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ama - Thursday, 16 Aug
Do both! There isn't one that is 100% 'right' or one that is 100% 'wrong'. You are both Christian's...I think God and Jesus will be happy with a compromise :) Blessings to you and your family!

LeahAnne - Thursday, 16 Aug
I had a similar situation with my first child - my hubby was raised catholic but doesn't practice it anymore, but his family does. he wanted to baptise just make his family happy. we, together as a couple go to a baptist church, so we agreed to have baby dedicated to God and to make a big deal of it, the way catholics do of baptism, invite all his family to come to the service, have a bbq after - and celebrate that we will bring the child up in a christian home - just to show grandparents and aunts and uncles that we're not neglecting baby's spirtual side completely,....it was enough for them and they were happy!

EllaVanellasMomma - Thursday, 16 Aug
hey ive kinda been in the same situation with my daughter, who is now two. my parents are divorced half the family are catholic half are christian. i find there to be a lot of hypocricy in the catholic church so i have my own beliefs but attend a christian church. my husband didnt find god until he met me, but he doesnt like the catholic church. my 'catholic' family insisted that i baptise my daughter. but i believe it should be a choice that she make when she accepts and fully believes in god. my grandfather passed away in march and my family insisted that it would make my grandfather happy, to see his great grandbaby baptised catholic. i felt torn, but my husband stood firm saying no. and i believe we made the right choice. you shouldnt do something just because it is what your family and tradition says. this is your child you need to do what you believe is best!

barbe - Thursday, 16 Aug
We are going through a similar issue in our family where some close family members are catholic and others are not (neither my husband nor I are). I also believe that baptism is a profession of faith that you do when you understand the meaning of Christ and accept him into your heart. So my husband and I are going to have the baby christened when it is a couple months old to symbolize our honoring of God and our agreement to lead the baby to Christ, and then our child can choose to get baptized at a later time when he decides he is ready. Hope this helps!

MercyMe - Thursday, 16 Aug
Look like you are getting a lot of comments on this...so let me add. Went through this with our first baby...my husband was rasied catholic in NYC, and his family is super catholic, he even has 2 aunts that are nuns. HOWEVER, he does not practice his religion, and I almost couldn't get him to go to his sisters wedding because it was in a catholic church. We had our children dedicated when one was 10 months and the other 12 months (on mother's day both times). I'm the one that goes to church and will be teaching these things...they can be baptized when they understand why they are doing it. So, just be cause it's the 'custom' of the family is no reason to do it if you don't believe it in your heart. They are your kids and if you are the one who will be showing them the way, I think you should have the right to do it as you wish. Good luck and pray about it :)

Miska - Thursday, 16 Aug
mayathebee - I already set the ground rules with my DH when it come to baptism. I'm a Christian and my DH is a Catholic, but he goes to church with me. I told him that my little one will be baptized when she understands the meaning why she's being baptized. Not get baptized because it's a ritual and she doesn't even know why she's being baptized. He already knows that he's going to be getting heat from his family, but he's ready to except it. Luckily, he likes going to the church I go to and I think soon he'll be ready to convert.. I already convinced him to get baptized again, because this time it's his free choice.. :)

sadhya - Thursday, 16 Aug
Hey it sounds like your husband is a 'culturally' Catholic but not religiously Catholic. The baptism for him and his family may be a symbolic ritual but it does not necessarily mean that your child can't be baptised as a seventh day adventist or choose another faith-it just means that they went through this ceremony that has become tradition for your husband and his family.You've got some time-I hope you stay relaxed and remember that God is not like a man with an ego. God simply is.

mzlala - Thursday, 16 Aug
congrads on your pregnancy i had the exact same problem religion wise w me and my fiance we baptised the baby both catholic and seventh day adventist right now the baby will be so young it doesnt really matter what religion you baptise em it doesnt mean they will neccesarily stay w that religion we are raising our daughter to be independent and when the time comes she will pick what religion she wants

Momma x2 - Thursday, 16 Aug
Hold off and let your child pick? Or go united? United is raising your child to be the best person they can be in the community. Touchy subject for sure! What did you Marry under? Maybe that is an option or answer to your question?

michellina124 - Thursday, 16 Aug
Wow how awesome I was raised SDA also even went to Portland Adventist Elementary and Academy.

poopmommy - Thursday, 16 Aug
you posted your question in 38wks and thats where i responded to you! go check it out, i hope it helps!:) and congrats on your baby!

cls29 - Thursday, 16 Aug
i am having the same problem as you.my partner wouldnt let me baptise my other 3 and wont until they are ready to make that choice themselves. I am the only one in my whole family who have not baptised my children xx

MrsCarney - Thursday, 16 Aug
I would go ahead and have the baby baptized to please the family, it is not bad for the baby - just remember to allow your child to make that decision when he/she is of age and have him/her baptized again at that time!

