October 26, 2007
So my in-laws are here and they aren't even staying with me right now. They are down the street at my bro-in-law and sis-in-law's house, but they are still driving me crazy. They will come down here for a week on Sat. We've had dinner with them for 2 nights in a row and the other night my MIL was complaining about how when her son's were born (my hubby and his bro), "they ate so much as infants she had to feed them like every 2 hours, that's 8 hours of breastfeeding!" My sister-in-law, Kristie and I looked at her, like...yea? And your point is??? she thought that that was crazy or something and that she sacrificed so much of her time and energy to just feed them! Kristie just got finished breastfeeding the little baby a few months ago and was like, "yea Linda, that's normal." And then she was questioning her like, are you sure? It was kind of annoying. Especially since Kristie has 2 girls, one 3 1/2, and one 1 1/2, so she should know over someone who's youngest 'baby' is 34 years old, right?!

Then she was telling us how she wasn't really ready to have kids but felt pressured into it because of the dad's military circumstances. Because she had just finished graduate school and wanted to work and "couldn't" right away, so she feels like she sacrificed so much for her kids and is still kinda bitter about it. I'm thinking, OK, you are talking to the wives of the kids you supposedly " weren't ready to have", not the best idea...and she's still complaining about it, and the boys are 36 and 34. Time to get over it!

Then she was telling me about how the oldest, my hubby's bro was brought home from the hosp the first night and she said he was making so many little noises and she "needed to get her sleep", so she wheeled his buggy into the other room and closed both doors so she could get her sleep!!! The very first night with her first baby! I was shocked and laughed and told her that I wouldn't tell too many people that story if I were her! Kristie said how the baby didn't sleep through the night until she was 9 months old and was waking up twice a night to eat and Linda asked her why she kept the baby in her room and didn't just put her upstairs with the 3 year old. (She acted like Kristie was insane or something) Kristie said, "because she was waking up twice a night to eat! and I'm not gonna go all the way upstairs twice a night when I can just get her right there." And Linda just couldn't understand that concept, since "she's needs her sleep!"

I mean I'm so grateful that I have my husband, but WOW, some people just shouldn't have children!!!

Sorry I just had to vent and my Mom has a house full of company right now so I can't vent to her for a while!! haha!

November 2, 2007~20 weeks preggo
So as someone posted on my page, MIL's are from another planet!! I agree. I, thankfully have my house back after a 2 week stay. But they weren't with us the whole time, thank God. My bro-in-law and sis-in-law live 4 doors down, but I could still "feel" their presence...if that makes sense, so it still drove me nuts that they were here. Before I got preggo we'd say something about how hyper my niece's are, they are pretty hyper, but the older one is 3 and totally spoiled, so what do you expect and she has ZERO rules placed upon her, so that makes it worse, but regardless, we'll make a joke about it or whatever, and EVERYTIME my MIL would say, "Well, just wait til you have kids!!" As if I have no concept of children. (At the beginning of this year I watched my 1 year old niece every day for 2 months, I used to work in an elementary school, I used to be a cheer instructor at 17 for around 25, 7 year olds in Pop Warner, I watched my newborn nephew daily for the first few months of his life and I ran my own babysitting company at 13 years old.) I think I have an idea of what to expect with children! And she knows all of this info but still thinks I'm am man-child idiot or something who has no clue that a kid can be loud from time to time. So I have heard "Well, just wait til you have kids!!" about a million times in the last few years and this trip I just had it and because I'm pregnant I just DO NOT have the patience for anyone's crap so I said, "you know, if I never hear that from you again, I'll be a happy camper!"

So.....I may have crossed the line or at least made it blurry, but I'm SO sick of hearing that EVERYTIME we mention SOMETHING about another child. Good or bad, so you can't win.

So, now it has progressed since I'm preggo. Yay. I was hoping that after I have my baby that will be the end of her little, "Well, just wait til you have kids!!" comments, but noooooooo, I'm realizing that my life cannot be that easy. So on Halloween, Kieran the 3 year old was painting Nana's face red for her witch costume...I'm not even going to touch that one...and it was pretty funny because Nana kept saying, "Hey Kieran, maybe you should put some green instead of red." And Kieran said, "Nope, I like red." It's her favorite color, and there is no telling her "no", so nana looked like she got in a knife fight with Freddy Kruger or something. Face totally blood red, but not covered completely, since a 3 year old did it. It was rather scary actually. Kinda creepy and I couldn't wait until she took it off, cuz it was grossing me out. So I said, "Wow Linda, I'm impressed that you let Kieran paint your face like that, that was pretty good."

(Back story, she's a tax accountant who lives in a perfectly square box, so this was pretty big time that she let Kieran do something like that, especially since she was already planning to be green as a witch instead of blood red! It was on her "To-Do" list after all! And she's NEVER been one for spontaneity. )

So she tells me, "Well, just wait til you have GRAND-kids!!" GRANDKIDS!!!!! Holy crap! Are you kidding me right now Lady? Are you kidding me? So, I have to wait another 20-30 years until I'm capable of understanding let alone able to deal with the world's children?? I'm not even a mother yet for crying out loud, (in the logical sense), and now I have to wait until I have GRANDKIDS???!!! I mean I am a mother technically, but she's still in my belly!!!

I looked at my sister-in-law, (thank God for sister-in-law's who share the same MIL and are hearing the same crap at the same time at the same family function, because you have SOMEONE you can roll your eyes at when no one is looking!) and we just kinda shook our heads and laughed in disbelief. I couldn't bite my tongue anymore, I am pregnant after all, so I said, "GRANDKIDS? I'm not even a mother yet, Jeez Linda, can I at least go through the stages here?!!" But I was laughing so hopefully it didn't come out as bitchy as it reads...but I totally meant it as bitchy as it reads!!! And she laughed, because everyone else laughed, so that was good. But COME ON LADY, give me a friggin break! Grandkids! (Shaking my head!)

The moral of this Halloween tale and my cold hard realization, is that nothing will ever be good enough in her eyes because she is the ONLY one in the world who ever sacrificed her life and career for her kids, and I'm certainly not as good or as capable as her (apparently), so I might as well be a smart ass!

At least I'm having fun that way!!

*my poor husband, last night (before I wrote this latest entry) I had so much residual anger from his parents visit, and even had a side dish of irritation with my own parents left over from a way-to-long conversation with them after my in laws left for the airport, I dropped like 16 F-bombs at dinner crabbing to my hubby about everything and everyone blood related, and we actually don't ever talk like that unless it's a joke or something, or unless I'm pissed off and pregnant! haha! But he looked at me like I picked up a drunk, sailor, hitchhiker on the way home from the grocery store and dressed him up like me because he was so shocked at the utter filth that vomited from my mouth, his sweet, loving and (totally smart assed) wife. To which I say, "I'm pregnant, I can't help it!"

Gosh, I'm gonna miss being preggo!