Month 32

Getting your child to listen and follow the rules can be a challenge. It is easy for your child to follow directions, but you must set rules and establish consequences for misbehaving. Explain your rules quickly and precisely. All rules should be clear and specific. If you tell your child not to jump on your bed, make sure he knows that he can not jump on any of the beds. The rules you set need to be consistent and should be followed by everyone else in the house. Be an example for your child to follow. If your child can not walk in the house with shoes on, neither should you. When setting rules, consider your child’s age and abilities. Some rules are not feasible for a two year old to live by. You can not expect your two year old to put his toys away each time without being reminded to do so. Do not make too many rules-children will forget what is acceptable and what is not. Repeat the rules often. Because toddlers have a short attention span and tend to forget things easily, you need to remind him of the rules often.

You might notice that your child seems shy all of a sudden. Most two and three year olds are shy around other children and even some adults. Some children are more shy around adults than other children. Rather than looking for a cure for her shyness, help your child feel comfortable around other people. Do not label your child as `shy` when talking to her or when talking with other people. Calling her shy will make her accept it as a fact and she will not want to socialize with other people. Encourage your child to participate in activities that involve other children and adults. Do not push her if she does not want to. Invite one or two children over to your house, where she is comfortable, and have a play date for a couple of hours. When people talk to your child and she does respond, simply speak for your toddler. This may set the stage for your child and she might participate in the conversation.

Children tend to be bossy at this age. Your child sees himself as the most important person in the world and thinks that things are supposed to revolve around what he wants at all times. You can discourage this normal behavior by treating him as you want him to treat others. Try not to sound bossy towards him and give him adequate attention. Do not respond when your child is rude. Make him say please and thank you and do not give in to direct commands from your child. Give your child responsibilities and some control over less important things throughout the day. This should in turn make your child feel good about himself and lessen the need for so much control over others.

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  1. mommyof2soon 28 December 2015

    Hi all! I haven't been on here in forever (not since before reconstruction surgery) How is everyone? Hope you are all having a wonderful day!

  2. XaviersMommy 28 December 2015

    These Past Two Years Have Gone By So Fast! I Cant Believe Next June My Baby Boy Will Be 3!! :(

  3. rubes 28 December 2015

    A toy horse. I wont buy lilia barbie coz of what she stanss for but my aunt bought lilia a little mermaid doll and ages ago I bought her a barbie horse minus the barbie and she loves playing with their hair, combing, stroking, twiddling. She was never attatched to my hair but it could work, maybe, hopefully.

  4. lilmum2002 28 December 2015

    Kayla has a couple of b Barbies and she loves washing their hair lol I'm constantly telling her to get out of my sink haha. They also have the my little ponies that have hair you could play with too is it something Mason does with your hair or is it the texture, too bad there wasn't a way to get a hair cut and attach it to something without it being too creepy LOL

  5. margysd 29 December 2015

    Hi, My daughter is 6.5 months. Our pediatrician has recommended tummy time everyday to encourage her to start crawling. She frequently lifts her head and straightens out her legs like she wants to start crawling or walking. However, when I put her on her tummy after a minute or two she gets frustrated and starts to cry. It breaks my heart to hear her cry so I change positions and sometimes put her on her side to see if she wants to roll over in different directions to encourage movement. I want to do everything that I can to encourage crawling, but at the same time I want to create a positive experience. I was wondering if you have any advice about how you encouraged your babies to start crawling. Thanks.

  6. lilmum2002 29 December 2015

    I am so tired of being on the bottom of everyones list. I do and do and do and get nothing in return. All I do is sit at home or when David does take me anywheres its always with his best friend and his family. I feel like no one even notices me except for what I can do for them and nothing more. No one hears anything I say, there seems to be this huge double standard for everyone and I am always on the shit end of the stick. I have literally cried at some point every day for over a week and no one has even noticed. And David's way of being there is going and ignoring anything I say and doing the complete opposite and then gets mad when I say I don't want to be married in front of his friends, because it makes him look bad, well sorry asshole but if you didn't do things that made you look bad I'm not going to sugar coat things so that you look great when I feel like shit.

