Im so upset i had to make another account because i forgot my old password...my old name was yunginofthemall and this is my new one....im writing down my password from now on lol...but anyway my name is Tamika im 20 years old and expecting my first baby on feb. 2nd. im so excited to see my lil man but im terrified of labor but its too late to be afraid he has to come out lol

My Birth Story

(WARNING:MAY CONTAIN GRAPHIC CONTENT LOL)

It all started on thursday, feb.7, when i went to my routine check-up...at the time i was 40w+5d...my doctor checked my cervix and told me i was 50% effaced and wasnt dilating :( thats when he told me to go home and have sex wit my boyfriend or anybody elses boyfriend as long as i have sex lol i thought that was funny...but anyway, of course i went home and took his advice(wit my boyfriend tho)...immediatly after we were done, i started feeling contractions with very lil pain...i wanted my baby out so bad i started prayin for the pain to come lol...about 2 o'clock that mornin i went to take my usual potty trip, and guess wat i found...mr.mucus plug...ewwwwwwwwwww...it was disgusting...the contractions were still coming and i thought for sure i was gonna have my baby that night but guess wat...his stubborn lil booty still didnt wanna come out

Feb.8

Now its mornin...and i still feel my contractions...i started timing them and they started comin every 15 minutes...i was sooooooooo happy...so all day i sat around waitin for them to increase in pain and frequency...about a hour passed and i noticed they started comin every 10 minutes...so i thought to myself, this is gonna b the day...i was so excited...about 5 hours had passed now and i noticed my contractions stopped completely...i wanted to cry...at that point i had prepared myself to except the fact that i was gonna b pregnant forever...so that night at around 11:00 me and my boyfriend was bored so we decided to do wat bored ppl do :) lol sure enough, immediatly afterward, those retarded contractions started giving me false hope again and to avoid disappointment i just went to sleep...i was sleepin so peacefully until exactly 2:12 am when i was woken up my monsterous feeling cramp in my tummy...ouchhh...being that i had given up hope for a delivery i tried to go back to sleep...it wasnt happenin tho...i heard when tru labor starts the contractions usually come about every 30 minutes or so...but not mine of course...they were every 5 minutes and so painful. so i waited about a hour to see if they would stop...nope...it was now 3:15am and i figured it was time to go to the hospital...my boyfriend woke up everybody in the house lol...hilarious...i was in so much pain but i refused to go to the hospital lookin like a fool so i had to get dressed up and do my hair lol so by the time i was done it was about 45 minutes later lol...so now we are finally on our way to the hospital...

