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shazia
	Age: 29 Country: US Province/region: Pennsylvania City: Bensalem Partner: Fahd (married 4 yrs in July) Children: Yes, 1 Pregnant: Not anymore Occupation:
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Week 36 - 06/17/08
Last day of work was 06/06/08. This week my husband is in San Diego for the annual Bio conference which I was very tempted to tag along on but being so far along in the pregnancy we decided it was unwise. I'll be going to work tomorrow for a baby shower. I thought quitting as early as I did would result in being really productive at home; thought I'd be "nesting." I keep overwhelming myself, though, and getting caught up in little details that I just stop, nap, and put off my list of things to do. Baby is kicking, shifting like mad! Still haven't felt any contractions (BH or otherwise) like many of the others on this site. All together, I have gained 35lbs....well, more like 37lbs - but whose counting, right?

34th week - 05/31/08
So, I haven't written in a while, but I have been checking this site at least once a week posting comments on the message boards. I finally replaced my camera that I broke back in March, so I'll finally post pics. Seems like everyone is further along in their preparations than we are!

Things we still need:

A name! We can't agree on any name!
Bedding - love the stuff at Pottery Barn kids but hubby thinks we should look for a better deal.
Baby carrier - I think I will go with the Ergo baby carrier as it was ranked number one in a baby book.
Mayan sling
We need a stroller and car seat. I LOVE the Orbit stroller but it's a ridiculously over-priced celeb travel system and my husband refuses to spend a grand on it (which I must reluctantly agree with)!
Letter blocks from Pottery Barn but we need a name first!
A classic rocking chair - went looking for one today but no luck, will look on-line.
Bassinet or Moses basket
Breast pump - My husband thinks we'll get a hand pump from the hospital, doubt it, will check during next appointment.
Diaper bag - don't really like the one I was gifted (even though I picked it! Looked better in the pic I had seen of it).
Baby monitor

Things we already have:

Nursery walls painted and paneled
Crib (the Larkin from Pottery Barn which my husband very reluctantly agreed to splurge on - I love it! I said I'd give him one more child just to get the crib! He wants five! I'm leaning towards three)
Three cute wall mount shelves
A chest of drawers
Bunch of clothes and accessories
Random things: books, bath items, ...etc.
A small hand-me-down crib which we might keep in our master bedroom.

Here's a list of things I actually like about being pregnant:

The attention - all the smiles and friendly comments from passers by
Months 4, 5, 6, and 7- looked the cutest then and felt fairly fine, not tired or achey
LOVE my hair and nails! Strong, thick, healthy. I'm bracing myself for all the hair that will fall out after delivery though (when that cycle of shedding hair will set in which during pregnancy is delayed).
The baby's kicks - esp. back in the sixth month when they were so new to me!
Clothes in the 2nd trimester and some in the third. Loving when I can still (even with this big belly in the 34th week) wear smalls in non-mat clothes - of course it's only with tops and those of which are of fabrics with stretch or tops of flowy styles (empire waist, a-line)
FOOD - still feel a little guilt when I go over board but don't feel too bad
Improved skin! I naturally break out (have since I was a teenager), so it's nice that I'm clearer during this pregnancy.
Getting massages out of hubby
Having the pregnancy excuse to get out of chores
No period!

20th week - 02/22/08
Thanks for the responses to my question on elective c-sections. I will go the vaginal route. The idea of going through labor and tearing completely freaks me out. I'm such a wimp that even paper cuts put me to tears! With hope, the prenatal classes I am about to sign up for will help me deal with these issues. My superficial side also does not want to have an expanded canal post-pregnancy. There are kegel exercises for that, though. Here's an interesting piece done by Time magazine on being "too posh to push," it was written in 2004. Here's the link:
http://time.com/time/magazine/article/0,9171,993857-1,00.html
Did you know Madonna, Liz Hurley, Victoria Beckham, and Christina Aguilera (amongst others) have all had elective c-sections?! These electives, for most, were scheduled during week 36 as the baby is good to go and the mom can avoid the additional stretching and weight gain as it is most rapid in the final weeks!

19 weeks and 3 days!! 02/18/08
We had our big U/S last week. The baby's measurements and our calendar calculations both came up to 18wks and 5 days so the baby is progressing exactly as it should! Prior to the visit, my husband and I decided we wanted to find out the sex. I had a strong feeling it was going to be a girl - though, I would be happy either way. My husband also always thought his first child would be a girl. We had even nicknamed the baby, Pebbles! Once we reached the office, the technician told me that after she takes the various measurements, she will call my husband into the room and zoom in on the gender determining region so we could find out together. During her recording of the measurements, I peeked up at the screen and saw that the upper right of the screen read, "Gender: F." I didn't say anything to the technician as I knew we would discuss gender once my husband came in the room, but my mind was all over the place! My first thought was, "wow, I guess there is something to be said about mother's intuition!" Surprisingly, what followed was a feeling, only for a couple seconds, of slight disappointment. I guess at some level I wanted a boy but that being a very common desire for many that stem from patriarchal cultures (which has always annoyed and offended me), I denied acceptance of that desire. Or, perhaps, those cultures were able to implant that desire in me at some latent level(?). Flushed with guilt for having that brief sentiment, I quickly replaced it with thoughts of the joys of having a girl, what her hair would be like, and so on, and became extremely happy again. When the tech called my husband into the room, I was so eager to tell him that it was a girl, that I asked him in Urdu (our mother tongue) if I could tell him as I already knew. He said, no, he wanted to see for himself. So I kept it in and was studying his face to sense his reaction. The tech then zoomed into the region and said, "so, what does this look like to you?" We both peered at what I could only identify as a phallus - it must be the umbilical cord or something - I reasoned. My husband couldn't make anything out of the image and asked for the tech's professional opinion, at which point the she said, "well, these here look like testicles, and this, a penis." A what? Huh? I don't get it. I ask, "umm, I read the screen earlier and it read, Gender: F, how could that be?" Her response, "oh, that must have been your information." Ahhh, so the patient, the pregnant person, me, I am Female. I see. Again, my mind goes all over the place. I'm excited and thinking about telling my mom and grandfather (as he had a dream I had a boy), and begin debating whether I should do blues or stick to neutrals....