shortncrazy2 - Thursday, 16 Aug
I think that is a thing you and your hubby will have to discuse and see what you decide. you can always have the baby baptisted catholic and if the it decides to switch to your religion it can be rebapstied in that religion. Both my hubby and I are not very relatios at all. Bt my hubbys family is extremely catholic so we decide we are goin to have our baby baptisted.

robbronkim - Thursday, 16 Aug
I would talk to your pastor. I find that prayer with God and reading his word might lead you to the answer to this question. Found this on Charles Stanley site. It is verses and thoughts on baptism and Christian. Sorry if long. Baptism, Christian an ordinance immediately instituted by Christ (Matt. 28:19, 20), and designed to be observed in the church, like that of the Supper, 'till he come.' The words 'baptize' and 'baptism' are simply Greek words transferred into English. This was necessarily done by the translators of the Scriptures, for no literal translation could properly express all that is implied in them. The mode of baptism can in no way be determined from the Greek word rendered 'baptize.' Baptists say that it means 'to dip,' and nothing else. That is an incorrect view of the meaning of the word. It means both (1) to dip a thing into an element or liquid, and (2) to put an element or liquid over or on it. Nothing therefore as to the mode of baptism can be concluded from the mere word used. The word has a wide latitude of meaning, not only in the New Testament, but also in the LXX. Version of the Old Testament, where it is used of the ablutions and baptisms required by the Mosaic law. These were effected by immersion, and by affusion and sprinkling; and the same word, 'washings' (Heb. 9:10, 13, 19, 21) or 'baptisms,' designates them all. In the New Testament there cannot be found a single well-authenticated instance of the occurrence of the word where it necessarily means immersion. Moreover, none of the instances of baptism recorded in the Acts of the Apostles (2:38-41; 8:26-39; 9:17, 18; 22:12-16; 10:44-48; 16:32-34) favours the idea that it was by dipping the person baptized, or by immersion, while in some of them such a mode was highly improbable. The gospel and its ordinances are designed for the whole world, and it cannot be supposed that a form for the administration of baptism would have been prescribed which would in any place (as in a tropical country or in polar regions) or under any circumstances be inapplicable or injurious or impossible. Baptism and the Lord's Supper are the two symbolical ordinances of the New Testament. The Supper represents the work of Christ, and Baptism the work of the Spirit. As in the Supper a small amount of bread and wine used in this ordinance exhibits in symbol the great work of Christ, so in Baptism the work of the Holy Spirit is fully seen in the water poured or sprinkled on the person in the name of the Father, Son, and Holy Ghost. That which is essential in baptism is only 'washing with water,' no mode being specified and none being necessary or essential to the symbolism of the ordinance. The apostles of our Lord were baptized with the Holy Ghost (Matt. 3:11) by his coming upon them (Acts 1:8). The fire also with which they were baptized sat upon them. The extraordinary event of Pentecost was explained by Peter as a fulfilment of the ancient promise that the Spirit would be poured out in the last days (2:17). He uses also with the same reference the expression shed forth as descriptive of the baptism of the Spirit (33). In the Pentecostal baptism 'the apostles were not dipped into the Spirit, nor plunged into the Spirit; but the Spirit was shed forth, poured out, fell on them (11:15), came upon them, sat on them.' That was a real and true baptism. We are warranted from such language to conclude that in like manner when water is poured out, falls, comes upon or rests upon a person when this ordinance is administered, that person is baptized. Baptism is therefore, in view of all these arguments 'rightly administered by pouring or sprinkling water upon the person.' The subjects of baptism. This raises questions of greater importance than those relating to its mode. 1. The controversy here is not about 'believers' baptism,' for that is common to all parties. Believers were baptized in apostolic times, and they have been baptized in all time by all the branches of the church. It is altogether a misrepresentation to allege, as is sometimes done by Baptists, that their doctrine is 'believers' baptism.' Every instance of adult baptism, or of 'believers' baptism,' recorded in the New Testament (Acts 2:41; 8:37; 9:17, 18; 10:47; 16:15; 19:5, etc.) is just such as would be dealt with in precisely the same way by all branches of the Protestant Church, a profession of faith or of their being 'believers' would be required from every one of them before baptism. The point in dispute is not the baptism of believers, but whether the infant children of believers, i.e., of members of the church, ought to be baptized. 2. In support of the doctrine of infant baptism, i.e., of the baptism of the infants, or rather the 'children,' of believing parents, the following considerations may be adduced: The Church of Christ exists as a divinely organized community. It is the 'kingdom of God,' one historic kingdom under all dispensations. The commonwealth of Israel was the 'church' (Acts 7:38; Rom. 9:4) under the Mosaic dispensation. The New Testament church is not a new and different church, but one with that of the Old Testament. The terms of admission into the church have always been the same viz., a profession of faith and a promise of subjection to the laws of the kingdom. Now it is a fact beyond dispute that the children of God's people under the old dispensation were recognized as members of the church. Circumcision was the sign and seal of their membership. It was not because of carnal descent from Abraham, but as being the children of God's professing people, that this rite was administered (Rom. 4:11). If children were members of the church under the old dispensation, which they undoubtedly were, then they are members of the church now by the same right, unless it can be shown that they have been expressly excluded. Under the Old Testament parents acted for their children and represented them. (See Gen. 9:9; 17:10; Ex. 24:7, 8; Deut. 29:9-13.) When parents entered into covenant with God, they brought their children with them. This was a law in the Hebrew Church. When a proselyte was received into membership, he could not enter without bringing his children with him. The New Testament does not exclude the children of believers from the church. It does not deprive them of any privilege they enjoyed under the Old Testament. There is no command or statement of any kind, that can be interpreted as giving any countenance to such an idea, anywhere to be found in the New Testament. The church membership of infants has never been set aside. The ancient practice, orginally appointed by God himself, must remain a law of his kingdom till repealed by the same divine authority. There are lambs in the fold of the Good Shepherd (John 21:15; comp. Luke 1:15; Matt. 19:14; 1 Cor. 7:14). 'In a company of converts applying for admission into Christ's house there are likely to be some heads of families. How is their case to be treated? How, for example, are Lydia and her neighbour the keeper of the city prison to be treated? Both have been converted. Both are heads of families. They desire to be received into the infant church of Philippi. What is Christ's direction to them? Shall we say that it is to this effect: 'Arise, and wash away your sins, and come into my house. But you must come in by yourselves. These babes in your arms, you must leave them outside. They cannot believe yet, and so they cannot come in. Those other little ones by your side, their hearts may perhaps have been touched with the love of God; still, they are not old enough to make a personal profession, so they too must be left outside...For the present you must leave them where they are and come in by yourselves.' One may reasonably demand very stringent proofs before accepting this as a fair representation of the sort of welcome Christ offers to parents who come to his door bringing their children with them. Surely it is more consonant with all we know about him to suppose that his welcome will be more ample in its scope, and will breathe a more gracious tone. Surely it would be more like the Good Shepherd to say, 'Come in, and bring your little ones along with you. The youngest needs my salvation; and the youngest is accessible to my salvation. You may be unable as yet to deal with them about either sin or salvation, but my gracious power can find its way into their hearts even now. I can impart to them pardon and a new life. From Adam they have inherited sin and death; and I can so unite them to myself that in me they shall be heirs of righteousness and life. You may without misgiving bring them to me. And the law of my house requires that the same day which witnesses your reception into it by baptism must witness their reception also'' (The Church, by Professor Binnie, D.D.).

