Month 13

The second year of life has alot in store for your toddler. He is moving from babyhood to childhood. It is important to give your child the love, support, patience, encouragement and guidance that he needs. Toddlers are a challenge and at times, he may test your patience. Continue to set rules and enforce them. Soon your child will learn his limits.

You might notice that your child has developed new fears. This is normal and should pass when she sees that there is really nothing to be afraid of. Some children are afraid of separation, change, inanimate obects, animals and imaginary creatures. If you subjected your child to these types of objects from a young age, she may not show fear. Respect her fears and gently tell her there is nothing to be afraid of.

Because your baby is probably standing and walking well, he does not like any type of restraint. Occasionally, there are times that he may need to be in a playpen for safety. Your baby is beginning to do things for attention and likes when you clap or acknowledge her cuteness. At this point, she is beginning to adjust to babysitters but she is still afraid of strangers. She will empty the contents out of anything that you allow her to. She likes to take socks out of drawers, pots out of cabinets, etc. It is very important that you have childproofed your home and made a safe place for your toddler to explore.

Language skills are developing and he will begin saying simple words. Sometimes he gets frustrated if he can not find the words to say. Your child will respond to his name and he will look in the right direction when you ask him where an object is. He has begun to understand the names of objects, foods, people and animals. You might notice that he has a favorite book and will want you to read it over and over.

Your child does like to play alone sometimes, but she really likes to play with you. She likes to hide and have you find her. Some of her favorite toys are push and pull toys, simple ride on toys, pretend play, building materials, crayons and paper, cars and trucks, balls and other bright objects. Providing her a variety of educational toys will encourage her learning. Help her build towers and play imitation games with her.

Sometimes it is hard for babies to give up the bottle or breast. Weaning from the breast or bottle should be done slowly. Many babies want to nurse or drink from a bottle before bed and when they wake up. Do not allow your child to take a bottle or cup to bed with her. By now, she can drink whole milk. Offer her milk in a cup and encourage her to drink from it. She will drink less milk as she is eating more foods. Soon your child will forget about the breast or bottle. Don’t offer it if she has moved on.

Developmental Milestones – 13 Months


  • Climbs onto a low step
  • Can stand alone
  • May walk well
  • Puts objects away


  • Can hug and kiss
  • Likes when people are near
  • Enjoys praise and attention
  • Is learning simple words
  • Can respond when her name is called
  • Waves bye bye


  • Shy with strangers
  • Likes other children
  • Will adjust to familiar faces

Age Appropriate Toys

  • Ride-on toys
  • Push toys
  • Puppets
  • Books
  • Balls
  • Dolls
  • Blocks
  • Chunky crayons and paper
  • Large trucks/cars
  • Nesting cup
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  1. lilmum2002 16 January 2015

    This is what was in our paper: Oklahoma City shaken by quake OKLAHOMA CITY (AP) -- People near Oklahoma City were shaken awake by a small earthquake before dawn. The U.S. Geological Survey says the earthquake happened just before 5 a.m. Saturday. Its epicentre was about 25 kilometres east of Oklahoma City. The USGS website says the earthquake measured a preliminary magnitude of 3.4. People have reported feeling it up to 34 kilometres away in Edmond. No damage was reported I've never been in an earthquake and can't say I want to be. Good job on your pants fitting better. I started a Biggest Loser workout video yesterday and HOLY SHIT I'm feeling it today that's for sure lol

  2. lilmum2002 16 January 2015

    Yea I listened to that song it was a pretty good one. Really catchy! And very true!

  3. rubes 16 January 2015

    Fell out with my best friend. Only she obviously wasn't my friend at all. I had a bad turn yesterday and shes telling everyone she was a concerned friend and I was horrible to her. No. She told me I was lying and faking it do I told her 'Well now I know who my friends are and theyre definitely not part of Mohsen's degenerate crowd. Nice knowing you. Enjoy your life' was a dig at her boyfriend lol well no one makes me out to be the ungrateful bad guy when I was accused if faking my illness. What bothers me is that I never even called her she called me and just started having a go at me oh and apparently I harassed het good job I saved the Txts hey??? Lilia can pull to stand when u hold her hands, no pulling onto furniture yet tho!!!!

  4. rubes 16 January 2015

    Super good news on the loosing weight!! Im kissing my resolution goodbye lol my mums going to tell the dr how bad I've been so quit stalling and help her (me) so if they put me on meds I'll be sluggish and hungry more then likely (from experience) so get better then work on my weight!!!!

