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Laura Ward - Monday, 6 October
Message to all This may be interesting to some of you. Seema`s email is seema.modhvadia@rdftelevision.com

Hi there,

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We’re in the research stage of our production and very keen to chat to women who are, or have been, pregnant whilst having an eating disorder.

If you’re interested in having a chat or finding out more about our documentary, it would be really great to hear from you. All communication would be in complete confidence.

You can contact me on: seema.modhvadia@rdftelevision.com

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christina08baby - Thursday, 2 October
Hi, thanks for the responses to my babyshower situation. At this point, My husband and bff are salvaging the shower the best they can. My bff is going to host everything and providing the cake and my husband purchased decorations and favors yesterday, along with us providing the food. We simply have decided to do Rigatoni, salad, chips and dip, pop and a veggie tray. It will still be at my home this Sun. I want to let all of you know that my posted comments on here about the shower were not completely all about the shower; it was the fact that my dad and stepmom hurt me and besically said screw you we don't want to be apart of your life anymore go pick up the pieces from the shower we had planned for you. My husband and I have decided to not reconcile with these people and the cut them out of our lives permanently. My dad had hurt me alot over the years and I just can't subject myself to his dysfunction anymore. I will enjoy my new baby and my own family( hubby and kids) as I have always done as I have said before my husband and I don't really have family from either side; we have both come from pretty bad backgrounds. Anyway, I am super excited about my new baby boy making his arrival very soon; I am 33 weeks today and he could be born as early as 3 1/2 weeks from today if I deliver him at the same time as I did my firstborn Zach and my daughter Alexandra was a 37 1/2 weeker, so maybe at the most I have 4 1/2 weeks left? I'll just have to wait and see I guess. I have definately been having alot of pressure and increased braxton hicks, also my midwife thinks I will deliver early too???? Thank you all for your support and friendship on here and baby dust to you all.

christina08baby - Wednesday, 1 October
The drama in my life never ends: To all of you on my friends list I need advice and support on a situation that is going on in my life. Please check out todays comment I wrote in week 32. There are also a few other comments I left a few days ago in week 32 reguarding this same issue; reading those comments may help give you a better understanding of whats going on. Thanks Christina

christina08baby - Monday, 4 August
Well, the fight with my job is over and they won. As of last week h/r had dropped everything but this Sat my boss told me that I had to report to a meeting on Today, so when I arrived my boss was there along with h/r and the company supervisor. Anyhow, I was forced to sign the excessive absence paper or I was going to be terminated ( even though I had drs excuses and also they counted the approved time 2 days I had in June against me) they said that It is all considered excessive absences to the company whether it was approved or not. Also, I was slammed with a insubordination paper, which will remain on my file forever. If I get 1 more insubordination I will be fired immediately. I received that for refusal to initially sign the paper. Anyhow, they got me and thats it. I felt like I was attacked and they had an excuse for everything that I said. I was so strong before but I broke down and started to cry and told them how I was good to the company for 8 years with a clean h/r file and I was being treated unfairly. Anyway, today I fell low and taken advantage of. They allso made me submit my maternity leave letter , which I plan on leaving the last week of Sept now if I last that long now. The whole thing sickens me; I just can't wait till my new baby comes and I will forget about that job forever. I guess I will stay till next month until I am either harrassed by my boss until I resign or they find a reason to terminate me. I know you all are probably sick of this story as I am also, but I wanted to thank everyone who has supported me and given me advice. I am just really upset. I feel even worse that I broke down today and the supervisor said that If I was not pregnant I would have already been fired because of my attitute and disrespect to my boss, but that she is cutting me slack because I am emotional. Anyway, maybe one of you can learn something from my rotten experience. I just don't know anymore! They even suuggested I take a leave earlier. Oh well, I guess there is nothing more to say.

