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haydensmommy08
Age: 19
Country: US
Province/region: south carolina
City: spartanbug
Partner: loser
Children: Yes, 1
Pregnant: No
Due date: 21 Feb ,2008
Occupation: SAHM
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Last updated: 51 days ago.
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Hi! My name is Tiffany and I am pregnant with a beautiful baby girl. I'm 18 and this is my first child, even though this was unplanned I am ecstatic and so is my family! Her name is Hayden Nicole and she is due on Feb. 26th! I can't wait.

I found out I have a thyroid disorder, I'm a carrier for group B strep, and I am a carrier for cystic fibrosis (the "father" isn't involved other wise he could get checked to see if he's a carrier). Even with all those things against me I got my ultrasound at 18 weeks and she's 100% healthy. The doctor said that she has less than a 1% chance of having cystic fibrosis (they can lower the chances by looking at certain organs). I'm electing to have 2 of the 4d ultrasounds (one at 21 weeks and the other at 33 weeks). I'm so excited. She's going to have a wonderful life and my family is so supportive!


Oct. 17th: I had a job interview today for a portrait studio at wal*mart! I know it's not the best but it's better than McDonalds and until I get through school it's going to have to work! They offer insurance so I won't have to worry about being on my parents insurance and Hayden won't have to be on medicaid! YES! The lady liked me a lot, she said I was "cute, funny, and a people person!" She said that I should start training next week! I can't wait until Sat. my 4d ultrasound!! I go tomorrow morning for my doctors appt!

Oct. 18th: Doctors appt. went really, really, well! I talked to her about the baby daddy drama (that sounds so funny!)... she was like "just don't pick up the phone, you're only harming your baby when you get stressed out, he basically terminated his rights (in a non-legal way) when he told you to get an abortion" She went into more details about her life and in short-hand said guys don't change, if he wasn't there from day one (no matter what his excuse) he isn't anything worth getting stressed for. She asked me if I could take care of her and if I had good family support (both of which are a strong yes!) and if so forget about him.

Oct. 19th: I was talking to one of my good friends today, catching up on all my baby daddy drama and I realized how much Hayden is meant to be here. We were talking about all the negatives that have affected this pregnancy (thyroid problem, cystic fibrosis, stress, his family, the pressure from "him" to get an abortion, I was taking birth control, we used protection 95% of the time, I was told by one doctor I could go out of state for 6 weeks and it'd be fine (I transfered doctors and she was like WOAH, you have a thyroid problem and she gave you the go ahead to go away), etc... There is a purpose for my little princess to be in this world. I could've very easily caved into him and his family and agreed that this isn't the best time to bring a child into the world. How can you murder a baby because it's inconvienient to you? If you can do the deed then you should know a baby could result. I thought I didn't have anything to worry about with the b/c but somebody had other plans ;-) Anyways, I couldn't be happier, my 4d is tomorrow and pretty much my whole family is going and the rest are going to watch it over the internet (cool, huh?)... I also had another job interview today at old navy (I am holding out on the photography one though because I REALLY want it!), I have the follow up interview to that on monday, hopefully the other lady will call me soon though because one of my references called me and said they were checking references yesterday so YAY! I am in a super good mood and I am so greatful for everything, I love my daughter so much and I realize how blessed I truly am!

Oct. 23rd: I'm soo excited! Everything is going in the right direction! I got my starting schedule at the portrait studio and I start tomorrow! They pay $8 an hour (plus commission!).. I don't have to worry about Hayden's insurance now! YES! The only thing is that I didn't tell them I'm pregnant... I didn't want them to not hire me because of it so after my training I'll tell them (I talked to the studio manager before I interviewed but it's the district manager that I'm worried about)... I feel bad for not telling them, but I desperatly need a job! In the first week I'm getting 32 hours which is great because when I interviewed she said that I'll probably start off not getting that many hours! Somebody's watching over me! I'm doing great! Mom and I were talking about taking her on her first road trip! Most of my family is in NY (the trip lasts anywhere from 12-15 hours, we'll have to get a hotel with Hayden though) Any suggestions on how old the baby should be before she travels like that?

