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oldie44 has 51 days to go and is now in week 32
	Age: 44 Country: Private Province/region: Private City: Private Partner: husband of 25 years Children: Pregnant: Yes Due date: 07 Jul ,2008 Occupation: RN
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My name is Irena. I am 44 and have 3 childen, 23, 18, and 5.5. I am going to celebrate 25 years anniversary on Feb. 19. I can't believe it is going to be a quarter of century soon! My last baby girl was born on April, 10, 2002, 3 days before my husband's birthday. The baby I am carrying right now will be born (I am afraid to think so far in the future, afraid to jinx it) is due July 6, a week before my 45th burthday. This pregnancy was a surprise for for both my husband and for me. Actually, it will be a surprise for my husband when I tell him, right now he is still in a happy bliss of not knowing. I try to spare his feeling as long as I can, because I am very, very sure he will not be happy and it is a very mild way to put it.

I think there is something spiritual in my conceiving this child. We have not been using birth control for over a year now, somehow I was sure I could not concieve any longer. My mother told me she had early menopause and since my periods decreased to 1.5 days, I thought I was immune too. But something happened - first, very very sad: my co-worker, a briliant, vibrant, always happy and charming girl 36 years old died suddenly while working out in her GYM. She had an artificial heart valve that was due to be replaced, but she was putting it off. She left so many things and projects unfinished (she was a clinical nurse specialist, very involved in many projects in my hospital). She also left 2 small children and a devastated husband. Her wake and funeral was on Oct. 5th; after which I came home and I told my husband that we have to have sex every day, while we are still young, healthy, and alive, because nobody knows what happend to us tomorrow. Well, we did not last more than 2-3 times of every day, but I missed my next period. When I discovered my positive pregnancy test, I suddenly heard her name like somebody said it in my mind. I am not very religious person, but in this case I felt something misterious. The door of this lady's office is still the way she left it, with all the paers for her to sign and a big paper rapping the door has all the wishes and thoughts that people felt and wanted her to hear after her death.

So, if this baby will be born, I decided to name it in her honor, and, even though I am worry every day and every second about this baby's health and life, I feel that if She and G-d wanted it to happen, they will lead us to a happy end.

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panda503 - Monday, 14 Jan
hello! i live in portland, oregon and the best package for a 3-4D u/s here is $225.00. it's a 20-25 minute session
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gender is guaranteed 17 weeks or more but i think i'm going to wait till i'm 30 weeks or when the baby's features are more developed. i found a web site for you.

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take care!

Tess42 - Monday, 14 Jan
Aw sweetie, I sent you a pretend warm, fluffy blanket to wrap around yourself 'cause I wish I could do that for you. You had a notion that he was going to not welcome this at all, and you were right. How about this: talk to your doctor about all those issues you had regarding your last baby -- both in pregnancy and post partum. See if your doctor can help you to head that off at the pass, so to speak before the baby is born. If/when your husband is ready to talk about his anxieties over these issues, hopefully you will be armed with some information and you can gently tell him, 'Yes, honey, I've looked into that and this is what was recommended.' What do you think? Maybe that would make both of you feel better? In the meantime, know that you have a lot of 'sisters' in this forum thinking about and praying for you. Stay strong and find ways to keep yourself happy so you can have a healthy pregnancy.

my7thbabydueMay20th2008 - Monday, 14 Jan
Saw your comment on the advanced age forum.
I am so sorry to hear that hubby is reacting the way he is, give a little time, hopefully he will come round. He will probably be upset about the fact that you have kept it a secret, and that he may feel quite hurt. Try to relax and wait, hopefully things will pan out for the better for you hun
Hugs Niki

holly28 - Sunday, 13 Jan
I totally agree with you, him thinking of such things is a really good sign. My b/f has been amazing with all of this; especially since got pregnant so early on in our relationship. However, I have found that with time, he grows more and more used to the idea. He is looking at baby stuff with me now and last night I woke up to him rubbing my tummy. That was first, and I don't think he realizes that I know. I'm not saying a word *L*

mama40 - Sunday, 13 Jan
My husband went with me to CVS, but didn't go into the room. I didn't press it, since I can imagine that needle going into someone stomach isn't pretty sight. I don't think it is crucial for a man to be present at prenatals appointments at all, so if he wants to stay away from it - fine. It should be nobody's business with whom you show up for your amnio. Just play along and see how long he manages to stay detached. I can't believe he is so stonehearted to not yield soon.

