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	Age: 31 Country: Private Province/region: Private City: Private Partner: Josh Children: Yes, 2 Pregnant: Yes Due date: 12 Oct ,2008 Occupation: Business Continuity Analyst
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This is our third and we are shocked! I won't bore you with the details but this pregnancy was meant to be. My husband was also scheduled to get his vasectomy but due to a friend of his that has one first, and it going quite badly, he backed out of his and HERE WE ARE! There goes the guest room!

We were just so set on not having anymore that even though I am at 12 weeks I still freak out everytime I think about the fact that we are going to have another. I have a four year old and a 1 year old already. Our youngest will only be 21 months when the third one is born. We are going to have our hands full. But we love our babies more than anything in the world and have no doubt this one will be the same.

Also, I am quite lucky because a good friend of mine is also pregnant and has a due date 8 days before mine. She tends to go late and I tend to go early so who knows....

Congratulations to everyone...

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sparklyval - 29.3 hours ago
I had forgotten that the scan picture had that written on it! Kate went with us to the first scan at 12 weeks and the sonographer wrote 'hello Kate' to say hello to her from the baby! She also did one the same for Bethan, so somewhere at home we have a 'hello Bethan' picture too. I think she was trying to involve her in the whole process because she seemed a bit bemused seeing the baby on the screen. When I go for the scan this week, it will just be me and Antony so the picture probably won't have anything written on it this time!

The red wine at the weekend sounds really good. I have only had one glass of wine since I found out I was pregnant and it was great!! I couldn't stand the thought of alcoholic drinks at all for the first 12 weeks - just the smell of beer or wine made my stomach turn, now I get to the weekend and I keep thinking how nice it would be just to have a drink or two!

Your comments about Ava made me laugh - she sounds so much like Kate. Kate loves clothes, shoes, bags and EVERYTHING pink! She is always asking to wear dresses or skirts even when the weather isn't good enough! She drives me mad sometimes. Her big sister has never been the same. Goodness knows what Kate will be like as a teenager. I will HAVE to work full time by then to keep up with the bill for the clothes for her!

I feel like you, that the baby has been growing quite a lot in the last week or so. Its amazing how a bump can appear from nowhere. Now it is impossible to miss the fact that I am pregnant! I am going to try to think up some witty replies to tell people when they make the 'are you sure its not twins' comments.
One of my colleagues at work is expecting a baby 3 days before me which is really strange timing. We were comparing pregnancy details today (its the first time I have seen her in several weeks). She doesn't look as big as me at all and yet her first baby was 9lbs like mine was. I guess women just carry babies differently...you expect everyone to be the same, but nature doesn't work that way. Its a shame that more of the general population don't recognise that fact!

Yes, Lincoln Cathedral is beautiful. We are very lucky - I think sometimes we don't really appreciate it. Quite a lot of UK cities have cathedrals like ours, so you just take it forgranted that you will come across them. Have you done any/much travelling? We have only been to a few places in Europe before we had a family. I wish that we had managed to see a bit more of the world...so many places sound much more exciting than the UK!!

Only two days until my scan now, I will write again after I have been to the hospital to let you know how things went. Take care, Val x

sparklyval - Sunday, 18 May
Hi! I so wish I had someone to help with the cleaning and I only work part time. I think you must be a super star! Even though I have had tues, weds and thurs at home last week, I still had so many jobs to do today (Sunday!). I just cannot imagine how I am going to fit in having this baby!! It is now 10pm and I have my mountain of ironing to tackle next...at least I can watch the tv while I iron, there has to be some kind of positive there!

I could really do with a beer!!!! I went to the supermarket today and bought some alcohol free beer. Its actually not to bad, just not the same. Wow, now I am sounding like an alcoholic having withdrawal symptoms....hope you're not getting the wrong impression LOL!

