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mama40 has 33 days to go and is now in week 35
	Age: 40 Country: Private Province/region: Private City: Private Partner: ideal husband (I'm serious!) Children: Yes, 2 Pregnant: Yes Due date: 24 Jun ,2008 Occupation:
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I'm 40, so I am considered "older mom". And I already have two teenage girls from previous relationship.

I wouldn't say I made the decision to have another child in my time of life easily. It took me more than 6 years of my new marriage to come to this. But here I am finally. Before getting pregnant I did piles of research. So, yes, I know all about risk. That is why I opted to do CVS testing at 10 weeks, which brought me a good news - no genetic abnormalities are detected. Why I didn't chose amnio? Because it is done at 16 weeks and in my opinion it is too late to terminate the pregnancy in case of severe problems.

I'm basically healthy. Before getting pregnant, I used to drink occasional glass of wine or a couple of beer with my husband. I stopped this as soon as I tested positive. I don't smoke or use drugs. I'm almost vegetarian with ocassional fish and seafood, but no meat of any kind. So I eat lots of fresh fruits and veggies and avoid junk food. I have been practicing tai chi for more than three years and I continue it now. Since I have a beloved dog, I go for a walk every day, at least three times a day. I live in Washington state in a very clean area near the forest. Oh, and I don't have extra weight. So you see, I have a reason to believe I am well fit for this pregnancy despite me being "older", so I look forward to having my baby with optimism.

14 April, Monday

30 weeks. Two-third of pregnancy is over and the big day approaches. Still feel relatively good. LIttle guy kicks me every nigh and every morning. He slows down a bit during the day, but I feel him often enough so not to worry. Continue my tai chi classes, although I have to modify movements a bit - not to bend too low, not to kick to high etc. Also I go for a walk with my dog 3-4 times a day, so it gives me additional hour or so of excercise.

15 February, Friday

Today I went for my 2nd level ulrasound. This was the first time my husband joined me for the doctor appointment. I was a little bit worried what if we discover something wrong and my hubby would be there too and there would be no way to soften the blow for him. But it went very nicely. The doctor showed us all pictures and explained that everything looked "beautiful" and "perfectly normal". He tried to involve my husband also. At one point he said, while looking on the screen, "I see your baby has a kind heart. Do you know why I can tell?", and then to my husband, "Because you have such a kind face, your baby must have a kind heart". Other time he showed us the baby holding his tumb up and said,"Look, he is saying, not to worry dad, I am ok." It was fun. Well, I am relieved that all results are good. In a couple of days I will be 22 weeks and time is flying.

28 January, Monday.

It is 19 weeks already. Almost half-way. Recently I felt the baby move for the first time. It was like definite pokes from inside. Most of them were low and some hit my bladder. Then for a couple of days there were nothing. Today I again feel something, although not as strong. I hope soon I will feel the baby moving all the time.

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SBYMom - Friday, 22 Feb
Hi Mama40 - I try to read alot of your comments in all the forums...I think you have a lot of wise things to say. I wanted to let you know that, because too easily we can judge others. Best of Luck with the rest of your pregnancy & keep those comments coming!

oldie44 - Friday, 22 Feb
You are right, my husband is very experienced at being daddy. He is actually one of rare men who is first to get up during the night. When we had our last 6 years ago, I was very anxious and could not fall into deep sleep next to the baby. Besides, I ended up with post-partum depression, and had to go back to work even before 12 weeks, so I could be among people. Anyway, he kicked me out of our bedroom and stayed in there with 2 weeks old baby. I slept upstairs with a pillow on the top of my head; only this way I could tune myself out from external sounds. Igor whould wake me up only for feedings, and after that he took care of the rest - burping, putting baby back to sleep, etc. Many times he would tell me in the morning that she did not want to go to sleep and he circled neighborhood for hours, but he never woke me up. I always remember that. So was with our son, who seemed never slept. Igor had his leg on the stroller at night and rocked it the second baby made noise. Igor also became a babysitter and a housekeeper for a whole year when our last baby was 1 y.o. when he got laid off and could not find a job. So, I really laugh inside when I hear all the talk about not sacrifising his gym, late movies, vacations, etc. I know him better than that. I asked my older daughter for a Valentine gift - to go with me to my big u/s next Friday. I heard Igor was telling her how interesting was to see baby, that he was so small, but had all the body parts, and now he will be even bigger, and it would be fun for her to meet her brother before everybody else. I could hardly keep my face straight - he sounded as such a pro- baby advocate. I told him that I envy him, because at 45 he is very young looking and nobody will be surprised that he has a child, while I am doomed to be labeled a grandma, now even more, because it happened so often 6 years ago, I wanted to scream. Once, when baby was 3 months old, my older and I went with the baby to do a barrium swallowing test to check for GI reflex (which she did have). I was so anxious, that a nurse told us 'OK, mom stays, grandma is out!' Of course, we laugh about it, in a way it complements me, I do not mind.
I count days to next Friday, I so look forward to seeing how little Antoshka grew. Of course, I am a little anxious about what they find, but I hope for the best.
How are you doing, are you going to have any more u/s before end of PG?

