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my home birth story

well all of you that have been pregnant right along with me know that i was put on bed rest at 28weeks everyone thought that as soon as i came of bed rest i would go into labor andthe baby would be here

well i got of bed rest Feb 14th and it just happened that myself and my whole family was really sick so we were still trying to keep my poor little guy in

37week appointment

i was swollen from head to tow and dizzy i told my midwife that my lil man needed to come out something was wrong well she seemed very annoyed and told me that i just wonted to be done being pregnant and that nothing was wrong so i tuck her word for it at that appointment i was also dilated to a three and 80persent and soft i had also been having contractions every 15min for the last few weeks

febuary27th was a wednesday and i was set on not going to my 38week appointment so we needed to get things moving if the baby was going to get here before 1:30 on Friday so we went out for spicy food and then went grocery shopping i was miserable i started having really hard contractions in the store so we came home and within an hour my contractions had spaced back out to every fifteen minutes i was so upset i started to cry my hubby gave me a big hug and said don't worry the baby will be here tomorrow so try and get some sleep i said yeah right this lil one is never coming out

3am i woke up with the worst belly ache and acid that was enough to start a fire so i got up and drank a glass of milk and had a contraction nothing bad so i went back to bed my hubby wakes up to ask if i'm OK i say yes go back to sleep

3:30am

i tried really hard to get to sleep but i just couldn't i kept thinking about the lil one inside of me wondering if we were having a girl or a boy whether or not the baby would have hair all the things mom's think about and right as the clock hit 3:30 i had a horrible contraction that lasted for a minute and a half it was a wow were did that come from? contraction i turned over away from the clock i just kept thinking i need to go to sleep so i closed my eyes and again bam there was another contraction so i turned over to look at the clock it had been five minutes i got up to go pee by the time i got back to bed it had been six minutes and i was like well it looks like they will spread out again and just as i had finished my thought i has the worst contraction yet well from then till 5:45 whine my hubby wakes up they stayed four to five minutes apart and lasting between a minute and a minute a half at this point you might be wondering why i hadn't woken my hubby up and called the midwife the answer is i could tell that i still had hours to go and that my hubby needed as much sleep as possible

5:30am

my hubby wakes up and looks at me sitting in the corner are you ok he asked my hands had been going numb for the past few weeks so seeing me sitting up at this hour wasn't unusual i said i'm fine thinking that it would be best to let him wake up a little more before springing the fact that i was in labor on him so he got up and had a drink and ow another contraction he looks at me and i see him look at his watch he doesnt say anything he just stands there with the fridge open looking blankly inside much better the contraction is over he Say's wow that lasted a minute and a half i said yeah it felt long he watches me without acting like hes watching me i have another contraction keep in mind that i don't make any noise during contractions and there is only one very dim light on but my hubby can still tell that i'm having another contraction he looks at his watch again and Say's hon it's only been three minutes i said yeah i know i have been in labor since 3:30 he gets the biggest smile i told you that you would have the baby today i stick my tongue out and ask him to help me make the bed up with clean sheets and a shower liner he asks why i didnt wake him up and i tell him he says well i wish you would have but thank you for letting me sleep have you called the midwife yet? i say no i'm not ready i think we have a while left to go and i don't want her here anymore than i have to have her here i should say that i really do not like the midwife i had this time she was loud and just generally obnoxious

6:30 go to work

i tell my hubby to go in and get his guys ready for the day my contractions are still at 3 minutes apart so i figure that we have some time he only works a few miles away so he can be home in five minutes i tell him I'll call him whine that get closer so he went to work very reluctantly i sit in bed watching birth stories timing my contractions and wondering how big my baby really will be

7:45am i finally call the midwife to let her know what is going on my contractions are still three minutes apart but are stronger now i tell her not to rush out that i think i still have a little while to go she's Say's OK call me in an hour

8:45am contractions are two minutes apart and pritty strong i call to let her know she Say's shes an hour away and she will be here soon i call my hubby and tell him i need him to come home

8:55am my hubby gets home and apologizes for it taking 10 minutes instead of 5 to get home he makes me laugh my son wakes up he usually wakes up at 7am so him sleeping in was wonderful he has seen me having contractions for the past few weeks so every time i close my eyes he Say's mommies having a contraction my hubby tells him that the baby is coming out today this make him do a dance and sing I'm a big brother I'm a big brother

