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shazia
shazia has 55 days to go and is now in week 32
	Age: 29 Country: Private Province/region: Private City: Private Partner: Fahd (married 4 yrs in July) Children: Pregnant: Yes Due date: 11 Jul ,2008 Occupation:
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Welcome to my page!! We are 16 weeks along with our first child and I am ecstatic, impatient, nervous, and experiencing pretty much every type of emotion these days! We were trying for I'd say five or six months and I must admit I became quite Hitlerian as soon as days 12-20 of my cycle would roll around (I gave myself a large potential ovulation window). I was quite controlling and everything became very mechanical in the bedroom! I went through over a dozen First Response pregnancy tests, and would begin testing five days before every day 1 of my cycle and would continue using them until my period would come! One day, I saw an extremely, extremely faint 2nd line, and thought maybe there has always been an uber faint 2nd line after using the test that I just never noticed before. So, to test my hypothesis I sent my husband to the bathroom and made him use a test as a control! I was so excited to see that my experiment proved me wrong and that we were really pregnant!! We're so relieved that the preconception phase has past but now I'm becoming nutty about everything else. I just scolded my poor husband for neglecting our unborn as he has yet to read a book or converse with him/her (well, asides from rubbing my belly and instructing the baby to kick me, that is).

I look forward to adding regular entries and meeting other moms-to-be!

19 weeks and 3 days!! 02/18/08
We had our big U/S last week. The baby's measurements and our calendar calculations both came up to 18wks and 5 days so the baby is progressing exactly as it should! Prior to the visit, my husband and I decided we wanted to find out the sex. I had a strong feeling it was going to be a girl - though, I would be happy either way. My husband also always thought his first child would be a girl. We had even nicknamed the baby, Pebbles! Once we reached the office, the technician told me that after she takes the various measurements, she will call my husband into the room and zoom in on the gender determining region so we could find out together. During her recording of the measurements, I peeked up at the screen and saw that the upper right of the screen read, "Gender: F." I didn't say anything to the technician as I knew we would discuss gender once my husband came in the room, but my mind was all over the place! My first thought was, "wow, I guess there is something to be said about mother's intuition!" Surprisingly, what followed was a feeling, only for a couple seconds, of slight disappointment. I guess at some level I wanted a boy but that being a very common desire for many that stem from patriarchal cultures (which has always annoyed and offended me), I denied acceptance of that desire. Or, perhaps, those cultures were able to implant that desire in me at some latent level(?). Flushed with guilt for having that brief sentiment, I quickly replaced it with thoughts of the joys of having a girl, what her hair would be like, and so on, and became extremely happy again. When the tech called my husband into the room, I was so eager to tell him that it was a girl, that I asked him in Urdu (our mother tongue) if I could tell him as I already knew. He said, no, he wanted to see for himself. So I kept it in and was studying his face to sense his reaction. The tech then zoomed into the region and said, "so, what does this look like to you?" We both peered at what I could only identify as a phallus - it must be the umbilical cord or something - I reasoned. My husband couldn't make anything out of the image and asked for the tech's professional opinion, at which point the she said, "well, these here look like testicles, and this, a penis." A what? Huh? I don't get it. I ask, "umm, I read the screen earlier and it read, Gender: F, how could that be?" Her response, "oh, that must have been your information." Ahhh, so the patient, the pregnant person, me, I am Female. I see. Again, my mind goes all over the place. I'm excited and thinking about telling my mom and grandfather (as he had a dream I had a boy), and begin debating whether I should do blues or stick to neutrals....

20th week - 02/22/08
Thanks for the responses to my question on elective c-sections. I will go the vaginal route. The idea of going through labor and tearing completely freaks me out. I'm such a wimp that even paper cuts put me to tears! With hope, the prenatal classes I am about to sign up for will help me deal with these issues. My superficial side also does not want to have an expanded canal post-pregnancy. There are kegel exercises for that, though. Here's an interesting piece done by Time magazine on being "too posh to push," it was written in 2004. Here's the link:
http://time.com/time/magazine/article/0,9171,993857-1,00.html
Did you know Madonna, Liz Hurley, Victoria Beckham, and Christina Aguilera (amongst others) have all had elective c-sections?!

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mommytobe007 - Sunday, 11 May

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jessiebee - Saturday, 10 May
I have the same reddish dots..pretty sure they are strech marks. Just another joy of pregnancy lol

tinyfeets - Saturday, 12 April
Do not even mention eating...I've gained 40 pounds..I was 160 when I got pregnant...yep...I'm pushing 200 pounds Yikes!...but totally worth it! :-)

wendy1stbaby - Monday, 7 April
Hey....about the whole eating thing. I am eating all the time. Before I was pregnant I was about 10 lbs underweight so I let myself have whatever I want. Granted I don't eat just junk, but I do treat myself. I try to eat as healthy as I can. I can see my weight gain not only in my tummy but my butt, thighs and my face. I don't exercise, I never have. The dr. says that I am healthy and hasn't said anything about gaining too much. So, I just tell myself to worry about my weight after the baby comes. I don't let people bother me telling my that I am too big or whatever. I love food and I feel like whenever I eat the baby takes all of it. Like I eat and never get full. The baby is draining me of my nutrients! But, no...if your dr says you are fine keep eating!

