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First Pregnancy and first Dr. Appt on Tuesday!! We tried for 3yrs thinking i was infertile but then out of nowhere SURPRISE!!

7-17-07 First Dr. Appt. today and it sucked well I guess I just expected to find out more pretty much everything they told me about my due date and how far along I was I already knew from being on here! We tried to hear a heartbeat with no success for some reason she thinks its too early although it seems no one else has trouble in their 10th week, she said she would order me an early ultrasound since they usually don't do them until 18 weeks and I insisted on seeing my lil prune!

7-31-07 First Ultrasound yesturday!! WOW is all I can say! Although my husband had quite a laugh because neither of us realized that they do a vaginal u.s. the first time so when she pulled it out he said my face was priceless. Personally I think that's why the u.s. was so clear so after I saw the baby I could've cared less. Seeing him/her up there just made everything more real for me, I seriously felt like I was dreaming, BEST FEELING EVER!! My husband's mood changed finally, he was soooooo giddy and goofy like a lil kid afterwards in the waiting room I think it was a reality call for him also, although he has a daughter from a previous relationship he missed everything leading up to it until she was 18 months, and I know this might sound cruel and mean but I'm happy that his first time experiencing a pregnancy is with me, his wife. I'm definately a lot more at ease now and in 6 weeks we find out whether he is a she or she is a he haha!!

8-28-07 Worst Dr. appt. ever!! We brought my step daughter to this one so that she could hear her little brother or sister's heartbeat. I was really excited about setting up my next ultrasound appt. to find out what I'm having. When the Dr. came in I said okay so lets set up that ultrasound appt. so I can find out what I'm having. She got all retarded and said why do you want to know so bad and I said so I can go shopping and so we will know. So she comes back with well what if they are wrong because you know they aren't always right, and what if you go buy lots of stuff and get the room all ready and the tech is wrong and I said well I will be seeing what she sees and since my ultrasounds are 4D I think I will know whether its a "hamburger" or a "hotdog", seriously!! Then she says shes going to get the doppler so we can listen to the heartbeat, and on her way out of the room she says I can tell you what you're having right now because I'm 95% right when I listen to the heartbeat. So she started getting really cocky about it and saying shes rarely wrong and now all the sudden she swears its a girl when a month ago she told me it was a boys heartbeat. So I asked what the actual rate was and she was like what so you can try to guess whether its a boy or girl and I said no it would just be nice to know. What is with some of the people seriously you are supposed to be one of the more comforting people in a pregnant woman's life and half the time they act like they barely have time to answer questions not only that but I have just always assumed that there is some kind of Dr./patient bond not a "hi i just met you at the bus stop" kinda thing. I am very discouraged about having to go back to her but we can't afford any other doctors offices.

11-09-07 Its been so long since I've updated this, WOW! Well first lets start with the sex: I am having a little boy... Woohoo we know daddy is happy about that, because now he has both (son and daughter) although we will still take a shot (a couple years from now) at giving me both. I am getting more and more excited and also impatient, I could swear I am running out of time to get everything around the house done especially with Christmas right around the corner, not to mention I've finally chosen a date to quit my job (Dec 14th). Budgeting must start now, haha. I feel like every time I buy a new maternity shirt within 2 weeks its too short! So I have resorted to (which will help save money) just buying shirts for my husband that I too can wear, that way at least they wont be useless if I grow out of them and/or after I have the baby. According to our last u/s the baby is weighing in at 2 and a half pounds!

01-07-08 Woohoo only a couple more weeks!! I'm totally getting anxious, not so much at giving birth or labor or any of that but mainly how my husband will react, I think he is gonna be sooooo nervous that I will need to hold his hand and tell him everything will be okay. My dad insists we should video tape my husband during the process because it could possibly be really entertaining. I finally decided to allow my sister-in-law in the room only for the fact that she is really level headed and I'm sure she will be a big help if Chris loses it haha. I just keep getting so excited just picturing everything in my head from the first contraction to bringing him home, and its great because its keeping my mind off the fact that its probably gonna be quite painful especially since I've decided to go natural. We finally agreed on a name: Eric Hendricks Allen, yeah yeah two middle names thats all I keep hearing but both middle names are significant to me ... Hendricks because I recently found out at Thanksgiving (down south with my family) that its a distant relative and my dad had even gone and visited his house (this is from like the late 1800s I think) and I had really wanted an historical name and the only other ones were Edgar and Cornelius which just weren't my cup of tea. Now for Allen thats simple its my dad's and my husband's middle name how perfect is that, I definitely knew as soon as I found out that it was a boy that I wanted to incorporate a part of my dad's name in there somewhere. Chris plans on calling him Eric and I'm going with Hendricks and well my step-daughter has been calling him Bubby forever now and she insists thats his name and. I think hes gonna be quite confused for a long time but I know eventually Chris and I will cooperate with one another and agree on calling him by the same name whether I have to be the one to compromise or not I really don't think he will be called by 3 different names for long.

