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oldie44 has 56 days to go and is now in week 32
	Age: 44 Country: Private Province/region: Private City: Private Partner: husband of 25 years Children: Pregnant: Yes Due date: 07 Jul ,2008 Occupation: RN
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My name is Irena. I am 44 and have 3 childen, 23, 18, and 5.5. I am going to celebrate 25 years anniversary on Feb. 19. I can't believe it is going to be a quarter of century soon! My last baby girl was born on April, 10, 2002, 3 days before my husband's birthday. The baby I am carrying right now will be born (I am afraid to think so far in the future, afraid to jinx it) is due July 6, a week before my 45th burthday. This pregnancy was a surprise for for both my husband and for me. Actually, it will be a surprise for my husband when I tell him, right now he is still in a happy bliss of not knowing. I try to spare his feeling as long as I can, because I am very, very sure he will not be happy and it is a very mild way to put it.

I think there is something spiritual in my conceiving this child. We have not been using birth control for over a year now, somehow I was sure I could not concieve any longer. My mother told me she had early menopause and since my periods decreased to 1.5 days, I thought I was immune too. But something happened - first, very very sad: my co-worker, a briliant, vibrant, always happy and charming girl 36 years old died suddenly while working out in her GYM. She had an artificial heart valve that was due to be replaced, but she was putting it off. She left so many things and projects unfinished (she was a clinical nurse specialist, very involved in many projects in my hospital). She also left 2 small children and a devastated husband. Her wake and funeral was on Oct. 5th; after which I came home and I told my husband that we have to have sex every day, while we are still young, healthy, and alive, because nobody knows what happend to us tomorrow. Well, we did not last more than 2-3 times of every day, but I missed my next period. When I discovered my positive pregnancy test, I suddenly heard her name like somebody said it in my mind. I am not very religious person, but in this case I felt something misterious. The door of this lady's office is still the way she left it, with all the paers for her to sign and a big paper rapping the door has all the wishes and thoughts that people felt and wanted her to hear after her death.

So, if this baby will be born, I decided to name it in her honor, and, even though I am worry every day and every second about this baby's health and life, I feel that if She and G-d wanted it to happen, they will lead us to a happy end.

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*mom2be* - Tuesday, 6 May
thank u im just debatin cuz im at home by myself ryt now and i have a dr appt on wed if i should just wait

katie jo - Sunday, 27 April
i just read your comment on the depression forum. this is just a quick note to say please please see a doctor regarding medication. i'll be in further touch tonight with a bit more to say but i just wanted to acknowledge your story and say that this is not your fault and a little chemical help at this very stressfull time will not harm your baby or be a reflection of you. i don't always think that chemicals are always the answer ( i'm a psychiatric nurse and have suffered post partum) but it can be the quickest fix. i'll be in touch as i've got loads more to say. hang in there, you know it'll be worth it and you WILL be ok. xxx

mama40 - Monday, 14 April
It is kind of sad to have kids moving out and starting independent lives, but at least you will be busy with your younger daughter and little baby. Just like starting all over again. I am also a little anemic, but I just modified my diet - added more dark green veggies (spinach etc), beans, prunes and dried appricots etc. I also learned that if you drink milk, coffee or tea with your meal, you may prevent absorbtion of iron, but if you take more vit C, you make iron intake better. So I drink tea and milk now only without meal, and drink orange and grapefruit juice with my iron rich food. Thus I hope to bring my iron up without suffering constipation. I decided not to use diapering service, but just buy various kinds of cloth diapers. This way if some day I will feel I have too much of laundering, I could sometimes switch to disposables and give myself a rest. Also I can try different kind of diapers, not just stick to those this service uses. I like to experiment:) Anyway, the big day is getting closer, which is so hard to believe. How is your husband feeling about baby now? Mine seems finally starting to believe that he is indeed soon to become a dad:)

mama40 - Wednesday, 9 April
Irena, I am glad everything is fine with you. I wouldn't worry about pink discharge, since everything is so vascular and fragile now. I have nosebleeds quite often . Not intense, just a bit, but often. Today my hips suddenly started to hurt. Like I strained the joints or something. I think it because hips joins are loosening up tp prepare for delivery. Do you still work 12 hours shifts? How do you cope?