  5. rubes 16 January 2015

    Tunisia situation is getting worse. The armies decended on two towns. Thankfully violence seems to have settled where the family are. I heard from his sister and she's ok. she says the whole families fine although I have my suspicions that I saw Mohsen's nephew on the news........

  6. lilmum2002 16 January 2015

    I hope they settle down in Tunsia for you guys. Rubes obviously she's not a good friend then. My 'friend' only talks to me when she doesn't have a boyfriend. I've put on 5lbs boo hoo :( It's a good thing I got the workout video, jez. Although it is kicking my ass lol. My legs are burning today like hardly walk burning lol .

  7. rubes 16 January 2015

    I'll look at all my options have a good talk with my dr something needs to be done it's ruining my life so fuck protocol thanks for advice ok seems violence has flared tunis-carthage is bad mohsens niece in tears to me she's got two young kids poor things they must be terrified. Apparently anyone seen in crowds of 3 will get arrested which is just stupid hid niece is like 'the price of freedom' I think I'd be under the table til it subsided she's a strong lady

  8. rubes 16 January 2015

    Ahh I hate friends like that!!! Mohsenx like ull be friends nxt week I'm like no I dont need ppl like that in my life lol I'm not you haha it's just weight I know it gets women down ( me especislly lol) but it'll something that just happens sometimes

  9. lilmum2002 16 January 2015

    I'll be thinking of your family Rubes I know weight is a damn bitch lol! I hate her! I just see all these people I know just look like they are exploding and I don't want that. I'm ok with how I look now I just want to get rid of my paunch that never seems to go away. If I ever come on here complaining I don't want to do my workout yell at me k?

  10. rubes 16 January 2015

    I shall fly to u and give ya a slap =P I have a few weeks of comfort eating ahead then I'm bk to the ole regime!!!!

  11. i-am-pregnant 17 January 2015

    chloepops- I don't put a lot of food on her tray, and when she starts throwing her food on the floor, I give her one bite at a time. My husband says to stop giving her food if she is going to throw it on the floor- but I do not think that a good solution at all. Do you think this is just a stage she is going through, and will eventually stop on her own?

  12. kwasnicababy 17 January 2015

    My name is Amy and I would like to invite you all with little Princess' to join my group on facebook (Two-Twos) We make Tutus and Dresses for infants and toddlers

  13. i-am-pregnant 17 January 2015

    I am also pregnant again! I am 20 weeks with twins now!! My house is going to be SO crazy!! I am constantly picking up my daughters toys in the living room, and he's like... 'what's the point!?! we are going to be picking up toys for a LONG time...' ahhhhh, husbands.... I am so excited though! Daizy walks really bow-legged.... anyone elses babies doing this too?

  14. i-am-pregnant 17 January 2015

    How do you keep you babies from throwing food on the floor? Daizy looks at us with it in her hand-- and we say 'no' and she still does it anyways. Grrr.... lol... motherhood!

  15. i-am-pregnant 17 January 2015

    pregnant hippy mama im from month 16 and just seen ur post my lil 1 used to do this alot and still does if i put food on her highchair tray so i only give her a few bits at a time and she usualy eats it like that. do u give ur lil 1 a full plate ov food to eat ?

  16. rubes 17 January 2015

    Thanks hun!!! Dr gave ms anti depressants and a hug he helped me battle depression since I was 13 he was so lovely anf supportive but i ring up mohsen and he has a go at me coz of my behaviour during my episode none if his friends want to see me again oh and it's my bday and guess where he is??? Looking after his friend. Ive been left to battle this alone and I feelsao alone Im not well I'm seeking help so why are ppl being so horrible to me???? I'm so supportive if everyone bur have been abandoned happy birthday mel

  17. rubes 17 January 2015

    I broke my iPhone I'm well pissed lol taking it to the shop tomorrow!!

