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mumtobe4july08
	Age: 21 Country: UK Province/region: -west midlands City: -gloucestershire Partner: he left me when i was 6 months pregnant :'-( Children: Yes, 1 Pregnant: No Occupation: On maternity leave, but at college studying Accountancy.
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Hi, my name is Martha, i'm 21 and i'm no longer pregnant. My beautiful baby daughter, Amelia Grace, arrived on 12/07/08 at 3.45am after a 25 hour labour, 8 days late and weighing a whopping 10lb 4.5oz. My boyfriend of 2 & 1/2 years and father of my baby decided to leave me for a 16 year old school girl when i was 6 months pregnant!! (He's 30 next year, i'll say no more!) I'm trying to move on with my life as best as i can and i'm just focusing on raising my daughter which i'm enjoying every second of. I'm not saying it's going to be easy, but at least i've got away from that pathetic excuse of a man. He's the one who will be missing out and for what...some cheap little tart!! I know i will get through this, it will just take time!
I've had a hard few months after what's happened but i'm turning my life around, i've just been accepted on a college course which starts in September studying Accountancy. It's going to be hard work, as it's 3 and a half days a week and it's going to be heartbreaking leaving my daughter, but i'm doing this for her; i'm going to get a good career and provide for her as best i can. I hope she will be proud of me!
I originally joined this site to meet women with due dates near the same as mine to swap experiences and feelings, but now i hope to continue chatting with those i grew close to in the 'baby development' section. It would be great to chat with other single mums too. I'm loving being a mummy, even though things haven't turned out how i'd hoped and expected. Everything happens for a reason! xxx
My pregnancy diary:

November 8th 2007

Nearly two weeks late now, so decided to do a pregnancy test (not the best idea of mine to do it in my lunch hour) and YES i'm pregnant!! First thoughts: "Oh my god!! "
I spend lunch with my mum so she was the first to find out, the whole hour we were pacing up and down in shock, i couldn't sit still, before i knew it, it was time to go back to work.
That afternoon was extremely long and painful. I really wanted to tell someone but knew it was far too early and i hadn't even told Rich.
I waited until he got back from work around 7pm, i called him into the lounge and said i had something to tell him. I started crying uncontrollably even though i had gone over what i was going to say a hundred times in my head. He comforted me and asked me what was wrong. I just blurted out, "I'm pregnant!" No easing him in gently like i'd planned. He asked if i was joking, but as soon as he realised i wasn't he jumped up and started shouting excitedly "I'm gonna be a dad!" He was over the moon, a big relief to me!! He begged me if he could tell his parents so i eventually gave in, after all my mum already knew. That night we talked for ages about the future and how excited we both were. Although it was a shock, after seeing Rich's reaction, it seemed to instantly reassure me that everything would be ok. He's my rock and i know he'll support me and the baby. Ashamed to say though that my dads mobile was turned off when i tried to call him, so just sent him a text, simply saying, i'm pregnant. (Hope he forgives me!)

November 12th 2007

Had my doctors appointment today to have the pregnancy confirmed, she has given me a due date of 7th July. Just realised that means i'll be pregnant for my 21st birthday! But it's worked out quite nicely, as my birthday is 17th June and Rich's is 15th July, so the baby's birthday will be right in the middle of both of ours, how sweet!

November 13th 2007

Started bleeding at work, my heart sunk! I had been having crampy pains all morning but thought that would probably be normal. I snuck out of work to call the NHS helpline, they asked me lots of questions and explained it seemed like that start of a miscarriage or an eptopic pregnancy. I burst into tears and called my boss out of the office to tell her. She was really understanding and i excused myself to go to the doctors.
Once there, they agreed with what the NHS helpline had told me and referred me to have an early pregnancy assessment the following morning.
That whole evening was horrendous, i couldn't eat, sleep or talk to anyone-i was so distraught. Rich did all he could to comfort me and assure me everything would be ok but i knew in the back of my mind that there was a big chance there wasn't.
My mum and brother came round to bring me a lovely pink hotwater bottle for my cramps and some magazines to flick through to take my mind off things-well at least try to anyway.