oldie44 - Friday, 22 Feb
Hi, Anna, my PG is no longer a secret among my co-workers and my relatives. Amazingly enough, nobody mentioned my age in any way. It went easier than I expected. There were more comments about this being 4th child. Many people in our community are having 3, but 4! We outdid many! We agreed with my husband to tell everybody that this was planned, so you should see him going about our Liza needing a sibling closer in age than older 2. He now deflects all the blows that our older is trying to make about our luck of parenting skills, her favorite topic. I am very proud of him. We joke about my big belly and I even feel that he likes how it crdits his virility.
My coworkers cannot believe I could keep it from them until 20 weeks. The spring is coming soon, so I am looking forward to wearing maternity clothes and not hiding my belly under baggy sweaters.
I still feel my baby's movements pretty low. Strange, the uterus is at belly button level, so I thought baby should be somewhere in the middle. I will ask my Dr about it next Friday when I go for my u/s.
I confess, I bought a little baby blanket on sale too, but then I chickened and stopped at that. I want to research about good infant stroller systems, especially those that allow to have child face both ways, not just when carier is in. If you hear something, let me know. I saw on you page posts from 2 Russian mom-to-be, one is very pretty model, they are both my daughter's age.

kmaddison - Thursday, 21 Feb
hi there! first congratulations on your pregnancy! i read your comment in the forum about pets, i understand when you say they are still animals, ever since i found out i was pregnant over the last month or two, i cannot stand to be around my partners dog, everything she does annoys me! she is a staff dog and we have found her a new home which she goes to tomorrow, i know this sounds really horrible of me but i cant wait! i feel like such a bad person getting rid of her, but i think no would risk it around a baby.

martina26 - Thursday, 21 Feb
Yeah a boy, me too. I think that your gonna be a rockin mom at 40. Im so jealous I really want twins. f my next pregnancy in another 4 years were twins then I would be completely satisfied. i always joke I ll need to fly out to Cali and see the Ob that all the stars are seeing to get their twins lol.

martina26 - Thursday, 21 Feb
Are you having a boy or girl?

martina26 - Thursday, 21 Feb
Thank you Mama40 ;) i would hate to be the one to upset anyone--I was just venting. LOL I too will start sneeking and eyes swell up and eventually get the hives bumps and everything. Its soo embarrasing. I know now to take a benedryl which will give me an hour to an hour and a half before the onset of the symptoms. You wrote very classy. I too am an advocate of preparation. They are still animals ppl you cant expect them to just 'know' what to do and not do. Shoot we still have to tell ppl to wash their hands before touching the baby etc. In my post i was speaking of what I am allowing in my home, not what others should be doing in their home--i would never be so bold lol. I do find it funny how much personality pets have and how that once jealous dog b/cms the childs most loyal friend--i could cry ;) Take care. I still feel lightyears away from my due date though. The holidays help keep th emonths and weeks moving, but everything seems to be slowing down now. My shower is March 15th and I am really looking forward to that--then the count down begins. How have you been lately. I love reading ur posts ;)

lizzie287 - Tuesday, 19 Feb
Thanks a lot for the info. That's kinda what I thought too, about the short amount of time the liquid would be in the bottle anyway ... It's so overwhelming, all the warnings that are out there now! lol

VvLisa - Monday, 18 Feb
Hi, I hope all is well -).
My fiance is also Russian, and we are struggling with the Russian version a lot. Our parents love the name, but our grandparents is the problem -) Jonathan is Bogdan in slavic (God's gift, Bogom dan) and Iam not feeling the name at all(. I like Ivan, Vanya, but not the English version of the name. I have a feeling we will call him Yanik, which I don't mind at all.
I am glad your ultrasound went very well. Do you know the gender of your little one already?

mamagarces - Monday, 18 Feb
thank you for your comments :)

wishing you a healthy, happy pregnancy, and baby! :)

niseybear - Sunday, 17 Feb
How goes it?

pargy - Sunday, 17 Feb
Hey, I am so glad that your big u/s scan went well. I am doing great. I also had my big ultrasound scan. The first time they were not able to get all of the measurements so they scheduled a second appointment a month later. The second scan was last Tuesday. The tech told us that everything was fine. It felt great. I had great results with the CVS and all of the ultrasound scans, and it is a great feeling knowing that we are having a healthy baby.

I am also feeling my baby move, but not as much as some mothers. My movements feel like flutters, and I feel them at certain times of the day.

Congrats on having a healthy baby boy, and thanks for sharing the great news.

