Mothers in law

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    Mommy2B24
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    I’m so happy I found this message board lol! My MIL is the worse. Me & my husband have been together for 5 yrs and she still dislikes me. In the beginning things seemed ok, but once he told her he was proposing she came up with a list of things that were wrong with me. Since then all she’s done is pretend to like me, talk about me behind my back, and slyly insult me when we’re around each other.Whenever my husband won’t do what she wants him to do she accuses me of coming between them. Like he doesn’t have a mind of his own lol! Still, if she asks for my help with her sick mom I gladly come over and look after her. I don’t do this for her, but I do it for my husband because that’s his grandmother. Now that I’m preggo she acts like she’s not interested in the baby. She usually tells all of our personal business to her friends & family, but oddly none of them know about the baby. It’s like she’s ashamed. She insulted me 2mths ago and I put her in her place. She took it out on my husband of course. We haven’t seen or spoken to her since then, but ppl keep telling us the awful things she’s saying about us & our baby behind our backs. Usually my husband tries to avoid the situation to keep the peace, but he said I don’t deserve to be treated like that. He decided that she won’t be apart of our child’s life because she can’t respect him or the mother of his child. Way to go hubby! I’m glad he stood up for me, but I know he’s hurt that it came to this.

    #6936458

    Bek30
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    Izzie: Tell ure hubby that u will all go to ure mum’s place thru the day seen as though ure nanna is coming all that way to spend time with Amy on such a special day and that it would be nice for them to spend time together while Amy is in a good mood, and since u see his parents nearly every week, then they can be the ones that suffer when she is in a bad mood…. why should they get to see her all the time when she is happy? Or if that dosen’t work, try bluffing hubby and tell him that u guys will spend the morning together as a little family, and then he can go to his mums for lunch and u and Amy will go to ure mums for lunch. It has gotta suck to be in that situation…. My hubbies family don’t want anything to do with us, so their is no double xmas for us… we just get up do our own thing with the kids, then meet up with my family around 10am, then all my mates come over around 3pm and party till about 10pm

    #6936714

    KEBLER98
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    Ok, MAJOR vent coming on…. Ok, so if you have been reading in here you know my MIL has temp custody of my step daughter. Hubby is ready to take her and she won’t let her go…. SO we are taking her to court…. Well we go Friday for a hearing to decide if this should even be in court because according to her lawyer there is NO reason for it…. Well we finally got his written response yesterday (Mind you MIL’s lawyer has know about this case since February and in April he still didn’t have it done the first time we went to the judge who demanded he do it.) Anyway… This response had the most stupid crap in it. His mother is claming that he has NEVER held a job for more than 6 months, LIE!! We thought of 4 last night. The fact that our basement has no access from the inside of the house was mentioned. Hello, she lives in a ‘tin can’ (trailer) and has NO basement. Said that when step daughter comes to visit she sleeps in the dining room. No it is not a dining room, it is her room, with her bed, dresser, and toys in it. When we remodel the house (the house is a 2 family home with the upper half being destroyed by a fire long before my brother purchased the home.) we are going to make all the bedrooms upstairs and turn her bedroom into a dining room. She said my hubby has NEVER told her he wanted his daughter back, LIE I was there on a few of the times he did talk to her. She would immedately start crying so he would the conversation and walk away… She said step daughter has asthma and takes 3 meds for it and goes to doctor every 3 months… OK I have severe asthma, so do you think I don’t know how to care for someone with asthma??? (Hubby has asthma too so we are no stranger to it) Said his daughter doesn’t want to come visit us, yet she has never expressed that to us, in fact before my hubby filed the motion he talked to his daughter who started crying with a HUGE smile, hugged him and said ‘yes daddy, I want to come home and live with you, THANK YOU!’ And there is so much more it would take me forever to write. My hubby is so MAD at his mother it isn’t even funny. He only wants to talk to her about our visitation with his daughter and NOTHING else. If she text him, he ignores it. She doesn’t realize how much she is hurting him, and that kills me. How can a mother do this to her child??

