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socalgal
Age: 36
Country: US
Province/region: California
City: Los angeles
Partner: John
Children: Yes, 2
Pregnant: Not anymore
Occupation: Attorney by day, Binge-Eating Belly-Acher by night!
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I am a second-time mother-to-be that is embarking on a journey through uncharted territory. While my first pregnancy was a glorious and complication-free experience (can you believe I didn't even have any morning sickness?!!), this pregnancy has been the opposite in almost every respect. I am already high-risk due to my age, but in addition I was diagnosed as having marginal placenta previa and an incompetent cervix at my 23 week appointment. I was ordered by my doctor to go on bed rest immediately for the remainder of my pregnancy and four weeks later, my placenta and cervix are both perfect! Yay! It seems that the real problem was that I was overdoing it and that with the bed rest, I am doing much better. So I am still on bed rest, but now I am allowed to do relaxing things that I enjoy---like going to church, the movies, the spa. I am so very happy and can't wait to meet my precious little girl!

Monday, Cinco de Mayo

It has been quite a while since I updated my profile and lot has happened. Currently, I am playing the waiting game. I am two days away from being 38 weeks and I am wondering if all my suffering through bedrest and pre-term labor scares was for nothing and this baby is going to come out after my due date just like my son!

On the bright side, I have been able to get so much done. The baby has her crib and changing table all set up. I read all the brochures for all her gear and put everything together. Her clothes, etc are all washed and ready for her. Our bags are packed. We traded in my coupe for a small SUV, so Baby Alexandria even has a new car just for her! The house is about as clean as it is going to get. I handled a bunch of annoying personal tax issues and even finally went to Social Security and changed my name to my hubby's and got my new card in the mail. All my big projects at work have been completed too and I hardly have anything to work on these days. . . I've even sent all my thank you notes for the millions of gifts Baby Alexandria has received and I have addressed and stamped all the envelopes for her Birth Announcements. Now I am just waiting for the stats and a picture so I can get those in the mail too. . . Oh Baby when are you going to come and meet Mommy??!!!!

Sunday, 23 Mar
I had my 31 week appointment on Friday and it went fine. She did not do an exam, but she said she trusts me to be the judge of how I am doing and said that I can finally start doing more activities if I want. I have been begging her to let me do prenatal yoga, so that I can stretch and build up my strength. I cannot wait to start that on Monday.
I am so very happy and excited! I am feeling really great! I only wish my doctor would see me more often for additional reassurance. She still said she didn't want to see me until four weeks, which I think is weird. That would put me at 35 weeks and I did have those scary complications earlier. . . We compromised and she is seeing me at 34 weeks.
Friday, 22 Feb
Yay! I had my 27 week appointment with my doctor today and she said my cervix is closed and my placenta is fine. I am so happy! I can now do some relaxing activities as long as I go straight to bed if I feel any pressure or discomfort. This is so wonderful!

Friday, 8 Feb
Yesterday was hubby `s B-Day, so I cheated a bit and made him dinner and brownies for dessert. We are having a small party for him tomorrow night with about 20 guests. It was originally going to be at a restaurant, but we moved it to our place after I was put on bed rest. I am pretty excited. We moved a daybed into the living room, so that someone else can actually sit and enjoy the living room while I am laying down too, and I am pleasantly surprised by how nice it looks. I thought it would obstruct my big picture window in the front, but it doesn `t and I actually like the way it looks. Last night, my hubby, my son and I ALL got to lay down and watch TV comfortably together. It was so relaxing and fun!
Tuesday, 5 Feb
Today is a good day. Yesterday, my telephone service went out, so I had no Internet service. That was pretty rough. But it was restored first thing this morning. Yay!
I had an appointment with my parentologist yesterday, and of course, he contradicted just about everything my OB/GYN said. He said my placenta looks fine (yay!) and that he would not diagnose me as having an incompetent cervix, because my cervix is still a 4.2, and because I carried my first child for 41 weeks no problem. I don `t want to get my hopes up, because a couple of things he said do not make sense. First, I have read in multiple places that a difficult labor can cause I/C and he does not believe that. Second, he did not conduct a vaginal ultrasound, and I have read that is the only way to really check the cervix for I/C. Finally, my cervix was a 6 when I started, so even though a 4.2 is `normal, ` it still represents a loss of nearly 2 cms in less than two weeks--while on bed rest!
He was adamant about me staying on bed rest and "pelvic rest," which wouldn't make send if he really though everything was so normal. So anyway, it was very good news, and I a am cautiously optimistic. He said to have the fetal fibronectin test done by my OB/GYN so I will do that and also have her do a vaginal ultrasound at my next appt. on the 22nd. Until then, hanging in there! One of my friends is coming for a visit bringing lasagna for us for dinner tonight. Thank God for all the wonderful women in my life. No matter how hard my hubby tries, us women are just so much better at taking care of each other!
Sunday, 3 Feb