November 14th 2007

Rich and i made our way to the hospital first thing-bladder full, ready for the ultrasound. I was shaking with nerves and couldn't think of anything else.
Once there, we had to speak to a specialist who advised what would happen and the possible outcomes, she was really nice and for once i felt a little more relaxed.
We went in for the scan, the screen was facing towards the sonographer so i couldn't see a thing. She didn't say anything for what seemed like ages. Then eventually she turned the screen to face us and pointed out the baby's heartbeat and said that as far as she could see, everything looked fine. She gave me an estimated due date of 4th July-Independance day!! We breathed a huge sigh of relief. My eyes filled up with joy.
We then went back to speak to the specialist who assured me that there was no need for us to worry and explained that the bleeding i had experienced was probably from the newly forming bloodvessels from the placenta.
We were sent on our way grinning from cheek to cheek and for the rest of the day nothing could take that smile off my face!

November 24th 2007

The midwife came to see me today for my booking appointment, she was really nice, i thought she would judge me because of my age but i didn't get that impression from her at all. Just really friendly and helpful. I've had my appointment come through for my 12 week scan as well, it all seems more real to me now and i'm finally beginning to adjust to being pregnant.

December 21st 2007

12 week scan today!! We're both really excited to see the baby again, last time wasn't a very enjoyable experience and we didn't really see anything other than a peanut shaped figure with a pumping heart.
I was told by a friend that the more you drank, the clearer the picture would be, so rather than drinking the recommended 1 litre of fluid, i think i almost doubled that, so by the time i got to the hopsital, i was bursting for the loo and it didn't help that we had to wait nearly half an hour before we went in!
Everything seemed fine and there the baby was, moving it's little arms and legs around and shaking it's head. It was so amazing and so strange to think that there's a life growing inside me! The sonographer did comment on how full my bladder was and advised me not to drink quite so much next time. My bladder was squashing the poor little fella! Oops!
Then had to give a water sample and have 5 lots of blood taken from me :-(
I rushed back to work to show everyone the scan picture. Think some people were not quite sure what they were looking at but i could definately make out a head and a little bent arm and leg. Can't wait for the next one to see how much the baby's changed and hopefully we'll be able to find out the sex (i'm hoping for a girl, Rich-a boy).

January 16th 2008

Went to see the midwife for my 16 week check up today, Rich rushed back from work so he could come along as we got to hear the baby's heartbeat. It was such and amazing experience, and so fast as well!! It was really reassuring as well as i haven't really felt any movement yet so i know the baby is ok.

January 25th 2008

I'm not imagining it, today i definately felt the baby move, feels like some sort of weird pulse in my belly. It's been happening on and off all day, i've been waiting so long for this, now i feel a bit more assured that everything is ok without having to wait for my 20 week scan next month. Can't wait for the movements to be strong enough for Rich to feel though as i think he feels a bit left out at the moment.

February 9th 2008

Finally, the baby has been moving so much now and so strong that i rushed Rich over to feel it. As soon as he put his hand on my belly, it kicked straight away. I'm so happy that he got to feel it and shocked that he did at the first attempt. He's lucky as it says in some of the books that fathers don't often feel the baby move until, about week 24! I could tell that Rich was really chuffed as he kept looking at me all night and smiling. Think it's sunk in now that we're going to be parents soon. I thought it already had and so did Rich but after today-we both just feel different in ourselves. A good different, a feeling of responsibility and excitement of what's to come.

February 15th 2008

20 week scan today!! I had a dream last night that the sonographer couldn't tell us the sex. Hope that wasn't a premonition as we both want to know so bad, we're so impatient. All along i've been hoping for a girl but i can honestly say that i will be thrilled either way, i just want to know so that we can decorate the nursery and buy appropriate clothing. All the unisex ranges look so dull and boring.
Didn't drink as much water this time but now worried i didn't drink enough! What am i like!? Always worrying.
Got to the hospital and luckily no long wait like last time, we were in straight away! It was amazing to see how much the baby had grown and straight away you could see what was what, no guessing like last time. Rich asked pretty much straight away whether they could tell us the sex. I know he was hoping for a boy so when she confirmed we were having a girl, i couldn't turn to look at him in case he had a disappointed look on his face. I was thrilled! We could finally say "she" rather than "it". The sonographer checked over everything and assured us that everything was normal and healthy. She even commented on how long her legs were :-) We took away two really good pictures, much better than the last one. You can see her cute little button nose, how sweet!
On the way back from the hospital i asked Rich if he was disappointed, he explained he would of preferred it if his first born was a boy but he was still over the moon to be having a little princess-he regrettably informed me that the title had been taken away from me :-( but i was glad that he was happy none the less. We stopped off at Next and bought our first pink thing, 3 adorable baby grows! Spent the afternoon calling people to let them know the news. IT'S A GIRL!! xxx