  7. delta123 29 December 2015

    I hate m thinking my routines too rigid n complaining coz I put them to bed between 6 n 7 too early apparently. They wake up between 6 n 7 even if they go to bed at 9 so I'm ensuring 12 hrs sleep.I just hate ppl treading on my toes! I hate ppl doing half a job. As you van see a lot bothers me lol so its best I live alone lol

  8. delta123 29 December 2015

    O I hate sharing a bed! N not splitting chores. I hate ppl doing my laundry coz my ways better lol I hate ppl eating all myfood wgen I've budgeted. I gave issues. Lol

  9. delta123 29 December 2015

    I've tried living with m... Three times? Or 4? Twice in west London, twice in north London. It never works! I cannot livewitg ppl and I don't know why. I find I am too dependent on otgers when I live with others, can't manage myself properly and hate compromising. I'm set in my ways!

  10. delta123 29 December 2015

    Mybaby how mortifying! Are you guys better now? Did it come on suddenly?

  11. delta123 29 December 2015

    I dunno if I wanna live with anyone to be Frank lol I'll move with my kids byt ms a whole other story lol I don't like livin.Witg ppl. Is that so bad? Being married but living apart? I evenk got married 9 months pregnant in a suit after eloping with strangers for witnesses honestly Idefy convention at every turn haha

  12. Christina 29 December 2015

    So frustrated. When I tell my 2 and 3 year old to do something, like pick up a toy, they ignore me or talk back to me. But if my husband says it, they listen. Ahhh. lol. I keep trying to find ways to make them listen, but nothing works so far. My 2 year old son, well turning 2 in Feb, will point his index finger at me and say NO, or put his hand in front of himself, palm side out and say STOP! And my nearly 3 year old daughter will say 'you do it!' if i tell her to do something. I mean, they are good kids in general and are not like that all the time, but when they do act like that its so frustrating. And they like to push each other and hit each other, then cry and blame it on each other. Hope the terrible 2 phase ends soon. lol.

  13. TiffJD 29 December 2015

    Thanks loving. My Mom keeps my son while I am at work and she doesn't use the pull ups and she takes him every 30 minutes and he still won't go. He will actually wait until he gets off the potty and go in his training pants. He doesn't care that he is wet. He's stubborn and has decided that he has control in this arena. We will continue trying...

  14. soon2be3 29 December 2015

    Xaviers...most of of us in month 32 will have 4 year olds next June! I can't believe that at all...where did time go?

  15. rubes 29 December 2015

    Lol, lil. Imagine that?! Ud make billions haha masons birthdays soon isnt it? Or have I missed it? I thought it was today lol arun turns one on monday , lilia three on tuesday. Irs a surre as l feeling lol were having a small family only party. :)

  16. 2ndtimemommy2be 30 December 2015

    Hi i'm also new to the site and i have a 3 1/2 year old who can be very difficult. I just found out i'm pregnant with our 2nd and we're hoping a new sibling will calm her down. Is it wishful thinking or can a new sibling calm a difficult 3yr old down?

  17. Rebecca 30 December 2015

    2ndtimemommy2be: Its hard to say if it will calm your 3yr old down or not. But it will be trying on your patience. Going from one to two can be very difficult at the beginning but once everything settles and becomes routine you will really enjoy it! Congrats on your soon to be bundle and welcome to a very fun but chaotic mommy life! :)

  18. rubes 30 December 2015

    Anyone have new yr resolutions? Im starting the atkins diet on jan 3rd, theyve tweaked the plan and the recepies are really delish and healthy now. Looking forward lol

  19. rubes 30 December 2015

    Oh how frightening¡!!! They say those abdominal thrusts arent done right unless u break a rib. Maybe get him checked out? Although he could be scared to eat. Spaghetti once got stuck at the back of my throat, dangling round my tonsil, for SIX DAYS. was a complete freak occurance, uncommon, and it Was horrible and hurt like a bitch. Once it past, I ate nothing but soup for aover a month, too scared to eat.

