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vikki
Age: 38
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City: Canberra
Partner: Alan
Children: Yes, 6
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PhotobucketWell, were to start! Photobucket

I have 6 children. Katherine 19, Heather 16, Michael 8, David 7, Declan 5, Jasmine 3. I have also lost 12 babies. One of them was Declan's twin. So I guess you could say, I've seen alittle bit. But we're still here and we have a happy family

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PhotobucketMy hubby is a Barrister ( In America they are called Attorneys but here only Barristers do court work, Solicitors do the preliminary "stuff"). He is the best Father that anyone could ask for. He takes such good care of all of us and gives so much to the children. He's always playing with them, reading them stories ( with all the voices) and talking to them all the time, telling them all sorts of things. I truely think that the children are his best freinds!

He also takes such good care of me. I feel truely spoiled! He's very domesticated! Every night before I fall asleep he whispers "I'm so glad I found you" I have heard that every night of our marriage. I'm soooooo lucky, God has been good to me.

I've done a sqillian different things, like running an Acting school, an online buisness, Modeling, I've been in hospitality, stockbroking and realestate but I'm now happily just homeschooling my little people( still with my online buisness). Much fun I have to say! :-)

I'd love to hear from anyone that cares to "chat" so do stop by my page.

PhotobucketThe Story so far

( strap on your seat belts, it's a long ride! :-))

I have had 12 miscarriages and 6 healthy children. The first miscarriage was 18 yeas ago and I still remember that vividly. Kyle was 17 1/2 wks. I never found out what happened to him. I lost ALOT of blood, my vains collapsed and they had to revive me. I'm lucky to be here. The only reason I survived, I'm sure, is that my daughter was in the hall at the time of when I "died" and she suddenly burst out screaming "Mummy don't go!" At that I sat bolt upright! Took the nurses and the Doctors quite by surprise!Photobucket Well anyway, then I had 3 healthy children. Then came Mary, who I lost at 16 1/2wks. She was lost to Toxoplasimia. There was nothing that could be done to save her.Photobucket I lost 2 more after her. Then I fell pregnant with twins! One of them didn't make it. Lost Jo at 13wks. PhotobucketWe were very afraid for little Declan and I had to have alot of rest. During that pregnancy, we had the devistating fires in Jan 2003. We had to evacuate our home and we didn't know for a couple of day's whether our house was still standing. Here I am, supposed to be taking it easy and I was driving out of town to our in-laws and had gone into very early labour. I used my WHOLE ventelin and that calmed the contractions down! So Declan was able to keep from being born untill ONLY 3weeks early!Photobucket QUITE the accomplishment! We then lost 2 more little ones. Never having a reason for them.Photobucket The first ultrasounds would show healthy babies but then things would go wrong and I'd loose them. Then we had little Jasmine, Photobucketperfect and healthy, well mostly, she had silent reflux but that was treatable, so she's good now.:-) In 2006 I had an ectopic pregnancy. This little one got OUT of the tube and had lodged in my abdominal cavity. While I did have pain, I didn't pay much mind to it, as it was high up and I just thought I had eaten some bad chicken! ( along with I have an EXTREEMLY high pain threshold)I didn't even know I was pregnant! The week I found out, I had just finished a film shoot. That was the hardest shoot ever, I had to play a very calm nurse and all the time I was thinking I was dying from food poisoning! Anyway, I went to the Doc' because my stomac suddenly swelled and I was somewhat alarmed. I had taken a Preg' test the night before and was pretty excited but confused as too the swelling, I knew I had been busy but was I that pregnant and hadn't noticed? Well no, I wasn't that far along. Turned out that I had been internally bleeding for probably two weeks and the swelling was from the amount of blood! They had me in surgery within 2 hours of the ultrasound! The Doc' was so amased at how much blood I lost, he took photos! My GP couldn't understand how I hadn't suffered a heart attack from blood loss. But I guess I have more to do on this world of ours. I became pregnant again and all seemed to be ok untill 13wks.Photobucket I lost the baby at home and then hemeraged and collapsed at home. My daughter had to ring for the ambulance ( my Hubby had gone to the shop and didn't know what happened untill he walked in to find Heather with the phone!) The Ambulance guys were great, they stabalised me enought to get me to hospital but once getting there the placenta started to tear the uterine wall and I started to hemerage angain. They had me in emergancy surgury so fast, I barely remember much of what happened. PhotobucketSince then I have lost another 3.Photobucket The thing is, I'm healthy, everything seems to work properly, so there wasn't any obvious things that these loses could be attributed with. It has only been the last loss that we have FINALLY found out what is Wrong. Along with having a low progesterone, I have Thrombophilia. You can have this to varying degrees from 40-80 which is nothing to worry about to Mmmm interesting. I came back with a level of 160, showing that this is why I have been loosing my babies. This is a clotting disorder. Clots attack the placenta and blood flow can not get through, so the baby has nothing to survive on. THERE IS A REMEDY!!!!!!!!!Photobucket All I need is 20mg of CLEXANE per day ( in needle form, ahhhhhh) for the duration of a pregnancy untill 37wks. And for the progesterone, I have pessories for at least the first trimester. SO I have a script for Clexane ready and a bottle of Natural Progesterone in the fridge waiting for the IF/WHEN we fall again. My Doc' thinks its a WHEN as we have never had a problem with our fertility. I am very greatfull that my Ob' was human enough to say " I DON'T KNOW WHY this is happening to you, BUT there is a new Doctor in town that has experience with reacuring misscarriage so maybe she can help!" Well help she HAS.Photobucket I first saw her on March the 6th and here we are a month and a half later, with ANSWERS.Photobucket I thank God every day.

