Mothers in law

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    babynguyen2
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    Ok well this is not about my mil but my own mom! I have had it and now I done with her and both of my brothers!!! My youngest brother (16) does drugs, enough said there. My other brother (17) just moved out of my house a few weeks ago and now I think is worse than before he lived with me. I don’t know if he is doing drugs again or what, but I don’t trust him anymore. He took his PlayStation that I brought him nearly 4 years ago and put in pawn and he had promised he’d never do that. He has been lying to me, missing school ( he still uses my address to go to school in another district) I don’t want to have to go to court with him, I’m due in 4 months. And my mom is the worst of all three! She has been lying to everyone in our family and using them to get more money, cause she never has any. She has 2 job and a check for 1,300 every month for one of my brothers cause I took the other for my brother who was living with me at the time and now again lives with my mom. And now she is filing bankruptcy cause she can’t pay her bills or the cash loans she has. Chevy is sueing her 18,000 and Nissan is sueing her for 12,000 and Ace Cash Express is sueing her for not paying her cash loans on time, not to mention she is 6,000 dollars in dept with cash loans. She is living rent free and has payed my grandmother (her mom) any of the money she was suppose to for living in my grandmothers house (grandmother lives with my aunt) And my mom and brothers are tearing up my grandmothers house. My mom even tricks my aunt (her sister, who grandmother lives with) into helping pay for things and then my mom turns around and puts everything in pawn that she owns and 2 months later has to come up with even more money to get her stuff out of pawn! OMG all of this just makes me so mad, I finally went to talk to my mom bout my brother and nothing was solved, except my brother is no longer speaking to me cause I told him I don’t trust him. And I told my mom that everything my brother is doing is stressing me out and I don’t want to lose this baby or have him premature cause they are stressing me out. Well my mom just basically turned everything on me and in not so many words blamed me for her bankruptcy. And wouldn’t relieve any of my stress cause than she would have to deal with it. So I went to my aunt and my grandmother and we all agreed not to help out my mom or my brothers anymore! I’m going to contact my brothers school and tell them they are living in another district and then my mom will have to send them to another school and I’m contacting Social Security to tell them my brother doesn’t live with me anymore and thats going to screw up my moms bankruptcy. My aunt is longer going to help with food and things for my brothers and my grandmother has decided to basically kick my mom and brothers out of her house at the end of the year or the beginning of next year. I’m not going to have any contact with my mom or brothers any more, she not even going to be invited to my baby shower, its either my kids or my family and I choose my kids. I hope no one else has to stop talking to their family unless they want to. And what makes it worse for me is that the holidays are here and then next my son will be born and its sad he will never know his grandmother (my mom) or his uncles! Sorry this is so long, I have been having a hard time lately!

    #6936534

    jeni
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    I have one for you girls… My daughter is 3 months today. My other daughter is going to be 8 in March. My husband and I began dating when my 14 yo was 2… (just a little background for you)…

    My MIL still has not seen my littlest daughter. Her baptism is scheduled for 2-8-09 and she is supposed to be there. Hope she doesn’t try to monopolize my baby…

    And only sees my other daughter 1-2 times a year. Wish I could say my kids are missing out, but they aren’t – she is TERRIBLE!!! We call her the Wicked Witch of the South (cause she lives south of me!)

    #6936790

    Joelisa
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    Well my future MIL is nice, too nice I might say. Sometimes she won’t take no for an answer. I know shes trying to help but she had her chance to raise 3 boys. One thing that really bothers me is someone telling me how to raise my son. I know I’m a new mother in all but let me get the chance to experience motherhood without someone constantly riding my back sheesh! And shes always suggusting I put a little rice cereal in his bottle. I breastfeed so when I pump she always trying to take what I set aside an put rice cereal in it. Ok I won’t lie, I was ok with it @ 1st. Until she made the bottle super thick that it wouldn’t come out the whole, and she bit a whole in the nipple just so it could come out. So I stopped giving him rice cereal period even tho I would only put a tiny bit in it. But still I stopped and I told her we don’t want to give it to him. So yesterday I’m getting his bottle out the frig, because he likes to drink my milk out the bottle before bedtime. So she still insist on saying I still put just a little rice cereal in his bottle, I just ignore her because I already told her we don’t want him to have that. Then she starts talking about next month we can give him baby food mind you he is only 6wks old as of today. I’m like will she ever stop, I’m afraid to leave him with her cause she doesn’t listen to what I to say about my son. I know I will be happy once we move out of her house. Don’t get me wrong I luv her but she won’t stop.