Thanks for the comment about where we live. It's nice but dull (no really!!). I have probably made it sound more interesting than it really is. The city of Lincoln (about 10 minutes by car from here) is nice though. It has one really big hill with a cathedral and castle at the top....because the landscape is so flat you can see them for miles around, which is quite spectacular. We tend to get a few toursits visiting as Lincoln was quite important in Roman times...it was one of the most major cities after London many many years ago. Now it is somewhat forgotten about, but the old part is really old and it feels like stepping back in time. It has a few interesting shops too, so it is nice to stroll around once in a while. There are some really run down areas of the city too, but most places have those.

It's nice that you live so close to your family. It must be great being able to see a lot of them. The community where you live sounds like a very friendly place. I like places that are family centred. Is the school far from where you live? We have a school in the village. It takes about 10 minutes to walk there. Bethan has been going to school for 4 years now, the time has gone so fast. Kate starts school in September, like your daughter too I think. We bought Kate her first two school dresses today...she was so excited and ran around the house wearing one of them for ages! She cried when we made her take it off! :-(

The sonogram picture is indeed from this baby, but we don't know yet what sex it is. My husband is sure it will be another girl, but we don't know. I have another appointment at the hospital this week for a scan, on Thursday in fact...just 4 days to go. I am so excited, I have been counting down the days!! We will ask on thursday and I will let you know how we get on.

Well, sadly my ironing will not be doing itself, so I had better move away from the PC. I hope you have had a great weekend. I feel I have talked and talked again...sorry!! I find it very hard to write two sentence messages!
Have a good week
Valerie x

sammy28 - Wednesday, 14 May
Awesome!!!! Congrats!
When you look at those things...Are you supposed to add a year to your age?
Example: I was 28 when we conceived, My b-day is in March....Now 29. Some say add a year and some don't.

sparklyval - Wednesday, 14 May
HELLO :0)
You work full time? That must be tough going! How on earth do you manage to fit in everything at home that has to be done on top of having a full time job and the children? I am in awe of you! You must be super organised and efficient.
I work part time, on a term-time only basis for the University. I am employed to work 40 weeks a year, so I get 8 weeks holiday in the summer, which fits in really well with the school summer break. It cuts down a bit on paying for child care, which is so expensive here. My basic hours are 17 a week, on top of which I do one Sunday a month plus one Saturday every other month. Luckily I can claim overtime for both weekend sessions, so that helps to boost the money I earn.
I fell really lucky to get the job I did when my first daughter was born and although it isn't the most fantastically paid job in the world, or the most challenging, it suits us as a family really well. I am going to try to hang on to it after the 3rd baby is here!
I am also very lucky that the University offers a fantastic maternity leave scheme. I can have a year off work, most of which is paid - 6 months is about what I earn now, 3 months will be at a lower rate and 3 months unpaid. I am excited about being able to have a year at home with this baby. I did the same with Kate when she was born and it was a great experience. (Difficult to go back to work after though, I am totally with you about that)!

Your two girls have such pretty names - I love both of them - Ava and Ella, they go really well together. My DH and I have been talking a lot about names in the last week or so, and we think we have agreed on Erin for a girl and Harvey for a boy, but it may change....there is still a long way to go yet! Bethan and Kate have flowers for their middle names - Rose and Lily, so if it is a girl the middle name will definitely be Iris, as that is the name of our next-door-neighbour (she is 94). We need to find a flower name that would be ok for a boy's middle name! There isn't much to go on....

Sorry to hear about the swelling - especially of your hands, that must be very uncomfortable. It isn't uncommon in pregnancy though to have some swelling. I think I got some later on in my last pregnancy. I am ok at the moment (its just my belly that has swollen out!!), although still struggling with painful hip bones and backache. Nothing I can't live with, I have just been trying to walk more.

Where we live is pretty ordinary really. The area around us is very flat, we don't have any hills here, so the scenery is mostly crop farm land. The village is a good place to live...the people here are very friendly and I have a great group of friends. About 6-8 of us tend to meet up on Thursdays for coffee and cakes!! We take it in turns to host the others. The children that aren't at school like to see each other and play well together, we get to sit down for a couple of hours and have a coffee and a cake. Bliss!