Feb.9th

This when the S**T started hittin the fan

i arrived at the hospital at about 4am...all eyes was on me...even tho it was nobody else to look at lol and because when most women come in, in labor they're screamin their heads off but not me...i had to suck up the pain because my boyfriend told me if i cry or go out like a punk, he gone make fun of me n i would never hear the end of it lol...he so mean...i told the midwives that my contractions were coming every minutes and all that good stuff...then 1 of the ladies asked me if i had just finished having sex...i told her yes i did...then she had the nerve to tell me, thats y u havin contractions, its normal to feel them after u have sex...i didnt recall askin her wat she thought i just wanted somethin to kill the pain... just to make me happy she monitored me anyway...about 3 nurses came in and said, we're gonna check u but most likely we're gonna send u home...i wanted to kill all them *******...the pain made me think mean and angry thoughts about all of those ladies lol...they were monitoring the babies heart rate which is supposed to be a 20-30 minute period...but these mean and evil ladies had me laying there for a hr and 15 minutes...the pain was soooooooo crazy...i wanted to break every wall in the hospital...dont ask me y lol...i just was in that much pain lol...they asked me all these dumb annoyin questions that wasnt relevant to nuthin...nobody was talkin about epidurals so i really didnt give 2 shhhhh about anything...the head midwife came into the room to check the vitals...OMG...i wanted to kill her too...she was tellin me that the readings were showing that my babys heartrate kept droppin which wasnt a good sign...then she told me i was at risk of getting an emergency c-section...i bursted out in tears...i was so afraid...then she checked my cervix...and told me that i WAS 2cm but when she went further inside, my cervix stretched to 5cm lol...watever...i just wanted my baby out and healthy... she told me i was in active labor...i wanted to say yea b**** i know, only because they were all soooooooo sure it was fasle labor...before they sent me to a delivery room they gave me an IV and took about 3 tubes of blood to send to the lab(this was at about 5am)everything was so rushed u woulda thought i was about to die...they started talkin bout blood transfussions,c-sections...all types of craziness...so now im scared as hell...im in the delivery room now and they let my boyfriend, his mother, and my older sister into the room...they made me feel a little better but nuthin could make me feel completely better until they told me my baby was ok and i was gettin a epidural...but of course i heard neither...my contractions were coming every 2 minutes now...and thats went the nurse lady came in and said she didnt like the heartrate readings still so they wanted to monitor the baby from the inside...o brother...so now i had a stupid tube hangin outta me...no epidural...n scared outta my mind for my baby...could it get any worse...OF COURSE...when the nurse came back in the room i asked for the epidural because i was already 5cm and i know after a certain point its too late to get it...and plus the doctors take forever to come wit the medicine so i had to get up on it early...so when i asked her she said, o sure i'll page them rite now...i felt a lil better just knowin the pain would end soon...sooooooo 30 minutes passed and still no medicine man...wtf...everything started makin me angry...i wanted to punch everybody in the face lol...so now its about 7 o'clock and still no gotd*** medicine man...i asked the nurses again about the medicine and they told me that i had to wait on the results from the lab b4 i could get an epidural...they coulda told me that when i first asked...now im like ok...wat does a blood test have to do wit a epidural and they tell me that the test will determine if my body will form bloodclots if i get an epidural...omg...i never heard of this nonsense b4 this was crazy...this got me even more upset...its hard tryinna hold in all that pain to prove a point lol...but i didnt give up yet...PAIN PAIN PAIN...were the only words goin thru my head...they contractions just take over ur body lol i had no control anymore...they were so painful it made vomit...twice...i felt sorry for myself lol my whole pregnancy i never had mornin sickness but as soon as i go in labor...there it go...that added to my frustration...now its 8 o'clock and im still askin for a epidural and they kept givin me the same bs story about the hospital just set up a new system where everything is done my computer now instead of manually so the lab didnt get the test yet...thats it...i was pissed to the point i wanted to just leave...but where was i goin lol...now the contractions were coming every minute...i never been in so much pain in my life...i was a little eased when they said my babys heartrate had leveled out...the nurse told me his heart was dropping because my contractions were so sudden and frequent that he didnt have a chance to adjust to wat was goin on...so i was a lil relieve at that but still didnt make up for me bein in pain...now its 9am and they still talkin bout the results didnt come back yet and i could get an alternative medicine because they were afraid his HR would drop again...that i could understand but they should have somethin else to give for these types of situations lol...its 9:15am...i got this unexplained urge too take a dump lol i got scared cuz it was mad ppl in the room n i refused to go out like that lol then a contraction came and i felt his funny sensation down there...then i realized o shhh thats the baby...with each contraction i felt him getting lower and lower and when they say u know when its time to push...they wasnt lyin...i had to push my body couldnt control it...i tried to pause it for a minute because the stupid doctors was takin forever to get in the room but nope...its a automatic response...u gotta push...by the time the doctors came in his head was already out...in anutha 2 pushes he was finally out...thank goodness...he was born at 9:27am...i thought that was the worse part haha...when u go in labor...i guess ur body just shuts certain parts down because i didnt have the urge to pee but the doctor emptied my bladder and i filled up 2 buckets lmao...but anyway...apparently i tore so i had to get stitched up...omg...the nerve of these ppl...i had to get a shot in my va- j-j lol they said it was a anestetic...u gotta b kiddin me...the whole time im askin for medicine ,n i couldnt get it but then they turn around n stick me down there...these doctors dont stop...and by the way that trash did not work... i had to get stitches at the bottom,which i know is normal but i got some at the top too(my c******s) the nerve of them...that was worse then the contractions lol no it wasnt, but it was bad i almost kicked the doctor...the patch up took about 20 minutes...i didnt even get 2 c my baby...they had swipped him up and took him upstairs :(...so everything was finally over...he was 7lbs 5ozs and 20.5 inches and healthy...i never got and epidural or any type of medication so it was a natural birth ouch...im just happy im alive to tell the story lol...it was torture but honestly i would do it all again for my baby...whom i adore lol...