holly28 - Sunday, 13 Jan
I see you have told your husband. Well, I know it had to have been hard so congrats. Don't worry about him being detached during the pregnancy. I am sure as soon as he sees that gorgeous little bundle he will fall in love and be that daddy you know he is. My dad said that for each of us kids that he wasn't able to really attach (or even believe we existed) until we were born but once he saw us that was it.

niseybear - Sunday, 13 Jan
I'm so sorry you have to go through this 'alone'. I cannot imagine what my pregnancy would have been like without my husband and I also cannot imagine what parenthood would be like without him. Well it's not the same, but you have us here. Be blessed.

happyheidi - Saturday, 12 Jan
Wow...you're too much. Can't believe he hasn't noticed. At the same time, I don't know how you do it. I couldn't keep it from anyone, including complete strangers lol. FISH...never heard of it. Do tell! I need them to authorize? And, what is my reasoning for them to grant it?

holly28 - Saturday, 12 Jan
ha ha I just read your post in advanced age. I think it's hilarious after three kids already that your husband hasn't figured out that you are pregnant. I guess we see what we want to see. I have been so ill there is no way that I could keep it from my b/f.

happyheidi - Thursday, 10 Jan
I know the feeling about avoiding the reality of the amnio. I'm not going to think about it, and go through the motions. I also know the feeling that this could be the last shot. I'm sure we would try again, but I'm not getting any younger either. I'll be 41 in a few months. Then we'd have to wait...then try and concieve and ...
At one point, but I feel confident now, I feared that if this pregnancy wasn't successful, I would never experience motherhood. I can't believe I almost missed it! Have you told your husband yet? If so, how was that? If not, do you plan on doing it soon?

soulmama - Wednesday, 9 Jan
Thanks for the input. Honestly, I selected a new ob based on word of mouth. Also, this new doc is chief of obstetrics at the hospital I'm delvering at so I hope she knows something:P. Seriously, she came highly recommended and thus far I have heard nothing but glowing reviews. My first visit is on Tuesday so I guess I'll get to experience it for myself!

happyheidi - Wednesday, 9 Jan
44...it is amazing to be pregnant. I didn't think I could get pregnant. Beyond that...it took me until I was 39 to find the right man to share the experience.
Anyhow...in regard to the sequential screen and the amnio...my question to you is why even bother with the sequential? The amnio will tell you everything pretty definitively 1-2% error. I had started the sequential screen. My ultrasound did not go well, and the doctor was a jackass. Anyhow, I got really nervous. Tom and I spent the weekend discussing why I was avoiding the amnio. I had been avoiding it. I decided over the weekend before we even got the results from the nuchal that we were going to do the amnio. I'm going to forego the second part of the sequential and just do the amnio. Unless I'm missing something...does the sequential tell us something the amnio doesn't?

buninoven - Wednesday, 9 Jan
Wow!! That is a beautiful story. Itsn't it amazing how our paths go? I am very happy for you! Best wishes!

KarenPC - Wednesday, 9 Jan
Hi. I was so glad to read your post. I am 45 and am due 2 weeks before I turn 46. Our older children are also close in age. Mine are 16, 14, and 3. I am glad I am not the only 'oldie' having a baby. I wish you all the best!

