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shelm2 has 35 days to go and is now in week 35
	Age: 31 Country: US Province/region: City: Kansas city Partner: Josh Children: Yes, 2 Pregnant: Yes Due date: 12 Oct ,2008 Occupation: Business Continuity Analyst
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This is our third and we are shocked! I won't bore you with the details but this pregnancy was meant to be. My husband was also scheduled to get his vasectomy but due to a friend of his that has one first, and it going quite badly, he backed out of his and HERE WE ARE! There goes the guest room!

We were just so set on not having anymore that even though I am at 12 weeks I still freak out everytime I think about the fact that we are going to have another. I have a four year old and a 1 year old already. Our youngest will only be 21 months when the third one is born. We are going to have our hands full. But we love our babies more than anything in the world and have no doubt this one will be the same.

Also, I am quite lucky because a good friend of mine is also pregnant and has a due date 8 days before mine. She tends to go late and I tend to go early so who knows....

Congratulations to everyone...

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MommaChristion - Wednesday, 27 August
You have sure made me feel better. Prior to this pregnancy I had a miscarriage.. so every little thing scares me. Yeah I want to have a natural birth, since this is my first.. and I didnt come all this way for a c-section. :) Maybe a doctor will try to turn the baby.. i heard its just uncomfortable. How are things going with your pregnancy?? Other than the doctor not answering any of my questions.. I didnt have morning sickness or anything.. but now I just feel so much pressure... I dont even know if I have experienced braxton hicks. Maybe for my second baby I will know a little more about what to expect. Thanks for your help:)

mccraig - Wednesday, 27 August
That lady needs a serious whoopin. What a horrible and ignorant thing to say. Probably just jealous cause you are such a cute preggo. I'm tired of people asking me if I'm having twins. I almost hate telling people my due date because they are so shocked. I'm just carrying a big baby...not to mention a big fibroid....but that's tmi for the grocery store clerk. If I had a dollar for everytime someone said I look like I'm going to pop, I'd be rich!!!
Hope you have a good day, and ignore ignorance!

sharra - Tuesday, 26 August
Hey, have a question for you gals. How is everyones blood pressure doing? Are you seeing a rise? My pressure has been about 118/70 through out my pregnancy, now it has gone up to 125/75. Is this normal? sometimes it will be 130+/80 when I first walk into the dr office, but after I sit for awhile it is in the 120's. Anyone experiencing this and what is safe. The nurse was not too concerned , but I thought I would ask other moms and see what you all are experiencing. Thanks.

mummybecky - Wednesday, 13 August
Awww thanks for the message! I did want to "try" and be as natural as possible at the birth, but its not looking good!Oh well its not for ever and well worth it in the end! xx

mama.pete.to.be - Friday, 8 August
hey.....we have the same due date!!! i just noticed that too. cheers!!!

mama.pete.to.be - Friday, 8 August
hahaha, i know exactly how you feel. i'm a stomach and back sleeper, and it sucks to not be able to do either. i can kinda sleep on my back, but i have to totally prop myself up with pillows first otherwise it's like having a bowling ball on your stomach. good luck!!!!

jutterback - Wednesday, 6 August
my first daughter was born Aug 28 and my second was born Oct 12 so all of my pregnancys have been in the heat of summer! this has been my best pregnancy so far physically! Although im getting pretty uncomfortable now. My baby's head is up in my ribs and its like he caresses my bladder, its a weird feeling and i literally go pee stand up and have to pee again! Getting harder to put on bottoms and thank God i dont have to tie my shoes! Yesterday in the shower i almost couldnt wash my feet! and ive got two months to go!!!!

herewego - Wednesday, 6 August
Ha! Absolutely!! I try it nearly every day. I heard that more protein actually stops swelling - - - also, my mom has arthritis & she said that pineapple helps reduce swelling in joints - -- I thought she was nuts, but it worked....who would have thought. good luck!