February 19th 2008

First of all, i've been signed off work for 2 weeks with sciatica, not nice, but glad of the lie ins and the peacefulness, as soon i wont have any lol. Secondly, i've been feeling her move for several weeks now but today i actually saw her move! She was moving so much, that i decided to lift up my top to see if i could see anything and to my amazement, i could! Ripples across my skin going from one side to the other-think she was swimming lengths inside me lol. I'm happy she 's got plenty of room at the moment as soon she'll be so squashed in there that she wont be able to play! Thirdly, another weird new experience today-hiccups! Baby hiccups-not sure whether i like this one, feels like a big bubble popping inside me every few seconds, not a nice feeling, like when she kicks. Lets just hope she doesn't get them all the time, because it felt kind of strange to say the least!

February 27th 2008

How bizarre, we had an earthquake last night! Me and the baby were fast asleep bless, but Rich was still up making music and he heard it, how exciting! Apparently i didn't miss much, only lasted 10 seconds, but thought i'd make a note of it so i can look back in years to come and tell my daughter about it-it's not as if it happens everyday in England, biggest one in 25 years they've just said on the news.

April 5th 2008

Went for the 4d scan today, i was so nervous and paranoid, i'd totally got it in my head that they'd got the sex wrong at the 20 week scan, i had visions of them telling us that she's in fact a he. So when we arrived we made it clear that we wanted the sex confirmed. The whole scan was so amazing, i'm glad we had it done, we got a dvd of little clips of her yawning and moving her little arms around. She was asleep for most of it and facing towards my back so i had to lie on my side to get a better view. She kept putting her kness up and her feet on her head it was so cute. I can't wait to show her when she's older, definately worth the £195 we paid. My mum thinks she looks like rich, but rich thinks she's got my nose, i suppose you can see bits of me and rich in her looking at all the different poses. The sonographer commented on how lovely her lips and nose were and said she looked lovely. She also said she could she she had chubby cheeks already lol, bet she'll be a little porker :-) Hope she isn't too big though as we've bought so many adorable little newborn clothes, if her birth weight is anything like mine and rich's, she wont fit in them!! Oh i wish it would hurry up, still 12 weeks and 6 days to go :-)

April 9th 2008

Saw the midwife today, had some more blood taken and was told that she's breech! Really hope she changes, i really don't want to have a caesarean, i want to do it pain relief free and vaginally, think it will be a real achievement and i'd feel so proud of myself. Fingers crossed!

April 14th 2008

Rich has done what i knew for weeks was coming, he has finally admitted that he doesn't love me any more and that he wants me to leave, he doesn't see the point in staying together for the sake of the baby and that he likes someone else!! I'm totally heart broken and don't know what the future holds for me and my daughter, i'm scared, alone and the only thing that will get me through this is knowing i will have my daughter with me soon. (I later found out that he is seeing someone else, a 16 year old who was supposed to me a friend of mine and would come round our house being all fake with me!! Words can not describe the pain i am going through right now)

April 17th 2008

Moved my stuff back to mums today, including most of the furniture haha!! Would of loved to of seen the cheating bastards face when he got back from work!! Was proud of myself for standing up to him but can't help but feel sad that things are definately over between us. Mum wants me to stay with her until the baby is a few months old, will then rent somewhere myself hopefully.

April 30th 2008

Saw the midwife today, was dreading her asking whether or not i'd be going to the anti-natal classes or not as i know how much they push you to go to them. But i just can't face going on my own now, seeing all those other couples all happy and me, a single mum at 20!! I know what they will all think! Luckily she was really nice about it and said that it wasn't a big deal, besides, i've researched this whole pregnancy and labour so much on the internet that i'd already know everything anyway. Also had some good news, she's no longer breech. She is however the wrong way round, her spine is against my spine, hoping she'll turn before the birth! She also said i should hopefully have a relatively small baby, thank god!! Was dreading having a big 10 pound baby going by mine and Rich's birth weights. Have been prescribed some iron tablets as well my levels were a little bit low, bring on the black poo's!!!