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oldie44 - Saturday, 16 Feb
Anna, I am very glad for you, even though good results were practically expected. They estimated your boy to be 7.7 and it is big?! My last girl was 8.11, I am scared to think what this one is going to be! Each of my children was bigger at delivery than the one before. I remember that my little Liza (who is now very thin, but tall) looked like a month old compared to other babies in nursery. And, since I am not going to starve myself, I am better to prepare for a giant.
Have you decided on the name yet? So far I like Anthony the best, but my husband is not so sure. Our friends called their recent newborn Samuel, but I have a Cavalier King Charles Spaniel named Sammy, so I associate long ears and wet black nose with this name.
I feel baby moving more, but still very low in my abdomen. I was curious if Dr mentioned anything if it is somehow related to baby's position in the uterus, or they are just small at this time. I look 6 months PG, esp in the evening, but when I pinch myself, I have quite a bit of cushion I can grab easy. Looks like I will have to work hard on loosing wt later. But who cares now! On my days off, I can't wait until my family leaves, so nobody can shame me for indulging myself in fry potato. My favorite is to shred it and fry it until colden crust covers it, than flip it and do the same. It might have 3000 cal, but it is so good! I hope I did not fall too low in your eyes. We do love salads, with green cabbage, and if I have dill, I can eat a ton. So, I hope my good deeds will make up for bad. My co-workes joke that if they eat lunch next to me, they eat twice more, seeing how I am enjoing the food.
When are you going to start buying things? I went yesterday on garage sales and could not bring myself to buy anything, just felt like I am being too bold assuming that everything will be OK, what if I make someone above mad? I was not so supersitious with my last baby, not at all, I do not know what is wrong with me now. Silly me. My co-worker, the one I shared my news several weeks ago, finally announced it loudly this morning. She says that I look 6 months PG, but imagine that the rest of people were truly surprised. Now we have a little more difficult task to announce to the rest of my family on Tuesday. It would be OK, except for my mother-in-law. She is the most stupid, low-educated, supersitious, mean, envous, two-faced person ever. She hated me when we lived in Kiev, talked bad about me, to the point of making tours for other relatives to my house in our absence to show that my refrigerator was not clean, etc. When my husband was in military, she wrote him in her letters that she called my home in the evening and I was not there, so I might've cheated on him. Once in America, she kisses my behind and calls me daughter. She talks bad about everyone around. She is the only person I truly believe can have a bad eye. I quess, I will have to attach a safety pin to my clothes?! I have never done this with my children. I think I am a little afraid of their reaction, since we know how people of our culture view older age PG and how easy they accept idea of abortion. I am afraid that they will not believe that I am truly happy and thrilled, that they will not share my feelings. We are the weird ones, my only brother is not married at 37; my husband's brother and uncle have only one child each. So they thought us crazy 6 years ago. The only difference now that with this baby, my husband (and my daughter) sides with them (though he will support me verbally).
O, well, enough bubbling for today. I am not too busy at work. One benefit of people knowing about my condition - gettting easier patients assignments. Take care, be happy, you can relax now.

mplsmama - Saturday, 16 Feb
Congrats on getting good results on the level 2 u/s. I had one done a few wks ago too and was so relieved to hear everything looked normal. It's hard to be forced into this AMA category & not have some worries... it's just so reassuring to hear that everything is ok. It's interesting because, similar to you, mine was measuring a bit large for my due date - but they didn't change the due date, nor seem too concerned. I was just surprised b/c I'm 5'3' and my hubby is 5'6' so I just assumed we'd have a smaller baby. Guess not! Anyway, good luck & congrats on the good news.

VvLisa - Friday, 15 Feb
Hi, I am also from Russia and almost 25 weeks pregnant with my first. I've read your page and some of your comments. I wish you best of luck with this pregnancy and congratulations!

Christina1984 - Friday, 15 Feb
thank u that actually makes me feel better.my friends eep telling me its not normal 4 him to be having more kids. he has 2 from a previou marriage. the one is 18 and thinks he is 2 old.we think it was meant to be cuz he is not supposed to have ne kids w/out spending thousands 4 shots. good luck 2 u as well

redrobin - Thursday, 14 Feb
Thanks, I know that I am probably freaking out for no reason. Some days I'm worried about the baby, some days I'm worried about me and then other days I feel great! What a rollercoaster!

amanda-marie - Thursday, 14 Feb
hey im hoping all goes well for u. do u no what ur having yet?

jacsbaby - Thursday, 14 Feb
Thanks for your response i had the amnio done on Monday and amazingly the rapid test results were back on tuesday afternoon so we now know our baby does not have downs or two of the other more common syndroms we will have the results of the full test in 2 weeks but they didnt even bother going into details about this as they say it is so rare to have any serious problems that if it happens they will discuss it then. I didnt travel straght after and am now still resting at home but feel fine ,again thanks for your advise

oldie44 - Thursday, 14 Feb
Anna, I wanted to wish you the best results on your u/s this Friday. I was busy last couple of days and a little frustrated that I did not get my amnio results yesterday as promised because 'lab was running behind'. I have to call on friday again, so good luck to me, too. I was very interested by what you wrote in your last post to me and had so many questions, I just needed some quiet time and calm mood for that, so I will leave it for after Friday. My u/s will be on 2/29. I am trying to keep positive, thanks God, nothing bad happening, it is just always waiting for something is getting on my nerves sometimes. We are celebrating our 25th anniversary on 19th, but I want it to pass quickly, because 2/29 seems more important right now. I feel a little guilty about it.

wisdomfey - Wednesday, 13 Feb
Thank you so much all of you for your advise! As soon as I get a grip on how to work this stuff here i wil be able to better reply!

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