joje - Wednesday, 6 August
yes i try to 'de-swell' before seeing the dr. i have been eating a ton of watermelon & canteloupe. also loads of water. not sure just how much it helps but----- good luck. ;)

jutterback - Tuesday, 5 August
oh yeah i had an epdidural with both of mine. I will be asking for it in the parking lot!! I never entertained the idea of going natural. I dont like pain and dont mind needles as long as they bring relief. I know myself and know that i would hate to go natural. I admire the women that can though, my mom had 4 all drug free, she is so jelous when she hears how easy it is nowadays compared to 30 years ago. With my first i was a week before my due date when i went into labor. With my second i asked to be induced, i had the mother in law "helping" me at home and told the doc that i couldnt handle it anymore and she offered to induce me and so i had her a week early. i got my epidural early and didnt feel one bit of pain the whole time. and it only took three pushes and she was out. Plus the day wasnt that long, i got put on the pitocin at 9 am and had her at 3:33 in the afternoon. where my first i was in labor for 18 hours. this time im not having the mother in law here to help, although she has been asking repeatedly, so i will be home alone with two little ones and my hubby is 30 min away and id like to have my labor scheduled so i dont risk going into a hard labor with no one to help me or take me to the hosp. Plus my second was born on Oct 12 and my baby is due oct 15 and id like to make sure he isnt born on the 12 because who wants to share their birthday with their little brother??

jutterback - Monday, 4 August
I know where Olathe is, and yes its a hot one today. Im going to take my girls swimming in a bit. Its the only way to beat the heat aside from hibernating inside with the air conditioner full blast! Thats so wonderful that you were able to have the same doctor for all of your births! I feel like an old pro being that this is my third, however i just dont know what my doctor or hospital is going to be like since i havent experienced either before. I really liked my last doctor, but she no longer accepts united healthcare insurance and my doctor before her i did not like. this is my first male doctor and im a bit nervous about that, his name is Dr. Naggy. I go in on Wed for an apt and i want to talk to him about my birth plan. We havent yet talked about that. I basically want to do a repeat of my last birth. So we will see what he has to say. He has been really great so far, but when it comes down to the big day im getting more and more nervous just because i dont know what to expect with him. I had and ultrasound today and my baby is breech still. So that makes me a bit nervous as well! but he is healthy and growing, he is right where he should be with weight - 3 lbs. So thats pretty cool.

jutterback - Friday, 1 August
Thanks for the info on air hunger! Good to know it wont last long. I noticed this is your third baby too - and you have two little girls too - and this is a boy too- and you live in my town! How cool is that!! What hosp are you going to give birth in? Im going to give birth at north kansas city hosp this time around, ive had a different doctor for each of my pregnancys due to insurance and each one used a different hosp, with my first it was providence in kansas, and my second it was st. lukes on the plaza.

sparklyval - Thursday, 31 July
Hello! Sorry that I haven't managed to write back to you straight away. I had a bit of trouble getting on to this site using my brother's laptop. In the end I had to disable the firewall to get his computer to allow me access to the site. I am missing my PC at home!!! I will do my best to write if I can, but it is proving more tricky than I thought, so don't panic if you don't hear from me for a while. I will be back home on Tuesday next week and so will be able to get back to normal then!

OK, so I have made it through about 1/2 of the time with my family intact! I feel as though I am doing well! The girls haven't been waking up too early, so I have even managed to sleep in a little bit which has been lovely. The days feel quite long even so as the girls are very out of routine and FULL on with all the family around them!!

I should have brought a camcorder to film the action in this house as it never ceases to amaze me! For example, last night my brother and his partner (the one expecting a baby in a month's time) popped over in the evening to visit. My parents were watching a recording of a tv programme that they had made that was screened during that afternoon. I sat down with my brother and his partner and my parents kept telling us too 'ssshhh' because they couldn't listen to the tv as we were talking too much!! So I said 'why not watch the programme later' (seemed logical to me) and their answer was just 'no we want to watch it now'. In the end we went and sat in another room so that we could have a chat about things. I just couldn't believe it...I maybe could have understood it a 'bit' if the programme was live on tv at the time but it was a recording!! My parents are two of the rudest people I know!! I just hope that rudeness doesn't get passed on via genetics, as I don't ever want to end up like that!!

The truth is, if my family were people that I had just met casually somewhere, then I probably wouldn't put too much effort into staying in touch with them, as there are sooo many things that BUG me! But, family is family, and much as my parents annoy me, they are still my parents....end of story! Amazingly my two girls love being here!! I dont think they can get over all the comings and goings in this house....with my parents and two brothers living here there is never a dull moment. Then my other brother has called over twice....they are lapping up the attention!!

