hi girls. my husband and i were discussing it, and i think i may want to homeschool my children. it seems like the people that are having kids (in my area) that are around my kids ages are purposely raising their children to be little hoodlums! for example, my ex friends 2 year old daughter sings along to icp and flips people off. my best friends daughter beats other kids up! and my cousins kid is rude and spits in peoples faces, and punched my 70 year old grandmother in the face! and the kid is 3! and the parents think its hilarious! i would be horrified if my child was ever influenced by these types of kids. i could raise them right, but peer pressure does not discriminate. i feel like sheltering is not the worst thing. i mean… why NOT let my children stay INNOCENT as they should? people keep telling me its a bad idea tho! any thoughts? i would love some opinions! thanks
You know, I understand your intent, but I think kids gotta develope skills of communication. You don’t want them to be anti-social. They could nend up being very fragile and hostile. My son’s friend was homeschooled for 2 years, when he came back to school he had troubles with teachers and the whole process of studying, he’d use https://buzzessay.com/narrative-essay-secrets-of-successful-writing/ , cheat on tests. In the end he was kicked out. But that’s your choice to make
Wow, seems this post provoked comments from lots of people. I think there are advantages to both, but be very careful about home schooling unless you know lots of other people who home school so your kids can be part of some sort of community. I know one family who do it well but they run a riding stables (horse riding) pony share scheme (basically allowing kids who otherwise wouldn’t be able to afford it to be able to take care of and ride horses)……they are also a family of 6……hence they are almost constantly around other young people when not actually in “lessons”. I just wouldn’t be able to offer that myself not least of all because i work full time! Work aside, I have also had some experiences which have made me more pro sending my children to the local school recently. My son is 3….where we live we are lucky enough to have a preschool provided between 9-3pm during school term time. When he first started he initially started to pick up bad habits like hitting and pronouncing his words badly. We didn’t like it. We told him off, and his teachers worked through it with all children involved. the other day when a child pushed him in the park he went to hit, then stopped, and told child in question he didn’t want to play with someone who pushed, and wouldn’t play with him anymore until he said sorry. I believe he learned these skills from being exposed to the bad behaviour in the first place. Yes, its naive to think he’ll never push or scrap again, but I think being forced to deal with the issue at 3 has ultimately taught him seomthing not being exposed at all wouldn’t have. I also that whilst the path might be pretty difficult at times, if both children can stay out of MAJOR trouble, they will be less naive and better able to fend for themselves when they get to college and i’m not around to protect/guide them when bad influences arise. Basically i’d rather they learned people don’t all behave well….i’m sure they will be negatively influenced, but i’d rather it was happening when they are little enough for me to guide them and take care of them. I also learned a lot from unsupervised play in the school playground….whilst i’m scared of my children being corrupted i don’t want to take away learning how to socialise
if you are a good parent and teach your children right from wrong then they pick up on that so much more than what other children around them are doing. It sounds like all the children around you are trouble but that doesn’t mean every kid in school is gonna be like that! I went through the NYC school system and I turned out just fine 🙂 peachys-which school do you work at? Anywr the bronx.
Dont do it! your kids will be anti-social and they will not have the memories that we all had going to school, they will resent you for it when they grow up! instead of taking it all away, have you considered switching schools in a diff neighbourhood? private schools? Just watch 19 kids and countung and look at how those kids act, they are all alittle odd, you can tell they are homeschooled. although i understand where your coming from, you have to let kids be kids and you cant always ve hiding them from the world, they will thank you for it later on in life! good luck to whatever you decide, but i would vote a big fat no! Kids are only kids once, you can’t give them all the experiences they want just by sitting in the house.
Also, look into co-ops in your area. Lots of places have “elective” type classes for homeschoolers ( music, art, etc) that can get them out and about or parents take turns teaching groups one or two days a week. I like both homeschooling and public schooling usually. Private schools in my area are not my preference. If you have the dedication to do it, try it! Spend the summer in research. Go to the library and ask around for good resources. If you do not have a background in educational techniques ( or even if you do) you will find that it is an ever changing process that changes with your kid. Even teaching a class of kids is like that. It’s not going to be easy….but you will all be learning and growing. It is a process.
I plan to home-school, but I homeschooling for many reasons. First I want to give my children a good foundation in Christ! Second my babies r still young and I don’t want to send them for other people to raise all day and then I just get a few hers with them (I’m selfish with them I know:-) . I will not be trying to keep my babies from other kids, we do play dates and they have different classes where they r without me but only for a couple of hours so if they pock up some bad behavior or words I can address them right then and teach them properly. And besides, I know that I can teach them just as well…if not better tha n anyone because I can give them one-on-one time and they will be allowed to learn the way they are comfortable learning instead of being forced to learn the way everyone else learns. My son in particular doesn’t learn the way his sister does and I know in school they would put labels on him. Anyway, as much as we want to we can’t shield our children from the world but we can give them the tools and foundations needs to live in it and I feel the early years are those years and I’m just not ready to put them in asny other human hands. Sorry this is long and the mistakes I’m writing tjis while on the treadmill:-) Good luck to you though!
bg- i feel the same way about wanting them to know Christ, and not wanting a teacher to be the one who raises my child. i guess im selfish too lol. i planned on sending them to classes and play groups and such, and we do have GOOD parent friends, (although few). so, they will get interaction. sunday school, youth groups, classes, play groups, family and friend get-togethers… they dont need to be constantly influenced by bad kids 5 days a week for 8 hours a day!
