his mom asked him to bring 2 gal of juice and a gal of milk and the way she explained it to him was 'does he not eat here' 'does he not drink here'...i can't think of it as just milk or just bread and my kid doesn't eat or drink that much....think of it as helping us feed him while he is here...instead of giving them money (that would be easy to spend on something other then milk or food) they would like milk or bread....he has also told me that Daylen keeps asking them questions , like why do i have to bring a lunch to your house...they tell him to talk to your mom...(which i told him was wrong to tell an innocent child this) He doesn't need to know that his parents are fighting about things....So when i get him tonight I am going to sit him down and have him tell me how he feels about taking his lunch and not eating what the other kids are eating....he i guess wonders why he can't eat what the others are eating....my bf is upset with them and me because he feels I'm giving into them AGAIN...but I don't think I am, I think i'm making my son happy...my mother is upset with me about it also and doesn't understand so I told her to talk to Daylen's other grandma (the one that use to watch Daylen for FREE) and have her explain it to her....I hope I didn't miss anything....I haven't made up my mind yet, I need to talk to my son first....THIS IS MY SECOND TIME WRITING THIS AND THE FIRST TIME HAD SO MUCH MORE INFORMATION IN IT.

On another note, my headaches come everyday now...and sometimes they are really bad that they hurt like hell....

6/12/2006 16 weeks 5 days: we went to the doctor yesterday. It was my bf first time so I was excited for him. I was so hoping that they would give and u/s, so I got my wish and had one from the nurse and then when the doc's came in they gave me one also. All three think girl. My doc bets it is a girl but will not take his bet to Vegas to gamble on it. So I go back Aug 8 for my 20 week u/s where they do all the measurements and everything and by then we should really know if it is a girl or not. Jason want's a boy of course because it is his first but me I already have a boy so I want a girl. I think he was a little disappointed but still hopes the doc is wrong and it is a boy. We will see. I also took my blood test for the quad screen. I want to know if something is wrong with the baby considering my father had Spina Bifida when he was born. He was one of the lucky ones though and was able to start walking at the age of two. He use to tell me that he went to High school with a girl that had it also but she was in a wheel chair because she was one of the unfortunite ones that didn't walk. Grandma use to tell me that she cried for a week when my dad was born because he had a hole in his spine, the doc's cut his head and he had a lump on his ear. I want to be prepared if something is wrong because now adays they can fix the bifida before the babe is born.(so i have read about). So i'm keeping it in my head that i'm prego with a girl this time and hope that she ends up to be a daddy's little girl and that she is blonde with blue eyes(like her daddy).

8/8/2007: Found out today that we are having a little GIRL!!!! I'm so excited but my bf is disappointed because he was so looking forward to a boy. She is 14 oz just about a lb and she is constantly moving. I can't wait to see her angelic face.