Your family sounds very interesting - especially your brother who was a footballer. I guess things must have been very tough for him after he failed to make it professionally in the football world. Perhaps in time he will make more of his life - I can understand how you must feel frustrated. I feel like that a bit with my family! How amazing to have won the lottery - did your brother win a large amount of money? I don't know anybody here that has ever won more than just a few pounds! There's not much likelihood of me winning the lottery as we never buy any tickets. I am just too dull and practical - and look at the odds and think 'what's the point'. I guess people like your brother demonstrate that it is possible to win afterall!

How are things going at work? Do you have any windows to outside in your cube? I can't imagine working in a glass cube....the office I work in is all open plan, without much partitioning. It is just too noisy. I guess it mustn't be like that for you.

Have you heard any more from your co-worker? I hope that their 3 year old daughter is helping them to get through the pain of what happened. I remember you mentioned a long time ago that you met a girl in the ladies toilet that is expecting a baby also. Have you seen anything of her since?

With regard to your breathing, I guess your little man is leaving less room for your lungs as he grows! I read somewhere that babies tend to drop when they get to about 34 weeks, so maybe you will get a bit more room soon? Is he still breech? Have you got any more appointments/checks - I remember you being quite anxious about him having to be turned if he stayed in the breech position.

Well, I hope you are OK. I always look forward to reading your messages. You really seem to understand where I am coming from with what I say, despite the fact that I go on about things a bit much sometimes.
I will try and write again soon
Valerie xx
PS - it is 12.30am here; my middle brother has just arrived back very drunk from a night out and tripped over the computer cable - I guess some things in life just won't ever change!

Megan the lump maker - Tuesday, 29 July
I'm on reduced hours bc of my breathing--and a multitude of inhalers and allergy meds. It's horrible. The docs think I have been blessed with asthma! Can you believe it? It sucks real bad, but at least I get to leave work at 2:30 instead of 4:30 everyday. WOW--it makes such a difference mentally and physically. I actually have been smiling for the first time in a long time!

shocked - Monday, 28 July
Just got back from a week at the beach - pure relaxation!

How are you feeling? Did you get your results? I have to go to the GD class this week - I should have gone right away but we were leaving. Ever since I found out though, I've been really careful. Can't wait to start pricking my fingers 4 times a day - NOT!

With my Dr., they don't draw blood for the test, they use the glucose meter so you know everything right away. I guess different Dr.'s do it differently.

Starting to panic - my kids start back to school in 2 weeks and I'm not ready for summer to end!

JennReedy - Saturday, 26 July
thanks!

sparklyval - Friday, 25 July
Hello!
Well, that's it I have made the great escape from work!! The afternoon went so quickly after my extended lunch hour, I just didn't manage to write again. I am back home now having just finished all my daily chores (how is it there is always SO much to do around the house!!?) I can't believe it is already after 10pm and this is the first chance I have had to sit down since getting back from work. Are your days much the same?

I am sorry to hear that your baby is causing you so much discomfort. It sounds pretty bad. Luckily my baby has been head down for quite some time now. It was confirmed at the scan that she was that way around, but I had guessed as much because most of the movements I feel are at the top of my belly just below my ribcage. They don't hurt at all, just feel very strong now. Is there anything you can do to encourage your little man to turn around (standing on your head or something!)

Hey, don't feel down about work - at least you get plenty of time to use this site! I am lucky if I get chance to just read my messages some days! Do you have your own office or is it open plan? Our office is open plan without too much partitioning between the desks and it is always very noisy - people talking, moving around and one of my colleagues insists on either singing or playing music most of the time! He was playing music by the Beatles today!! Sometimes it is a nice distraction other days it is just plain ANNOYING!!