If you want to homeschool your children thats your decision and thats fine if thats what your comfortable with but you have to realize at the same time you can’t protect them forever from the outside world. If you homeschool them until high school then there will be those influences. If you homeschool them up until college or university then there will be the influences when they get there. The problem that I see is no matter when you have to let go sometime and as they get older the hoodlums become worse and worse such as peer pressure concerning drugs and criminal activities. I think more importantly than sheltering our children and pretending that this behaviour doesn’t exist we should help to give them the tools to say no and teach them that although some people partake in certain behaviours that doesn’t make it acceptable. They will always and some point and time encounter social deviants, wouldn’t you rather them be equipped with an understanding to deal with these people instead of a lack of understanding that might leave them defenseless. I mean, if you would rather homeschool them until you think that you have taught them enough to understand and separate from this behaviour rather mixing them in at such a young age thats your call. I just don’t think its realistic to think we can shelter our kids for…. how long? I think homeschooling is fine as long as you have looked at both the pros and cons and have a long term game plan as to what you would like to achieve with this. I just think its important to have socially competant children as much as its important to have well behaved children.
lovelyoungmama- i see your point, and have thought of that myself. i appriciate the input, and understand that although i want to protect them from all the ugly in the world, i simply cannot. your comment did bring those (very true) facts to my forthright, and thank you for that. and yet…*sigh* i still have quite a bit of decision making to do. a list of pros and cons and such. its just so scary to think that children can be so cruel. i named my son leonardo. (my daughter is named isabella so thats not as bully-able). but kids can easily make fun of my son for his name. and i didnt even consider that until a month after his birth :/
I too have made the decision to homeschool my daughter this year due to the schools in our area just not doing the job they should be doing and I don’t think my daughter should have to come home from 8 hours at school only for me to make her school more to keep her where she should be. I will be doing the My Father’s World curriculum for her kindergarten year and I am so excited but nervous because we are expecting a new baby in January and I have a toddler lol. Anyways I do think it is good to get socialization outside of homeschooling. I have a few friends that homeschool so we get together to play and then my daughter is also involved in church, dance, and I will be putting her in soccer soon. She is a little social butterfly so I want to make sure I don’t take that away from her but I am happy to be able to school her at home where she will get all she needs to get done in the first part of her day and then we can have the rest of the day to explore what we learned or do her extra curricular activities. If you feel it is the right choice then it is 🙂
If you do decide to homeschool, then you need to really step up the getting out and interacting. My inlaws homeschooled, and half of their cousins were too. They all have expressed how much they hate/hated it, and will never homeschool their kids! Keep in mind, kids live to socialize and play, so you’ll need to get out atleast every other day with them so they can hang out with kids their age and make friends! My inlaw side of the family is lucky. Its very big, so each cousin has at least one other cousin there age, but still. They all wish they had gone to school and made friends. My husband was the biggest dork ever, until 19 when he went onto a post secondary. He found it very hard to make friends as well. So please, be very careful and diligent on getting your kids on teams and things like that, because they will miss out a lot on the socialization aspect!
i have considered homeschooling myself, tho i will admit i was alway COMPLETELY AGAINST it until my oldest started school. i have always been able to tell when adults had been homeschooled, they were always a bit off socially, and i didnt want that for my kids. however i now see why people do it and i believe that there are some great benefits to it and some kids really would thrive in that situation. my son however is very social and would really miss the interaction a classroom environment provides. that along with the fact that i had 4 kids in 4 years leaves me at my wits ends anyways i dont need to add being a teacher on to that pile at this point in my life. i was not born to teach, while i excelled in school myself, i have never been able to teach others to do things and that is another factor in my decision to not homeschool at this particular time. but maybe at a later date or with a different child, my second is the personality that may do well staying home. we will see.
i work in an inner city public school in NYC. i completely agree that the majority of the children here are the type of influence that u are trying to avoid HOWEVER… i also attended an inner city public school and considering what my life could have been, i was able to rise above those influences due to the parenting that i received from my mom. And the kids i work with now, although many are extremely difficult, there are some who have wonderful parents with strong foundations and they are doing just fine. i agree with lovelyyoungmama that we cannot shelter them forever and they do learn very important socialization skills from being in school settings. i am not against homeschooling but i think the real life lessons that children learn in school are very important. as long as u are strong with ur parenting and beliefs and set them up with good foundations i think ur kids will be just fine.
I live in aus so it’s a bit different but I was home schooled from year 9 to 12 due to being bulled. I loved home schooling but I missed having friends and interacting with ppl my age. I think it is a good idea as long as u find a mother way for them to have friends and learn the things that kids there own age can only teach them .