GRUMPY, GRUMPY, WEEPY, GRUMPY. . . I have been a real bundle of emotions lately. My poor hubby--I don `t know how much longer he will be able to put up with me. Today, a friend is coming and bringing her girls to play with my son while we chat. Hopefully, it will cheer me up to hang out with a good friend. My husband is not a real talker--we have always enjoyed DOING things together more than sitting around talking about our feelings. So it seems without being able to see my friends often, I am a little too pent up with feelings that have no outlet. Ugh! I have 24.5 weeks under my belt. I will be so happy if the baby and I can hang in there until 30 weeks. It seems like that is such a magic number where you still have a preemie but it is not so bad. 5.5 weeks just seems like an eternity for me right now. . .

Thursday, Jan 31

Today was a pretty nice day. A few of my friends from work took a long lunch and came and brought me yummy Thai food. The food was great, but the conversation was even better. I had forgotten how wonderful it is to sit and chat in a room full of wonderful women!

I have my gestational diabetes blood test tomorrow. It will be my first time venturing out in several days since I have been on bed rest. I am a little nervous about that. I am paranoid that sitting up for any length of time will put strain on my cervix. Wish me luck!

Wednesday, 30 Jan

Day 5 of Bed Rest: 24 Weeks today! I woke up with such a joyful spirit today. I think every day that goes by, I realize that bed rest is not nearly as bad as I feared, and I also feel more confident that everything is going to be just fine. I think at first, it was so hard because I had never even heard of incompetent cervix and when I read about it after my diagnosis I was terrified. But so many lovely women have shared their positive experiences with me since then, and I realize that this is not that uncommon and plenty of women go on to delivery healthy babies. I also have such a wonderful hubby who is quickly adapting to the new routine---by routine I mean that he is doing EVERYTHING--the cooking, cleaning and caring for our five year old when he gets home from work. How lucky am I???!

Tuesday, 29 Jan

Day 4 of bedrest. It wouldn `t be so bad if the electric company hadn `t decided to turn out my power for 6 hours for `routine maintenance. `. When I can work from my laptop and/or watch TV the days move surprisingly quickly. My baby girl kicks a lot. Almost all day and all night. It is so constant that I wonder if she even gets any sleep. I find it so reassuring though. I feel like it is her way of letting me know she `s there and doing great. Right now she is kicking high--near my belly button. Those are my favorite. When I feel her kicks way down low into my pelvis I get nervous and fear that the bed rest is not working. I want her, my placenta and everything else to move up and stay put!

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ninavedicci - 26.3 hours ago
Yeah Socal- Don't feel bad about your weight, bed rest hurt me pretty bad too. I lost 26lbs already and I still have 30 to go. You will loose it in due time, I know it sucks because it's Summer time. I just try to snack healthy and eventually it will come off. Nursing will help to in the long run. I love my Marli though she has something new for me everyday. Makes me wanna do it all again.


heidichristine - 35.2 hours ago
your work idea sounds great. you're not trapped in the office or anything and you can still nurse. it sounds like a really good schedule. who will watch alex while you're gone? fortunately i dont have to work. i was a student before, and i will go back to school when im ready, maybe in the fall, prob next spring. we just live off my husbands income and budget a lot. we dont buy hardly anything thats not essential and we never go out. but we're home bodies, so we dont mind. we are trying to buy a home, though. we are suppose to start escrow today on a home in westminster 1 block from hb. its a fixer, but a nice area. what is that 40 day milestone?...im curious


niseybear - Monday, 7 July
Mo turned 7 months on the 4th of July! Where the heck did the time go??? He's such a BIG boy now! Although we had trouble in the Walmart buggy today. Don't think mommy had his little belt placed correctly. He fell to the side twice, but luckily never hit his head. He's in his new Britax car seat and it's SO much easier getting him in and out. I wanted to buy myself something for my birthday on Friday, but Walmart didn't have the DVD I wanted so I purchased some more clothes for Mo. If I can't buy for me then I will ALWAYS buy for Mo. I got him a puzzle that makes sounds when you put the pieces back in. It's so neat. It's called Farm Animals Puzzle. Got it for $10 at BELK'S.
I hope all of you are well. Take care!


