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    Kikiea
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    My 13 month old also barely talks.. but when we went to the doctor for his 12 month check up they weren’t concerned about it… I mean he really doesn’t say words at all.. he’s constantly babbling.. but no real words yet… I think it’s still fairly normal…

    #6771457

    michir
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    HELP with my little one. I am currently on strict bedrest and I have a little one as well. My 2 year old just isn’t happy with having 24/7 time with daddy and none with mommy. The hubby took off work to help me with her but if I’m here she just wants me to be with her. We’ve tried telling her that the baby needs rest so she can get big and strong and mommy needs to help baby. And that works for some part, but especially when she’s tired it’s like a major melt down. Anyone have ANY suggestions? We are out of ideas!!

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    luvbeingamom
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    Can you have special mommy time. When you spend a couple hours with her, playing a game in bed, like hungry hippo or some puzzles. maybe have some reading time, cuddle time while watching her fav TV program, etc. Stuff that you can still do while on bedrest. Allowing her the mommy time she so desprately wants and controlling the time so that you can maintain being on bedrest. Good Luck. I know my kids would be basket cases if i couldn’t be with them most of the time.

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    KayandRysMoM
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    ok so my daughter isnt really a toddler…she will be 4 in march. Just wanted to know if anyone else has experienced this with thier kids. She has always been healthy…she has only had about 4 sick dr appts in her life. For the past month or so she has had issues throwing up. She doesnt do it constantly and there is really no pattern. Usually it will be at night while shes sleeping she will sit up and throw up…usually once a week or so. Tonight she did it again…she was watching TV and just started throwing up…she didnt eat much today bc she has a cold and wasnt very hungry and most of what she threw up was mucus stuff. I guess she could just have a sensitive stomach? She will throw up one night and then not again for days after that so im assuming its not a stomach bug…my mom said some kids just throw up…Its just really hard for me bc i get so upset when she throws up bc i feel like something is wrong with her…but shes by no means sickly she carries on her reg life after she gets it out….happy as can be saying she feels better. Any ideas on how to settle her stomach or expereinces like this would be great!

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    lauraj43
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    Hello my name is Laura and I have a 4-year-old daughter named Emily. Every day I spend with her is simultaneously a joy and a challenge to my mothering abilities. I work full-time so I don’t get to see her as much as I would like and sometimes it just feels like I’m falling short of my duty to her. My friend introduced me to this online show called “Jen and Barb, Mom Life and they said in one of the episodes that blogs can be a great place to meet other moms and share experiences so I thought I’d give it a try and see who’s out there!

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    luvbeingamom
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    kays – Have you explored the possiblity of allergies? My older son was allergic to dairy when he was younger. He would randomly vomit both day and night. Otherwise he was perfectly normal. He would be playing one minute, vomit and then go straight back to playing. He was younger, 3 months the first time, and 12 months when we tried again, he reacted the same way. He grew out of it around 2 and half. From what our ped said, a child can grow into and out of allergies at any time. You might want to evaluate what your daughter is eating. B/c if she is allergic to something the more of the food she has the more the reactions she will have.

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    luvbeingamom
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    laura – Welcome! I have 2 boys. 3 and half and 14 months. I also work full time.

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    Ange
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    Hi All I hope everyone is doing Great. I havent seen anone in a while because we moved and stuff was just going on. I miss talking to you all. 🙂 I would love to catch up on how you and all your babies are doing.I Just found out I am pregnant again so Ayden will have a sibling closer to his age. 🙂 we are so excited.

    #6771464

    Heather86
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    Hello all, lets see if there is anyone out there like me. I am 22 years old have a 3 1/2 year old daughter and 1 1/2 year old son , now i am expecting our third and final child. my kids are my life right now they are out of control crazy and to top it all off we are now a military family and living on a base where i know no one!

    #6771465

    Amanda72385
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    hey everyone i need some ideas…my MIL is coming over tomorrow to take my 3 yr old out for her birthday since she didnt get her a gift so i need ideas for things to keep my 4 yr olds mind disstracted and not saddened that she isnt getting to go. My girls have never been seperated like this and its always been obvious on the favoritism towards my youngest two since my oldest isnt blood to her and it was shown on my 4 year old birthday how bad it is when my MIL got my oldest a training seat for the toilet after shes already been potty trained for a while now. so if anyone has any ideas let me know please cause i feel really bad for my daughter who doesnt get to go.

