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shellyl
	Age: 24 Country: Private Province/region: Private City: Private Partner: Hubby (Tony) Children: Pregnant: Not anymore Occupation: Business Liaison Officer
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I am 24 and live in the UK with my husband Tony. We have been trying for a baby for 5 years and I have had 6 m/c and an ectopic. My last m/c was Dec 07 so getting pregnant scares the hell out of me now!!

My last period was the 9^th Jan and due to my long cycle, it makes me 6 weeks.

I had a scan on Friday on the 22^nd Jan and we could see the sac. Getting that far was amazing as we have never seen anything on a scan before as I have always started to m/c.

I have had two bleeds but so far they have stopped and everything seems ok. I have a scan on the 5^th March so fingers crossed everything will be OK.

28th Feb Update

I have started to bleed again, but this time it is heavier and I have cramps. I am so scared, I cant go through another m/c I cant take it. I am going to hospital in the morning so we will have to wait and see.

29th March Update

Hi I went to the hospital today for a scan and I have started to m/c, its not complete yet so I have to let nature take its course. I have an appointment on Wed with the consultant.

I am gutted, I was so desperate for this baby.

I dont understand why I keep m/c, I dont know if I am strong enough to cope again.

5th March Update

I have been to see the consultant today and finaly we may get some answers. I have had lots of blood tests and my hubby has had one. They are testing all sorts including our chromosones.

The tests will take about 2 months to come back...long wait. We have been advised to not try again until we have the results. We will be going to see the consultant again on 28th May 08.

Thank you to everyone for your kind words of support. Good luck to all and lots of baby dust.

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lindsjean - Friday, 7 Mar
It is hard not knowing what is going on, but I am a scientist and I know that the chances of something 'bad' happening is more likely than something 'good' happening. In other words it s really hard in the broad spectrum for any of us to concieve, and when we do, our DH and our DNA has to intertwine perfectly or something will go wrong....anyways i use my scientist brain to rationalize when all else has failed. :) how are you doing?

Vikki - Friday, 7 Mar
Hay, it seems that we are going for the same tests! I went to a new Dr. yesturday and she's order a squillian test too. Most come back pretty quickly but one of them takes 3wks. Fingers crossed for you:-).

lindsjean - Thursday, 6 Mar
So are you guys going to wait to get your test back to try again? I had A LOT of test done and mine came back fine. They still don't know what has caused my extopics and miscarriages....but hopefully i will get a BFP this month! fingers crossed.

Vikki - Wednesday, 5 Mar
wow, a couple of MONTHS! That seems like a amasing lenth of time. Well, one things for sure, if they are doing so much testing, then they are sure to find something. Stay strong, keep healthy. And wiching you all the best. Let me know how things go? :-)

ilovemybabeez - Tuesday, 4 Mar
Hey mama, im from bolton too! Im so sorry for ur m/c, ive had alot of losses too and it really is heartbreaking. I hope you get ur baby soon, feel free to msg anytime :)x

firsttimer - Tuesday, 4 Mar
Hi shelly, I read your messages in the miscarriage forum and hope you don't mind me contacting you. I had a scan last Wed and everthing was fine, heard heartbeat, was told 8 wks, 3 days. Today I went for another scan and the baby has died (no heartbeat). I've not had any signs of m/c, no bleeding or pain, and the doc gave me various options i.e. d&c, tablets, or wait and let nature take it's course. I'd appreciate some advice if you feel up to it. I appreciate that you are not doing so well yourself and you may not want to, so forgive me if you don't feel up for a chat. Thanks

lozzie82 - Tuesday, 4 Mar
Hi, Just read your page sorry to hear about whats happened to you. Just wanted to wish you good luck x

Vikki - Tuesday, 4 Mar
I knew you feel you wont be able to cope and I know this sounds hollow right now but you will cope. I've had 12 misscarriages myself and each time I think I'm going to loose my mind, but I don't. Do you know what is going on with your body? I have only just found out that it's a progesterone problem. Maybe that is something to look at. I have since found out that this is something that CAN be helped! Words can't describe how I feel about that but I can tell you that the feelings are ALL OVER THE PLACE! Anyway please feel free to stop by and chat if you like. Take care. Vikki

lindsjean - Tuesday, 4 Mar
Hi there. It seems you and I have went through the same things....I have had two ectopics (doc's said it is very unusual) and several miscarriages....i am only 24 and in relatively good shape....how are you feeling?