May 22nd 2008

After a lot of thinking and research, i've decided to have a home birth. I called Val, my midwife to let her know and to make the neccessary arrangements. Luckily she didn't try to put me off the idea, she just asked what had made me decide to do it. I explained that i wasn't going to have any pain relief anyway and i'm not the biggest fan of hospitals; since me and Rich had split up, i was struggling to find someone who could just drop everything to take me to the hosptial when i go into labour and at least this way i can labour in the comfort of my own home. She was sad to hear about me and Rich, but i didn't go into detail. We just left it that she would come to see me at home on 2nd June to go through everything with me. I'm so excited now and really looking forward to the birth.

June 5th 2008

I went for my interview at the college today. I was really nervous as i didn't know how they'd react to me being pregnant. I prepared really well for it though, i took with me my CV, and my answers to questions i thought they might ask and then some questions to ask at the end. The lady was really nice and understanding. It went really well and i'm pleased to say that they have accepted me on the course. It's called : Association of Accounting Technicians-AAT Fast Track to Intermediate Level 3. It's a full time course which is 3 and a half days a week for one year. I will then go on to complete the second year, Level 4 of the AAT which is the Technician Level, but this will be part time; two evenings a week i think. Aunty Becky has been kind enough to say she will look after her for me for the first year. I'm so grateful that she will be with a family member. It's going to be so hard leaving her, especially when she is only two months old, but at least i know she will be in safe hands. I really want to do this and do well in it so that i can provide for my daughter and give her the best life possible. If Rich isn't going to be around then i need to be earning as much money as possible. A career in Accounts will be the best way to go about that.