kahiwa - Tuesday, 8 Jan
Aloha!! I am 38 and I also worried, my daughters are 16 & 15 years old, leave it all in gods hands I know I have to, or I'd go nutts I live on the North shore of Oahu.. prayers are powerful you're included in mine!! Kahiwa

momma-bear - Monday, 7 Jan
Hi! Thanks so much for your comments on my 'no baby bump' dilemma. I went to the Dr on Fri to hear the baby's heart beat b/c I too was feeling like there wasn't a baby in there anymore. Once I heard the heart beat my fears were put to rest! My Dr laughed when I said I was concerned about not showing yet, she said there's still lots of time to be showing. Guess she's right! :o)

pargy - Sunday, 6 Jan
Hi, I read your page and it is an inspiration to all. I really like to hear of mothers in there 40's having healthy babies. My grandmother was 43 when she had my uncle and he is really big and strong. I was 36 when i conceived and will be 37 when i deliver. I am so excited to be having our first baby.

mplsmama - Saturday, 5 Jan
Hi, I'm 35 & pg w/ my 1st. Saw your post in the AMA forum. For whatever it's worth, I'm 17 wks & not really showing either. I thought for sure I would be huge by now b/c I'm considered 'petite' so I thought I'd just stick straight out, but so far it just looks like I have a fat gut. I would also like a bump for some reassurance!
I also have heard of the dopplers, but decided against getting one for the same reason you cited - if I can't find the heartbeat, I'll freak out. Not worth it. I'll just wait until I have my dr's appts.
I think that it's good to be realistic about the whole AMA thing, but I agree that sometimes it feels like they just post so much negative info about the risks involved w/ being AMA. It's important to remember that so many women in their late 30s & 40s have perfectly healthy babies! But you rarely hear about that. I was reading on some other forums recently about other young women who still smoke cigs, or even smoke pot, while pg - to me that's a heck of a lot more risky than an otherwise healthy 45 year old who's pg! So I can see why you're nervous, given all of the scary info, but I think there are also so many reasons to feel optimistic that everything will be just fine. Especially since you heard a nice, strong heartbeat. Hope all continues to go well for you! Take care.

autty - Thursday, 3 Jan
You're probably not showing because it's been so long since your last child. If your last had been sooner then I would think you'd show right away. But it's almost as if this is your first. I'm kind of in the same boat about no syptoms though. I was tired but for a long time my boobs weren't even sore! It was strange. I do have a little belly now which is cute but I have extra flab I never lost from my son so it looks even bigger than it should!

shrinky9 - Thursday, 3 Jan
Hi there, I just read your comment about the site showing you at 13wks instead of 14wks. If the first day of your last period was 30th Sept 2007 then that was a Sunday so therefore you will be 14wks on Sunday 6th January 2008. Just count the weeks on a calendar and you'll see what I mean. Hope this helps. Blessings!!

~:!*CrYsTaL*!:~ - Thursday, 3 Jan
hi, just wanted 2 coment about not showing. i'm 24 and this is my second child witch i had almost 7 yrs ago and i'm still not showing at all yet, so i don't think its that uncommon!!take care!!xo

Time4Toni - Wednesday, 2 Jan
Wow, I cannot believe you are not showing! Lucky girl...that means you are not gaining weight either! Looks like the only thing you need to truly think about is a game plan..How you are going to turn this 'new news' into a postive thing for your family. I would do some research on postpartum (since you are a nurse..you have the tools!) and figure out a game plan for yourself if it does indeed happen again...The you break the news with a plan of attack on the issue they are most concered with. If money might be an issue..you figure that in to the plan also. We are women..we can do everything and anything then make dinner!! Thanks for the sweet comments by the way! :)

kimberly1969 - Wednesday, 2 Jan
hello...I was just reading your post and could not help but laugh...not at you but with you. I too carried the burdon of worry with me, in fact I still do. I am almost 33 weeks and continue to worry everyday. About the monitor, I bought one pretty early in my pregnancy and was not able to hear a thing. I still have a hard time hearing her heart beat.
So what I am trying to say is don't waste your money! Take care...Kimberly

Time4Toni - Tuesday, 1 Jan
Hey girl...I am right there w/ya! My oldest daughter is very negative about the whole thing. She is 20 and very verbal about it and I have another daughter who is 15 and excited. This is a new marriage for me w/ a younger man...I am 43 and he is 36. He is very excited. I have not yet went to the dr as I am afraid of jinxing it..I had a m/c in late July. Your hubby has no clue?..you should be showing now and no period??

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