niseybear - Wednesday, 9 April
We had our son circumcised on the 8th day. We aren't Jewish, but we follow Judaism. He cried really hard with the first cut and some there after, but did just fine after I nursed him. It healed nicely within a week.

mama40 - Friday, 4 April
Hi, how are you? You been quiet for some time I hope everything is still going well. I bought almost everything I think I need for the first month or so, and I am thinking of ordering diaper service - they bring cloth diapers every week and pick up dirty ones. I want to be good to the environment. I also passed my glucose tests and starting from the middle of April will see my doctor every two weeks. Time flies fast now. How are you feeling?

holly28 - Sunday, 23 Mar
thanks...glad I am not the only one. Well, not glad for you but you know what I mean. I actually did ask my GP and he said that chiropractic wouldn't help.I see my OB in a few days though and am going to ask him for any suggestions because things can get pretty bad some nights.

StillinHisCare - Friday, 7 Mar
Hello! It sounds like things are going better; that DH is adjusting, and you are having a BOY! CONGRATULATIONS!!! (I have three of them and love 'em beyond measure! of course, this time I hope for a little girl...:)

God be with you all,
SueAnn

benjamink - Tuesday, 4 Mar
Congratulations on your little boy!

Thank you so much for your kind comments freagrding my delivery questions. I have pretty much decided that they can attend when the time comes, but still wanted assurance that I was doing the right thing. Thanks again!

martina26 - Monday, 3 Mar
You rock oldie 44, your only as young as you feel. And boys rock they love their mammas ;) congrats & take care.

shocked - Sunday, 2 Mar
I know what you mean about not quite letting yourself enjoy your pregnancy until later on. I just began week 10 yesterday and I feel the same way. Even though I've had 4 u/s and Dr. said everything looks great, I'm just feeling really cautious and figure I won't let myself plan anything until I get into my 2nd trimester at least. I know this baby is a miracle and I really do feel God's hand in all of this, but it's always so difficult to let yourself let totally go. I'm so happy for you that you can now get excited and feel that miracle growing inside; I always loved that feeling and really look forward to it. It sounds like your past experiences have taught you a lot. You may not be religious, as you said, but remember God is merciful and forgiving. AND I'm so thrilled for you to be having a boy! My husband is the last of his name and with two girls and both our fathers gone, we're really hoping for a boy. First and foremost, a healthy baby, but it would be so special to have a boy at this point. Have a fantastic Sunday!

Tess42 - Sunday, 2 Mar
Oh now don't you worry dear about getting a better ultrasound photo. I thought the same thing when they did my first couple of ultrasounds, and then, at the end of my pregnacy, I had to go every week ('cause I'm in the old lady category) and now I could wallpaper the baby's room with his ultrasound shots!! Ha!

mama40 - Sunday, 2 Mar
Hi, Irena, congratulation on your good u/s results. Now you should have more peace of mind. It also seems that your baby became more real for your daughters, which is great.

shocked - Sunday, 2 Mar
what a story... your positive attitude and strong faith are an inspiration. I, too, have a similar story. Have 2 girls, 10 and 7, but needed surgeries and drugs to get them here. With endometriosis and a host of other problems, Dr. said it would be highly unlikely that I'd ever be able to get pregnant again. My husband (of almost 12 years) and I did not use b/c (being good catholics) and never thought about more children. Well, here it is 8 years later, I'm almost 40 and pregnant. My husband and I have taken almost a month to get over the shock. This baby is due almost 2 years to the day that my father died very suddenly (age 63 and in great health). Both my brothers conceived children right after he died, too. So I believe as you do, that God has his own plan and that we have to have faith that the journey will be worth it in the end. I wish you only the best - congratulations!

lizzie61804 - Friday, 29 Feb
love your bio .. my father passed away march 6th off 2007 almost 1 year ago of pancreatic cancer and now my sister is prego and due in aug with a boy and i having a 2nd girl.. thing work in mysterious way i agree with you totally.. i sure everrything will be just fine .. i'm sure of it.. keep in touch

fabforty - Friday, 29 Feb
Hi Irene- Good luck with your u/s. I will be praying for you and your family.