Oct. 25th: I started my new job yesterday and it's GREAT! I love it... the only downfall is I have to stand the whole day. Also, the sperm donor just texted me. It's been a little over a month since our big fight and the only times he's contacted me are to stress me out (his nice game only lasted 3 days). Suddenly today he's ready to be 'father of the year' I told him what the doctor said and am waiting for him to text back....

Oct. 29th: So, I never updated the other day after I talked to the sperm donor... he's such a self-centered jerk! He asked me if I wanted him to just stay away from Hayden and I both. Well, as much as I wanted to say YES! I asked him "Are you going to be a positive influence in her life, are you going to be there for her 24/7, do you love her, and are you going to offer stability to her?" He couldn't answer! I waited FOREVER for him to answer and finally I was like.. "If you couldn't say yes to that as soon as I asked you then she'll make the decision when she's old enough to meet you" He said that's fine (right, the same jerk that got 'involved' when I found out it was a girl, to tell me after he wanted me to have an abortion, wished a miscarriage on me, that he was going to fight for custody and so on... HAH!) I want my daughter to have people that are there for her.. he can't even say that he loves her but he wants to hear her say daddy? It takes way more than sperm to make a daddy.. I don't know, I'm not talking to him anymore. He doesn't honestly care about her, he likes the idea of a baby (on his own terms, not full-time).. WHATEVER! My daughter is going to have a wonderful family regardless...


Dec. 7th: It's been forever since I've updated this. The only thing that's changed between me and the sperm donor is that he texted messaged me because he's mad that I didn't send him a bday present..... wow! So that among other things led me to change my phone number. I'm done. I can't be nice. I'm done taking other peoples advice, I know what I need to do for her, he wants to use her to get to me and he knows that I wanted her to have a relationship with him.. I'm done. He is completely unbelievable. The pregnancy is definitely starting to take it's toll. I'm achy and crying all the time. Still can't sleep, I don't care what kind of pillow or position I'm in I just can't sleep. I feel like no matter what I'm just twisted. I went yesterday for my 2nd 3d u/s. It was soo much better than the first. He's going to give me a free visit because the first one sucked so bad. I go for it Jan. 3rd. Yay! I also go for my glucose thing on Monday. I'm really nervous about it too. I want it to turn out normal soo bad (diabetes runs in our family so..)


Jan. 10th: It's been a while and a lot has changed. My glucose test did turn out normal (thank god!). However, I ended up gaining 11 pounds in 3 weeks and my legs and hands were swelled up soo bad. So that amount of swelling is a warning sign for toxemia. Well my blood pressure has been creeping up but it's still not out of theo"normal" range. I've been on bed rest since Dec. 26th and am about to go crazy :-( I've been going to the doctor once a week since then and now she had me come back after 3 days to do the 24 hr urine collection and keep an eye on my blood pressure. We're also doing a growth ultrasound (I'm so excited! I've had 3 of the 3ds done but haven't had one that they could do measurements and stuff to tell the weight :-)!)... Oh, the 24 hour urine test is because they've found protein in my urine and want to know how much. They haven't said "you have toxemia" or what's wrong for that matter but they keep on wanting to take blood and have me come back more and more so it's enough to make me nervous.. Oh, updates on the baby's sperm donor. As selfish as he was about sending him a birthday present he didn't send anything for Hayden for Christmas (even though she's not here an outfit, toy, diapers, anything would've meant something). He just gets on my nerves. My whole families numbers are changed because of the harassing calls (not anything to do with Hayden just his selfishness). He's got my e-mail which I check several times a day if he wants to know anything about Hayden. I guess when she's born I'll give him the details of that and a picture. I'm done though, I don't need him and I'm not putting her through it. On a good note my first baby (my chihuahua) is turning 1 on Saturday! We're taking her out for ice cream at Bruster's!