June 17th 2008
So, it was my 21st birthday today. Mum blew up some balloons for me as a surprise in the lounge where my cards and presents were which was nice. Got to admit, i didn't do anything at all in the day apart from give myself a french manicure! Sam came round after picking mum up from work at about 5.30. He bought me a gorgeous Tiffany Necklace, it's the nicest present anyone has ever got for me and i'll always remember that. We headed up to Nans for my little party. Beck, Lee, Matilda, Jimmy, Tim, Gary, Emily, Nan and Grandad were all there. I opened my presents and then we had a chili. I was secretly hoping it would be hot enough to send me into labour but no luck!! Matilda had made me a lovely chocolate birthday cake but Nan had one as back up in case it didn't taste too good, but it was actually nicer than the shop bought one. Really regretted helping myself to yet a third birthday cake mum had bought me when we got home though, as i'm writing this on my lap top and it's 03.50am on 18th...i can't sleep as i've got really bad heartburn! I'm glad i had my family today as otherwise i don't know what i'd of done! I couldn't help but feel a bit sad though, was half expecting Rich to at least text me wishing me a Happy Birthday but haven't heard a thing from him in weeks! None of our friends even bothered to text me either other than Ben. Not long to go now, i am so ready for her arrival but if she's anything like her father i know i'll still be waiting around for her in 5 weeks!!
June 19th 2008
I woke up feeling really depressed, i must of had a dream about Rich as he was all i could think about all day. I was crying on and off all day and was when dad rang me at about 8pm. He'd just got off the phone to Rich coincidently. Rich called him to stress that he was going to pay his way and not just through CSA. He said he'd give me some extra money each week in cash to help me out as he knows CSA money wont be much. I then spoke to Rich on the phone myself and we chatted for about 30 minutes. He said he was contemplating texting me on my birthday but thought it would upset me. He also said he does want to be involved in Millie's life and he still wants to be at the birth. I'm not getting my hopes up though so we'll just play it by here and see what happens. It was nice to speak to him and be civil but i couldn't help but get upset when the conversation ended.
June 25th 2008
I called the labour ward first thing after realising i hadn't felt the baby move for over 24 hours. I had been crying pretty much constantly every day for the past week, so i had an overwhelming feeling of guilt and worry, thinking i had harmed my baby. They asked me to go over to get checked out. I was monitored for 30 minutes where they recorded the baby's heart rate and my pulse. Everything was fine but even within the 30 minutes i still felt no movements so then sent me down to have a scan. The baby was fine and i felt reassured and was sent on my way knowing she was ok. That evening, around tea time i started to have really bad period type pains and lower back ache. It was a constant pain so i didn't think much of it, it was more of an annoyance than anything else. Mum and i walked the dogs, i took a bath but nothing seemed to make the pain subside. I then noticed that every 5 minutes or so, the pain would increase in intensity and then fade away, still leaving this dull period type pain. Mum got all excited thinking i was in labour, so i walked around the house to see if they would stop but they didn't; i tried not to get too excited as i thought it was strange how the pain never went away completely. At around 11.30 i decided to try and get some sleep, after all if this was the real thing i'd need as much energy as possible. I woke up at 2am because the right hand side of my belly was aching and i was in extreme pain. I tossed and turned all night not being able to sleep because the pain was too intense.
June 26th 2008
I called the labour ward again in the morning asking if this pain was normal and whether to worry or not. They advised me to come back over and get checked out as it could be my appendix or a problem with my placenta. Mum came with me this time. I was monitored again for another 30 minutes. Baby was fine, but my pulse rate was high. They took a urine sample to see if i've got an infection; they'll contact me in a few days with the results. They ruled out any problems with my placenta as my belly felt soft which was a good sign. Because i had no other symptoms of appendicitis i.e nausea, fever etc they ruled that out too. All they could really say was that it could be that i've pulled the ligament in my uterus and that it seemed that the contractions i was experiencing were "practise contractions" so i was most probably close to going into labour...some good news i suppose! I felt like a bit of a hypochondriac going over there two days in a row, but it's not my health i was worried about and if anything were to of happened to my baby because i was "too proud" to go and get checked then i would of never forgiven myself. To top it all off i got a �70 parking ticket when we got back to the car!! Unbelievable! Just what i need!
July 4th 2008
Well, today was my due date, i woke up full of anticipation and excitement thinking today would be the day. My mum booked the day off work to clean the house "just in case", even my brother had the day off lol. We decided to keep active hoping it would start me off so we walked into town, got some food shopping "just in case" lol and walked back. We then walked the dogs and even jogged a bit hoping that would do something lol. We then walked to Morrisons and got some flowers to have on display in the lounge "just in case" lol and walked back. By this time i still hadn't even felt not even the slightest of pains or twinges so i was determined to keep walking. We walked to the top of the mythe road and jogged back. Mum was knackered but surprisingly i wasn't, i wanted to keep going, i wanted this baby out today!! I thought it through though and realised that maybe enough was enough and i should just take it easy that evening....after all, if i was to go into labour that night i'd need my energy! But it came to midnight and still no pains so i went to sleep very disappointed wondering if i'd be pregnant forever!!

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Caracaya - Monday, 2 June
I understand your worry about being able to balance school and the baby. I am in law school here in the US, and I am planning on returning to my last year of school in the fall. Fortunately I have a few options. I can either apply for more financial aid to get a few days a week of childcare, I could take the baby to school with me and somehow try to manage to do two full-time jobs (we have an extra nursing room in our school from which you can watch the classes), or I could take more time off from school and wait until she is older. At this point I believe I will try to do a mixture of all the options. I will get two days a week of childcare and will try to take most of my classes during those days. Hopefully I will get more aid to cover those expenses. The rest of the five days I will have my baby with me and take her to school. Fortunately I also have my husband who will hopefully do his part at night so I can get my massive homework done. I would talk to your school and see what options they have available. I am originally from Germany, and I know we can also get extra help and aid from the government for childcare, especially if you are single and have a low income. I am sure it won't be easy to do this alone, but maybe the government can help a little until you can get your degree and stand on your own two feet. I am sure your daughter will learn a lot from your example. I wish you the best of luck!

vcaama - Monday, 2 June
I am sorry to hear that the father of the baby will not be there for you. But you seem like a very strong women I am sure you will get through this, and about school I think you should do it, it is the best thing you can do for you baby and you once you are done you will be able to give her much more. I hope everything turns out well for you.

