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janesays
	Age: 38ish Country: US Province/region: City: blountville Partner: B.E. Children: Yes, 2 Pregnant: Trying to conceive Due date: 09 0 ,0000 Occupation: Doula, midwifery assistant
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Ten years ago I gave birth to my first son, John Paul. I was young and unaware of alternatives in labor and delivery. I had the full board. Pain meds, epidural, episiotomy, and trouble nursing. Yet I felt confident and proud of my accomplishment and loved mothering him! Less than two years later, I gave birth to my daughter, Emily, by induction. I had questioned this but was told the doctor really felt I should be induced because my baby was big. I believed him, was induced and had the worst time. There was soooo much pain, I laid flat on the bed, and the doctor kept his fingers in my cervix through two contractions, a pain I will never forget. The staff did not offer position changes or comfort measures (not that I was smart enough to ask), a nurse yelled at me for propping myself up on my elbows to push. My daughter cried and cried and cried for many days after her birth, nursing was a complete failure, I wasn't there for my son and the confidence I had before was lost. I wasn't even sure I loved my little girl. I received no help at home, my husband had to return to work right away, and I suffered from ppd. Six months later, I read an article in Parents magazine about doulas. It made so much sense. I felt cheated for not having known about them before. It wouldn't have made much difference for me because there were no doulas in my area, but it got me thinking.

All my life I have loved babies and children, I longed to be a mother. When my high school girlfriend were applying to colleges, I only wanted to get married and have kids. For years before that finally happened, I worked in various ways as a child care provider. During my pregnancies and my babies infancies, we worked every day in someone else's home, caring for their children. I was a small leap from that to doula.

I have worked as a doula, providing both labor and postpartum support, for the last six years. I have loved it all. There is no greater gift than to help a new mom find her way and then leave her to it. I recieve much more than just a paycheck from my job, I get the satisfaction that the mom I help isn't groping in the dark, or suffering from no support. I helping moms not to feel what I did. Hopeless, helpless, confused and sure there is a better way.

Last Thanksgiving we discovered we were pregnant again (oops). I decided from the beginning that I would use all of my knowledge and skills to help myself. I chose a midwife that delivers in my local hospital, and she agreed to let my go over my "due date" by two weeks to avoid induction, she also agreed not to cut me. On July 27, after laboring at home all night, I went to the hospital. My midwife was there and stayed with us almost the whole time. I delivered my son, Joseph Arloe, unmedicated and uncut after only three hours in the hospital. He nursed right away and has been an astounding nurser since then. I recovered quickly and felt great physically. It was the best feeling ever.

I did suffer again from ppd, but this time I knew what it was and was able to get help immediatly. We are very happy. Thank you for letting me tell my story, it is therapy in it self.

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busybeemom - Tuesday, 22 July
I want to thank everyone for the birthday wishes! To all my ladies that sent the e cards, after I was done laughing it brought a tear to my eye!!! Hugs to all!

niseybear - Sunday, 20 July
Hello everyone!

I just wanted to let you all know that I won't be on as much. Nothing is wrong, I just do better when I visit here every 4 days or so instead of everyday. We are well with the exception of my husband working 6 days a week and not having any family time. Today (sunday) is supposed to be our day together, but he's at work. I'm hoping he's feeling okay when he gets off and maybe if it's not too late, he, Mo, and I can go for a drive and then later him and I to a movie. Work is cool and I'm only one month away from starting school. I know what I want to be when I grow up....A TEACHER!

I don't want to be a server when I'm 50.

I only need 4 courses for my AA and then I can start my work for my BA in elementary education. I'M SCARED TO DEATH, but I know if it's meant to be, G-d will see to it.

Mo is 7 months old now and is an official crawler!

He only scoots every now and again. He was standing up in his crib this morning and I just about died!

He was more on his toes, but it was so cute! Looks like he may be walking soon. I haven't breastfed in nearly a month and a half and it's odd, I do miss it. What a closeness Mo and I had while I was doing it. We still have that bond, but breastfeeding made it even more special. I haven't had a period in about 3 months now, but I did bleed for about a day and a half last month. I'm going to talk to my OB if I don't see a cycle once I hit the green pills on my BC. Of course I'm not pregnant, no signs whatsoever. And I know what they mean when they say, once you've been pregnant, you know instantly the next time you are. I took 2 tests over 2 months and of course BFN and I'm okay with that. I want to enjoy Mo for a little while longer. And this house just isn't big enough for another little one.

Our stimulus check arrived on July 7th and it was SO NICE to finally receive it. Money was low and now we're on the high end once again and I'm hoping it stays that way for a bit. Well, let me go, my little man has been in his activity center long enough watching Baby Einstein. He's such a good boy...even if he does wake up at 2:45 in the AM and doesn't go down again til nearly 4AM!

Oh I was MAD this AM because I was SO tired. I put him back in his crib because I was upset and a few minutes later hubby stepped in and took over. I didn't hear him again til 6am and I was okay with that. Got him a bottle and he fell asleep about 30 minutes later and we BOTH slept til nearly 8:30!

Hope all you guys are well. Be blessed and take care!

Baby Jaidalynn - Tuesday, 8 July
Hi, sorry I haven't been on lately. It's been super busy for me these past few days. Between Dance/Pageant competition, lessons, gymnastic and Jaidalynn walking all over the place while I chase her, I just haven't had the time to come on to chat. But I will as soon as everything settles down. Miss you all and will soon be back on in no time.

Hugs from Jaidalynn and lilly!

niseybear - Monday, 7 July
Mo turned 7 months on the 4th of July!

Where the heck did the time go???

He's such a BIG boy now! Although we had trouble in the Walmart buggy today.

Don't think mommy had his little belt placed correctly. He fell to the side twice, but luckily never hit his head.

He's in his new Britax car seat and it's SO much easier getting him in and out. I wanted to buy myself something for my birthday on Friday, but Walmart didn't have the DVD I wanted so I purchased some more clothes for Mo. If I can't buy for me then I will ALWAYS buy for Mo.

I got him a puzzle that makes sounds when you put the pieces back in. It's so neat. It's called Farm Animals Puzzle. Got it for $10 at BELK'S.
I hope all of you are well. Take care!

niseybear - Friday, 27 June
Just wanting to say hello to you all. I hope each of you are well. Mo is no longer in an infant carrier. We moved him to his big boy car seat this week and I LOVE it!

It's a Britax Diplomat and it's one of the best investments we've made! I went to the Sheriff's office to have it checked out and was told to follow Britax's instruction on forward and rear facing. I'm going to be turning Mo around VERY soon. It says to do it when he's over 20 pounds. The officer told me at first to keep him rear facing as long as possible but when his assistant read the side of the car seat he said nevermind follow Britax's instructions, they know that they're talking about!

Took Mo shopping at Walmart yesterday and for the first time he got to sit in the buggy in the front! WOW! Such a big boy!!

He reached for everything on the shelves. Even got a loaf of bread down when mommy wasn't looking!

I had one of the buggy covers in it and it has toys on there for him, but Mo was more interested in what was on the shelf.

Well, I hope all of you are good. I haven't received messages in about 3 days and I hope everything is okay.

Blessings to you all!

Denise

Camryn Jewel - Thursday, 19 June

Hey you.. how are you? Your children are beautiful... you are very lucky

niseybear - Monday, 16 June
New pics of Mo on my page! I hope all of you are well!

~~~PARGY---CONGRATS on the birth of your little angel! Can't wait to hear from you. Thank you Paul for updating!

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