So that's it I guess.Photobucket

We'll see what God has for us. Hopefully more little people :-)Photobucket

Have a great day and keep well. I wish you all the best from Down Under!Photobucket

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This is memory for my 12 Angels that are waiting for me.

angel prayerKyle 13.2.90Photobucket Mary 19.9.01 Photobucket Trinity 6.1.02Photobucket Casey 15.5.02 Photobucket Jo 15.3.03Photobucket Micah 22.12.03(Declan's twin )

PhotobucketAngel 14.4.04Photobucket Halo 14.9.06angel prayerPeter 25.12.06angel prayerDemetrius 6.6.07 Photobucket Angel II 15.1.08

PhotobucketBarbara 17.2.08

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Work from HOME

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If your interested in working from home with a product that is not only BRILLIANT for the whole family but for those of us TTC AND PREGNANT AND LACTATING, I may have the answer for you. Do as much or as little as you like, no pressure, YUMMY product Full of Antioxidents and Folic Acid. Come and visit my web page @ www.mymonavie.com/vikkifreckelton

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I can help you build your own online buisness no matter where you are AND it helps the conservation of the Brazillian forrest!. I'm in Australia, you could be in the States or Canada or Scotland just to name a few. There are contact details on my site if you have questions.


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roosa - Sunday, 11 May
Sounds like you have a very wise doctor, admitting that he might not know enough. The doctor I saw didn't seem to think anyone else might find answers. He did want to do another blood test and have a specialist look at the results. The specialist might call me and let me know what he thinks. The doctor said I could contact the perinatologist in Melbourne but doubted they would be able to come up with answers. I have looked into it and it seems perinatologists are for women with a fetal abnormality. I am a bit confused. I don't know where to go from here. Maybe I need to come up and see your doctor :) It is so hard to know when to just let go of answers, when to trust the doctors, and when to keep pushing on.

I wish I wasn't on this public system, just seeing whoever is available. If I do have complications again, I will definitely go see a specialist, even if it will cost us a lot of money. And how nice it would be to have a doctor who actually cared. The doctor yesterday didn't even say he was sorry for my loss. It upsets me.

We are trying again and I hope I will fall pregnant soon. But I am also scared that if I do, I won't get proper support and care. Like last time...

Oh, what to do.

