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vikki
Age: 38
Country: AU
Province/region: Australian capital territory
City: Canberra
Partner: Alan
Children: Yes, 6
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Due date: 09 0 ,0000
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PhotobucketWell, were to start! Photobucket

I have 6 children. Katherine 19, Heather 16, Michael 8, David 7, Declan 5, Jasmine 3. I have also lost 12 babies. One of them was Declan's twin. So I guess you could say, I've seen alittle bit. But we're still here and we have a happy family

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PhotobucketMy hubby is a Barrister ( In America they are called Attorneys but here only Barristers do court work, Solicitors do the preliminary "stuff"). He is the best Father that anyone could ask for. He takes such good care of all of us and gives so much to the children. He's always playing with them, reading them stories ( with all the voices) and talking to them all the time, telling them all sorts of things. I truely think that the children are his best freinds!

He also takes such good care of me. I feel truely spoiled! He's very domesticated! Every night before I fall asleep he whispers "I'm so glad I found you" I have heard that every night of our marriage. I'm soooooo lucky, God has been good to me.

I've done a sqillian different things, like running an Acting school, an online buisness, Modeling, I've been in hospitality, stockbroking and realestate but I'm now happily just homeschooling my little people( still with my online buisness). Much fun I have to say! :-)

I'd love to hear from anyone that cares to "chat" so do stop by my page.

PhotobucketThe Story so far

( strap on your seat belts, it's a long ride! :-))

I have had 12 miscarriages and 6 healthy children. The first miscarriage was 18 yeas ago and I still remember that vividly. Kyle was 17 1/2 wks. I never found out what happened to him. I lost ALOT of blood, my vains collapsed and they had to revive me. I'm lucky to be here. The only reason I survived, I'm sure, is that my daughter was in the hall at the time of when I "died" and she suddenly burst out screaming "Mummy don't go!" At that I sat bolt upright! Took the nurses and the Doctors quite by surprise!Photobucket Well anyway, then I had 3 healthy children. Then came Mary, who I lost at 16 1/2wks. She was lost to Toxoplasimia. There was nothing that could be done to save her.Photobucket I lost 2 more after her. Then I fell pregnant with twins! One of them didn't make it. Lost Jo at 13wks. PhotobucketWe were very afraid for little Declan and I had to have alot of rest. During that pregnancy, we had the devistating fires in Jan 2003. We had to evacuate our home and we didn't know for a couple of day's whether our house was still standing. Here I am, supposed to be taking it easy and I was driving out of town to our in-laws and had gone into very early labour. I used my WHOLE ventelin and that calmed the contractions down! So Declan was able to keep from being born untill ONLY 3weeks early!Photobucket QUITE the accomplishment! We then lost 2 more little ones. Never having a reason for them.Photobucket The first ultrasounds would show healthy babies but then things would go wrong and I'd loose them. Then we had little Jasmine, Photobucketperfect and healthy, well mostly, she had silent reflux but that was treatable, so she's good now.:-) In 2006 I had an ectopic pregnancy. This little one got OUT of the tube and had lodged in my abdominal cavity. While I did have pain, I didn't pay much mind to it, as it was high up and I just thought I had eaten some bad chicken! ( along with I have an EXTREEMLY high pain threshold)I didn't even know I was pregnant! The week I found out, I had just finished a film shoot. That was the hardest shoot ever, I had to play a very calm nurse and all the time I was thinking I was dying from food poisoning! Anyway, I went to the Doc' because my stomac suddenly swelled and I was somewhat alarmed. I had taken a Preg' test the night before and was pretty excited but confused as too the swelling, I knew I had been busy but was I that pregnant and hadn't noticed? Well no, I wasn't that far along. Turned out that I had been internally bleeding for probably two weeks and the swelling was from the amount of blood! They had me in surgery within 2 hours of the ultrasound! The Doc' was so amased at how much blood I lost, he took photos! My GP couldn't understand how I hadn't suffered a heart attack from blood loss. But I guess I have more to do on this world of ours. I became pregnant again and all seemed to be ok untill 13wks.Photobucket I lost the baby at home and then hemeraged and collapsed at home. My daughter had to ring for the ambulance ( my Hubby had gone to the shop and didn't know what happened untill he walked in to find Heather with the phone!) The Ambulance guys were great, they stabalised me enought to get me to hospital but once getting there the placenta started to tear the uterine wall and I started to hemerage angain. They had me in emergancy surgury so fast, I barely remember much of what happened. PhotobucketSince then I have lost another 3.Photobucket The thing is, I'm healthy, everything seems to work properly, so there wasn't any obvious things that these loses could be attributed with. It has only been the last loss that we have FINALLY found out what is Wrong. Along with having a low progesterone, I have Thrombophilia. You can have this to varying degrees from 40-80 which is nothing to worry about to Mmmm interesting. I came back with a level of 160, showing that this is why I have been loosing my babies. This is a clotting disorder. Clots attack the placenta and blood flow can not get through, so the baby has nothing to survive on. THERE IS A REMEDY!!!!!!!!!Photobucket All I need is 20mg of CLEXANE per day ( in needle form, ahhhhhh) for the duration of a pregnancy untill 37wks. And for the progesterone, I have pessories for at least the first trimester. SO I have a script for Clexane ready and a bottle of Natural Progesterone in the fridge waiting for the IF/WHEN we fall again. My Doc' thinks its a WHEN as we have never had a problem with our fertility. I am very greatfull that my Ob' was human enough to say " I DON'T KNOW WHY this is happening to you, BUT there is a new Doctor in town that has experience with reacuring misscarriage so maybe she can help!" Well help she HAS.Photobucket I first saw her on March the 6th and here we are a month and a half later, with ANSWERS.Photobucket I thank God every day.