Fergie - Thursday, 16 Aug
mayathabee - Religion is such a touchy subject huh? I can kinda understand where your hubby is coming from because I'mcatholic also. But I don't go to church or anything. I haven't decided on what I'm gonna do. But I don't think that 'just because I am' is a good enough reason. Especially since you DO practice your religion. Why would he want to baptise his baby into something he doesn't believe in anyway?

LadyBoyd - Thursday, 16 Aug
Hey hon, I commented in the 12 week section, but thought I'd say something here, too. I'm also SDA, but as hubby is too, we don't have the conflict. Have you asked your hubby why he is so adament about baptism when he doesn't practice his religion? How does he feel about the baby going to sabbath school and such with you? If you wanna private message me, feel free! My email is christina.boyd@gmail.com

babylove4 - Thursday, 16 Aug
I myself am catholic and have been all my life on the other hand I go to church and have had all my childeren baptized at a very young age. But to stay in the middle I don't see the harm. like you said your religion wiats till the child is ready and able to present themselfs. VS Cathlic were the god perents take that responsability. It's the same so there for if your child decides later when that they perfer that religion then so be it. Never the less what religion you are we worship one God and one God only. So it can't hurt. He probably wants to do it to make his family feel better. Basicly in Cathic religion if a child passes b4 being batized they don't go strait to heaven and that's a big deal for oldtimers. I believe my religion to a certian extent. Now why on eartth would a inocent baby not go to heaven. I just feel if you both believe in god hey there is maybe a bit of discrepency in what happened but I personly don't care what name you have for God. As long as you are a kind hearted person and treat others with respect. I personaly don't feel church every wk is a must live life to it's fullest buut do it with others in mind. I'm sorry it's long but do you understand what I'm trying to say.

Emibenny - Thursday, 16 Aug
I'm a Baptist so i have a similar view about how baptisms should be and my church also presents the baby to God. All i can say is that you should pray and ask God to help your husband understand your beliefs. My husband had also considered himself Catholic just because it's the only church he ever went to. He hasn't gone in years. We haven't had our baby yet, i have a feeling his mother's gonna want us to baptize her, but I'm gonna stand my ground and make sure I do what God wants.

samzie - Thursday, 16 Aug
my advice to u is dnt have the baby blessed in any thing leave it until hes a bit older and can choose himself

samzie - Thursday, 16 Aug
my advice to u is dnt have the baby blessed in any thing leave it until hes a bit older and can choose himself

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