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    goingfor3
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    We had the hardest time breaking my dd from the nighttime bottle… our trick – switch back to breastmilk (or formula)! Sounds weird but when I had my second daughter I was making SOOO much milk and she refused the bottle so I had an entire freezer of milk… So, I thought instead of wasting it – give it to my older daughter (who was 16 months at the time). Some moms bf for years, right? So I thought it can’t hurt her! I gave her the nighttime bottle and she took one sip and handed the bottle back to me!!! The next night I tried to give her the regular milk in the bottle and she would have NOTHING to do with it!!! From that day on – the bottle was gone! Sounds weird but if you are desperate it’s worth a try – can’t hurt him

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    shanelle
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    AM I A BAD MOM?
    this is a very serious blog for me im hopeing some moms can give me some good advice and tips and support. this is about my 5 year old daughter. she has hit a bad point since starting school last august and im losing my mind trying to help her be happy. which i know that all kids whine and had bad days and throw fits sometimes and dont always want to eat but she is constant everyday im struggling with her. i miss my happy explorative goofy daughter . a day for me is we get up at 7 she whines and dont get out of bed till 7 15 then i make her something to eat and let her enjoy a cartoon and when she is done eating it is supposed to be time to get dressed well ‘im cold’ ‘my cartoon’ ‘i dont wanna go to school’ and so on so it takes 10 more min to get her dressed and by that time we have 5 min to get her hair done and coat and shoes on all while shes crying and whine constantly i end up having to shut off the cartoon and she gets louder and cries more. so finally shes ready for school after i have had to yell 4 or 5 times (i hate yelling at my daughter it makes me cry all the time) shes ready to go so off to school and we have to remind her to have a good day because she gets in trouble in school about the smallest things like she crys if she is not picked as helper for EVERYTHING she crys and stomps her feet at school if play time isnt long enough and so on. so then at 11 she gets home wants something to eat and turns down everything i offer so finally i make her something and she wont eat it. then its on to playing and when she is doing someting wrong and i ask her to stop she ignores me 4-5 times before i have to walk up to her and physically take things away this happenes all day long then she crys and whines and when i say whine i mean she sits there an eeeeehhhh eeeeehhhhh eeehhhh constantly i think she does it to up set me so i tell her she will got o her room if she does not stop crying and she say ‘ill cry louder!’ or if i put her in the corner i tell her 5 mins but if she asks to get out (which she does the whole time) tht ill add a min so when she does i say 6 min and she screams. if i put her in her room she yells loud enough for the neighbors to hear. now im not usually this type to spank or anything i hate it and it makes me feel bad but this last month i have tried EVERYTHING spanking (she cries louder) tapping her mouth when she talks back (once again she does it more or gets louder) my mom used to stick soap in my mouth i wouldnt do it the way she does but i even tried to wet my finger dab it on a saop bar and stick it on her tounge horrible right? i have put her in her room for hours while she cries. now dont get me wrong i try everything else BEFORE punishment i try talking to her i try helping her asking her whats wrong and so on… the nice path does it work ? no . then dinner oh good ole dinner well it usually consists of me trying to encourage her to eat for 1/2 hour to one hour which in time i usually get frustrated half way through cuz its good things she just dont want to eat like cheesy potatoes of fries or mac n cheese its not like broccoli and stuff so by the end i have had her in her room 3-4 times and each time shes says im gonna eat i let her out and she sits down and….’i dont want that!’ after she just told me she was gonna eat so once again back to her room eventually by 7 or 8 at night she calms down and the its time for bed there soon after and.., you guessed it ‘i didnt get to play’ and cries and whines again well if she would have just listened her whole night wouldnt have been spent in her room. and this gets progressivly worse day by day. and thats just a normal day that dont have anything to do with when we go places she always wants something shes greedy and nothing is good enough i know she understands she is soooooo smart but its like she got into this habit and now i cant break it. i have tried it all talking, helping, punishing, taking toys away, sending her to bed, i have looked at parenting sites and nothing is working i usually end up crying by the end of the night because im so sad that shes sad cuz i know what kinda girl she can be i have asked if there is anything wrong or if anyone has hurt her and so on and she says no i know this is long but i could keep going for days i just want my daughter back please help. oh and i know some think thta the baby could be causing her to feel left out but thats the ONLY thing she is so happy about she talks to my tummy everyday she even holds the glow worm up there and ets her to move tell me she loves baby everyday and kisses my tummy and looks at the baby books for hours on end sometimes so i KNOW thats not the reason but i was hoping she would be acting better before baby got here so that we could enjoy everyday together as a family. any advice good bad critisism anything will be greatly appriciated i just want her to be happy.