The village has a population of about 3,500 people. It isn't a tiny place to live, but it isn't on the scale of a town or city. We have lived here since Bethan was born (about 9 years). We moved in to our house 10 days before she was born which was very stressful at the time. It forced me to get to know people as I didn't know a soul when we moved here, so I started going to the baby group etc. to try to find some other people with babies. We are happily settled here and Bethan likes the school. So, all is good I guess.....just would like a few more hills!

Wow, I have rabbited on for ever!! I am sure it is mostly very dull.... I don't dare read back! Please tell me a bit more about where you live. I have never been to America and it always sounds such an exciting country. What is the community like where you are?

Hope you are feeling well x

blessedmommy - Wednesday, 14 May
Congrats on having a boy! And Happy Belated Mothers Day, I hope you had a wonderful one, I know I did my husband and little Girl Spoiled me rotten, I can't wait until My next appointment on Tuesday the 20th I get to find out if I am having a boy or another girl, I am so excited. Well Until next time Take Care and God Bless

boogerfour - Tuesday, 13 May
Congrats on having a boy! How did you get your Dr. to do the ultrasound early? Just curious cuz I go in tomorrow and think my Dr. will want to wait:(

sparklyval - Tuesday, 13 May
PS, I saw your post today. I don't know anything about circumcision, so I can't really offer you any advice, but in the UK it is almost unheard of to have it done unless you are Jewish. I guess if it was me then I wouldn't even think about having it done, but you and your husband have to make a decision that is right for both of you. Good luck with what you decide.

sparklyval - Tuesday, 13 May
Congratulations on finding out your baby is a little man! I can totally understand your feelings about having a boy - I keep wondering how I will cope with having a baby boy if that's what this baby is....I have had almost 9 years of just girlie things. What if it's a boy and I am rubbish as a mum of a boy?! :) It's all very scary.... I will find out on 22nd May hopefully! (I do have 3 younger brothers so you would expect that it wouldn't seem quite so scary but it does for some reason!)
The US sounds amazing...it is unreal to see the baby on the screen like that! I cant wait.....only 10 days to go!

Your oldest daughter is still quite young - it's not unusual for them to cry at the age she is. Kate is 4 and she seems to cry at everything! She cries to get her own way, she cries if she has a tiny hurt somewhere, she cries for attention... I think we expect quite a lot of her. We keep telling her she is a big girl, but really compared to her sister who is 8, she still seems so little! I am not sure how she will cope when the baby comes. I hope she doesn't feel pushed out because she starts school just before I am due to have this one. Maybe your little girl is just picking up on all the changes that are going on in life at the moment? Its amazing how sensitive children can be to what is happening, even though we don't realize. I am sure that the new bed and bright pink bedding will help her feel extra special.

I am fine thank you, but I seem to have swollen up like a watermelon!! I keep weighing myself thinking I must be eating too much, but I have gained 7lbs, which doesn't seem all that much. I can't imagine how enormous I will be by 9 months - perhaps I will pop! LOL At least I have plenty of energy....a bit of backache, but that is probably from sitting in front of a computer for the last couple of days at work. I am always better on the days when I am at home. Do you work full time? What are your plans for when the baby comes? Will you have much maternity leave?

Any names for the little guy? Take care and speak soon, Valerie

kajk - Monday, 12 May
I have heard that some kids don't have a problem with it but then I have heard storied of lil boys who cried for weeks on end, super red penis, crusted over and/or ended up with infections and so forth. Then I know of a family who had a genetic problem that when their boys got to be about 8 there was some sort of issues and they all have had to have surgeries to correct tissue growing over etc. It is hard to say what will or could happen either way really. But if it is the locker room thing your worried about - really don't be - I have 8 friends with at least one or more boys and not one of them have had their kids circumsized (even if hubby is) so this next comming up generation will definantly have their 'piece' matching most others. : )
I just worry about the risks if it were to be done to my lil boys- all the what ifs and what abouts (some infections can cause serious problems that carry on through life or require major medications to fix - yikes)And (I know weird to think about but...) I have read and heard that men with foreskin have better sensation for 'pleasure' reasons too so your benefiting him in the long run for sure that way at least (if you don't go through with it, but if you do he won't know either way would he?) Just some thoughts.... what does hubby think?