  18. rubes 17 January 2015

    Thanks, huni. Lilia is asleep and my mum forgot to by me a cake. my iphone has broken. im so pissed!!!!! Were going to have a champagne supper. =) Weeeeeeeeee. Lilia has turned super clingy again, but i think i noticed her molars tryinh to push through. =(

  19. rubes 17 January 2015

    Thanks, super!! My doctor told me to take Lilia for a run in her pushchair. Lol. Just, push her, and run after her.... Don't think he realises I live on a hill. PMSL. Mohsens on Vit B pills, we figured it was for his iron due to drink?? Lol. They never explain shit to you!! Well, my doctor rang me because my mum was worried, and he perked me up. I really think he's awsome. I've not seen him all day. His problem is, he KNOWS im this way coz of him, so has disappeared to drown his sorrows.... My doctor told me to suck it up, let him get on with his own problems, focus on me and Lilia, get myself better, rebuild my selfworth, take comfort in my true friends, vent, vent, vent when needed, run down a hill after a pushchair..... And, then realise what it is I want.... I used to have a hge crush on this doc, he really is awsome.

  20. rubes 17 January 2015

    I'm 22, but feel so wasted and old, if that makes sense???? Oh, well, whatever happens happens for a reason, I guess, and like last time will only make me stronger. My doctor was well shocked, because when i was pregnant and backwards and forwards coz of BV and trush and UTIs, and when Lilia was newborn, he really saw the change in me from that anxious depressed kid, he was so proud about how together I was, and it upset him how bad I am now from then. He's been my doc since I was 8 years old, so more like a friend really.

  21. rubes 17 January 2015

    Stupid iphone wont even charge now!!!!!! Must be that ladder I walked under in early 2010.....

  22. rubes 17 January 2015

    Thanks, super. All you ladies really been my rock. Would have gone completely 'run down street naked' crazy if it wasnt for you guys!!!

  23. rubes 17 January 2015

    Not heard worst part.... He has continuously lied to me all day about his whereabouts and if he's coming or not. I've not bloody seen my own husband in 2-days. Pmsl. It's laughable. His friend keeps saying in background 'should we go Kent??' and 'lets go see julie' and 'you keep saying you want to go see Julie', im going to end up bi polar or paranoid scitzophrenic lol no thats not funny, im already showing signs. For instance, he turns his phone off for 10 mins, then turns it on, and i ring him for like 15 mins before he answers -- his excuse: 'i was on phone to my friend so he can pick me up coz i had to walk like a mile down the road to buy cigarettes so i had to explain where i am' -- in my head??? 'I turned my phone off coz im in bed with Julie enjoying her nice tight vag, undisturbed by childbirth because she had to have a c-section coz shes shaped like a skinny annorexic boy-child, and now my friend is picking me up'. Boy, wish I could find the balls to leave. :(

  24. rubes 17 January 2015

    I want to leave my husband. I'm not kidding. I want to leave. Why am I so scared??? Why do I feel like I need him??? Why do I feel as if I need him to survive when he does bugger all for us anyways?? My doctor implied emotional and mental abuse, but i know im stronger then to fall for that. How do I get the courage to leave??? :(

  25. rubes 17 January 2015

    I didnt say there was anything wrong with bi polar!!!! Sorry if I offended you!!! i started showing some symptoms, and a few ppl have commented on it, however, my doctor has not, so lets just say im Clinically Depressed (severely). I'm anti divorce too, but I read my blog before i posted it and realised i am suffering abuse and cant live the rest of my life like that. More importantly, I cant allow Lilia to witness this and fall into the same bad relationship you know??? He's gone clubbing now to that club in London Prince Harry goes too and all those footballers how he managed to get in i dont know. I said to him 'hmmmm would have been nice to go there for my birthday' LOL Then he sounded all sad and goes 'I promise you babe ill take you tomorrow' i ust ignored him lol Imagine a 41 YEAR OLD MAN CLUBBING????? Its ridiculous. First obstical was admitting this is unhealthy and that i need to walk away -- accomplished. The second obstical is to actually walk away and mean it, which I figure will be harder, especially while im so vulunerable and dependant on him. Bloody time, hey??????? Its a joke!!!!

  26. rubes 17 January 2015

    I do the diary thing, only I left my diary at home when I went to my Mums. It really was theoputic -- FULL of 'hoe, slag, ruined my life, bastard, heartbroken'. I entitled it 'Diary of Rubes, Emotional Fuckwit' pmsl

  27. jlr 18 January 2015

    my daughter has been filling her diaper over night to the point that she is wet in the morning... i cut back water at night but i dont know what else to do... any suggestions?