So that's it I guess.Photobucket

We'll see what God has for us. Hopefully more little people :-)Photobucket

Have a great day and keep well. I wish you all the best from Down Under!Photobucket

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This is memory for my 12 Angels that are waiting for me.

angel prayerKyle 13.2.90Photobucket Mary 19.9.01 Photobucket Trinity 6.1.02Photobucket Casey 15.5.02 Photobucket Jo 15.3.03Photobucket Micah 22.12.03(Declan's twin )

PhotobucketAngel 14.4.04Photobucket Halo 14.9.06angel prayerPeter 25.12.06angel prayerDemetrius 6.6.07 Photobucket Angel II 15.1.08

PhotobucketBarbara 17.2.08

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Work from HOME

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If your interested in working from home with a product that is not only BRILLIANT for the whole family but for those of us TTC AND PREGNANT AND LACTATING, I may have the answer for you. Do as much or as little as you like, no pressure, YUMMY product Full of Antioxidents and Folic Acid. Come and visit my web page @ www.mymonavie.com/vikkifreckelton

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I can help you build your own online buisness no matter where you are AND it helps the conservation of the Brazillian forrest!. I'm in Australia, you could be in the States or Canada or Scotland just to name a few. There are contact details on my site if you have questions.


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lv2bamommy - Thursday, 24 April
Hey Vikki! Just stopping in to say hi. How are you doing? Feeling? I'm doing pretty good, starting to get a little crampy today. Trying not to read too much into it. Hows the TTC going? Or, I guess I should say the BDing going? Keep me posted my friend!!!!!! ~Baby Dust~


roosa - Thursday, 24 April
Hi Vikki,

I am glad you found great help and support around you. My church family has been absolutely fabulous as well. We have received so many meals, people watched Kaleb in the mornings the first week, so many showed up for the funeral, and now someone has arranged house cleaning for us for the next 5 weeks! It is actually pretty overwhelming. Yet, there is no one there who has gone through a similiar loss and can fully relate to the grief and how it is ongoing.

Yesterday I saw the lady from the local support group and she was so nice. She is going to get me connected to someone else who has gone through a similar experience, someone with whom I can have the occasional cuppa with and truly share with how I am doing. I think that will be really good for me.

Honestly, I never really liked other people's children, never wanted to hold a newborn baby etc, and I still don't :) But my own, well that is a completely other story :)

I am trying to stay positive that I will have more kids. If I didn't have any hope at all, I would probably get rid of the box of girls baby clothes I have sitting in the closet... But my body does have to hurry up a bit :) Yet, I know stressing about it doesn't help. Will you be trying again soon, or are you already trying? Hope you don't mind me asking...