I remember you asking about my family in the last message and I never replied properly. Mum and Dad live about 3 1/2 hours by car from here - still in my home town where I went to school etc. My eldest brother John and his partner Natasha live about 6 miles away from them. They are expecting their first baby very soon - in about 5 weeks now, it is very exciting!! My two younger brothers still live at home with my parents. My youngest brother Richard is 22 years and my middle brother is 29. They are still at home for very different reasons - Richard has dyspraxia and very bad dyslexia and he isn't really in a position to live independently just yet. He is doing a hotel apprenticeship and has just passed his driving test and he seems very content to live as he is with my parents. My middle brother Philip decided to try his hand at running his own garden landscaping business for a few years. Unfortunately it was not a good venture and on top of that he spent money he didn't have on gambling (one armed bandits), alcohol, smoking and drugs. He really went off the rails for a while. He ended up in a huge amount of debt - the result of which was that my parents bailed him out by paying off the debt through re-mortgaging their house. The agreement was that he would meet the mortgage payments - which he has kept to, but it has been YEARS of payments. He is finally coming towards the end of that, but having to pay out so much for so many years has tied him to living at home. My parents have let him live there rent free, so I guess in some respects he has been lucky. In others I know that he is completely frustrated to still be living at home with his mum and dad at the age of almost 30....with nothing to show for it either! Hopefully he will be able to get back on track in the next few years.

As I think I may have told you before, I was desperate to get away from my family - I left home at 18 to go to Uni and never went back as Antony and I got married when I graduated. It was the best decision I could have made. I was living at home with 3 younger brothers and at the time I moved out Richard was only 4. Life was SO chaotic at home - my mum is not very good at organising herself let alone life with 4 kids.

Quite frankly my parents are a little bit eccentric. They are very kind, caring people, but very hard to spend time with. My mum can't stop talking - that would be great if it was interesting to listen to her, but we just have these bizarre random conversations....or she will read me the stories from the paper before I have had the chance to look at it myself. She is one of those types of people that insist on reading out the obituaries - WHY would I want to hear about people dying I have never even met?!

Also, Mum and Dad are big meat eaters and Antony and I don't eat meat at all. When we arrive there is usually not much for us to eat, so the first thing I have to do is make a trip to the supermarket to buy food! The whole duration of any visit to them involves doing ALL the cooking, which I don't mind, but it doesn't usually equate to having a break!

Antony can't stay at their house as they have two cats and he is allergic to cats. To get around this problem, I have booked one night at a hotel at each end of our visit so that Antony can drive us to their house, stay one night and then travel home. This means that I will be at my parents for the week with the girls without him. It will be quite tough as my parents don't give me any help with the girls, in the way that Antony normally does. I am sure it will be fine though....it has been 2 years since we have been to visit my parents at their house. They tend to visit us more as it much more easier that way! I figured that I should make the effort this year as I can't see it working out next year once we have the baby to take too! The last time my parents visited us was 6 months ago - in February, so I think that the girls are quite excited to be going. They keep referring to our trip as a 'holiday' LOL!

At least my parents now have got broadband installed, so at least I will be able to keep myself sane by writing to you occasionally!

Sorry, I have really gone on for ages - once I get going there is no stopping me!!

So, what have you got planned for this weekend? Tomorrow we have a party for Kate to go to, then I have a lot of packing to do ready for our visit to my parents on Sunday. On Sunday we will make the journey to the hotel, hopefully stopping off somewhere on the way to break the journey up.

I hope that your baby moves a little so that you feel more comfortable over the weekend. I will try and write again tomorrow before we leave for our 'holiday' to visit my family!!

Take care and have a good weekend,
Valerie xx

ladybugang - Friday, 25 July
Hey, I hope he is not breeched cause mine has been doing that too for like the last week or so. Poking me so hard it burns and i don't want to move. But the last couple of days it has been fine. check with the doctor but i think it may be normal. He is getting bigger and it is harder for them to move around.

boogies mom - Friday, 25 July
I think your baby poking out is too cute and can't wait to see body parts from my lil bundle...though I know that's not what you wanted to hear right now, lol.

I have seen a few times to get the baby to move, put a bag of frozen peas or meat on the spot where the baby is. It gets them moving and turning. I hope this helps you!!! Good luck!!!

sparklyval - Friday, 25 July
Hi Sarah!
No, I am absolutely fine thank you. Just trying to fit too much in to too little amount of time (as always!!). Things will definitely be so much calmer from now onwards as today is my last day at work. I won't be back until September 2009!! It sounds like such a long time but I know that the time will pass by very quickly! I am SO looking forward to the 6 weeks of uninterrupted time I will have with Bethan and Kate from now on. No rushing for school or days at work. It will be lovely to be unhurried and to find different ways of spending our time. The next 6 weeks is time for THEM - before the baby comes. We have a lot planned already and I know the time will go very quickly, but I intend to make the most of every day!!