Karin


sharon - Saturday, 10 May
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roosa - Saturday, 10 May
I am sad too I didn't get any answers. Of course I didn't want really bad answers too, I just wanted something that was fixable so my next pregnancy would be less stressful. The doctors seem very confident though that it won't happen again. I just keep wondering, if they don't know what happened, how can they make such a statement?? I am going to have one more blood test done. It is relating to blood clotting. They have tested me before and some of the numbers came back fine and some borderline so they want to retest and also have a specialist look at the results. I asked quite a few questions yesterday and the doctor just kept saying, no, it couldn't be that, and that there was really no more testing that could be done. It is so hard to trust. Did you just keep pushing your doctor or did you see someone else?
Oh, yes, it still hurts in spite of me knowing that God doesn't give me more than I can bear. It is when it hurts the most that meditating on that verse (and that God believes in me) helps me and gives me strenght. Even when I feel like I can't cope, I know deep inside that God knows and believes I can. It convinces me that with time I will get through this, and I will become a stronger and better person in the end. You are a great inspiration too!

God bless!
xox Karin


roosa - Friday, 9 May
Hi Vikki. Today we had our first follow up appointment after our loss 6 weeks ago. As soon as I got to the hospital I just broke down crying. It brought back so many memories of that night. To make it all worse, you sit in the same waiting area as you do when you are pregnant. It took 1 1/2 to see a doctor so at least by then the tears had dried...

I was so nervous about whether or not there would be results from all the testing and what they would be. Well, they have no answers. Kathleen was examined both externally and internally and all looked fine plus her chromosome testing came back normal. That result meant the world to me and I thank God! My little girl was as perfect as she looked!!! Had she tested positive it would have made no difference for how we felt about her or any difference for our future pregnancies, but knowing she was perfect when others have said she probably wasn't, was so important to me. The placenta looked fine too and they found no infections. They do want to do a bit more blood testing but still don't think that will bring any answers. I had hoped for answers, something that would be easy and fixable for the sanity of my next pregnancy. I asked about my next pregnancy (if there is one...) and the doctor said that I would probably be in high risk (again) and be seen by consultants (last time was registers/trainees) but otherwise there is not much they can do... The doctor I saw today and the doctor I saw after delivery have both said that it is very unlikely it will happen again, so I am trying to hold onto that.

I have been thinking about the fact that 'God doesn't give us more than we can bear'. I have realized this really means that God believes in me! He believes I am strong enough to endure this suffering even if I don't at times feel like I am. Knowing that God believes in me gives me a renewed strenght!

Any news?

God bless! Karin



maha55 - Friday, 9 May
Hey Vikki
How u doing??...its funny that you talk about the "heat"..I have found as I get older it affects me too...although I dont like cold cold either!!!! but def a change in my reaction to hot weather which is funny bec I used to love it...another change since having kids!!!

I have heard from many that Canada is a great place and v progressive so that should be a positive move for you all...

The Birth Conf in US came about from a woman who is on the board seeing my website and buying my original book (which was for sale online as an e book)..not anymore though bec the hard copy will be out end June..she loved it and what I do and we stayed in close touch and things developed!!
I love the internet for the amazing networking you can do..whatever industry/interest you have.its quite amazing really (if used wisely and carefully)..my boys can sometimes get addicted so we have "the rules"!!!!

Anyway its a glorious day heer in Byron Bay..am going to get out into the sunshine, go for a walk and enjoy....many blessings
maha xx


vikki -
vikki, your answer on billo`s question was given the higest rating. Thank you for answering!


maha55 - Thursday, 8 May
Hey Vikki
Thought u may like my name meaning!!..i too love all that peotism..I think you would enjoy my book Dance of the Womb too!!!.wow you are moving to canada..is that for your husbands work?? I have heard its a beautiful place....i should look at going there to do bellydance for birth workshops at some stage (going to US Oct 2009 to do same and talk at Birth Conf)......You can start belly dance whenever you feel comfortable..as with all exercise, check with care giver and tune in when you are ready..this time I was 16 weeks!! before that I was too sick to do much!!
natural is best way to go in general but I did go and buy some TUMS for heartburn for evenings when it can be worse..they worked v well actually!! so once in awhile i can take it!!...thanks and sending blessings xx


dizzy - Wednesday, 7 May
my contractions am 15 min apart so got to sit and wait at the moment,hurts so bad but what can i do lol!!thankyou,il be sure to post pictures wen she arrives!!


roosa - Wednesday, 7 May
No, I am not impressed with talkingbabies either... It even surprises me who some of the monitors are. But I do miss chatting. So you don't chat at all anymore, anywhere?

