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Mommy2twogreatkids - 26.3 hours ago
Hi we too are pegnant with twins. I too have two older children already so we will have four. Wxciting huh???

Caracaya - Thursday, 15 May
I'd recommend using the magical internet to order some glass or BPA-free bottles. Why stress out? Just a few clicks and they'll send you some.

Jennifer - Wednesday, 14 May
Thanks so much for responding to my question...My only other concern is when reading about trisomy 18 one of the symptoms is having clenched fist...and on both my sonos the babys right hand was in a fist and we didnt see him open it..Im trying to stay postive,and as far as I know all my other test came back just fine.. so, im not going to be content till my little guy comes out and I see him for myself...:)

alexaliff - Sunday, 11 May
I agree with these other ladies. You and your other half have your own family to consider now. And she has no place to treat you the way that she is. He should stand up to his mother, get the things that he needs to move in properly. If it was my husband and my MIL I would want him to tell her to treat you with some respect too. Your MIL sounds like a nightmare. Good luck.

Amberizzle - Sunday, 11 May
Your DH needs to let the MIL Monster from Hell know that he's old enough to make his own decisions. He needs to grow a pair and go over there, get HIS stuff, and move in for real. I would also try to cut off all contact with this woman -- trying to bribe him with money to leave you and your kids for her?? Obviously she's a completely manipulative, psychotic bitch and needs to be left alone with the voices in her head.

nancy26 - Sunday, 11 May
Honey, I don't know how old your DH is... but you guys have got to stop letting your MIL dictate to you. I'd arrange a moving van to go over to his house, and just call and tell her that you're moving the stuff out. My MIL is not nearly as bad as yours... I still think she dislikes me somewhat because I "whirlwinded" her only son into a marriage, which I'm sure she thought at the time was for convenience or thought I was pregnant... she only now seems to be accepting me (also 3 years down the line), but loves to hold these little power struggles. You can't let your MIL win. They love these power struggles, and they love to have something to hold over your head! I spoke to my MIL for the first time in 3 years on the phone last week... you've got to declare yourself alpha, here hon. She might be his mother, but his time there as her little boy is over, and she needs to deal with that. I strongly sympathise with you, but the more the two of you cow-tow to her and let her get away with "hoarding" his stuff, the more powerful she feels and it will just reinforce the fact that she thinks your DH will go back to live there.

gr8scottswife - Wednesday, 7 May
I would not even let MIL know I was in labor just to keep her away. What nerve! She can enjoy the labor but scorn you. The Bible says, "Blessed is he who does not sit in the seat of the scornful." Stay as much away from her as possible, and don't even mention to her anything about your baby from here on out.

nich-vegas-mommy2be - Wednesday, 7 May
your MIL sounds way too much like mine! They must be related somehow...

Amberizzle - Wednesday, 7 May
About your MIL... how to tell her not to come? Be a complete bitch, that's how! Obviously this woman has no tact or concern for how you feel, so it's time for you to act the same way. Maybe then she'll get the hint. Tell her straight up that she will NOT be in the delivery room and that you have told the staff not to let anyone but your husband in. I would also confront her about the statement concerning having your tubes tied and tell her that your husband will not be separating from you and she can kiss that ugly little dream goodbye. I'd also mention that "no one approves of you" comment and tell her to her face that you don't need her approval or anyone else's... your husband's is good enough for you! Honestly, she's never going to understand anything else than brutal, painful honesty.

lacilynn6 - Wednesday, 7 May
 oh my goodness you can see them both so well! how sweet!

lacilynn6 - Wednesday, 7 May
haha i was just telling my friend i hope he tells me to go to the hospital that im ready to start pushing! lol thanks!

dancinmama - Tuesday, 8 April
Thanks for the message about the shower! I agree, each baby can be special and deserves some pictures of how we celebrated his/her life before being born in the baby book! (It just helps to know that there ARE others out there having showers for more than their first and I'm not being greedy!) Congratulations on twins!

kaf - Monday, 24 Mar
hey thanks for your comments on the twin page it made me feel better.Your MIL sounds crazy like my in laws.I think you such just refuse her presence in the delivery room.You don`t need all the negetive feelings that day.good luck

SmurfWxMama - Saturday, 22 Mar
Yeah I think if we would have had another girl he would have insisted on some kind of compensation too! Our dog is maile so we'd have had to get another one I'm sure!
We're just really happy cause his mom had all boys, and so far there has only been grand daughters so we figured they were just all busted or somethin, lol, but now we know they can have boys too!! :-)

SmurfWxMama - Friday, 21 Mar
Oh my god poor man!! My friend is pregnant with her 3rd girl and she threatens to build a guest house so she can live in it by herself when the girls are all teenagers! I'm glad I found out I'm having a boy, so I just went online the other day and just finished them all in one night so now I can relax and just let it go, plus think my MIL is doing a shower for me when I visit the states in 2 1/2 weeks so it's good to have it done now, but watch I'll get nothing on my registry, isn't that how it always works!

mommy2bmay08 - Tuesday, 18 Mar
Hi,
I just read your post about MILs. I can't even imagine! Have you discussed this with DH that you don't want her there? I would try and tell him that I wouldn't be comfortable with anyone but him there and if he could please explain to his mom that you have BOTH changed your mind expecially because it is twins and there are more risks for complications and that you would also like it to be an imtimate moment for the 2 of you and your babies considering this will be the one and only time you will be alone together with them (as you have 2 others blah blah). If he explains it that way it shouldn't hurt her fellings - not that it should matter. I hope he realizes what is involved for you and he should make you comfortable no matter who it will hurt that day. Good Luck!!

