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Laura Ward - Monday, 6 October
Message to all This may be interesting to some of you. Seema`s email is seema.modhvadia@rdftelevision.com

Hi there,

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nimzm2b - Friday, 1 August
Hi congratulations to U 2!! I've only had him a week but I couldn't live without him now that he's here.

jobird - Monday, 7 July
Hey tina, sorry to hear this news. You're probably already hormonal as hell and didn't need this right now. You know what though? You can do this without him in your life. It's sad that he decided to take the "easy" way out claiming he's not ready. No one is ready. My mom had me when she was 18 and my dad was not around (at least your BF is asking to stay in the baby's life) and my mom did the best she could. She did it by herself (well, my family was around) and I turned out ok!!!

Try to stay strong and positive! You'll make it through - women always do. Hang in there!

carolynjh - Monday, 7 July
Oh honey, I'm sorry you have to go through this when it is one of the happiest times as well. Just know we are all here for you and stick with your family. Men have a hard time with all of this, that's why they don't have the babies! Take care, relax, and enjoy your little one and your family. XOXO

almostthere - Monday, 7 July
My son's father was so not ready for a child and ended up leaving me shortly after my son's birth. He loves my son very much but he dealt with his insecurity by ditching our relationship. It was so incredibly hard to deal with. You spend so much time romantasizing your life together with baby and then you find out that you have no real support. I know it sucks a lot, but you have to be stong and focus on any little positive that you can find. I try very hard to accept many of the decisions that my son's father makes, even though I don't think he makes good choices, but having a 6 year old now, I can see how important it is that we get along for his sake. Lean on your friends and family for support - that's what they are for. Take walks outside and enjoy the fresh air. Read books with a positive message and just work on building a life that you know will make you happy - 1 day at a time. Good luck and stay strong - that's what mom's do. :)

mamakristin - Monday, 7 July
That is pretty shitty of him. I cant believe he would do that for you know. But you have to be strong for your little one, and as much as you dont want to, If that guy is willing to be in his baby's life, then by all means let him. Everyone needs a dad. Im so sorry again. Just stay calm and try to relax.

number2intheoven - Monday, 7 July
I can understand your hurt and not wanting to do this alone...but you have to remember that you have an innocent child that didn't ask for the mess to begin with and deserves both parents. My son's father and I aren't together either and it's hard to think of how things will be but we can do this!!! It'll be ok. Your little baby will fill you with so much joy. I'm not going to say you won't feel hurt or angry or that it's not ok to feel that way, because you will and it's perfectly healthy. If you need to talk, just let me know!!!

Mommad - Monday, 7 July
Stay strong ma!

sandie - Monday, 7 July
I think that he is scared and the only thing to clear his mind is to leave. Well its not like your not scared too. some men find it easier to leave instead of facing the fear. I bet he will change once he sees his son. You are not the only one that will be a single mom. there are plenty of us here and are willing to talk. I am going on number 2 and single again. its hard, but we have to put our needs aside and do whats best for baby. hope u feel better soon.

sunshine78 - Monday, 7 July
when i was pregnant with my first son 5 years ago, my hubby strayed away the closer it got to the big day. it's just a life changing experience and it's about to become a reality and he might be a little scared right now, just like you are. men deal with their emotions differently then we do. but i bet when you go into labor and he gets that phone call that IT'S TIME he will be by your side and when the baby is born he will realize that everything is gonna be ok. i think he's just panicking now. but good luck to all 3 of you.

CareG - Monday, 7 July
You can do this, honey. Everything, EVERYTHING happens for a reason....even if it's a reason you don't understand for years to come. There are obviously lots of us on here, who will listen if you need to vent. Use the support system that you have, instead of hurting yourself by mourning the one that you don't. Of course that's easy for all of us to say, as we're not going through it. But you CAN do this. Just remember that!

xx

newmommyj - Monday, 7 July
just remember, you will have your little boy soon to fill the hole in your heart. it might just be jitters, and he might come around, but either way, that baby will need both his mother and father in his life. if the father wants to be in the babies life, it will be hard on you, but you shouldnt punish your son. i wish you the best of luck, and hope everything works out for you.

MelisaK - Monday, 7 July
I am so sorry. This is not the time to be going through this. Right now, as hard as it is, you need to focus on you and the baby. You cannot worry about your BF. He is making his own bed....he is going to miss out on what would have been the best memories of his life. That is not your fault...it is his. My dad was never apart of my life but I had an incredible stepdad who treated me as his own. And he was my biological dads brother! I know...screwed up!!! It took me a LONG time to realize that my dad had his own issues that had nothing to do with me. So I had to let him go and choose not to have him in my life. My life has been much better since then. So don't think this is the end of the world...it may be a blessing in disguise. If you need to vent any further I will be more than glad to listen!!!

BabyRose1 - Monday, 7 July
I am so sorry for what your ex-boyfriend is doing to you. I can not believe he would do such a thing at this point in your pregnancy. Doesn't he understand that he is putting both you and your son in danger by adding this unnecessary stress at such a time in your life? All I can say is try to think of your unborn son at this time. He will be the beacon that you need to get you through the tough times. I saw that you had a picture of you and your mother posted on your page. Hopefully you two are close and you can get some guidance from her as well. Stay strong!

ragskusa24 - Monday, 7 July
I feel terrible for you. I can't even begin to understand what your going through, but please believe that things will get better. When you see that little guy, you will have something so important to live for and take care of. Your son will love you and that should be all that matters. I understand it will be hard not having your BF there, but you have to be strong for your baby. I am surprised your BF wouldn't even want to be there for his son's birth. It sounds like you would be better off without him anyway. Just stay strong and you'll get through it. One day you will find a man who will not leave you...and you'll wonder how you ever did without him.

momof2oneonway! - Sunday, 29 June
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nimzm2b - Wednesday, 11 June
Automatic update: nimzm2b added a new blog: Week 34

nimzm2b - Wednesday, 4 June
Hi Molly turned 3 this April, I agree she is adorable!!! I was totally out of it when i had the c-section, it was quite scary because they had to give me a spinal, but because I'd already had the epidural, the spinal rose up and numbed my lungs, I couldn't breathe. I tried to tell them but I couldn't speak because I couldn't breathe. I just remember thinking thats it I'm a goner!! Then all I remember is waking up, not being able to move because i was totally numb and looking at my partner holding a little baby. I thought thats not my baby,she's too pretty!!! My scar isn't to bad, They do it under the bikini line ( not that I'm ever going to wear one!!). It's about 5-6 inches across, it's never caused me any problems and hopefully never will!! My womb was cut vertically because Molly was crowning so they had to push her up to be able to get her out!! This is why they have to keep a good eye on me and check that every thing is going well. But I'm so scared of ripping open, ut I'm sure everything will be okay

nimzm2b - Wednesday, 4 June
How come you have to pay for your tablets? Is it because you don't have a nation health system? I got mine free from my doctor. It's okay over here, to be honest I haven't seen much of England myself! I live in a small town that is surrounded by villages so it is quite nice and peaceful. Not much to do though. Contractions aren't very nice but they are bearable!! I say that yet I had an epidural with Molly at 4 cm dilated!!! It completely takes the pain away, it was lucky I had it as i ended up needing a c-section anyway. I had been pushing for a long time and she wasn't going to come out, she turned her head and got stuck!!! I remember my contractions feeling like period pains but 1000x worse!! Did you have to payy for your scans?

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