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Hello to all the mums to be across the world :)

Hi my name is Jaime, and i am 18 years old. I have a wonderful boyfriend Alex, and we are expecting a bub in January.

So i am another Teen Mum, soon to be disregarded by society and forgotten. The tittle is one i always thought i was 'too good/smart/educated' to hold. Throughout highschool as the minority of tennage mothers slowly dropped away never to be heard of again and slip through the cracks of the public education system, they were branded by the majority of our year level as 'idiots, dumb, sluts, bogans..' so i guess you could say the social pressure was enough to steer me well clear of pregnancy.

My first reaction to finding out i was pregnant devistation, anger, dissapoinment- my life long dreams, aspirations and fantasies were literally dashed on the rocks in a matter of minutes. I thought, this can't happen to me! i havn't travelled yet! ive only been clubbing a few times! how will i live the spontanious, carefree life ive always wanted?? And then there was money... paying off a good 2.5 grands worth of debts and paying house hold necesities on 10 hours a week worth of wages left me struggling as it was, let alone saving/providing for a baby!

And being Pro-Life made me question the very fibres of my moral content. Every school debate, every conversation with my friends about abortion versus life left me in a state of pure passionate angst. And yet here i was, in the position of thousands of pregnant teenagers before me, whome i despised and could not fathome how they could murder their own babies, and i realised my own niavity had led me down the path of prejiduce and self-richeousness. It was a big deal for me to realise all of this, let alone all the other emotions and fear associated with pregnancy pretty much left me in an emotional wreck!

But there was another emotion buried deep within me that i couldn't identify...and after the inicial shock and dissapointment had subsided, i realised what it was... i guess you could say it was my maternal insticts, because there was a voice inside of me saying "There is noone else in this world that will protect yuor baby unless you do. You're the only person who can let this human being live."

And in that instant, my life changed and i fell in love. I decided to step up to my role as a mother, and take responsility for my life and this little bean, even if it meant sacrificing most of my dreams and my reputation.

But by no means was it easy after that, while my mum was excited, my boyfriends family was strongly against the pregnancy. While i could understand their concerns, they went way over the top with his mum practically pushing me into the abortion clinic. (To their credit, this was still while i was "unsure" if i was keeping it or not...) And after many fights of and a roller coaster of emotion, i decided to keep it, my boyfriend and his family have all agreed to support me a stick by me.

I know it's going to be hard, finacially, physically, mentally and emotionally...but i know as soon as im holding my baby in my arms, all those fears will melt away because i know as we stick together as a family, those other issues will be easier to deal with.

Well it's not like me to open up so much, so thankyou for reading :)

Congratulations everyone :) im glad i have all of you to share this wonderful/ scary journey with!

Feel free to have a chat, especially any other Teen mums out there :)

Pregnancy Survey

About Your Pregnancy
Is this your first pregnancy: yes

When did you find out you were pregnant: Mid May sometime, when i took a test.

Was it planned: Noooo.

What was your first reaction: Shocked

Who was with you when you found out: My bf alex

Who was the first person you told: he guessed from the look on my face!

How did your parents react: mum was really excited, surpisingly.

Who will be in the delivery room with you: probably my bf, my mum and some close friendsHow much weight have you gained: Too much, about 8 kilos :(How far along are you: 22.5 weeks