16th Week
We are 16 weeks along with our first child and I am ecstatic, impatient, nervous, and experiencing pretty much every type of emotion these days! We were trying for I'd say five or six months and I must admit I became quite Hitlerian as soon as days 12-20 of my cycle would roll around (I gave myself a large potential ovulation window). I was quite controlling and everything became very mechanical in the bedroom! I went through over a dozen First Response pregnancy tests, and would begin testing five days before every day 1 of my cycle and would continue using them until my period would come! One day, I saw an extremely, extremely faint 2nd line, and thought maybe there has always been an uber faint 2nd line after using the test that I just never noticed before. So, to test my hypothesis I sent my husband to the bathroom and made him use a test as a control! I was so excited to see that my experiment proved me wrong and that we were really pregnant!! We're so relieved that the preconception phase has past but now I'm becoming nutty about everything else. I just scolded my poor husband for neglecting our unborn as he has yet to read a book or converse with him/her (well, asides from rubbing my belly and instructing the baby to kick me, that is).

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babieea - Friday, 11 July
**just wanted to leave a note to you and say thanks for writing such a detailed birthstory, i learned from it and i wish you all the best!!**

meetmrswise - Wednesday, 9 July
CONGRATS!

ashpatbaby - Friday, 27 June
a sweep is when the dr uses her fingers and swipes the cells or membranes off ur cervix and usually checkes to see if ur dialated and how soft ur cervix is. to me it felt like pressure thats all not bad at all. but dont get to excited i had a sweep on tuesday and they say it can help to bring labor on and here i still am due tommorow! ps- i was dialated 1cm and 60% soft, apparently u can walk around for weks like this!

tracylouella - Thursday, 19 June
I dunno what his problem is, al I kow is he is NEVER like this and its really sucking to be around it. The last week I have made a few posts about his attitude. Its not fair. I love him to death and he is a dream catch of a man but thehis past weeks is too much. he is the one that wanted another baby and I just.. I dunno. I talked to him twice today and he was very sweet and himself and apologetic. I justhope he smartens up. Kids dont need it. I have explained to them that he is going through some stuff and to just accept him and ignore what he says cuz he doesnt mean it.

McAng - Thursday, 12 June
Good luck!

kristalsfirst - Thursday, 12 June
Hey.
In responce to your post, I have a two story house also. I have a play pen in my living room that has a change table with it and a bassinette. I will use that when I am down here in the living room. I have a crib set up upstairs in the nursery with a actual change table. And i will also have a bassinet in my bedroom for the first month. That way whenever im on living room floor or upstairs the baby will have a place to sleep and a change area wih diapers and everything i need so im not walking up stairs all the time etc.., =)

McAng - Wednesday, 11 June
One more thing . . . the bassinet pads are pretty flimsy but you can buy a good new one seperately for about $17 and sheets to fit it.

McAng - Wednesday, 11 June
This is my first baby but I'm the youngest of ten and watched all my brother's and sister's babies and was a nanny for five years for five kids. It depends on personal preference, but I got a used bassinet (and thourougly washed it) for our room because I know he'll only use it for about two months (gets too big and you'll want him out of there too). I got a nice crib for his nursery because we want at least four kids and I want it to last. I got a really cheap pack n' play because it's great for visiting grandma's for naps or to take on vacation. You don't need one with the changing table and fancy stuff- you'll end up changing him on the bed or floor anyway. Besides, if you have all that they're bigger and harder to tote around. You don't necessarily even need one with a shelf for newborns if you're not against leaning over a bit to pick him up the few times you use it - the bottom part of the bed is really strong and can hold toddlers. You can get these cheap ones at target, walmart, kmart, shopko, wherever. Then you can use that downstairs as well for the time being. Changing tables are pretty useless. I haven't known anyone who actually ends up using them. Your bed, the crib, or the floor works best. Every child I have EVER watched HATES swings. Don't know why but they scream they're heads off if they're awake. I absolutely LOVE the cheap bouncers. They're so small you can put them on the counter top where you're cooking or getting ready in the bathroom etc. Babies like to be where you are and see you. Keeps them calm. You can also use the bouncer to feed them baby foods in until they're big enough to sit up. They love to kick they're legs and make them bounce. Once again, it doesn't need to have a lot of bells and whistles. I would wait to get jumpers, walkers, etc. until they're older. Then you can put them in it in the store and see if they like them. walkers are good because it helps them to strengthen they're legs, but you won't need it until he's about six months old. Hopefully this has helped. Like I said, it's kind of a personal preference but this is what I've found that works.

tracylouella - Wednesday, 11 June
This is my 4th baby and this is what I have learned. Getting up after falling asleeping for just an hour or less and having to feed for an hour or moreis VERY tireing. Your body turns into a huge zombie. Its hard to even know what you are doing. SO in my lessons on being a mommy I say :

Use a bassinet right beside your bed. Keep diapers and wipes and a change pad on your night stand or shelf behind you if you have one. When baby wakes up you simply have to grab him/her and change them then feed them and put them back down. All the while you dont have to leave your room and trek a million miles to and from baby. Your body wont be able to handle it! Trust me! :) Keep baby near you. Its for your sanity and your bodies well being. A rested non stressed mom makes a better mom!

Good luck! Not much longer!

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