    #6936970

    Mommy2B24
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    mayy08-finally there’s someone who knows what I’m going through. I was actually surprised by my husband’s reaction to this whole thing. He too believes that we have to continue to be mature, and for years I’ve given in. This was just the last straw for me. I couldn’t continue to be mistreated any longer. Best of luck to you too!

    #6936459

    Wow I love this site Now I can vent and read that other peoples mother in laws are a pain too, lol well im 8 weeks prego this is her first grand child and she sent me a text the other day after getting a look at the first u/s ‘our baby is so beautiful’ ok im all for her being there for us but she thinks this baby is hers too she has already joked around talking about how she wants everyother weekend visits and I know she is serious. And she had a nice little tantrum when I told her she couldnt go with us to the u/s. Am I just loosing it with the hormones and all?

    #6936715

    Leila08
    Member

    Yeah my MIL is now calling my mother like crazy trying to make good conversation with my mother. What a hag. Doesn’t she know I know her little scheme? I can read her inside out. She makes it seem like she changed but she hasn’t. Every time we go and visit her she always wants me apart from my husband. Always asking me to run errands while she has her time alone with her son. What a b***h

    #6936971

    AMK1984
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    Husband and I started IUI w/ clomid & a trigger shot this cycle and I’m currently in the 2 week wait! I need to vent though. This past week my inlaws have made some not so nice comments to my husband and I which is really out of character for them! I’m just not sure how to absorb it. My inlaws have noticed my husband has been very stressed with work lately (he technically works for them, it’s their company they just aren’t really involved in the day to day). So they were pressuring him to go out of town with his dad to ‘relax’ and destress a little. He explained to them several times that we had been going through treatments and we were scheduled for the IUI this weekend and if he were to go away it would be alot of money and prep work wasted but they continued to batter him. Then Thursday in one last ditch attempt to get him to go his dad ended up actually saying well sometimes you just need to let go?! What the heck is that suppose to mean? This is our first cycle of fertility treatment WAY WAY too early to just ‘throw in the towel’. Then his mom texted us yesterday and said we’re going to bonefish on Sunday evening and invited us to come, hubby said we would go even though we had bonefish the night before and his mom said, well maybe you should just plan things a little better and we wouldn’t have this problem, she then said we’ll be there at Sunday if you want to show up. UGH!!! How on earth could we have known they were going to be going to bonefish Sunday. I think his mom is just upset we had dinner with some people that work for them and his mom doesn’t like the wife because she thinks she is ‘weird’ but Brad and I like them….true they are a little different but after hearing their history its understandable and we can relate to part of what they’ve been through as they were never able to have children. We obviously aren’t going to go to dinner, definitely not in the mood to deal with attitude! It doesn’t really bother me but I know it really hurts my husband!!! Sorry for the rant!

    #6936460

    JessieZC
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    Izziebo: Seriously, I would say, We’ll go to your mum’s on christmas eve and my mum’s on Christmas Day to spend with my grandma who’s coming up to see the baby. Besides, I never get to see my family. If you don’t want to go to my mum’s then that’s fine, Amy and I will go.

    #6936716

    tjill
    Member

    Hi all, anyone heard from Jenna82 lately? Am a little worried as I left her a private msg on May 6 and still no answer… She’s got major MIL issues and I remember I saw her posting re: Easter. Info on my page if possible, otherwise I’ll check in here, many thanks.

    #6936972

    JessieZC
    Member

    *OMG* My mIL called last night. My FIL had come down for a visit not to long ago and got the impression that we would consider moving closer to them. She called to find out when we were moving. ‘Should she start some paperwork? Start looking for jobs for us? Look at a few places for Housing? She could fix up the basement? Or sell us her house, and she’d just move to a smaller place. My husband has a history degree, he could be a senator (um, delusional!)! ‘ Um, we aren’t moving. We WOULD consider it, but we’d have to have jobs there, and we’d have to have money to move, and we’d have to wait until after the baby came. She’s already looking for jobs for us. I know I’m going to have e-mails from her about 100 different open jobs there… none of which I will be qualified for or even remotely interested in. Worse yet, she’ll want me to come and work with her. (haha, I actually just gagged thinking about that… 1st trimester!). Even hubby said he’s going to have to call her up and put his foot down.