babyJSL - Monday, 3 Mar
How are you doing? I hope my words from last message doesn't sound too weird. But there are true, at least in my family&culture. I like to tell you more but I don't want to sound crazy. I know there are not fact nor have any proof. But it doesn't hurt to keep them in mind. Take care! If you have any question, just write me up.

mamatess - Monday, 3 Mar
I'm glad there is a way for us to be here for you. I can't imagine what you are going through, and I attempt to try, just like I couldn't imagine what it was like to be pregnant until now. Just know that we are here for you - stay in communication, and let us all know how you progress!

niseybear - Monday, 3 Mar
I cannot say I understand what you are going through, because I don't. I do however sympathize with you and hope that one day you can hold that miracle every women wants. Now that I'm a mother I understand what a miracle it is to carry and have a child and you will get that joy one day too. Believe that. Be blessed.

mrskcich - Monday, 3 Mar
Shelly, thank you for messaging me with an update. I am so sorry to hear about your loss.

I wish I could offer you words of comfort and to say I know how you feel but I can't and I'm sure none of that would matter at this point. I have never been through what you and many other women on these blogs have been through..even though I don't know how you feel, I can sympathize.

Don't give up. You have been through this before and even though you felt you couldn't deal again, you did and every pregnancy was a miracle!

Even though I am not a religious woman I truley believe God works in such mysterious ways...he has reasons for all his doings, even though none of us can figure out what his plan can possibly be for your little angels. Perhaps he wants to make sure your baby (who I feel you will receive one day) is absolutely perfect.

Keeping you all in my thoughts...

hotmama80 - Monday, 3 Mar
I am so sorry to hear what happened. Don't give up. I had a m/c in Nov. and it was a hard thing to go through. Maybe your doctors can send you to a specialist to find out whats going on. Good Luck.

billbo - Monday, 3 Mar
i love been english it may be a filthy grot whole but at least we get medical stuff for free :)
good luck hun xxx

kelly-roo - Sunday, 2 Mar
so sorry shelly!
Many prayers! You can cope w/ all things through Him

Ms.Thang - Sunday, 2 Mar
I am so sorry for your lost. You will have that miracle baby soon.Take care!

3sacharm - Sunday, 2 Mar
I am so sorry for you! I went through 2 m/c and know how you feel. It sounds like this has been a very long road for you though. Get yourself to a good reproductive endocrinologist asap and find out what is going on with you.

babyJSL - Sunday, 2 Mar
Hi, I'm sorry to hear about your loss. Don't say that you don't know if you are strong enough to cope again. I think you are a strong young lady. I believe you will have your special baby. You had the baby a few times before but not long enough to have it in your arms. If you had it a few time before, you can have the baby again. You just keep being strong and positive. I like to add a personal believe. It might or might help you understand why you keep having m/c. The next time you are pregnant, take good care of you body. Don't get stress from work, if you could cut work hours. Don't get sick, even a little cold. Don't do house work too much, such as cleaning and lifting heavy things. Don't exercise or put your body to work hard. All and all, don't worry too much/stress too much. Don't stress when you're pregnant, it's easy to m/c. The body is most sensitive to m/c in the first 3 months of pregnancy. You don't have to believe me but these are words passed down from all the mommy in my family/culture. Take care of youself. Your body is not to blame but to love. Love your body and it will love you back.

iamnesting - Sunday, 2 Mar
I was reading the TTC pages, and read your post and cried for you. I'm so sorry. But you must not give up - you are so young and things happen for a reason!!! Your babies weren't ready to enter the world. I wish you the best of luck... let your body rest and keep faith!

preciousangels2 - Saturday, 1 Mar
I'm soo sorry to hear about your loss. I know how hard it is the first time around, never mind the second or third. How many have you had? Usually after the 3rd, your doctor will run some tests and what not to try and find out the cause. Just don't give up! It'll happen when the time is right! I wish you the best of luck.

newgirl - Saturday, 1 Mar
Sorry to hear that you m/c. You must not give up. It will happen for you.

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