They really have not done a lot of testing on me. They have tested the placenta and Kathleen but that is about it. Maybe if they don't find any answers there, I will push for more testing on myself. What is thrombophilia? Did you have any symptons? They have tested me for blood clotting though and it was negative. I think I will have a fair few questions for my next appointment. It seems it is so far away though. This is my second miscarriage (I had a 5 week one 3 months before I fell pregnant with Kathleen) and the lady yesterday told me that doctors start taking you more seriously and do more testing when you have had multiple miscarriages, so we'll see. Again, I am hoping and praying that my next pregnancy will be like my first, but if not I want the doctors to take me seriously - even if it means I have to pay for a specialist.

Thanks for keeping in touch. I really enjoy getting onto my VIP site and find a message from you. It helps my day, so thank you.

All the best.
Karin


mommyrock - Thursday, 24 April
Hi Vikki I wanted to let you know they can't find why I was having all of those issues. I have a very healthy baby girl. The only thing that she is concerned with is the placenta. It is very low, 1cm above my cervix and it should be a lot higher. I need to take things easy and I will have another sonogram at my 3 week check up to see if it has moved. I hope all is well with you.


dreambaby16 - Wednesday, 23 April
Thanks Vikki for your message. 12 angles, wow, I can't imagine what you've been through. I think of the 1 that I have waiting for me in heaven and it gives me great peace to know he is with God. I am so blessed with the beautiful children I have and the one that should be here soon. God bless you and I wish for you all the best.


spoon - Wednesday, 23 April
It's ok, I was away for too long anyways. Talk to you soon I hope :)


roosa - Wednesday, 23 April
Dear Vikki

Don't worry about calling my girl Katherine. I completely understand.

I am really very much up and down. Some days actually seem harder than the day it happened... It seems reality is hitting more now. Yet, people around you expect you to be better, and that makes me feel even worse. How do you respond to people when they ask how you are and you can tell on their voice they are expecting you to say 'better' or 'good' when you are really feeling terrible. Each day has it's trigger points and it's difficulties. Yes, in general I do feel it is getting easier, but not easy. You are right, the pain will never go away. It does however give us the ability to feel for others who are grieving, and God can use that for something good, I believe. I am now able to visualize what others are going through and actually feel their pain. I have days where I can handle that and days where I can't. I do chat in a grief chat room and some days it seems helpful sharing with others who can relate, and some days it makes me feel so much more heart broken when I hear other people's stories. I guess it is just a matter of time and growing stronger.

I do have someone from the local support group come out and talk to me today. I wonder how that will go... Did you ever get outside help?

My son is 2 so I haven't started homeschooling yet, but I am pretty sure I will when the time comes. I have several friends in the USA (my husband is from there) who have homeschooled and I just see the wonderful results. They are smart and so well-behaved and loving. I don't feel like handing my children's future into someone else's hands, particularly not the way the world is looking today. I will keep the Seaton system in mind, thanks. By the way, how have people reacted to you homeschooling? I am a bit nervous about mentioning it to anyone, I must admit. I have been told that Australians are not very positive and open towards it. Is that right?

I don't have any answers yet as to what happened to Kathleen. They did examine the placenta and her, but I don't have an appointment until 3 weeks from now, so I hope to get some answers then although there is a 50/50 chance I won't. I was bleeding for 7 weeks before it happened, and a doctor afterwards told me that bleeding can irritate the membrane and make it rupture. It is still a question of why I bleed though... I am hoping they can tell me so it can possible be avoided in the future. Most of all I hope and pray though that there will be no complications with the next one, just like there were none (of significance) with my first. Wow, I can't believe all the things you have to take if you fall pregnant! But if it helps, that is great!

Again, I think it is so great and admirable that you just keep going. And it is nice to meet someone else who apparently desire a large family. Honestly, I did not want kids before I had my son, but we still decided to try for a child, and boy, did he change me! God's word is definitely true when it says children are a blessing! I love him beyond words and now I so desire to have more. 3-4 would be good. I must admit though that right now I am finding it hard to be positive that I will ever get that large a family. It is looking pretty dim and my years are ticking. But then I look at you. You are 38 and still trying for more! That is so wonderful! Thanks for being my inspiration in a time like this!!!

