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 | Age: 21 Country: UK Province/region: -west midlands City: -gloucestershire Partner: he left me when i was 6 months pregnant :'-( Children: Yes, 1 Pregnant: No Occupation: On maternity leave, but at college studying Accountancy. |
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I've had a hard few months after what's happened but i'm turning my life around, i've just been accepted on a college course which starts in September studying Accountancy. It's going to be hard work, as it's 3 and a half days a week and it's going to be heartbreaking leaving my daughter, but i'm doing this for her; i'm going to get a good career and provide for her as best i can. I hope she will be proud of me!
November 8th 2007
Nearly two weeks late now, so decided to do a pregnancy test (not the best idea of mine to do it in my lunch hour) and YES i'm pregnant!! First thoughts: "Oh my god!! "
I spend lunch with my mum so she was the first to find out, the whole hour we were pacing up and down in shock, i couldn't sit still, before i knew it, it was time to go back to work.
That afternoon was extremely long and painful. I really wanted to tell someone but knew it was far too early and i hadn't even told Rich.
I waited until he got back from work around 7pm, i called him into the lounge and said i had something to tell him. I started crying uncontrollably even though i had gone over what i was going to say a hundred times in my head. He comforted me and asked me what was wrong. I just blurted out, "I'm pregnant!" No easing him in gently like i'd planned. He asked if i was joking, but as soon as he realised i wasn't he jumped up and started shouting excitedly "I'm gonna be a dad!" He was over the moon, a big relief to me!! He begged me if he could tell his parents so i eventually gave in, after all my mum already knew. That night we talked for ages about the future and how excited we both were. Although it was a shock, after seeing Rich's reaction, it seemed to instantly reassure me that everything would be ok. He's my rock and i know he'll support me and the baby. Ashamed to say though that my dads mobile was turned off when i tried to call him, so just sent him a text, simply saying, i'm pregnant. (Hope he forgives me!)
November 12th 2007
Had my doctors appointment today to have the pregnancy confirmed, she has given me a due date of 7th July. Just realised that means i'll be pregnant for my 21st birthday! But it's worked out quite nicely, as my birthday is 17th June and Rich's is 15th July, so the baby's birthday will be right in the middle of both of ours, how sweet!
November 13th 2007
Started bleeding at work, my heart sunk! I had been having crampy pains all morning but thought that would probably be normal. I snuck out of work to call the NHS helpline, they asked me lots of questions and explained it seemed like that start of a miscarriage or an eptopic pregnancy. I burst into tears and called my boss out of the office to tell her. She was really understanding and i excused myself to go to the doctors.
Once there, they agreed with what the NHS helpline had told me and referred me to have an early pregnancy assessment the following morning.
That whole evening was horrendous, i couldn't eat, sleep or talk to anyone-i was so distraught. Rich did all he could to comfort me and assure me everything would be ok but i knew in the back of my mind that there was a big chance there wasn't.
My mum and brother came round to bring me a lovely pink hotwater bottle for my cramps and some magazines to flick through to take my mind off things-well at least try to anyway.
November 14th 2007
Rich and i made our way to the hospital first thing-bladder full, ready for the ultrasound. I was shaking with nerves and couldn't think of anything else.
Once there, we had to speak to a specialist who advised what would happen and the possible outcomes, she was really nice and for once i felt a little more relaxed.
We went in for the scan, the screen was facing towards the sonographer so i couldn't see a thing. She didn't say anything for what seemed like ages. Then eventually she turned the screen to face us and pointed out the baby's heartbeat and said that as far as she could see, everything looked fine. She gave me an estimated due date of 4th July-Independance day!! We breathed a huge sigh of relief. My eyes filled up with joy.
We then went back to speak to the specialist who assured me that there was no need for us to worry and explained that the bleeding i had experienced was probably from the newly forming bloodvessels from the placenta.
We were sent on our way grinning from cheek to cheek and for the rest of the day nothing could take that smile off my face!
November 24th 2007
The midwife came to see me today for my booking appointment, she was really nice, i thought she would judge me because of my age but i didn't get that impression from her at all. Just really friendly and helpful. I've had my appointment come through for my 12 week scan as well, it all seems more real to me now and i'm finally beginning to adjust to being pregnant.
December 21st 2007
12 week scan today!! We're both really excited to see the baby again, last time wasn't a very enjoyable experience and we didn't really see anything other than a peanut shaped figure with a pumping heart.