11am the midwife finally gets here she brings another midwife that i have never meet and their gose my nice relaxing time they come in like a blur i have my blood pressure taken my temp taken they listen to the baby that was nice and then it's time to get checked no fun i'm a five that makes me sad only a five?

the baby is laying the wrong way the midwife says lets go walk and see if we can get the baby to turn over to the other side so we walk and every time i stop to have a contraction the midwife pounds on my back with her fists i ask her to stop it hurts worse than the contractions she Say's it will help the baby move over to the right i had never heard of this but she's the midwife i can't take the pounding anymore so i walk through the contractions it hurts but not as bad as her hitting me we stop at noon and her and the other midwife decide to go get lunch that makes me very happy

1:00pm

the midwifes get back we go through the hole routine again i'm a seven i'm tired i tell her to brake my water she Say's the baby might still turn it will hurt really bad to push the baby out with it laying on the left i say i really don't think that the baby is going to turn i need to get this done i can't still be doing this at midnight she looks at my hubby and he Say's do it she has a really high pain tolerance and i can tell she worn out so at 1:30 she brakes my water

maconeim

there's maconeim in the water my hart skipped a beat i know this could be bad she looks at it and Say's this if from about a week ago the baby must have been stressed i feel my face get red i had told her something was wrong i hated her in that moment but i couldn't focus on that i can see my hubby's face has fallen he smiles for me and Say's everything is going to be OK

things get hot and heavy fast

i start to make noise there is no stop between contractions my hubby is standing in front of me my face is barred in his chest my hands are in his back packets pulling him towards me i keep saying dam it! the midwifes are laughing at me for using a kid curse my hubby rubs my back so gently it feel so good like he is taking some of my pain my midwife touches me to my surprise i yell don't touch me! she leaves me alone i start to push i put my hand gently on his head man oh man dose that hurt and he is out i hear him cry they are suctioning him i hear there's no meconium in his lungs i see my hubby cry i cry from relief is it a boy or a girl? it's a boy anther boy i am so happy i hold him he has hair lots and lots of really dark brown hair he looks like me a huge contrast to his brother he was born bald and looks just like his dad

my second son was born at 2:42pm

he weighed 10lbs on the dot

and was 20 and a half inches long

i tore a little bit and you can bet i'm still a little sore down there

i love him so much there's not enough hours in the day to spend with my boy's

thanks for all the stories and advise and compassion that you have all give to me over the last few months i'm on baby's.com now so please keep in touch

wildberry.

See how my baby is doing


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tashabena - Tuesday, 8 April
= D my sons 1 month app is on the 10th. its so exciting


startingoverat37 - Monday, 7 April
I am actually in Mt Vernon. But the site keeps putting Bellingham so I just left it alone. Maybe best if no one knows exactly my location.

I am hanging in there today. I have a sleeping baby finally. Shes been quite fussy! You may have heard of white sounds calming down babies. White sounds are vacuums, hair dryers, fans (turned away from them)...well Erin just is so fussy so I have broke out the vacuum. She screams, I turn on the vacuum and she is silent looking around, I turn it off after 3 or 4 minutes and she starts screaming again...I have been doing this for 15 minutes and she cries as soon as you turn it off. I am trying to figure which is worse the vacuum or her screaming. I guess her screaming as I am still sitting here with the vacuum going. Shes happy swinging in her swing..UNTIL I TURN OFF THE VACUUM!

I am still quite warn out daily. The waking throughout the night is just hard to adjust to. I am ending up in bed at least 12 hours a day so I do get that luxury.

I hope you are doing well. Hows the weather down where you are/? Overcast as usal up here.


tashabena - Sunday, 6 April
wow such a big boy. i cant believe you had a 10 pounder lol


hanukkah - Sunday, 6 April
Congratulations! Thanks for sharing - it's inspiring to read your birth story - glad everything went well. I'm at 24 weeks - yippie, over half way there.


karenc - Saturday, 5 April
oh good, i'm glad to hear that things are getting easier... well, only so much easier things can get with a little baby, but you know what I mean! it's tough on anyone to be in a new city, and then drop a new baby on top of that and you have new stuff overload. hope things work out and keep getting better! :)


njackson - Saturday, 5 April
thanks for the advice


karenc - Thursday, 3 April
that's a great start, getting out w/ the kids. I know that here in MA, the YMCA offers free babysitting for kids in their first year, so that could be another place you could go to just meet new people and get out of the house.