tmac - Monday, 12 May
yeah like i said it's totally a topic that you pretty much are ofr or against. Personally i couldn't ever do it to my son. My finace isn't circumcised and his penis is beautiful. i think no matter what they all look funny when they are soft. My Mom had my brother done but i won't do it. The hospitals in Canada don't see it as a necessary procedure anymore so u have to pay for it to be done as well b/c they consider it cosmetic. It's a touchy subject so whatever you decide to do you'll be doing what you think is best for your child and that's all that matters. good luck with everything!!! Happy Belated Mothers day

Courtney H.ItaliaBrit - Monday, 12 May
Yeah i know prenatals are important.I'm on my second child and i feel like its my first.I'm so nervous lol.More nervous then i was with my first it seems like.I was thinking about taking flinstones.I go to the Doctors tomorrow.So maybe they will give me the right prenatal.

swede - Monday, 12 May
I am originally from Sweden. I haven't met or heard anyone that is circumsised there. I think people just going with the flow and do it because the neighbor is doing it. Just another procedure for the doctors office to charge and get more money in their pocket. I have a 6 year old boy and he is not circumsised. Why do the procedure "just in case" it gets infected... mind as well take out the appendix right away also .... "just in case" :)

tmac - Monday, 12 May
circu,cision is totally a personal decision but i hightly doubt he'll get ridiculed unless he has a super small penis! haha There's no difference once the guy is hard anyway. just make sure your man teaches him to clean it right and it's all good.

HEATMACD - Monday, 12 May
As far as worrying about the child being ridiculed as he gets older, I asked my hubby (who is UNcirced) if he EVER had this problem... He just laughed, he never recieved any negative comments about his completely intact foreskin! Also about cleaning... I am a nurse and our recommendations to new moms is to NEVER pull back the foreskin to clean the glans...the risk is MINISCULe compared to the risks of infection and hemorrhage associated with circumcision. In the end the decision is between you and your partner. And as long as you are comfortable and confident in that decision it is the right one!! GOOD LUCK AND CONGRATS

kajk - Monday, 12 May
If the asthetic reasoning is the ONLY reason... why do it?? Both my boys aren't mainly b/c when I tore the first time and had to pee on it I thought what a cruel thing to do to such a tiny person who hasn't a clue how to deal with the pain!!! Also, just about everyone I know has said the same thing... when it comes to locker room time your kid is more likely to find peers with a common looking fixture like his than not. The percentage differences will be minimal for sure! Also as for cleaning - you rarely have to pull it back to clean it as the penis has it's own special lubricants and antibacterial fighters which are only preserved when the foreskin stays intacked. YOu child is more likely to have problems with infections due to circumsizion and if someone messes up there really is no fixing it either. And you can consider this... if EVERY SINGLE boy is born with it... there must be a reason right?Just my thoughts.... hope they help you somewhat with your decision. Good luck hun.

kourtnee - Monday, 12 May
Congrats on the little BOY!!!

I had both of my boys circumsised.. And they NEVER even cried.. I did it because of the health risks. I read that bacteria can get into the foreskin and cause infections. Boys will have to learn how to care for themselves after you have to do it for like ever.. My friend has a boy who is almost a yr and a half and she never got it done.. BUT now she is going to have it removed. OUCH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! NOw he has to be put under for the surgery. Not too good for a little guy. I think that the best time to do it is as soon as possible. I think that my boys were a few days old? A week maybe??? Been awhile... But when they are that little the foreskin is soooooo small and the Dr just snips it off.. IT is not the same as female mutilation,, you are silly..

Anyways, I am getting ready for work,, UGH!! Would rather sit at home and do NOTHING.. ha ha.. How are you feeling???? I am good.. I go the the Dr wed but not too sure if they will do an u/s.....My first appointment, so Maybe.. I may have to tell them that I am not sure of the date of my last period so that they will.. Hmmm??