2-14-08 Oh my gosh!! You have got to be kidding me... Where is this little fella? I think he got lost and can't find his way out... At least I know he isn't gonna be claustrophobic since he doesn't seem to mind being cramped... My step-daughter is finally showing signs of nervousness because all of the sudden she's scared to come over which is very very abnormal for her...Although I have heard of worst cases where the bigger sibling starts having accidents and acting out because of a new addition, hopefully she doesn't go that far, but I feel horrible... Rejection sucks as it is but coming from a 3 year old is even worse because she can't explain why she doesn't want to come and if you talk about the baby coming crying becomes a little more intense... And of course with all my crazy hormones all that does is make me cry because I can't "fix" what is wrong... I have a dr appt tomorrow and am hoping that they mention when and if they will induce although in my case my midwife and I are set on doing everything as natural as possible as long as not to cause harm to myself or the baby, so to say the least I'm not excited about the possibility of an induction, but I also don't want to be preggo forever... I still have had no signs that he even wants to come out... I still have my entire mucus plug and not one false contraction has occurred either... Of course the midwives advice is sex, walking, and evening primrose oil... On the topic of sex ummm its boring and its uncomfortable and it takes so much freakin energy... Walking well its been in the teens lately and for me thats a little to cold to be walking around the neighborhood... And as far as the primrose stuff I am not one to take pills that I don't know about although they tell me they are safe it clearly says on the bottle if you are pregnant consult your dr before taking, plus it takes severe pain for me even to pop Tylenol... Okay that being said I hope he comes to visit sometime soon as I am getting quite uncomfortable and also would like to experience motherhood outside of the womb lol... Oh yeah... According to my last u/s 2 weeks ago he is supposedly 7lbs 12oz give or take a pound which means he could be a 10 pounder if I don't get him out soon haha!!

Birth Story 2- 22- 08

Eric Hendricks Allen Frawley was born Thursday February 21st 2008 at 2:31pm weighing 10lbs 14oz and 21in long...
Went in on Tuesday night to get induced, was induced by 9pm... Woke up at 6am Wednesday morning with mild contractions and was told I was only 50% effaced not 80 like they originally thought and only 2cm dilated...Was induced again at 9am and bitched until they took it out and let me go home for a couple hours to get some "real" sleep...Water broke after only getting an hour nap at home at 2pm, contractions started getting worse went back to the hospital at 4:45pm...contractions went on to get even worse and I could no longer focus on breathing so I graciously took the pain relievers... worked for awhile and then a few hours later had no energy left to deal with the contractions so went for the epidural after taking on 7 hours of excruciating contractions (when monitored they were off the charts) and was induced again...got a decent nights sleep woke up at 5am Thursday morning and was 8cm dilated and 100% effaced... For some reason baby's head was not moving down though so they turned up the dose of the induction med...Still nothing... Finally started pushing at 11am and after 3 hours and 31min baby was out!! So far the biggest my midwife has ever delivered and I was 20min away from being forced to have a c-section but somehow managed to get this biggin out lol... Although on his way out he had some complications and came out blue and not breathing they rushed him to the table and he was surrounded by nurses whom eventually cleared his lungs and got him to breath and had a dr check his arm because one of his shoulders got stuck so they had to basically pull him by his other shoulder and armpit to get him out...so after a snip and rip he was out and after I bitched like usual they let us go tonight rather than the normal 48hours!! Baby Eric is home and doing great and although I couldn't even walk this morning I too am doing pretty decent considering the circumstances!! Pics are up!!