Jan. 19th: Reese's birthday party was soo cute last weekend. She absolutely loved her ice cream (she shivered the whole time but had a fit when I tried to take it away)! I ended up falling on the 11th outside of the Krispy Kreme (I know, I know). I wanted a donut and we were on the way to my appt so.... Well, anyways, my brother and dad were with me to go see the u/s but we had to stop for my dad to pay the house taxes. Lucky for me the tax office or whatever is right next to Krispy Kreme. We dropped my dad off and then my brother took me over there. As soon as I put my foot on the ground to get out I slipped and fell on my butt/back and hit my shoulder on the truck. Talk about scary. Turns out they had an oil spill the week before. So, the manager said that they were doing the best they could (didn't even ask if I was ok or say sorry) and said they had put sawdust on it. Right. So thank god the u/s tech made sure to check the placenta and everything was ok :-)


Jan. 24th: Wow, is my princess playing games. Monday I mentioned to my doctor that she hadn't been moving all that much. Still moving some just not like she was. Well, with everything else my doctor thought I should be worked in for a NST then. Hayden was not having any part of it! We started getting a little anxious after an hour of her not doing anything, the doctor didn't feel comfortable letting me go home (which terrified me) and told me that she was going to get me in to get an u/s for a BPP. As soon as the u/s tech started the u/s Hayden started right up and got an 8/8 on there rating system. Just to be safe though they did another NST today. The lady that hooked it up today put the monitors on wayyy tighter and as soon as she strapped it down Hayden just went to the other side of my stomach to get away (it was really funny). I had to push her down and put pressure on the monitor for it to pick up the heart beat but we finally got a good reading. She's healthy (whew!).. She just wanted to give me a stress test. OOOHHH!! Good news. My BP was only 108/72 today!! I somehow or another managed to loose a pound in the last 3 days? It's the same scale so idk. I also gave my mom a scare on Tuesday. I started going CRAZY cleaning and getting stuff out she thought I was going into nesting and since it was a full moon she would've bet money that I was going into labor. haha! I turned in my 2nd 24 hr urine collection so hopefully the protein hasn't increased. The normal collections are still showing urine. It's almost officially been 2 months since the sperm donor has made any contact. I don't care at all because I know that I can't make him love her and it won't be any benefit to her for him to be involved.

Feb. 8th: So, I'm looking to finally be able to hold my little princess on the 12th. I went to the doctor on monday and she told me that I'm probably going to have to have a c-section because of my narrow hips, well I told her I definitely didn't want a c-section so in hopes of Hayden being a little smaller she's going to induce me early. I go on Monday to find out for sure what's going on. She said 39 weeks which is valentines day, but I really, really want her to deliver so she said that it'd probably be ok (only 2 days difference) and we'll make sure that Hayden is completely ready. I'm going back and forth between just getting the c-section but I just don't think I can deal with the recovery and I want to be able to hold her and be with her. Obviously if I have to have a c-section I will but if there's a chance that I could do it vaginally that's what I want..... ahh.. but either way I'm soo close to being able to hold my baby girl!






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lizzie287 - Wednesday, 28 May
That's good. Thanks for the congrats. Sorry you've got such a boob for a baby daddy :(


shellybelly81 - Thursday, 8 May
I see that you nurse your baby, can you give me an idea of what your schedule is? I formula fed my first so this nursing is all new to me and she seems to change it up urgh!! :o)

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Hayden Nicole  (2008, 03, 24) It`s a girl!!  (2007, 10, 08) Hayden`s foot!   (2007, 10, 08) Hayden 21w 4d (2007, 10, 21) Hayden 21w 4d (2007, 10, 21) Hayden 21w 4d (2007, 10, 21) mommy & Hayden (2008, 06, 04) First time mommy held me!  (2008, 06, 04) First bath! (2008, 06, 04)

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