I was told by a friend that the more you drank, the clearer the picture would be, so rather than drinking the recommended 1 litre of fluid, i think i almost doubled that, so by the time i got to the hopsital, i was bursting for the loo and it didn't help that we had to wait nearly half an hour before we went in!
Everything seemed fine and there the baby was, moving it's little arms and legs around and shaking it's head. It was so amazing and so strange to think that there's a life growing inside me! The sonographer did comment on how full my bladder was and advised me not to drink quite so much next time. My bladder was squashing the poor little fella! Oops!
Then had to give a water sample and have 5 lots of blood taken from me :-(
I rushed back to work to show everyone the scan picture. Think some people were not quite sure what they were looking at but i could definately make out a head and a little bent arm and leg. Can't wait for the next one to see how much the baby's changed and hopefully we'll be able to find out the sex (i'm hoping for a girl, Rich-a boy).
January 16th 2008
Went to see the midwife for my 16 week check up today, Rich rushed back from work so he could come along as we got to hear the baby's heartbeat. It was such and amazing experience, and so fast as well!! It was really reassuring as well as i haven't really felt any movement yet so i know the baby is ok.
January 25th 2008
I'm not imagining it, today i definately felt the baby move, feels like some sort of weird pulse in my belly. It's been happening on and off all day, i've been waiting so long for this, now i feel a bit more assured that everything is ok without having to wait for my 20 week scan next month. Can't wait for the movements to be strong enough for Rich to feel though as i think he feels a bit left out at the moment.
February 9th 2008
Finally, the baby has been moving so much now and so strong that i rushed Rich over to feel it. As soon as he put his hand on my belly, it kicked straight away. I'm so happy that he got to feel it and shocked that he did at the first attempt. He's lucky as it says in some of the books that fathers don't often feel the baby move until, about week 24! I could tell that Rich was really chuffed as he kept looking at me all night and smiling. Think it's sunk in now that we're going to be parents soon. I thought it already had and so did Rich but after today-we both just feel different in ourselves. A good different, a feeling of responsibility and excitement of what's to come.
February 15th 2008
20 week scan today!! I had a dream last night that the sonographer couldn't tell us the sex. Hope that wasn't a premonition as we both want to know so bad, we're so impatient. All along i've been hoping for a girl but i can honestly say that i will be thrilled either way, i just want to know so that we can decorate the nursery and buy appropriate clothing. All the unisex ranges look so dull and boring.
Didn't drink as much water this time but now worried i didn't drink enough! What am i like!? Always worrying.
Got to the hospital and luckily no long wait like last time, we were in straight away! It was amazing to see how much the baby had grown and straight away you could see what was what, no guessing like last time. Rich asked pretty much straight away whether they could tell us the sex. I know he was hoping for a boy so when she confirmed we were having a girl, i couldn't turn to look at him in case he had a disappointed look on his face. I was thrilled! We could finally say "she" rather than "it". The sonographer checked over everything and assured us that everything was normal and healthy. She even commented on how long her legs were :-) We took away two really good pictures, much better than the last one. You can see her cute little button nose, how sweet!
On the way back from the hospital i asked Rich if he was disappointed, he explained he would of preferred it if his first born was a boy but he was still over the moon to be having a little princess-he regrettably informed me that the title had been taken away from me :-( but i was glad that he was happy none the less. We stopped off at Next and bought our first pink thing, 3 adorable baby grows! Spent the afternoon calling people to let them know the news. IT'S A GIRL!! xxx
February 19th 2008
First of all, i've been signed off work for 2 weeks with sciatica, not nice, but glad of the lie ins and the peacefulness, as soon i wont have any lol. Secondly, i've been feeling her move for several weeks now but today i actually saw her move! She was moving so much, that i decided to lift up my top to see if i could see anything and to my amazement, i could! Ripples across my skin going from one side to the other-think she was swimming lengths inside me lol. I'm happy she 's got plenty of room at the moment as soon she'll be so squashed in there that she wont be able to play! Thirdly, another weird new experience today-hiccups! Baby hiccups-not sure whether i like this one, feels like a big bubble popping inside me every few seconds, not a nice feeling, like when she kicks. Lets just hope she doesn't get them all the time, because it felt kind of strange to say the least!
February 27th 2008
How bizarre, we had an earthquake last night! Me and the baby were fast asleep bless, but Rich was still up making music and he heard it, how exciting! Apparently i didn't miss much, only lasted 10 seconds, but thought i'd make a note of it so i can look back in years to come and tell my daughter about it-it's not as if it happens everyday in England, biggest one in 25 years they've just said on the news.