Yes, I am real thankful for my newfound friend. God is good.

Love,
Karin


dizzy - Wednesday, 7 May
my little 1 on her way!!!im in labour!and gosh does it hurt!!


maha55 - Wednesday, 7 May
Hi Vikki
Loved that line..singing incy wincy spider..true and v cute!!!!
Yes I do look after myself.good genetics and also was sugar free, alchol free, cigarettes, wheat etc etc for nearly 5 years before this pregnancy (oh and still am all those things besides a bit of wheat and sugar now and then!!!)..also attitude is so important as u said...yes call me maha, thats my first name (arabic for the black of the gazelle's eye!!)......if I have a girl I will call her Aminah after my grandmother, means faithful....(also like Joumana in arabic, means the jewel!)..I live in Byron bay..been here nearly 12 years..love this special paradise....but once bubba is 6-8mths old I will continue travelling in OZ and O/S and teach bellydance for pregnancy classes....who knows I may come to Canberra if there is an interest..stay well....xx


roosa - Wednesday, 7 May
Vikki, when do you normally log on? I have logged on at talkingbabies in the evening, but the chat is actually not very good at that time...

I am doing okay. I had a small revelation yesterday that God believes in me and that gives me strenght! I know the bible says that God doesn't give us more than we can bear, but only yesterday did it really click what that means. He believes in us, He believes we can get through this. To me it meant a lot to realize that.

I actually did fine with seeing the new born at church. As I said I was determined to be okay, and I was. It was harder the week before when it was announced. I just kept thinking about how I was supposed to be next...

I have been hanging out with a girl from church that I have never talked to much before. It turns out she is really able to relate to my grief and I can talk comfortably about everything with her. That is such a blessing. God knew I really needed that. I still value my old good friends, but having this new friend is so helpful.

Blessings,
Karin


lv2bamommy - Tuesday, 6 May
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sharon - Tuesday, 6 May
Hi there! I just happened across your page and read your story. I wanted to say that you are a very strong and brave woman. May God bless you and your family.


roosa - Tuesday, 6 May
Hi Vikki, how are you doing? Any news?
Blessings, Karin


maha55 - Monday, 5 May
thanks for your message vikki...i didnt realise you were not pregnant now but wish you all the blessings for no. 7..such a magical number.....
and do have a look at my website...thanks....are u stay at home mum full time now??..its strange to think I will be same afetr having time off over last few years (I share care with boys dad)..this is a new partner now...its lovely bec he hasnt had kids and has lived with us for a year and a half and is really fantastic with my boys..I feeel v lucky at 45 to be having this experience...makes me feel young and alive!!..stay in touch and do let me know how u go
xx


lv2bamommy - Monday, 5 May
I'm sorry you had a melt down! It seems to happen pretty easily when TTC. I'm so glad that you're better now. That's why I love this web site though. Someone always knows what your going through. (missery loves company) I'm not sure if we did it this month, I OV a little later than usual. Oh well, I'm not going to get upset about it, I have to put this God's hands. Stay in touch my friend!!
~Baby Dust~


maha55 - Sunday, 4 May
Hi just introducing myself! I read your page..you are an amazing woman!!.....thanks for your heartfelt words...your spirit shines thru the pages...when are u due??
I am 45 pregnant with third child (my boys are 8 and 11)...I too have done many things in my life. incl modelling and acting (was the first Palestinian/Lebanese actress mid 80's in australia!!)..I now faciliate bellydance for pregnancy and birth classes (last 11 years here in Byron Bay)...and am releasing my world first book on this subject in June...u can visit www.bellydanceforbirth.com
for more......

love to stay in touch....and what is truly amazing with such great sorrow you have received such great joy, with yr 6 chn, fantastic husband, positive spirit, life is so perfect in all its balance...xx


dizzy - Sunday, 4 May
pains have dissapeared a little now!ive just got constant back ache!which is very uncomfy at times!yea thats fine messaging my page to keep in touch,im not a fan of the new chat room at all.




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