tto - Monday, 2 June
Just read your page- it is cool how you have everything documented. I'm sorry about Rich- his loss, his major loss- loosing you and your daughter. What a fool! Does England not have laws about underage kids? Here in the US- a 30 yr old man would go to prison if he slept or really did much of anything with a girl younger than 18. How could her parents allow that?

tto - Monday, 2 June
I'm a teacher so this is going to sound like it came from a teacher. Go back to school! I am so proud of you for even considering it. The sooner you do it, the better. It starts in Sept., so you'll have had time to be attached to her. The younger they are- the easier it is!! She won't really know you're gone- with no concept of time or days, etc. I got my master's degree- my son was one when I started and three when I finished. He still went to bed early and took naps- that's when I did my homework. Now he is older and it would be harder since he goes to bed later and doesn't always nap. This truly is the best time for you to do it. You won't miss dance recitals or have to help with homework yet. They really need more time from you doing more specific things later on. So, my advice is DO IT! You'll feel better about life and yourself. Oh yeah, the only time I would recommend putting it off is if she is colicky or something- pray about that!!

lucysmum - Monday, 2 June
I would say go for it and see how you get on. I've got a 2 year old and would say that the earlier months are easier than now. If you can get your little one in a routine quite quickly this will help too. I've worked 3 days a week since Lucy went to nursery at 6 months, it is hard and I wouldn't like to do 4 - but, if your course isn't too long then when you start work you could reduce your days? You really are in such a tough position, my heart goes out to you. Do you have a good support network? PS I work mostly because I have to, but also because I think I would go mad if i didn't!

Ama-llama - Monday, 2 June
Hello there! In regards to your school situation, I would go with the course. That is only if you are sure that it is going to be beneficial in the long run. No, it wont be easy , but worthwhile things never are. The sooner you get this education the sooner you can give your daughter the kind of life she deserves. :)

greenrose - Saturday, 31 May
I feel you, sister!! I swear everything I want to post is about how there's something new wrong with me today. And I really don't want the baby to come before it's ready, but for god's sake!! He's so friggin' big and moving all the time and up in my ribs and won't let me eat and aggravates my allergies and my pelvic bone is splitting apart and i can't sleep for hip pain... ARGH! Just think - we're almost there. **sigh**

jaxwaqu - Saturday, 31 May
awww, its ok. your not the only one here to feel that way. lately my lower back and hips hurt, not to mention that Im very craby and sleepy. take care of yourself, and you have every right to moan at this point.. hugs. Love Jacquie

ukdutypaid - Saturday, 31 May
ive got piles but mine are outside and soooo bloody sore.
you can get them inside... but i dont know how or what there like.... id rather them inside than having to bubbles hanging out from my ass, lmao...
ok.. if there sore, use sudocream.... will help take the soreness away.... but make sure u wash the last lot off before u put more on. and sudocream is a wonderful thing to have for baby too, i bought some for baby but am using it, lol.
as for going to the chemist, sweetie, if there is a time we can go chemist and buy anusol without being embarrassed its now..... lol, while were heavily pregnant, as its normal... but i have found it doesnt work anyways, ur first thing is to stop being constapated, or stop forcing it, they will more than likely go after....mine will i hope, lol... mine were cus of constapation but like i said before, its now down to pressure.... anyways dont worry if u wanna talk about it... its so much better when u can ask advice from someone... so ask away.....
lol
hope it gets better soon.x.x.x.x.x

Mystical5150 - Saturday, 31 May
I was reading your profile and that is just so horrible what he did to you. I cant even imagine how you must have felt not only him having done that to you but also being pregnant at the time you found out. You seem to be doing well concidering what happened and the fact that its only been a month since then. I applaud you for having the strength to do what needs to be done for yourself and your child. It will be so difficult but its such a great feeling knowing that we dont NEED anybody!!!! Its so easy for them to just run away from their responsibilities as we sit here and have to face them every minute of every day like actual adults. I wish you nothing but the best with your future and your baby. I know everything will work out =) Congratulations!