heidichristine - Saturday, 5 July
when do you go back to work? are they flexible hours? you're right, today at the bbq, zeke just loved looking at the trees! it was so funny how he was totally staring at them. he has a cold right now. its so sad! hope youre having a good 4th


ninavedicci - Saturday, 5 July
Hey chica, how's my Boricua sister doing on the west coast? I hope all is well with you and the baby :-)


heidichristine - Thursday, 3 July
hey how have you been? i love breastfeeding, im so glad i stuck with it. zeke is growing up so fast, hes 12 pounds. what do you do with alex when she awake? im running out of ideas and when he gets bored he fusses. hes been spitting up a lot recently, is that normal for a bf baby? also, how do i know if hes allergic to something im eating? every morning he grunts and fusses, and i think its gas. he does fart like a full grown man, beets my farts any day. what do you think? let me know how you're doing, i miss talking to you.


Cherryb0m - Sunday, 29 June
i thought that it was something i was eating too, which made me feel even worse. i felt like it was my fault that she was in so much pain. she screamed for 13 hrs on saturday, so we finally went to the dr. but my diet is pretty healthy. i thought it might be dairy products, but i dont really eat any. the only thing i might eat is cereal with milk & that is very rare. turns out poor little thing has acid reflux really bad! now she's on baby prevacid. dr said to keep her propped up 30 min after she eats and to try not to lay her flat on her back as much as possible (ha thats hard with a sleeping baby). she also said to prop one side of her crib up so she sleeps at an angle. so far its working, but i'm also going to quit eating dairy too.


aubreyd08 - Saturday, 28 June
haha! that's my next step - She was definately not having the formula!!!! she's a happy little camper today though.. she finally see's the "other side" of formula vs breastmilk!! haha!


brown-eyes - Saturday, 28 June
 that is a funny picture!!!


posie - Friday, 27 June
Unfortunately (or fortunately depending on how you look at it) I am nursing. That's so funny because my youngest daughter (now 8) nursed till she was about 2 yrs as well! She DID NOT want to stop!
My chest isn't too bad (probably a D) but I just have tons to lose. I may decide not to go (isn't that just vain? ) I only know a few people well. I know who they all are but I would just feel so self conscious. I have like 50 lbs to lose! I couldn't lose nearly that much but even 20 would make a big difference. I would probably at least look only a "little" overweight. Nursing is making my appetite go crazy! I'm even eating my fingernails
When did Alex start smiling? I think Leland gave me a half smile yesterday. Can't wait!


niseybear - Friday, 27 June
Just wanting to say hello to you all. I hope each of you are well. Mo is no longer in an infant carrier. We moved him to his big boy car seat this week and I LOVE it! It's a Britax Diplomat and it's one of the best investments we've made! I went to the Sheriff's office to have it checked out and was told to follow Britax's instruction on forward and rear facing. I'm going to be turning Mo around VERY soon. It says to do it when he's over 20 pounds. The officer told me at first to keep him rear facing as long as possible but when his assistant read the side of the car seat he said nevermind follow Britax's instructions, they know that they're talking about! Took Mo shopping at Walmart yesterday and for the first time he got to sit in the buggy in the front! WOW! Such a big boy!! He reached for everything on the shelves. Even got a loaf of bread down when mommy wasn't looking! I had one of the buggy covers in it and it has toys on there for him, but Mo was more interested in what was on the shelf.

Well, I hope all of you are good. I haven't received messages in about 3 days and I hope everything is okay.

Blessings to you all!

Denise


mommyballs - Thursday, 26 June
hello there sweety, how are you and alexandria doing? alexis n i are good, ses getting big, i miss chatting with you, dont get much time on here, but wanted to pop in n let you know i was thinking of you n see how you were. the hubby should be here in a little over a week im so excited!