April 5th 2008
Went for the 4d scan today, i was so nervous and paranoid, i'd totally got it in my head that they'd got the sex wrong at the 20 week scan, i had visions of them telling us that she's in fact a he. So when we arrived we made it clear that we wanted the sex confirmed. The whole scan was so amazing, i'm glad we had it done, we got a dvd of little clips of her yawning and moving her little arms around. She was asleep for most of it and facing towards my back so i had to lie on my side to get a better view. She kept putting her kness up and her feet on her head it was so cute. I can't wait to show her when she's older, definately worth the £195 we paid. My mum thinks she looks like rich, but rich thinks she's got my nose, i suppose you can see bits of me and rich in her looking at all the different poses. The sonographer commented on how lovely her lips and nose were and said she looked lovely. She also said she could she she had chubby cheeks already lol, bet she'll be a little porker :-) Hope she isn't too big though as we've bought so many adorable little newborn clothes, if her birth weight is anything like mine and rich's, she wont fit in them!! Oh i wish it would hurry up, still 12 weeks and 6 days to go :-)
April 9th 2008
Saw the midwife today, had some more blood taken and was told that she's breech! Really hope she changes, i really don't want to have a caesarean, i want to do it pain relief free and vaginally, think it will be a real achievement and i'd feel so proud of myself. Fingers crossed!
April 14th 2008
Rich has done what i knew for weeks was coming, he has finally admitted that he doesn't love me any more and that he wants me to leave, he doesn't see the point in staying together for the sake of the baby and that he likes someone else!! I'm totally heart broken and don't know what the future holds for me and my daughter, i'm scared, alone and the only thing that will get me through this is knowing i will have my daughter with me soon. (I later found out that he is seeing someone else, a 16 year old who was supposed to me a friend of mine and would come round our house being all fake with me!! Words can not describe the pain i am going through right now)
April 17th 2008
Moved my stuff back to mums today, including most of the furniture haha!! Would of loved to of seen the cheating bastards face when he got back from work!! Was proud of myself for standing up to him but can't help but feel sad that things are definately over between us. Mum wants me to stay with her until the baby is a few months old, will then rent somewhere myself hopefully.
April 30th 2008
Saw the midwife today, was dreading her asking whether or not i'd be going to the anti-natal classes or not as i know how much they push you to go to them. But i just can't face going on my own now, seeing all those other couples all happy and me, a single mum at 20!! I know what they will all think! Luckily she was really nice about it and said that it wasn't a big deal, besides, i've researched this whole pregnancy and labour so much on the internet that i'd already know everything anyway. Also had some good news, she's no longer breech. She is however the wrong way round, her spine is against my spine, hoping she'll turn before the birth! She also said i should hopefully have a relatively small baby, thank god!! Was dreading having a big 10 pound baby going by mine and Rich's birth weights. Have been prescribed some iron tablets as well my levels were a little bit low, bring on the black poo's!!!
May 22nd 2008
After a lot of thinking and research, i've decided to have a home birth. I called Val, my midwife to let her know and to make the neccessary arrangements. Luckily she didn't try to put me off the idea, she just asked what had made me decide to do it. I explained that i wasn't going to have any pain relief anyway and i'm not the biggest fan of hospitals; since me and Rich had split up, i was struggling to find someone who could just drop everything to take me to the hosptial when i go into labour and at least this way i can labour in the comfort of my own home. She was sad to hear about me and Rich, but i didn't go into detail. We just left it that she would come to see me at home on 2nd June to go through everything with me. I'm so excited now and really looking forward to the birth.
June 5th 2008
I went for my interview at the college today. I was really nervous as i didn't know how they'd react to me being pregnant. I prepared really well for it though, i took with me my CV, and my answers to questions i thought they might ask and then some questions to ask at the end. The lady was really nice and understanding. It went really well and i'm pleased to say that they have accepted me on the course. It's called : Association of Accounting Technicians-AAT Fast Track to Intermediate Level 3. It's a full time course which is 3 and a half days a week for one year. I will then go on to complete the second year, Level 4 of the AAT which is the Technician Level, but this will be part time; two evenings a week i think. Aunty Becky has been kind enough to say she will look after her for me for the first year. I'm so grateful that she will be with a family member. It's going to be so hard leaving her, especially when she is only two months old, but at least i know she will be in safe hands. I really want to do this and do well in it so that i can provide for my daughter and give her the best life possible. If Rich isn't going to be around then i need to be earning as much money as possible. A career in Accounts will be the best way to go about that.