as far as your husband goes, he may or may not be interested in his coworker, but outside of that he does seem to be interested in his job, which is a great bebfit to you and the kids financially. if you can find ways to reach out and make sure he knows you and the kids want him around, that could go a long way toward just building back a relationship. he's being kind of an ass as far as your feelings go, but you have a history with him and two kids, so whatever happens, you want to keep him in your life.

hope you continue to feel better and stronger -- message me anytime! :)



startingoverat37 - Wednesday, 2 April
What part of Washington are you from? I am about a hour above Seattle. How are things going with your husband? I read your comment about his long hours and talking about the other woman he works with. I am sorry I can see how that would really be a huge issue. I would loss it as well. I hope you are doing well with the kids.


karenc - Tuesday, 1 Apr
i'm glad you're feeling more optimistic, but just be sure you don't internalize everything -- if you need to vent about anything, make sure you do here or to a friend. also, is there someone you can talk to about what's going on with your husband, like a priest or rabbi, etc? I think it would be helpful for you to just get an opinion about your relationship from someone that know you well, but is not a family member. stay strong! :)


bibiana - Sunday, 30 Mar
Hi, I'm feeling pretty much like you. My baby girl is 7 weeks now and I can't complain, she's a very good girl. My problem is I also moved to another country when I was 5 mos pregnant and spent the winter in my house, so I don't know anyone. My husband has a lot of work lately and it's so overwhelming being all the time by myself with my baby... I know it's not my husband's fault and he has been having to work more than usually, but it's just not nice for me.


tabathan - Thursday, 27 Mar
It's awesome you breastfed so long. I am undecided if I want to put a time on it (2 years) or just let him go till he self weans. I am trying to get pregnant and have been doing tons of reasearch on tandem feeding. It seems hard but I am sure I will get used to it. I am sorry about your health issues but a year and a half is awesome. ttys


greengoddessagen - Thursday, 27 Mar
Hiya, thanks for the msg... I'm recovering well however still moving around slowly and taking things easy! How's your new little man doin? ....and is big brother adapting well?
I just posted my birth story if you want to have a read. XXEm


gmarie - Thursday, 27 Mar
Saw your question about AF. I've been nursing my son for a little over a year and just started, but I know ladies who started up again after six weeks! It all depends on your body and hormones. Here's hoping you get a good long time out of it! ;)


cko1522 - Thursday, 27 Mar
No problem, I don't envy a person in your position. I sincerely hope all of the best for you. Take care.


CourtneyR26 - Wednesday, 26 Mar
Oh I also have no family or anyong one where we live since my husband is in the navy and that makes things really tough...Im flying to california to stay with my family for 3 weeks in april I cant wait for the help by hubby will be on deployment so I will really be all alone.


CourtneyR26 - Wednesday, 26 Mar
I want you to know that I went through the same thing....My husband didnt take the time off of work I wanted him to and I felt soo disconnected from him too he barely helps me with the baby as far as getting up at night....since I dont work I guess he expectets me to do all the hard work and he wants me to cook for him and be a sex slave and Im not in the mood for that...I had a c section and I feel that the disconnected feeling is our hormons ballancing out plus we both have a man that just doesnt know how to help the way we wish they would things have gotted a little bit better but not back to where they should be yet...but anyway Im right there with you....I hope things get better for both of us.


JandJ4evr - Wednesday, 26 Mar
BABY BOY
I'm doing well. getting there...very slowly. :D No it really seems like time is going by so fast!


babykjcsmom - Wednesday, 26 Mar
HE'S SMALL BUT HE !SNT THAT SMALL. BE!NG THAT TH!S !S MY F!RST BABY && ALL ! KN0W !S SMALL....! W0ULD FEEL WE!RD W!TH A B!G BABY!!!


greengoddessagen - Friday, 21 Mar
Congrats :D.....wow, 10lb...I bet he's cuddly. My little girl was born on march 16 aftre 42 hours of labour ending in an emergency c-section,she was also cuddly weighing 9lb 2oz. Very different from my last birth which was at home. Great story! Enjoy your little guy:D
XX


babykjcsmom - Friday, 21 Mar
!VE HAD MY L!TTLE 0NE...MARCH 14TH AT 5:16AM. HE WE!GHED 5LBS 20Z, 18 !NCHE...MY B!RTH ST0RY !S UP!!!!


karinaM - Friday, 21 Mar
congrats. you are a brave lady I have to say it because a 10 pound baby hard to push out. I had a 8.3pound girl and couldn't stabd the back labor so I got the epidural........and felt nothing, no pain but felt when she came out........congrats again !!!!!!!




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