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Posie - Wednesday, 25 June
HAH! I still have a bit to lose (I mean tons!) and I have a reunion to go to in August! I used to weigh 120 lbs and no one will recognize me

So I need to get rid of this weight and QUICK! We're doing really well too. Leland sleeps pretty good at night and he takes nice long naps during the day. Sometimes he's a little fussy (GAS) but mostly he's a doll. He hasn't smiled yet, except sleep smiles. He giggled in his sleep once and it was adorable! How's Alex? Is she smiling yet? I read it could be any time now. So glad you're doing well. You look great in your pics. Even when you just had the baby! No fair!


pinkb00h - Wednesday, 25 June
Oh man.. 46 hours?! I would have died! Did you do it all naturally?? I probably would have took longer if I went through L&D naturally. I got stuck at 2cm, until they gave me the pitocin. That sped everything up. And then I think getting the epi kind of helped speed things up a bit more, cuz even though it still hurt like a bish, it didn't hurt AS BAD as it did before. Just kind of took the edge off (they really didn't do the stupid epi right in the first place.. What a bunch of poop heads!!)


pinkb00h - Wednesday, 25 June
Geez. You had super fast delivery then! I hope my next one (not for a loong time though!) will be just as quick. I was hoping my first would be quick, cuz my mom never went over 6 hours of labor start to finish with any of her 3 kids, but I didn't get that! But then, 12 hours is quick for a rookie lol. So I'm glad about that - at least it wasn't the "average 36 hours"!

No worries about your hubby not wanting to listen and being stubborn.. Most men are like that!! ESPECIALLY if it's a WOMAN advising against or for something!! I've found that with my hubby.. I tell him one thing, and he's stubborn and won't do it, or does it, depending on what it is, and then as it turns out..I was right!! Ahh well. His problem then, not yours!

Alyvia and I are great!! She's been cranky the past few days, but it's nothing I can't handle. I'm so happy I get to stay home with her all day long. As boring as it gets, I'd rather be here with her, then have to be getting ready to go back to work! And yep, I've gotten the hang of nursing. The first 2 weeks were REALLLLLLY hard, cuz of how bad my nipples were hurting me. But I stuck through it, and now it's amazing! The only time it hurts is when she first latches on, for just a few seconds, then after that, I can only feel her tugging on my nipple. I love how it's a special bonding time for her and I, and nobody else can do it with her. I've got turbo-charged breastmilk, too! A week after we brought her home, she had gained 1.9 lbs from birth! (she went from 7.13 to 7.4 in the hospital) and then we took her to the DR 2 weeks after that, and she went from 8.13 to 9.14!! The DR even said that she's "OVER-ACHIEVING"!! hahah! So she's definitely not lacking by any means!



hoosiermommy - Wednesday, 25 June
Hi! How are you and baby Alex getting along??? Things going ok??

We're doing well for the most part - I survived the hubby's 10-day business trip, with a little help and a few family visits! He's actually away again now, but just for two days this time. Michael and I are having fun getting out and around much more lately. He had his two-month checkup last week and is nearly 13 pounds and 23 1/2 inches now. He got four shots and did very well. He has some mild torticollis (his neck is always turned to the left and he favors that side) and will need a little physical therapy, but I'm not overly worried. He is really smiling for us now, kicking up a storm and is just generally adorable! My wonderful hubby gave me "night off" last week - I had a massage and then spent the night in a hotel alone to get a good night's sleep. It was great, but I did miss my little man! Still, it was good for Patrick to bond with the baby on his own for a night, and for me to remember that I'm still a person in addition to being a mommy! Honestly, I have mixed emotions about the thought of having another baby. Some days I think no way after the bed rest and all the complications, but other days, I think maybe I could do it again. I do miss feeling a baby growing inside me! We're going to wait until next spring and see how we feel then. If I got pregnant again then, that would put me having a second child right around age 40, and I don't really want to go beyond that. We both like the idea of adopting if we decide not to try for another pregnancy of our own. How about you?

Hope all's well with you... :)


posie - Tuesday, 24 June
 SO SWEET! I love the baby pictures! CONGRATS!!


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Photos
 (2008, 01, 30) Hubby and I on our big day! (2008, 05, 05) My son about 18 months--already a character! (2008, 05, 06) My Little Man at about Age 2 (2008, 05, 06) Here is My Love Today! (2008, 05, 06) For Anyone Who Thinks Breastfeeding Isn`t Enough! (2008, 05, 06) Soooo tired, but thrilled to finally hold my baby girl in my arms! (2008, 05, 28) Baby Alexandria (2008, 05, 28)  (2008, 05, 28) Grandma is in love! (2008, 05, 28)

Children
My-First-Love (2002) Alexandria-Elise (2008)


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