    #6936535

    nikongirl24
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    teresa08–

    I will pray for her! My father was diagnosed and had an operation for colon cancer last year and we almost lost him. His cancer is completely gone now, but I worry everyday that it could come back before I have my baby. Cancer is a nasty thief. I’ll be thinking of you!

    #6936791

    campimama
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    joelisa- Your lo is WAY WAY WAY too little for rice cereal! Especially if you are bf. They recommend waiting till 6 months with bf babies. And you never want to feed it to them in a bottle. If they can’t eat it from a spoon, they aren’t ready for it. It is an old wives tale that it will help them sleep longer. Maybe do some research and show her. Otherwise, just stick to your guns. I know it’s hard, but she had her chance to raise a child, this is your turn. Maybe try to gently remind her of that. Good luck!!

    #6936536

    lizzy831
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    hi my mil came for the birth of my son she stayed 6 weeks. now I’m going to have my 4th child this year and she is already making plans to come and stay with us again this time she says she might just stay 3 months. how do I tell her no? please help I’m not sure I can take her coming again.

    #6936792

    Jamiee
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    joelisa – You have to really put your foot down!! I had to do it with my mother. To the point that I refused to let her babysit because I knew she would sneak him a cookie when he was way too young. Even now, he is a year old but she wont listen to the schedules I set for him, so she doesnt babysit. It upsets her but she is going to have to realize that I am the mother and I am well within my rights to make those requests. You are absolutely right about telling her you dont want cereal in the bottle. Hopefully you have the baby’s father behind you as support because that makes all the difference. With my MIL, our main issue was the pacifier. She was convinced that every peep he made was because he wanted a paci. To the point that everytime they came over I would hide all the pacis so she wouldnt put a plug in his mouth. So annoying!!

    #6936537

    JessieZC
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    LiZZY!!! TELL HER NO!! Tell her that you and your baby need to have time to be together and that while you welcome her to come for a shorter visit, a longer visit just isn’t something that you are up for. Also make sure to hint that it might not be good money sense since staying at a hotel that long is bound to get pricey.

    #6936793

    Jamiee
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    mrsdenney – that is a really bad situation you are in for yourself and your son. If your MIL is an enabler then she is just as much a danger as your husband is if he is drinking. If you want to work things out with your husband, the only solution would be to get away from your MIL! Then at least you can see if there is anything to work out. With her forever there and so close there doenst seem to be a chance and for the safety and wellbeing of the two of you, stay far away. I feel for you and wish you the best of luck!!

    #6936538

    JessieZC
    Member

    Why is it that my fil, rude as he can be… stand by the rule that houseguests are like fish… they start to stink after 3 days. But my MIL doesn’t apparently know that one?

    #6936794

    Bri
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    joelisa – campimama is right. I was thinking the same thing then saw she wrote it. Great mind think alike HAHA! Definately stop the cereal now. It can lead to allergies, gast. problems, early onset diabetes, etc. etc etc. It’s not good for little little babies. Their tummies just aren’t ready for it. Six months is what most doctors will recommend (unless they are old school and haven’t done their research but even they say four months). There are three cues to go by to determine if your baby is ready. They are interested in your food, they have lost the thrust reflex (which is using their tongue to shove everyone out of the mouth) and that they can sit up right in a high chair without leaning back. I know at six weeks your baby doesn’t have any of those. Definately do some research and tell your MIL that sorry it’s not healthy for baby. Never put cereal in a bottle. Good for you to put your foot down with her though…stick to your guns.

    #6936539

    HappyForest
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    wow lizzy what a crazy lady!! who would want their mil to stay with them for three month?! you could say something like,’It would be really nice and helpfull if you could stay with us a week or two when the baby gets here.’ and if she says ‘how about 3 months’ just say that you are sure you can hande it by yourself and not to worry.

    #6936795

    luckywhite
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    my mil made my partner choose between her or me and the baby .. he chose her… spineless idiot.

    #6936540

    damn..
    this is some of the meanest sh*t I ever heard. my mil is great; I think..she hasn’t pissed me off just yet.

    #6936796

    JessieZC
    Member

    Lilli1317 – My MIL does the same thing with the pacifiers. My daughter hasn’t used one in 8-10 months. She never cared much for them and just stopped using them at about 4-6 months. I kept a couple of them for nostagia (some are preemie pacis) and when my MIL came to visit over the summer… she found them, and tried to give them to her because LO obviously was crying because she wanted her ‘Plug.’ I put my foot down and said she hadn’t used one in 6 months, she didn’t need it now. I know that in a couple of weeks I’ll find Olive with a paci in her mouth when we go visit for a wedding and MIL babysits. sigh. Frustrating.

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