LeighBrown - Thursday, 28 Feb
hope all goews well at ur u/s! x

mattie4 - Thursday, 28 Feb
so the discoloration didnt go away :(. Yeah i read about the ligation too, i read about the local and kinda freaked out on it thinking how freaky that would be. I am thinking the way you did it would be the way to go. I too want the symptoms gone , but i do worry about the cosmetic affect. Right now i refuse to wear anything that shows my leg. I guess thats superficial considering, but i just hate how it looks. :(.

try for a girl???lol i did...i gave 4 good tries...lol. Naw, this is it for us, i have to be ok with the idea of not having a daughter (sniff). I know that if i kept trying we would always have boys, not that thats a bad thing :). Thanks for the info btw :)

mattie4 - Thursday, 28 Feb
thanks for the comment. Yeah...i am wearing the compression socks now...sexy. lol. I will look into the brand you have. I am using anti em. Honestly they havent seemed to help too much. I am thinking after the baby i am going to have to see a vein specialist too. What kind of surgery did you get? stripping?? I know there are a few new alternatives out there now. I need to do something, my leg hurts all the time and itches and looks horrible. its all over my leg now, front and back. Oh well...like you said...the things we put up with to have a baby :). Congrats on your little boy :)

mama40 - Tuesday, 26 Feb
Irena, we wont have nursery. Our house is 1650 sq ft, 3 bdrooms and 2,5 bath. All bedrooms are upstairs, so first floor is basically dining, kitchen and den. Not suitable for sleeping there at all. So girls each have own room, but they are rather small. No chance of moving them in one room together. So we will have the baby in our bedroom. My husband doesn't want to change house at all. he said that comparing to RUssia, we have plenty of space. But we'll see what he will be saying after living with a baby in the same room for a couple of years:) I bought a bassinet that can be used as playyard also. I plan having baby sleeping in the bassinet for a first couple of months alongside to my bed. We'll buy a crib later so not to get our room too crowded at once. As soon as we buy crib, I'll move bassinet downstairs and will use it as playyard only. I hope it'll work, otherwise I don't know where to fit everything:) Babies are small, but they require so much stuff. Yes, Russians and Americans treat pregnancy very differently. It seems to me, Russians are kind of ashamed of being pregnant and also ashamed to talk about pregnancy. Here women are proud to have a big belly and cannot wait until it grows big enough. Just today, I came to my doggy work wearing a loosly fitted jacket, and other girl asked me to show how big my belly already is, since she couldn't make it out in a jacket. Well, I had to show her and she said that it is so beautiful. I just cannot imagine such situation in Russia:)

mama40 - Sunday, 24 Feb
Your husband seems to be a really exceptional man. I wish mine turned out to be this way, but I have little hope. At present, I am the one who get up every morning at 6 am to walk our very spoiled dog (he usually comes to our bed and jumps on me until I get up). But maybe with a baby it will be different:) We bought a stroller yesterday. It was just so perfect, we couldn't resist. And it was the last in the store, so they gave us 20% off. It is one of those three weels jogger type strollers. What is good, it is not as big as other such strollers, it can accomodate fully reclined baby, so can be used from the biginning and until toddler ages. You can put carseat in it too. Pleasant gray color, not too much excessive details. And very easy to move and fold. And I bought front carrier (kangaroo as we called it in RUssia). I had one of those with my twins and it was a life saver. We looked up cribs and were terrifyed at the prices - some were up tp 1200! Ceertainly we will look for cheaper option. I don't know if I will get any other U/s. Maybe some close to my due date.

maha55 - Sunday, 24 Feb
yes thanks...I try not to get too caught up in our ageist world!!! esp when it comes to pregnancy (even a little voice in my head was doubting bec of age) although I know I am healthy..chk out my website www.bellydanceforbirth.com ..my hard copy book comes out in June and I will be making a bellydanceforbirth DVD whilst I am pregnant..something I have been wanting to do for years!! ..inspire all women everywhere..all is perfect whatever happens..as I say 'allow the mystery to unfold!!' and absolutely doesnt amtter where u give birth, long as u feel safe and speak up for you and yr bubba!! x

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