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stacey-gracie - Saturday, 15 November
Hey everyone... not sure about those from the U.S but everyone from the U.K will be familiar with the case of Baby P.
I have a link that has the 1st photo f him - god bless him - and it has a place where you can sign a petition to have all the so called proffesionals (that failed to save his life) to have them lose their job and never be in a position of trust over vunerable children again.
I hope you all feel like you would like to sign it.
thanks
Laura Ward - Wednesday, 5 November
Message to all: Message to all: Because of the controversial opinions and thoughts, please do not continue to discuss politics on the site. This includes private or public messages, comments, quotes, etc on ALL pages of the site, whether it be a weekly or monthly forum, your personal page or a friends page. If you choose to continue posting once this message has been posted, your account will be deleted from the site. Please report any member that continues to post these messages. Thank you all for your cooperation and help keeping this site friendly for everyone!
mammylaura - Tuesday, 4 November
http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user.viewprofile&friendid=192915591
thats my myspace if anyone wants to add me
jesi817 - Friday, 31 October
glitter-graphics.com
mammylaura - Friday, 31 October
http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=723002708&v=info&viewas=723002708
any ov u laydeys on facebook add me
mammylaura - Thursday, 30 October
hello ladies
how are you?
well chloe got weighed last week and she is now 6lb 9oz she is piling on the weight as you can see in the pix.
I have just updated all my pix.
Im gonna try and get my birth story on this week.
well hope you all have a good halloween
take care xxx
stacey-gracie - Wednesday, 15 October
A Mum Has Strengths That No One Will Ever Know. She Can Handle Trouble And Carry Heavy Burdens... She Holds Happiness, Love And Opinions... She Smiles When She Feels Like Screaming. She Sings When She Feels Like Crying, Cries When She's Happy And Laughs When She's Afraid... Her Love Is Unconditional! There's Only One Thing Wrong With Her, She Sometimes Forgets What She Is Worth... Pass This On To Every Beautiful Mum You Know....I Just Did..X
stacey-gracie - Thursday, 9 October
Hi everyone I have Grace's under-water photo-shoot pics on my profile now (well in my blog) Please take a look and leave a comment!!!!
Laura Ward - Monday, 6 October
Message to all This may be interesting to some of you. Seema`s email is seema.modhvadia@rdftelevision.com
Hi there,
I work for a television production company based in the UK . We are currently making a documentary for ITV1 exploring the issues surrounding pregnancy and eating disorders. The film will be a thoughtful and insightful look into this extremely sensitive subject.
We’re in the research stage of our production and very keen to chat to women who are, or have been, pregnant whilst having an eating disorder.
If you’re interested in having a chat or finding out more about our documentary, it would be really great to hear from you. All communication would be in complete confidence.
You can contact me on: seema.modhvadia@rdftelevision.com
Sx
mammylaura - Monday, 6 October
well laydeys
my little angel is home now she is doing great she now weighes 4 pond 14 1/2
she is such a good baby she just sleeps until she wants food. lol hope she stays good
hope your all doing well ?
jesi817 - Wednesday, 1 October
so i added new photos of my baby girl from her 3month old "mommys photo shoot" lol :) 3 months old. wow.
mammylaura - Tuesday, 23 September
hey how r u? hope ur all doing well and taking care ov yourself?
chloe is doing fantastic she is gaining weight, and we tried her on bottles on sunday and she is taking them well and keeping them down.
so hopefully she will be out soon enough.
thank u for all your messsages and comments. sorry i havent replied to them all straight away its just been realy tough at the min with going back and forwards to hospital 5 times a day. xxxx
JoshuasMummy130608 - Sunday, 21 September
Hi everyone. just to let you know i have uploaded a cute video of joshuas 1st go in his baby bouncer. he loved it. Go take a look xx
jesi817 - Saturday, 20 September
so i posted lots new pictures of my baby girl
enjoy!
jesi
mammylaura - Wednesday, 17 September
CHLOE LOUISE ARRIVED 10/9/08
9 WEEKS EARLY
STILL IN HOSPITAL AND IS DOING REALY WELL HOPE EVERYONE IS OK?
phonics - Tuesday, 16 September
Man oh man. Someone esent me this link and i must share it with you all. It is basically a site about your baby. You put things about them in there. Pictures, a guestbook, updates, videos, polls, and so forth. I just started mine today, but it would give you a general idea of it.
http://www.totsites.com/tot/raeganjackson
jesi817 - Saturday, 30 August
i have new pictures of my two month old!
jesi817 - Friday, 8 August
i have many new pictures up of my sweetie! shes almost 2 months old now!
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