SmurfWxMama - Tuesday, 18 Mar
Well for my registry I kind of started as soon as I found out really, I was trying to syke myself up since hubby was not happy at the time, you can start it whenever you feel like it and just add to it over time, you might not remember everything at once or see something later you'd really love to have added. And if you do them in most stores they will give you some little cards that you can write your information on to stick them in the invites, and I think some invites might even have spots for them already, if they don't they should! I think I just wrote it at the bottom of my invites for my first pregnancy, not sure how this one is going to go so we'll see in a few weeks!
And I am with you about feeling lost on having a boy, I want one this time, but I have a girl and I'm just thinking how much easier it was with her and so now I'm flip flopping back and forth, god has his own plan so we'll see how it goes! Take care of yourself!

teenmama22 - Monday, 17 Mar
To answer you about the registery. I started mine when i was about the week you are... But it depends on where you go. I have mine at Target and the seasons change. So i just recently had to go and re do it because all the spring stuff came in. My shower is in two weeks. Anytime really is a good time. Whenever you feel you want to... Oh and make sure and put some things on there for you like spa type things. Just cause you deserve it! Well good luck.

socalgal - Monday, 17 Mar
I'm so sorry you are going through this. Try to see it as a growing experience. I have changed so much since becoming a mom, and I am sure you have too. I used to worry about everyone else's feelings and tried to make everyone else happy all the time. Now, I put my children first, which means putting myself first too, because I have to be at my best to be the best mother I can be.

During delivery of twins, you cannot afford to be stressed out about your MIL. Your twins need you to be at your best. So yOu should have nobody around you that stresses you out--whether that's your MIL, DH or your own mom--you should only have people there who make you feel safe, calm and loved. It sounds to me that the solution is clear, just not easy to do. YOu have to put your foot down and in no uncertain terms tell your husband that his mother is NOT going to be there. Then, you will need to tell the hospital staff that she is not allowed in unless you, not your husband, say she can come in. Explain what happened last time and that this would be 100% unacceptable to you if the hospital violates your rights by permitting entry by unauthorized visitors. Putting it in writing on your admin form would be best, because then they will worry about liability.

Your husband is probably not going to want to deal with his mother, so that will be the challenge--telling him that you need and expect his support and that anything less than following your wishes is unacceptable. He will probably be upset for a while, but he has honor the fact that when a man marries he separates from his mom and is joined to his wife and both your parents are supposed to respect that. If not, it is both of your responsibilities to forcefully set those boundaries.

Good luck! Hopefully, in the end this works out well and finally establishes better boundaries with you, your husband and your MIL going forward. I am sure that if she did that at the hospital last time, she has done plenty of other things that are not acceptable to you and that this needs to stop.

bittybop - Monday, 17 Mar
Tell DH you are not having his mother in the L&D room and that he needs to let her know that. SOON! He needs, however to emphasize to his mother, this is not just you wanting this, but him as well. Good luck. Men kinda suck at dealing with their mothers. If she has a problem with it, let her know yourself, that you wish to only have your hubby in the room during delivery. I would be infuriated with my hubby if he did that to me! MIL's can cause lots of stress so you need to go ahead and nip this in the bud now. You don't want to have to worry about this the whole pregnancy. Husband needs to be clear that there are to be NO guests in your room, including his mother, unless YOU request their presence specifically. If that woman dares to enter that room before you have had a moment to with your new baby, have hubby send her directly out and he can let her know that he will call her back when it is time. Ugh, all of this just irritates me so. I have had my share of probs with my MIL. I have realized though, that when it comes to MY family, MY body, MY baby, it is okay to have things MY way. Things have gotten better with my MIL since I have put my foot down and put my own best interests first. I finally had to realize I don't care if I come off selfish, this is my life and I am going to make choices that are best for ME! Whew, good luck.

kelly714 - Monday, 17 Mar
Oh yeah, by the way....I am SHOCKED to read your blog and see what your MIL has said to you. I cant believe you still speak to her. I cant understand why anyone would tell someone that god doesnt want their child to live??? What?? I just dont get it? Sounds like an evil person to me. We all have had bad things happen to us(her daughter) and lots of us have had crummy lives, but the things she has said are SHOCKING!! Is she mentally ill? I meant that seriously..does she have some mental illness? When you get to the hospital tell them who she is and that she is not allowed in until YOU say so, PERIOD. Tell your husband to get a spine and stand up to his mama and respect your wishes. His first obligation is to YOU now!!!



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