Talk to you soon
KOurtnee

annamomma - Monday, 12 May
I dont know personally with having a girl but my best friend chose not to circumsize her son. The only difference I think is that she has to make sure to pull the skin back while cleaning so that is little thing doesnt get an infection.

sparklyval - Sunday, 11 May
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Mommy.D - Saturday, 10 May
that is very true...the grass is always greener on the other side, but I guess i'll show in time

KarenVG - Saturday, 10 May
ooh you lucky thing having a boy! I am so so so hoping weare having a boy this time too!
Have lots of fun with him!

sparklyval - Friday, 9 May
Hello! Nearly the end of another week - I can't believe how fast time is passing at the moment.
Library work is a bit tedious (and quite frankly dull at times!). I ended up in the Computer section by accident when the University went through re-structuring and the section I worked for merged with the main computer support team. I was very apprehensive about the change, but on the whole it has been a positive move. I have learnt much more through changing job roles and I think if I had stayed working in the library field I would have got a bit stuck doing the routine things that I already knew how to do! I am not sure that I am 'techy' enough to be working in computer support, but I seem to cope with most of it and I can bluff my way through the rest! :-)

Wow! Your presentation sounds like quite an ordeal. I hate having to do anything like that. It has been quite a long time since I had to do a big presentation thank goodness. I am sure that you were relieved to get it out of the way. It annoys me that other people seem to take pleasure in trying to make others look stupid - it sounds as though you dealt with them very efficiently! Well done!

How was your ultrasound today? Did they manage to tell you what sex the baby is? I can't wait to have my next scan on 22nd May. I am definitely going to ask, although I really don't mind having a boy or a girl. I think for my husband's sake a boy would be good as I am not sure how he would cope with 4 females in the house - he is already pretty out numbered! Please let me know how you get on/got on with the scan today - scans are always so exciting!

Well, I am not sure how like your friend I am but I do love the outdoors! We live in a fairly small village in a rural area, with a field directly at the back of our garden and a canal at the front. It is lovely - very peaceful. I don't have any dogs, but we do have two guinea pigs and a hamster. I would have more pets but my husband has asthma and anything too furry makes him sneeze badly!

How are things with you and your family? What are your two children like? Are they old enough to understand about the baby or not? Are you feeling a bit better (not so squashed?) My baby has been moving about a fair bit recently, but I actually feel a bit more comfortable now which is nice....maybe everything is loosening up a bit more!
Have a great weekend. Val x

jutterback - Thursday, 8 May
I go to the doc on Monday, i will definately ask him about Nexium. This is my third baby too, it was durring my first pregnancy that i developed heart burn and pregnant or not i get it pretty bad, but right now its the worst its ever been. so thanks a bunch!

SStephanie - Thursday, 8 May
I completely agree with you about kids not being watched over and protected. My husband is actually the one who notices the most, I guess all the paternal instincts are kicking in, and it might be a girl so watch out! lol. It sickens me to see very young kids running around in the middle of the street or anywhere in public where they can be hurt or even worse abducted, and either their parents are no where in sight, or are and just don't care enough to pay attention to them. I think from what I've seen, some people just don't love or care about their children like they should as parents. A lot of what I see are the girls who get pregnant and have kids as a form of a paycheck from the government so that they don't have to work. They never wanted their kids for the right reasons, so they don't treat them like mommy's like us will. It's sad and I feel sorry for the children, but I vow everytime I see that to always protect and watch my baby no matter how busy I am. Congratulations on your 3rd baby! Wow! Any advice on the damn headaches!? Thanks!

Mikchi - Thursday, 8 May
Congratz!!!! Do u feel baby movements? I m not yet.

mrskcich - Wednesday, 7 May
Read your post about the kid walking behind the parents and them not really giving a hoot. I am the same as you.

My husband likes to say I'm over protective because I keep such a close eye on my kids. I see people like you described and it bugs me sooo bad. I end up watching their kid to make sure no one takes them or they get hit by a car. It's unreal how some parents are so clueless.

I'm with you on all of your feelings concerning people that feel their kids aren't as important as they are.

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