christina08baby - Tuesday, 29 July
Heres the work update: Alot of you are asking and it is so I thought I'd give a big update on it. Anyway, I reported to work on Sat and my boss was already there and the lady from human resources came shortly after. I was then called into the office for a meeting and I of course had a copy of the work handbook with me.haha. So, I once again stated my case and why I was refusing to sign the dicipline and h/r broke down the days that my boss was trying to count against me. The 2 Saturdays in June were thrown out by h/r becuase they were preapproved days off and not call offs( my boss tried to say that they were not pre approved) but I told her she better tell the truth because there is documentation to prove that they were( I filled out a personal leave paper 2 weeks in advance), so she admitted to h/r that they were indeed pre approved. That left 3 days in July 2, which were pregnancy related and 1, which was due to babysitter having an emergency. 1 ofm the drs excuse days was also thrown out but I am being held responsible for the (babysitter day). Anyway, h/r told my boss to hold off on the dicipline until I submit the zoo trip excuse, which I did yesterday, so we'll see what happens. I did point out that policy states that FMLA excuses cannot be held against an employee along with the fact that a dicipline cannot be issued unless the excessive absences are 2 consecutive months in a row, which does not apply to me since the June days were thrown out. H/R is supposed to be mailing me FMLA paperwork to fill out if I have any future pregnancy related call offs, which would count against my 12 weeks. Honestly I think they were both floored that I had a copy of the handbook and brought it with me to state my case. I guess I'll see what happens next. I think that evil boss of mine will try to find another way to get me out. I told them that I planned to stay until Oct 1st and my boss made a comment saying If you last that long, which I replied what do you mean by that? She said well... you don't know what can happen with your pergnancy and all. Whatever! That woman is NASTY! I ahve had problems with her ever since she became manager back in Oct. I can't wait to leave that place and never go back! I will soon have my new little boy. I am not going to let that crappy job bring me down. It is what it is. Thank you all for your concerns and I will give another update when I find out whats next. I hope I didn't ramble again.lol.

christina08baby - Sunday, 20 July
Hi, I wanted to give everyone an update on my work situation. I reported to work today at 8am my scheduled time and at 3pm 1 hr before my shift ends my boss came and called me into her office to sign the warning paperwork pertaining to the 3 days I called off in July 2 of which I had a medical excuse for. I told her that I refuse to sign the paperwork because I have medical documentation and 1 non medical excused call off is not considered excessive for 1 month. She told me I had to sign it anyway even if I did not agree and that I could write a comment on the paper and I said no, not without my legal councel rewiewing this document. I picked the paper off the table to look at It and she tried to snatch it from me stating that I was not allowed to have a copy unless I signed it. I still refused. She told me that I will be insubordinate but I still held my ground. I walked out of the office and resumed my duties until 4pm. I ultimately decided not to give in to this because I discussed this with my dad and sterpmother and they advised me that I do have rights even as a part time employee and that what they are trying to do is NOT legal. I also got alot of responses from all of you. So, I guess we'll find out what happens with me this week. Yes, I do need the money but I am not going to let anyone take my rights away, so thats why I decided to stand my ground. Oh yeah, they cancelled the zoo trip and she didn't even tell me to come to work and when I brought that up she got defensive and said she had already found coverage. Anyway, I hope everyones pregnancy is going well and I want to thank everyone who responded to my post needing advice.

christina08baby - Thursday, 17 July
Ladies, I have a big problem please check out the comment I wrote in the 21 weeks section today and give me your advice. I don't know what to do.

christina08baby - Tuesday, 15 July
I just wanted to give everyone an update: I talked with alot of you abot my terrible appt with my midwife ( she was real nasty to me) last Tues and that the u/s report stated that they weren't able to get a good look at my babys entire head, so of course I worried that something was wrong with my babys head. I had my u/s this morning and everything is good (his head is completely normal) I was worrying myself for no reason. Also, my midwife wasn't so nasty to me today; I mentioned to her about the sharp pains in my cervix and she told me not to worry unless I was having strong contraction like pains. She offered to check me but said that checking sometimes causes more problems and irritates the cervix, so I did not get checked. I only worry about preterm labor because I was dilated 1 1/2 cm and contracting at 22 weeks with my first son; I was given medication and Iv fliuds and the labor did not progress. Anyhow, now that my u/s has proven my baby to be healthy I can finally quit stressing. I was just told to take it easy and not overdue myself as far as walking and activities are concerned. Thank you for listening to my complaints.lol. I was just stressing about the head issue way too much.

christina08baby - Friday, 27 June
I just posted an ultrasound pic from today.

christina08baby - Friday, 27 June
Hi girls thank you everyone for your concern, I'm sure you read my comment this morning and heres the news.......I went to my u/s with my hubby, kids and bff and everything is ok, my cervix is closed and measuring 4.7 cm or whatever they calculate (which is in normal range), the baby weighs 12 oz ( a can of pop, lol), h/r 154 bpm and I am measuring 20 weeks 3 days, but my due date will remain the same. Heres the big news..........................ITS A BOY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!. Omg he is so cute and we saw him swallowing the anmniotic fluid and he was kicking and moving all around. I was in tears and my husband was so proud! I got pictures and a mini video on a dvd that my hubby and I are going to look at later when he comes home from work. I am so excited! The u/s tech told me not to worry about the spotting since my cervix looks good. Also, we did not get the afp test as most of you know , but the u/s confirmed that the baby is healthy. Sorry to update everyone so late but I spent the day at my bff's house, but I'm home now. Thank you all for your concern; I had 15 messages waiting for me. Hugs..Christina

CarolineS - Sunday, 8 June
Hey! We didn't get the test done either. We reasoned that we wouldn't do anything about it even if something was wrong (I suppose it could prepare you but....) Plus, my aunt got a false positive (and worried for nothing)....Although, I hear that the newest ones are more accurate (??)