I keep wondering if I will miss being at work, what do you think! !

Hang in there with your work - everything will be fine when your little man arrives. There are only about 10 weeks or so left now until our due dates - this last part is always the hardest and EVERYTHING seems much more difficult when you are heavily pregnant, so it is no wonder that you are struggling in the mornings. Do you get any vacation/holiday time? I was wondering if you would save any leave you may have to take when the baby arrives or if you would be able to get a break before then?

With regard to plans for the next 6 weeks, well on Sunday we go to my parents and I will be staying with them for a week with Bethan and Kate. Antony is staying at home as he is keeping his leave for when the baby arrives. He is joining us for a couple of nights so that we can take the girls to Legoland, which is a great 'theme park' for small children....not on the scale of Disneyland or anything, but it is fun as everything is based around the lego theme. I will be back home on Weds 06th August. We have about 3 weeks at home and then we are on vacation between Tues 26th August-Sunday 07th Sept. The girls start back at school on Monday 08th Sept!!
Most of the time I will still have access to a computer/internet connection so I will be able to keep writing to you.
I am going to have to finish writing to you this afternoon as it is lunch time now and I am meeting up with a few colleagues for a farewell drink over lunch. More later!!!

Hope you are having a good day!
Valerie x

sparklyval - Thursday, 24 July
Hi Sarah!
How are you doing? I have been thinking about you a lot since you wrote about your colleague last week. I hope that you are coping OK. Have you spoken to your colleague at all? I am guessing that he will be absent from work for a while. I just can't imagine how you get over something like that, but life has to carry on somehow. I am sure that you will be able to bring him some comfort.

I have got SO behind with writing to you!! I am sorry. I have had a really crazy two weeks or so. I think partly it is because Friday is my last day at work (HURRAH!!) and I have had a lot of things that I must finish off and hand over before I disappear. On top of that Bethan and Kate are finishing school and nursery this week and that has brought along another set of tasks that have to be done - like making thankyou cards and buying gifts for the teachers. Only two more days to go and then I can relax a little more!!

(Having said that I am going to visit my parents with the girls for 10 days, which will most definitely NOT be relaxing!!)

The 3D scan was a fantastic experience and I am glad that we managed to find the money so that we could go. The girlies enjoyed seeing the baby, but to be honest got bored about half way through the appointment. The baby wasn't lying in a great position so sometimes the view wasn't so good and I think the girls got fed up with the start/stopping of the ultrasound. However, it was a wonderful experience for Antony and I!!

Today has been so funny as I went to pick up my recently ordered new glasses. The pair I wear at the moment I have had for 4 years. My prescription hasn't really changed as my eyesight is reliably BAD, but thankfully doesn't seem to deteriorate. I have been putting off buying new glasses as they cost me a small fortune, but sadly the ones I had been wearing had become incredibly badly scratched - to the point where I seemed to be looking out through a kind of hazy fog. I think that the anti-reflection coating had deteriorated (they tell me that it is just wear and tear, but I am not so convinced). Anyway, to cut a long story short I finally took the plunge and spent the money on a new pair. I collected them during my lunch hour and nearly freaked out in the opticians when I saw in the mirror what I really look like!! The scratches on my old glasses have disguised how much I have aged recently!! The skin on my face looks so old and wrinkly - I couldn't believe it when I saw my reflection!! Now I really MUST invest in a good facial skin cream!!

In fact, the whole world looks quite different through my new glasses and it is taking a bit of getting used to!!

I have just noticed that it is midnight!! I have to go now and put in to envelopes the cards that Bethan has made ready to take to school tomorrow. I will write again tomorrow as there was so much more I needed to catch up with!
I hope you are feeling OK?
Take care, love Val x

catamy - Wednesday, 23 July
I did talk to my doctor about it and was told that I was allowed to travel till 36 weeks of my pregnancy. Also that to walk the 15mins for every hour. I'm not to worried because I'll push the seat of the car all the way back and put my feet up on the dashboard if it bothers me too.

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