Take care and God bless,
Karin


roosa - Tuesday, 22 April
Dear Vikki, I am glad to hear that you do have your faith and a wonderful husband to help you through this. I am grateful I have a wonderful husband as well.

Thanks for touching base with me and I hope to chat/write more with you. It is encouraging to find someone like you who have been through so much yet keeps going. I truly admire you.

Will look for you on the chat, particularly room #2. I sometimes log into the chat and just wait to see if a friend will show up. I did request a room for pregnancy loss, but it doesn't look like that is going to happen. It would be nice to be able to chat on this site without feeling like you are taking over a chat room or just making others feel bad... I know it is hard for others to understand the grief that comes with loosing a child and it is hard for them to know how to handle it or what to say.

God bless you and your family. Karin


roosa - Monday, 21 April
Hi Vikki, I briefly saw you on the chat and you said you had lost 12 babies so I went to have a look at your site... I am so sorry for your latest loss. Yet you amaze me! You have lost 12 yet you have 6 children. I admire you for just keep going. How do you go through pregnancy without being terrified? I lost my little girl about 3 weeks ago when I was 19 weeks pregnant. She lived for 90 min and we got to hold her. I miss her so much. I miss being pregnant too. There is nothing I want more than to be pregnant again, yet there is nothing I fear more either. How do you do it?? Faith in God? Cause I do have that. Still the pain of loosing a child is real. Any help you can offer will be greatly appreciated.

By the way, how wonderful to see someone homeschool their kids, and even in Australia. It seems to be less popular down here, at least compared to USA. I am pretty convinced I want to do the same thing.

Anyway, would love to hear from you. Do you often chat and what time? God bless, Karin


firsttime - Sunday, 20 April
Thank you VERY much for your kind words and offered support! I am also so sorry to hear about your losses. Good luck TTC a healthy new baby. Take care and God Bless!!


lv2bamommy - Friday, 18 April
I also have always had more guy friends than girlfriends. I had a few girlfriends growing up, and they are still my close friends. I was never really into all the drama that came along with teenage girls. (I guess I'm still not)It's funny how some people think that they are helping you when they something, but, it's just more rude and hurtful than anything. Alot of people just ask us,"why don't you just adopt?" or "maybe it's just not meant to be". I have learned to take it with a grain of salt, because I know what I feel in my heart. We have and are still open to adoption, but thats a whole different process that is confusing, time consuming, and expensive. I know you can't put a price on a child, but it's just so overwhelming. I am glad you are doing better, all this TTC really takes a toll on a person emotionally, physically, and mentally. I remember after my 4th miscarriage I gave my husband the option to leave me, because I felt like I was crushing his dream of becoming a daddy. He told me that he married me because he loved me, and wanted to spend the rest of his life with me, not because he thought I was a good candidate for the mother of his children. I thank god everyday for bringing that man into my life. We'll talk to ya soon. Have a fabulous weekend if I don't talk to you before then!!


lv2bamommy - Friday, 18 April
Isn't pathetic I feel more comfortable asking that here than asking a friend or my mom? I feel alot better now because I thought that wasn't normal. I thought they were suppose to hurt all the time. Phew! How are you feeling? Are you doing OK? Were you able to talk yourself into relaxing? (Easier said than done)Keep me posted:-)


lv2bamommy - Thursday, 17 April
Vikki, I have to ask you! When you were going through all of this. During your pregnancies did your BB hurt constantly, or did they hurt for a little bit, and then not so much, and then back & forth? Silly question, but mine have always gone back and forth and I didn't know if that was normal.


mommyrock - Wednesday, 16 April
I started having feelings of popcorn popping in my chest about a week and a half ago. My blood work came back fine and that is why I'm thinking it is hormones. I've never had issues with my heart, it is one of my strongest organs.


lv2bamommy - Wednesday, 16 April
I'm glad things are getting better for you! When we take a step back and look at our lives, we realize how much we have already been blessed with. I plan on going to the Dr. soon. I can't tell you how grateful I am to have found this web site. THank You so much for all the info & advice you have given me. I thank Gos for all the people he has brought into my life. have a great day :-)




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