TWINSX2 - Saturday, 7 June
I have opted out of the AFP with all 5 of my pregnancies for several reasons. First of all, even if something is wrong, I am not terminating th pregnancy, and secondly there are so many false positives, that I did not want to have the stress of all of that. I knew that 99% of all problems are detected on your 20wk scan so I figured I would enjoy my pregnancy until there was a real reason to get concerned. Good luck and enjoy this pregnancy!!!

l-ofa-prize - Saturday, 7 June
hi,
i didnt have the test done when i was asked because id keep my baby regardless. but after speaking with my friends, they said if i get them and it came back positive (which it probably would due to my age,) and i had all the other tests done, if i found out anything was wrong, then id have a good few months to read up on whatever the condition may be and id be well prepared. this is the only reason i changed my mind to have them done after all, just to be clued up incase anything was wrong. so i had the tests, got the results and everything is fine, im at low risk. but still at the same time, anything could go wrong with your baby, even after birth, or at any age. being a mum, the worrying doesn’t stop at birth. as soon as you conceive, thats just the start of the it.
good luck with whatever your decision may be.

elizabethf - Saturday, 7 June
I chose not to get any of the testing done. My husband and I's attitude is that it would'nt change the outcome. We are having this baby regardless, and we love it no matter what. My doctor actually told me that all her patients that have had positive results all ended up having healthy babies. I think the false positive rate is really high. I hope that the rest of your pregnancy continues to go well :)

Madisons-Mom - Saturday, 7 June
We didn't get the test done either, didn't do it with my first one either.....my reasoning was my midwife told be that some people, well quite a few people actually get false positive and go thier whole pregnancy's with a bunch of uneeded stress cause everything turned out fine, and Im one those that would just stress out!!!

abrowneyedgurl - Saturday, 7 June
My husband and I decided not to have the test done too.. My doctor told me if we wanted to know if there was something wrong with the baby then to have the test done. My Hubby and I didnt care, I dont know if it was selfish or not we just felt that know matter what we want this baby... This is our third try and we dont care if there is something wrong. My doctor told us to that when you do the test is always comes back that there is something wrong and to find out what it could be you have to go through much more testing. I didnt think it was all worth it. What was your reason behind it?

wilsonwilson - Saturday, 7 June
i did not have the afp test because my baby is my baby no matter what! I love my baby, I will always love my baby and test can be so so so wrong. I hope you are ok with not having the test, best wishes x

armymom - Saturday, 7 June
I didnt have any testing done because no matter what we're keeping our baby. Also because sometimes those tests come back positive but are wrong causing u to worry for no reason. My husband and I are both young and didnt find it neccessary and i am happy with my choice. I dont like to worry if I dont have to especially when it affects my baby too.

dedwards - Saturday, 7 June
i am 39 and on my 5th pregnancy i had blood test out of curiosity(never had it in other 4 pregnancies) due to age and my younger sister has a 4yr old downs, test results were promising 1 in 2100 not bad considering everyone including the midwife said i would come back high risk. no definate answer though until my bundle is born, i will deal with the problem if it arises . get what you're given i suppose. until then i'm enjoying my pregnancy to the max - last chance i rekon at my age .xx

MALACHIsMOM - Friday, 6 June
I am not getting the tripple screeen or any other testing. I am paying out of pocket and the only reason that I would take the test would be to learn more about the possible disability. I would not/ will not terminate my pregnancy under any circumstance. The best reason to get it is just to be better prepared. They give too many false positives and I have no warning flags to indicate any problems.

rae - Friday, 6 June
i too opted out of the testing being i figure if there was a small chance of downs or anything else that would not make me get rid of the baby or just make the rest of the pregnancy more ifs and worries why put that on you. plus that too me is unnecessary too much advancement when i was born there werent ultrasounds , i was 10 days before i was born my moms doctor felt alot of arms and legs and did an xray to confirm my mom was actually carying twins but she knew a week before we were born!!

kmoiphy - Friday, 6 June
I opted out of all of the testing. Mainly because I wasnt going to take a second one, nor was I going to do anything to the pregnancy. This is my last pregnancy and I didnt want worry about nothing. If there is something wrong with this baby, we will deal with it later. There is nothing you can do to prepare nor anything they will do while it is a newborn.

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