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    luvbeingamom
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    You are not a bad mom! My son started doing a lot of what you are saying your daughter is doing now. He will whine or cry over everything. He will throw fits and generally doesn’t want dinner anymore, even if it is his ‘favorite’. Things i have done to help (and he has helped)… 1. Time outs are just that, timeouts. No matter how much he screams rants raves etc, i don’t pay any attention to him. He too will either scream can i get up now or I am sorry or anything he thinks might work. He is 3 so he gets a 3 minute timeout. the 3 minutes start when he is sitting in the timeout seat. If he gets up the 3 minutes starts again until he is sitting there for a full 3 mintues. I don’t ever talk to him while he is in TO. If he gets up. I look at him, pick him up or guide him back to the chair, never speaking. I found that the more i speak the more he gets what he wants, attention.
    2. For dinner. he gets a plate of food and he has to sit at the table with me, his brother and his father (only on weekends, DH is away on business during the week). He has to sit there until we have all finished our meal. He can choose to eat or choose to go hungry. He will eat when he is hungry. His food will sit at the kitchen table until 30 minutes before bedtime. Which at that point he hasn’t eaten it will be tossed out and he has to wait until breakfast before eating. He has starting eating dinner again 🙂
    3. The whinning/crying- i just don’t respond. When he is calm and not whinning i talk to him and say if you want or need something from me, you will say it in a big boy voice or you will not get it. It seems to help.
    4. The tantrums. I have issues with these and honestly don’t know what to do about them. He will through them but i have to hold him and get him to breath with me (deep breaths) or he will get himself so worked up that he will vomit.
    5. The talking back, i tap/smack his mouth and tell him that is not acceptable behavior and if he does it again he will loose a privileged. (usually his 15 minutes of Wii time or his 30 minutes of TV that night). So far it is helping, but we have also had a lot fo quite time without TV or the Wii! hehe.
    I am sure your daughter is not handling the stress of change well. Maybe on the weekend build up to a fun activity. On your calendar mark her good days and when she has 5 good days, you get to do something fun. Set the rules out clearly (if she can read, post them in writing). Talk to her about school and the baby and suggest what you think she is feeling. She maybe to young to really understand why or what she is feeling. I am sorry! THat is a tough situation. Good Luck!

    #6771469

    shanelle
    Member

    thank you very much its nice to know im not the only one i have tried many of the same things i gues i will just have to keep being consistant in hopes she will learn

    #6771470

    MsBeenee
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    For all of those mommies who have toddlers who throw the worst of tantrums, back talking and fits…..My oldest who is going to be three in April was REALLY bad at all three of these and I started reading the SuperNanny book by Jo Frost…..it has changed him drastically in just the last four days that I have implemented some of her ideas. I was never one to have my kids on a schedule for sleeping and eating and thought there is no way I could ever restrict myself like that. But in desperation and being sick and tired of going to be at 12:00 a.m. I chose to give it a try. I set the times I wanted: Wake-up 7:00 a.m., breakfast 8 a.m., snack 10 a.m., lunch 11:45 a.m., Naptime 12:00 or so (as soon as lunch was finished), snack after nap, dinner at 5:30, sleep at 8:00. The first couple days it was a little hard just because my kids werent used to it and neither was I….but you could see improvements fast. And I also monitored the amount of sugar my almost 3 year old was getting too. Since he was only getting 2-3 snacks a day they had to be some-what healthy choices. She says in her book that lots of sugar and not enough sleep, which would be anything less than 12-15 hours a day (including naps) would make them honery, defiant, throwing tantrums and all the above. Its true! Now I am a less stressed mom and feel like I have way more free time than before….and my kids are happier kids too. If you can go the library and check this book out or buy it I would totally advise it! If you have any questions please ask on my page!

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