  28. i-am-pregnant 18 January 2015

    river- that is EXACTLY what daizy does! She holds the food over the edge of the tray, stares at me, and I say 'no' and she drops it. She doesn't laugh or anything, just keeps staring at me! I tried to read up on what to do-- and I am not going to take the food away, instead, I am taking a step backwards, and feeding her myself once she begins dropping food on the floor. So far that is working, and she gets a little upset that I won't let her hold the fork anymore-- but I don't know how else to teach her not to throw her food!

  29. tink21 18 January 2015

    Jay does the same thing with his food. I noticed he does that for example when I put too many little peaces of chicken so now I give him 3 at a time and he usually shakes his head no when hes full but other times he just makes a mess on purpose and I clear his tray.

  30. rubes 18 January 2015

    Tmi i know but i have iritable bowl syndrome (from stress), and have lost like a lb in a day lol Anyone else give their kids chocolate?? Not a whole bar, I know, but Lilia likes Mars and we give her a few chunks. It's not god awful is it, because she eats healthy and its not every day and i think shes allowed a treat?? Talking of Glee, Lilia is dancing to the songs!!! I love watching her dance!! =)

  31. rubes 18 January 2015

    I hope so, hun. Really I do. Totally fucked up situation, man. Never in a million years thought Id end up in this situation. He said he's coming today, bt we'll see. I liked Glee last night (although didnt understand why a britney spears epidsode????), no Family Guy though!!! Cheered me up a bit. Lol. Cant even be bothered to go get my phone fixed. I have an old phone somewhere so may just use that!!!

  32. River 18 January 2015

    Oh my gosh pregnant- Riley does that as well and it is so frustrating. He holds the food over the edge of his chair and stares at me, while i say no and then he just drops it. He knows it is wrong but does it anyway. I have no idea what to do! I think he usually does it when he is coming to the end of his meal and isn't so hungry anymore.

  33. rubes 18 January 2015

    Thanks, girls. =) I dont see nothing wrong with that, Amanda. You do what you have to do!!! I agree -- I weaned onto solids at 3 and a half months because she was loosing weight and this made her badly constipated. She doesn't drink water, so I was giving her diluted juice instead to ease her constipation. Now shes on cows milk i water down her milk slightly, because she STILL wont take water -- even when I try to confuse her by not giving her diluted milk or diluted juice for a whole month.

  34. rubes 18 January 2015

    OK -- just recieved word. My SIL and her family nearly died because her husband works for the government (low down job) and lives in a government building -- the mob attempted to burm it down, but security services arrived and opened fire on the mob. Luckily the family was safe, but spent the night in the woods, away from the village. Thre were kids in that building. =( Now the security services have left, the mob are fighting EACH OTHER. What the Hell do they want??????? Lol.

  35. i-am-pregnant 18 January 2015

    Ha - so this is where you are, are you trying to hide from me ladies!? Anyone had mmr an swine jabs together? J is due his mmr on Monday and our Drs are offering swine flu vacs on Saturday am, I'm a bit nervous about having the two so close together??

  36. rubes 18 January 2015

    My surgery wont offer swine flu. i wanted it. I was well pissed. Apparently the cases are so few, theyve stopped vaccinating, even in private practice. However, my opinion is that to eradicate it, you ought to vaccinate regardless, instead of containing it in small numbers. Idiots. Lol. We had MMR and boosters though, 3 injections all together. She was all excited over those silly needles, til it was inserted into her thigh, then she screamed the house down!!

  37. lilmum2002 18 January 2015

    Wow I go take care of my MIL for a day and a whole lots going on. First off Rubes I already told ya in your blog and I agree with everyone else 'Just do it!' and if you need to lean on us don't be afraid to! Secondly - Yay Hunter for walking with a toy and like tuna sandwiches and milk and water.

  38. lilmum2002 18 January 2015

    K Ladies I'm stressin! My mil has crazy bad athritis and everything has been acting up and she's all worried about her house and now she wants us to move into her house within a year, do up the basement into a mini apartment for her so it's not so much on just her and to help her when needed. I love the woman to pieces but David just doesn't understand how difficult it would be for me, or us for that matter. I feel like it would be like having a roommate all over again and that didn't bode too well for us. I'd have to always be careful of the noise the kids would make with her being downstairs and I still wouldnt' feel like it would be my home since her name would still be on it and she'd still be there. Ugh I know we'll have to do it but I'm just kind of dreading it. Am I worng for feeling this way or would you guys feel the same?

