Month 20

Parents and children form special bonds and should have a close and loving relationship. Children that feel secure, protected and cared for are more likely to display good behavior. When your child shows signs of distress, tend to their needs. This shows your child that you love him and care for him.

Children at this age enjoy learning about the world around them. Allow your child to play in the sand, water, dirt and even mud. Yes, it can get messy-but that is okay. Provide your child with a clean sandbox and keep it covered when not in use to keep dogs, cats and other pesky critters out. While bathing, give your child containers that he can pour water into. Allow her to play with measuring cups and spoons, sponges, washcloths, funnels and collanders during this time also. While you are outside, you may choose to give your child a bucket of water and let her `paint` the house, car and other thins with the water. Remember that children should not be left alone with water for any amount of time.

You may notice that your child is beginning to have temper tantrums. She may cry, hit, bite, kick, yell and throw himself on the floor. Sometimes, you may not even know what caused the ourburst. Sometimes children learn that by throwing a tantrum, they can get what they want. Other times, tantrums are simply your child’s way of venting frustration or showing that she is hungry, tired or bored. Although there are no magical ways of handling tantrums, you can help your child (and others!) by remaining calm, keeping your child from hurting herself or others, removing your child from an audience and not giving in to the tantrum. Once she is calm, talk to her and let her know that even though it is okay to be upset, her behavior was unacceptable.

Your child might be ready to begin playing with other kids his own age. Keep your child’s playgroup small-no more than four children for every one adult. Ask other parents to stay and play. Not only is adult conversation good for you, but the other children will feel more secure with a familiar face nearby. Allow the children to choose their own activities and do not force them to interact. Provide duplicates of toys, if possible, to eliminate arguments. Encourage sharing, but do not expect it. Try to ignore minor conflicts and respond tp bigger conflicts quickly and calmly. The key to a successful playdate is to keep the children busy with simple and interesting activities.

Developmental Milestones – 20 Months Old


  • Climbs up stairs well
  • May climb downstairs with some help
  • Runs well
  • Hops around
  • Can stand on one foot while holding on


  • Can say 15 words
  • Likes nursery rhymes
  • Asks questions
  • Can draw lines
  • Understands what they are used for
  • Can feed herself well
  • Goes to bed without complaining (too much


  • May be afraid of strangers
  • Stingy with toys
  • Loving and then rude at times
  • May be mean to adults

Age Appropriate Toys

  • Art supplies
  • Books
  • Ride on toys
  • Pretend play
  • Blocks
  • Lincoln logs
  • Puzzles
  • Stringing beads
  • Shape sorters
  • Interactive educational toys
  • Sand and water table
  • Wagon
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  1. julbroom1 30 December 2015

    Hi Rachel, don't you just love drop in company haha Well hope you guys had a great time!

  2. julbroom1 30 December 2015

    Gene of course you can wish it was warm already!! I wish everyday! haha we only had all that snow for 1 week it got so warm and rainy over the weekend that it all melted. but am sure more to come! Hope the doctor says she will out grow it would hate to think that they would have to break that poor princess legs ouch ouch, even though I know they just don't snap it but still. We will keeps you guys in our prayers that it is nothing!:)

  3. mommyof2soon 30 December 2015

    I just left my son in the crib until he was climbing out of it on his own, and will do so with Greyah too. I'd say put her back in the crib for a few weeks/months and then try the big kid bed again. good luck! :)

  4. JessicaDarling 30 December 2015

    We did it again last night in the big girl bed. I wouldn't lay with her and she was asleep within 20 minutes and stayed asleep for 14 hours! That's how pooped she was. It totally worked last night. And at the moment she is asleep in her bed too. I think it was the initial fear that she had to get over. Because today and last night it is working. I am very pleased

  5. bluebeanz 30 December 2015

    Thought I would share this great article I read about toddlers & tantrums since some of us are there with our LO's already. I hope it can be useful to someone.

  6. cristandm 30 December 2015

    I wrote a new blog and put up a couple pictures if you ladies want to take a look. :) Happy New Yea

  7. iluvmylilguys 31 December 2015

    Hi everyone! I'm from month 5 and was just wondering if you all could do me a HUGE favor. I am trying to finish up my thesis for grad school and need people to take a short survey about working mothers and life satisfaction (it's for SAHM's too). It is completely anonymous and will only take a couple minutes. Thanks in advance! Here is the link:

  8. GENE 31 December 2015

    hey have a min. I added photos, not much just a few! Happy new yrs! I hope everyone has a wonderful day, I will try to get back on later!

  9. RachelJ 31 December 2015

    Gene, the pictures are great! I love the ball pit. It is so cool! I bet the kids have a blast playing in it. I hope Alyssa's feet are fine and it is just something she will outgrow. I could see what you mean about her foot turned in on the picture you posted. What a pretty red dress she was wearing! Such a pretty girl and she has so much hair too. I'm still waiting for Samantha to get more hair so she can start to wear ponytails and barrettes. She can only wear hairbands because she doesn't have much hair still.

  10. RachelJ 31 December 2015

    Julbroom1, I got a new desktop for Christmas (I actually got it early at the beginning of December) and it is to replace my old laptop. My laptop had so much stuff on it and was almost 5 years old and was barely working. I love my new desktop, but when I had company here and had work to get done, I missed my laptop so much because my new desktop isn't portable and I just wanted to take my computer and leave and I couldn't! It was a hard decision for me to decide whether I wanted another laptop or a desktop to replace my old computer. I love that I can leave my desktop on all day and not have to worry about it getting hot like my laptop used to, but I hate that it's not portable. I may try to wipe everything off my old laptop and see if I can get it working again, just so I can use it sometimes when I want to connect in other rooms in the house.

  11. RachelJ 31 December 2015

    It's snowing like crazy out and cold.! I'm going to have to run my dogs outside and I don't want to go out there! I can't wait until spring. I am glad we are not going anywhere tonight it is going to be cold and windy. I'm sure it will be just Samantha and I up ringing in the new year together. My hubby always falls asleep by 10pm or so. haha

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