ukdutypaid - Saturday, 31 May
hey chick, i feel sooo sorry for you, i had it too really bad and now ive got bad hemmeroids... whicxh are sore and swollen... my doctor gave me some lactulose... ok so i might have drank a little too much but i went toilet that same day... he also gave me some laxatives called senner and fibregel....the lactulose is better than the fibregel..... and ive not had to use the laxatives yet... i get tired and moody and just feel plain old awful when im constapated. just dont force it out cus thats how i got my piles. which now just get irriated by all the extra blood and pressure.
anyways good luck chick..x.x

happymomma2be - Saturday, 31 May
Don't know if this will work for you or not, but eating Cracklin' Oat cereal did wonders for me. Just a bowl a day seemed to do the trick. Hang in there! :)

sianne - Thursday, 29 May
Hi Martha, just read your profile, so sorry to hear about your partner, what an ass. Anyway more fool him, if you look that good and your 8 months pregnant he must be a fool! Its a scary time with your first (im on my second due 13th july), but its all worth it, just be prepared for a real life change. No love you will ever feel for a man can compare to the love you and your child will have for each other, and Im sure that the right person for you and your little girl is out there for you. Anyway good luck with the birth. I too am having a home birth. SIanne :-)

stacey88 - Thursday, 29 May
hi cant believe ur partner left u im so sorry ur due a week b4 me! im having a water birth cant wait

TrulyBlessed - Wednesday, 28 May
Hi just read your post and decided to send you this comment I got from another website.....If you are earlier than 36 weeks' pregnant when you see blood-tinged mucus, or if you have any vaginal bleeding beyond the first trimester, you should call your practitioner.
So I think you should call! Hope all goes well with you, congrats on your pregnancy and love to you both!

lisa*andy - Wednesday, 28 May
Hi there,
Im from gloucestershire 2 so if ud like a chat anytime . oxoxoxox

blessed-in-atl - Wednesday, 28 May
dont panic, I have been losing my mucous plug since last thursday and I am 33 weeks. I went to the doctor for my appt yesterday and he said I am 1.2 cm dialated. With my 2nd I was dialated to 2 fcm for 2 weeks before real labor started. As long as you don't see bright red blood in it, more than a spoonful, then you should be fine. It is a sign that your body is getting ready for labor, but the actual day may still be weeks away.

stacey-gracie - Wednesday, 28 May
i was 11 days over. was a nightmare. she was due on new years day but didnt arrive til the 12th of jan lol trust me all those old lady's tales are wrong... NOTHING will budge a baby......ooops didnt mean to scare you lol

faizam - Monday, 26 May
hey do u use msn? cos if u do then we can have a chat....

faizam - Monday, 26 May
heyy.....im 21 aswell and pregnant with my first baby.....my due date is nears urs i.e 2nd july.....rhis ur first baby right???.....are u nervous like me ? lol

stacey-gracie - Sunday, 25 May
Hi where in the uk are you from? one of my best mates turns 21 on the 17th of june lol... i'm 21 on the 8th. not long for you to go now is there?

blueiiz - Thursday, 22 May
Yes, I'm having a home birth as well! Very excited and can't wait. :)

sapphire1987 - Thursday, 22 May
hiya hun long time no see, yeah im dreading the last couple of weeks aswell they just seem to be dragging now and iv had enough. Iv got low iron levels aswell so iv been given the tabs aswell. your not missing anything with the antenatal classes you only get 2 on the NHS and then a tour of the labour ward why dont you see if u can just attend that 1 class so you know what it's like before you go into labour?? I dont want to pry or upset you but how are you doing? I dont know whats happened with you and Rich but was wondering if u were ok? And dont let being a single parent get you down, I know its going to be hard but the single mums are normally the best, if u need to chat or rant about anything hun just give me a shout, take it easy and take care we've not got long left now til our little babies are here. hugs n kisses. xxxxxxx

samiamulrich - Tuesday, 20 May
I just read your comment on the message board about being in and out at your dr.s office...My Dr. is the same way...I feel like I'm an inconvenience sometimes...Yesterday I asked her how big she thought the baby was at this time, and all she said was "Ohhhh, probably about 2 or 3 lbs..."...Riiiiiiight...when everyone else's baby is measuring at around 4lbs...I think she was just throwing out numbers to amuse me!!

Just thought I would let you know, you aren't the only one!! :)