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Laura Ward - Monday, 6 October
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Jet - Thursday, 5 June
How are you going Melissa? Your situation is on my mind and I hope you are coping ok.

Mystical5150 - Saturday, 24 May
Aw, thank you! AJ thanks you too =) Hope everything is going ok for you!

babyfever - Friday, 23 May
I think you just need to do some major soul searching and think about what the rest of your life will be like if you stay with your husband. Think about what your kids will be exposed to and what they will learn as "normal, healthy" behavior if your husband remains an alcoholic. If he will seek help, he needs to get it fast. If it were me, I would make sure to put my kids safety and well-being first, then having them out of harms way, get my husband some help.

kat- - Thursday, 22 May
LEAVE... for sure, the stress is bad for the baby ( and you ) when I was pregnant with my 1st son ( now 4) i lived with his dad, who was an addict, it was awful, I moved out the day he was born and although we were on and off together i never moved back in..... long story short..... after a few years, a couple trips to jail, then prison, he straightened out, now we are married and expecting our second...... as a former addict myself, trust me, he won't change until he has too, no talks, or guilt will change him, you must leave ( and take the 13 year old if able ) and let him find his was to rock bottom on his own.. it is all worth the patience and lonliness in the end!!!

outloud03 - Thursday, 22 May
I think the best thing is to leave & only come back when he's got his head right. It's too easy to stay in abusive relationships (I know) until something extreme happens. I am absolutely thrilled to be pregnant, but my b/f is also an alcoholic & I already told him that he has until the month I'm due to handle his problem or I'll be moving out before I have the baby & not coming back until he's permanently sober. He thought about it on his own & decided that's what he wants too, but I still have my back-up plan ready.

shellers - Thursday, 22 May
I think you are going to have to establish an ultimatum. He goes to treatment for alchoholism or you divorce him. If he is going to be with you he will have to accept that the affair happened and move on. You don't want to bring a baby into that kind of environment and you deserve to be in a healthy happy environment yourself.

Jet - Thursday, 22 May
I agree that it must be difficult to take random advice from a stranger. Have you heard the saying that it is a fool that keeps doing the same thing day in and day out expecting to get a different result....
If he is not taking more care because this baby is coming - then it is up to you! The 13 year old is old enough to have a relationship with you anyway.
Does your husband acknowledge he has a problem? Is he willing to get help? If the answer to those two questions is even one no - then you are only setting you (and your new baby) up for the inevitable decision later on (when it will probably be even more difficult).
Don't run to a new man - set yourself up independently and give yourself (and him) space to check up on yourselves and make more appropriate decisions. Many of the issues, including verbal abuse, are going to affect your baby. Remove these issues from your life!

LatinMama - Thursday, 22 May
I think it is not my place to tell you what to do, just think what is better for you and your baby, and if you are really happy with your husband. It is hard for a person to change and forgive. I think you and your baby deserve better than that. And remember that your baby is feeling all that you are feeling.
Dont forget about your other son, he needs you too.


mommyinoctober22 - Thursday, 22 May
i would be worried about your child if he is verbally abusive and alcoholic he could snap at anytime and begin to be physically abusive as well i would just think of my childs weel being and what would be best for them.

Mystical5150 - Thursday, 22 May
I know its difficult to take some random persons opinion, but in my honest opinion, you cant stay in a relationship like that. One of the reasons my ex and I split was because he drank everynight and was out of control and coming from someone who understands, it just doesnt work. You cant change him, you cant make him stop drinking! He decided to forgive you for what you did a year ago by getting back with you and it's not your fault if he cant let that go. If his son calls you mom then he obviously loves you and I would personally hold on to that relationship with him. There's no reason that you cant be there for his son even if you and him arent together. My son loves my ex very much, got very upset when he left, but with time he understood. You have to do whats right for your baby and for yourself. You both deserve to be happy! I hope everything works out for you!

rubberduck36 - Wednesday, 21 May
i have had some lower pressure, so i am going to say thats normal, and i am definely feeling the aches and pains. But just to make sure check with your doctor...Congrats

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