babyjohn - Wednesday, 19 Mar
What is the 'oily fish' suppose to do for you pregnancy? I am pregnant for a 3rd time and I have never heard anything about it before.

dgwmommy - Sunday, 9 Mar
LOL...it went good, very informative (such as when to go to the hospital so you don't get sent home, what to expect during delivery, getting an epidural, how to diaper, swaddle etc) I think my husband is a little freaked out right now (they showed some very...hmm, how to put this...personal videos! lol) Think he has decided he's going to stay 'belly button up' during the delivery

luckymenm23 - Saturday, 8 Mar
thank you for your comments :) hows your pregnancy going??

presea - Tuesday, 4 Mar
hello! Mine seems to squrim for a bit and then curls up into a little ball also after i have an orgasm! I do feel guilty though and i think i should stop doing it for a while! lol x

mommy2boys - Saturday, 23 Feb
Most insurance companies in the US will not pay for elective C-sections. They are far more expensive, you have a MUCH longer recovery time, and you are more likely for complications. If you ever do have to have an emergency c-section then all future deliveries will more than likely be repeats.

If you are looking for a more planned route, ask your doctor about induction. Some doctors will induce you past 38 weeks if your cervix looks like it's close to ready, and you have had a healthy pregnancy. I went in to be induced with my first only to find out that I was already in LABOR!!! At least it felt planned and there was no mad rush to the hospital! Good luck with your decision!

JenniferSD - Friday, 22 Feb
Hello, I want to have an electin C-section too. It just sounds a lot less painfull.

ukdutypaid - Friday, 22 Feb
not sure how things work where u are honey, i know they do not really allow us to have elective CS here in the UK... not if they can help it, and it has to be for a good reason, if theres no reason why u cant deliver vaginally, then i would just do that, but of course its ur wonderful day and also ur decision..x..x.x good luck...x.x.x.x

lolabean08 - Friday, 22 Feb
my doc does elective c-sections if the mom is deathly afraid of vaginal birht...but i have had both and let me tell you , the c-section was worse all the way around...the actual procdure, the recovery, my addison still has breathing problems from not getting all the fluid squished but i am due to have another c-section in june...good luck

raebabe - Friday, 22 Feb
I guess I am confused that a dr would actually give you an option to have an elected section if it's not medically necessary. I personally would not chose a c-section. I had to have one because my baby was big and I didn't show any signs of labor a week after my due date. I had the most awful experience with recovery. I couldn't actually hold my daughter standing up for the first week or so. I was in so much pain. Then I gained 40lbs when pregnant and couldn't do a thing about it until 2 months later...my incision didn't heal very well. It took a good year for it to completely heal. This is just my experience with a c-section. Whatever you decide though I hope the best for you! Good Luck.

katiemom - Friday, 22 Feb
I was just reading about csections yesterday, I found a GREAT article go here to read all about what the actual c-section entails

http://www.babycenter.com/0_giving-birth-by-cesarean-section_160.bc

then at the end of the article there is a link to 'recovering from a c-section' that was a big deal, recovery is just like major surgery...check out the articles so you can make the right decision for you!

saraha - Friday, 22 Feb
C-sections should be for emergencies only. They are a longer more painful recovery and the baby doesn't recieve all of the benefits of the chemicals it recieves going through the birth canal. I would cry if I had to have a c/s!

mrssection8 - Friday, 22 Feb
Yeah... like every message board/gather online place, there are a few bad apples. But I decided not to let them keep me away for good.

rhonnott - Friday, 22 Feb
I am shocked to hear that people are opting for a c-section. I say if you can have it vaginally...get an epidural for the pain and do that. You are back to feeling normal in no time and with a c-section you have the 6 week recovery just like with any major surgery. With my son, I went through the pain for about 20 minutes and then I asked for the epidural and I felt so good. It didn't take long to kick in and I just kicked back and relaxed and had my sister (which is a nurse) to watch the screen and tell me when to push because I couldnt' feel the contractions at all.

ladobruk - Friday, 22 Feb
We don’t have that choice where I live, but I may need a c-section. I will find out at my next fetal assessment at 37 weeks, but I am dreading it. As much as labor scares me, I would rather do vaginal simply for the recovery. I have had surgery before that cuts through your stomach muscles and it is not fun healing… everything hurts and I mean everything. Sneezing feels like torture.
You really learn just how much your core muscles effect every movement you make!

SHELLS23 - Friday, 22 Feb
I'm definitely opting for a c section. My doc offered me the choice, and I'm scared of vaginal birth for many many reasons. I usually have a high tolerance for pain, but there are so many other factors that scare me in vaginal births. My sis in law had her 1st baby in Nov. I had just found out I was pregnant, and seeing her directly after giving birth helped me to decide. The very next day she said it wasn't so bad, but that is NOT what she was saying in the moment!

mrssection8 - Friday, 22 Feb
I'm considering a c-section because my son is measuring on the big side, but I will wait until my 32 week scan before I make a final decision.

nicci - Friday, 22 Feb
hi, im having a csection coz my 1st was emegancey section baby was back on back and she got stuck then my 2nd was my own choice and the same this time i find it better 2 now when im having baby so i can get ready and sort the kids out!
good luck with your baby!xx

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