  39. ReadyForNumber2 19 January 2015

    Pregnant- TWINS!!! I will constantly be praying for you. LOL So how many of you are already overwhelmed by the idea of two under two? I am actually starting to lose sleep over it now.

  40. lilmum2002 19 January 2015

    Morning! I know it will be ok, we lived with her for a few months back before we moved here. It's just that she's sucha stubborn old woman lol and she's beenn by herself for like 9-10 years so to add our family of 5 into technically her space I know it will have some serious rough spots. Plus she smokes like a chimney and I can't exactly tell her to quit and it will still feel like it's her house so I have no say. David just doesn't get it but I have no other choice but to suck it up really. I just know it will be soooo stressful on our relationship. And whenever I try and mention it to him he says oh well she'll be having her own little apartment in the basement so it won't even be like that. YEA RIGHT!!! I don't even know why I'm stressing about it now since it will be about a year before we have to move. Ugh sorry about the rant it's just still really bugging me.

  41. i-am-pregnant 19 January 2015

    I would not like to live with my MIL, its hard enoguh when she visits for a week! Would do it if needed though - at least if she has your space and you have yours it's not like having to share all the communal space - good on you though, I hope she (and hubby) appreciate you!

  42. lilmum2002 19 January 2015

    There will be some comunal space considering she can't go a day wtihout seeing David, he's an only child and her husband passed away 10 years ago. ANd all she has left is one brother and a sister in Ontario. But I know she does appriecated, and doesn't even really want it herself as she knows how it is. Her MIL lived with them and she took care of her until she died, so she knows how it is to be in my shoes so I know she'll be considerate and that stuff, it's just the whole idea of sharing space again. In the 5 years we've been together we've only technically lived by ourselves in our own space for a year. I guess I just really like it and didn't want to give it up quite yet. I'm sure it will be nice and get our final move over with sooner then later I'm just having a hard time for the moment I guess. Sorry to keep going on I just have like NO ONE to talk to about it.

  43. rubes 19 January 2015

    OK, ladies -- day two of medicine and my sex drive is through the roof, as well as my impulsive nature. I think I raped him 10x last night, and spent £100 in half an hour...... Thankfully, that's all I had in my Visa account!!! Also, I was so ANGRY during sex, I couldn't stop insulting him...... I'm under 25 and apparently the medicine can really affect the under 25s during the first two-weeks, although I did NOT read these side-effects on the packet..... If I was a praying mantis or a Black Widow, I'd have totally ripped his head off afterwards..... I still feel like I need him, so the balls to leave aren't quite there yet, but my doctor told me to give it time -- I will wake up one morning, and walk out that door forever, basically. He's gone home and I'm back at my Mum's for the timebeing, and I'm so HORNY again, it's freakish. =(

  44. rubes 19 January 2015

    Oh, I'd love to live with my MIL. She's such a beautiful person, and really loves taking care of people. I have no falt with her... Well.... Except the fact we can't speak the same language.... But I'd learn.... Right??? Right??? Lol. Lilmum, House Rules will need to be established, or it will not work, in my opinion, and David and his mother need to understand this -- you and her each have your own dynamic, and entering into each others space could just upset things.

  45. rubes 19 January 2015

    If everyone ignored her. shed get tired and move on -- the way of The Bully.

  46. lilmum2002 19 January 2015

    Super I know how you feel! Me and David got into a SUPER big fight the other night over sex and everything in general. I'm just so tired of being on the bottom of everyone else's priorty list. I understand his mom needs help sometimes but I moved out to nowhere land to help his mom and stuff and I just get left home day in and day out with the kids and he can just go and sit at his mom's for hours and then stop visit a couple friends on the way back. It's tiring, I haven't had a full nights sleep in well over a year. I'm tired and he's just like well I work so I'm more tired. UGh makes me want to smack him! The other night he had to go up to his mom's yet again, and while he was gone Zac took one of his episodes. I called hima dn told him to make it as fast as he could so that I could have backup ya know. Dealing with the other 2 while trying to deal with a fit is Hard. Anyways he decided to stop at his friggin friends house for an extra 25 mins, because he wanted to avoid the fit. I'm constantly ready to cry and it just seemed like he didn't care. again another rant sorry lol.

  47. rubes 19 January 2015

    Just read that my medicine DECREASES sexual desire, not INCREASES it..... WTF is wrong with me???????????

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