    #6936461

    stargazer530
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    My family is having our family gathering Sunday with two rounds of family coming. Then Christmas Eve we are going around to all of DH’s family and delivering their presents. I told DH I want to spend xmas at home from now on so we can enjoy time with our little one (she’s not due until Feb but we’re starting the tradition early). I hate the whole double or triple holidays!

    #6936717

    campimama
    Member

    Okay, I just gotta vent for a second…so I don’t vent on hubby when he gets home =) I’ll just preface this by saying that i love my MIL, but she drives me crazy sometimes. I’m so tired of her ‘the world revolves around me’ attitude, I could scream. Last week I got a call asking if she could borrow a $100. Just for a week. I figured out our finances and told her we could help her out but I needed it back the next Friday (that would be today). She said no problem. This morning I get a call saying that she has the money, but no time to drop it off because she has all these other things she has to take care of today. I flatly told her that she needed to make the time because I need to put the money into the bank by the end of the day. She then gets all huffy and has an attitude like I’m the one being unreasonable. Seriously? We did HER the favor! AHHHH! Anyway, why should I have to be put in the position of pointing out her responsibilities? It really wasn’t about the money, I didn’t have to have it, it’s the principle. Was I out of line?

    #6936973

    1Day
    Participant

    Cinderella i’m sorry you having to go through a difficult MIL. I have one of those not easy but one day you will just have enough and you will just snap. I have had to tell my MIL many time to pretty much back off but in my sweet voice so she is confused when i tell off and she has no reason to cry to my DH that i was mean to her. There comes a time when you need to just tell look lady i love you you are my husband mom and going to be my child’s grandmother and you need ot keep in mind that i am your son’s wife and his child’s mother not you. tell her you will always be a part of our lives but please stop insulting me or making it seem as if i don’t know what i am doing i need to learn for myself and if and when i need any advice i will make sure you are the first person i come too ok, love you, i want us to have a good MIL DIL relationship….even if you don’t mean she will buy it and will get off your back if not that you need ot be mean back to her. If you don’t put a stop to it now it will be a lot harder once your baby is born. i hope my advice helps you. Good Luck…..by the way i’ve been with my husband from dating to now married total of ten years so put a stop to it soon if not it will never stopp lol trust me i know MIL you gotta love them lol

    #6936462

    ItsChelle
    Member

    i thought we had plans but not sure now..i mentioned in my comments below how elated my mil was to have christmas at our house for once. she has been asking repeatedly if i changed my mind yet, i said no, i can handle it and im looking forward to it. my sil was maybe going to come out as well but she might not. so now either my mil or her hubby is going out to see sil possibly..i asked hubby what about our plans then? we just dont know. which pisses me off because i dont want to know the day before, not even 2 days before, i need to know now so i can plan! i just dont get how 1 wk away and the plans might change after she was making sure we wanted them over here. so if one or both goes to my sil’s then i will never ask them here again nor do i plan on going there for holidays. sil is an adult with her own family,theres a reason they want to go all of sudden see her now, which i can understand, but this ‘issue’ is not news. and therefore she shouldve thrown out that possibility of going to see her before finalizing our plans…we will see though..dont wanna get upset over nothing right now

    #6936718

    Leila08
    Member

    My MIL has been beginning her usual evilness and selfishness by asking almost over 500 each month. I got fed up with it and told my husband to talk to her or else I’m going to be so mad at him. My husband got fed up with it too. My MIL got angry and said that if we dont’ help her pay her stupid bills WE have to do my FIL’s college homework for the week. That’s freaken annoying. She’s not a giver but a taker.

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