  20. lilmum2002 30 December 2015

    that must have been so scary Mybaby. Thankfully I've never had to do anything like that on my kids but Rubes is right he may just be scared of eating. My new year's resolution is to be more patient and to work really hard on getting answers for Zac. Also to apply myself better. I've just been feeling really down and depressed lately but don't really feel like talking about it too much. Today I had to physically restrain Zac for 45 minutes. It's getting to be really hard, and to honest totally heart breaking and I'm scared he's going to be one of those teens who gets bullied and ends up committing suicide. Today his fit was over his disappointment over the weather and lunch. It seems like sometimes his triggers are so small and trivial. And yet others that you would think would bother him have no effect at all.

  21. iluvmylilguys 31 December 2015

    Hi everyone! I'm from month 5 and was just wondering if you all could do me a HUGE favor. I am trying to finish up my thesis for grad school and need people to take a short survey about working mothers and life satisfaction (it's for SAHM's too). It is completely anonymous and will only take a couple minutes. Thanks in advance! Here is the link: http://www.surveymonkey.com/s.aspx?sm=gsW61RI9jxacazRSmEiuWw_3d_3d

  22. rubes 31 December 2015

    Happy new yrs everyone, what did everyone get up to? I put kids to bed at 6 n cracked open the vodka and currently have tonnes of sausage roll crumbs down my cleaveage... Oooops! ;) haha

  23. delta123 31 December 2015

    Kids bday is..... Completely uneventful lol I'm doing crock pot beef stew n mash for dinner n a muffin with a candle haha their partys on sat so that's the big do only me n my friend are panicky coz our fellas wanna come n we know they'll be all sullen n bored n miserable so my anxieties through roof! They'll be only men there!

  24. AidensMom6176 31 December 2015

    2ndtimemommy2be~ i have a 3 1/2 yr old and a 5 month old and was very worried about the same thing. my son is a wild child to no end! he's just a very active child and when i was pregnant sometimes i would wonder how i was going to be able to handle him with the new baby. every child's different but when Addison was born he made a complete 360! he's still just as wild but he's grown up so much! he's such a good helper and is very sweet to his baby sister. i think for him he was just getting tired of being an only child b/c he stays at home with me so he wasn't around kids unless we did playdates so now that he has his sister that he can somewhat play with now he has calmed down so much. congratulations and good luck! there's nothing sweeter to seeing your older child interact with their new sibling

  25. TJ 31 December 2015

    lol christina i'm in the same boat as you. my son loves to ignore me everytime i tell him to pick up but he'll be just fine when my hubby gets home and tells him to do it. but i don't think the terrible twos will ever end it seems like lol. i just recently met my step son who lived in honduras with his mom for the past six years...anyways he'll be 11 in three weeks and he seems to act as bad as my almost 3 year old until their dad walks in the door. they can be terrible lol.

  26. rubes 31 December 2015

    Lil, if u keep pushing, you will get ur answers, im just sorry its taken so long. Some good new yrs resolutions ladies. Lilia has a urine infwction and it makws her wet herself so shes bk on antibiotics. Her accidents are less frequent now. Drs today for her bandage change si hopefully her fingers healing well still.

  27. rubes 31 December 2015

    Rls im so sorry. Hopefully its simple and easily treatable. Keep us updated xxx

  28. Stormsmum 31 December 2015

    Happy new year everyone! Mybaby -about sleeping with toys. Well he does like to sleep with a toy but he keeps changing the toy from day to day. He is only allowed one toy in bed. Today he spotted my husbands baseball bat so off to bed he went with it...

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