Help me, please!

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    Kris022
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    Hello, girls! You know, I want to turn to surrogacy. But, I don’t know much about it. What should I do first? Well, unfortunately I cannot have my own children. But my spouse and I want to make our family full. At first we wanted to adopt a child. But we didn’t really like this idea. I think that surrogacy is much better. But it is difficult to start, because of the luck of information. Maybe there is someone who have turned to surrogacy already? If so, could you please tell me something about it. Just anything that may be important? I would like to know more before starting. I will be very happy to get your advices. Thank you.

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    Lilly398
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    Hi! You know, I think I may help you. Well, I have a friend. She can’t have her own children too. That is why her husband and her decided to turn to surrogacy. This is not very difficult procedure. But you know it takes some time. First of all, it is important to find a good clinic. Then you need to see the doctors. They will tell you all the details. It is important to follow all the recommendations. But you know, I need to say that surrogacy is not the only way to have a child. Actually, I have the same problem. But now I am a mother. I haven’t turned to surrogacy. I turned to IVF. You may think about it too.

    #10788409

    Kris022
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    Oh, thanks for the answer! Well, you are right. Clinic is a very important part in the situation. So, I need to be very careful and choose it right. Yeah, I should start with it. This would be very good begging. But you know, now I also interested in your words about IVF. Actually, I didn’t even think about it. Now I think that it is pretty good way to make my dream come true. I think I need to talk about it with my spouse. I like it much better. May I ask you to tell me something about it too? I know almost nothing about it. Only general information. May you please share your experience?

    #10788410

    Lilly398
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    Of course, there isn’t any problem. I would be very happy to share my experience. I think that I need to begin with the simplest things. They will help you to understand the most important things much better. I want to begin with this: IVF is a complex series of procedures. They are used to treat fertility or genetic problems and assist with the conception of a child. During this procedure, mature eggs are collected from your ovaries. Than they are fertilized by sperm in a lab. Then the fertilized egg or eggs are implanted in your uterus. You know, one cycle of IVF takes about two weeks. It is not so long actually. I think that IVF is the most effective form of assisted reproductive technology. You need to know that the procedure can be done using your own eggs and your partner’s sperm. Or IVF may involve eggs, sperm or embryos from a known or anonymous donor. In some cases, a gestational carrier might be used. This is a woman who has an embryo implanted in her uterus. Of course, your chances of having a healthy baby using IVF depend on many factors. They are: your age and the cause of infertility. In addition, IVF can be time-consuming, expensive and invasive. If more than one embryo is implanted in your uterus, IVF can result in a pregnancy with more than one fetus. That means there is a possibility of multiple pregnancy. Your doctor can help you understand how IVF works. He can explain the potential risks. He also will tell you whether this method of treating infertility is right for you. I think that this is the most important information you need to know. If you decide to start this procedure, you will also need to begin with finding a clinic. After that your doctors tell you all that you need to know. If you are really interested in this, I may answer your questions. Or I may tell you a bit about surrogacy. I will be glad to help you.

    #10788411

    Kris022
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    Yeah, I would be glad if you helped me. Well, maybe you know something about the risks? As I understand this procedure is pretty safe. But I don ‘t believe that it doesn’t have any risks. By the way, is it painful? Well, I have heard that sometimes there is may be a failure. Why is it so? Should a woman keep a special diet during IVF? You know, this topic is really interesting for me. I even think that this will be the best way for us to make our family full. It is more natural way, i think. That is why i want to know about it a bit more. And thank you for your help. I am really glad that i find a person, who can really help me.

    #10788412

    Lilly398
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    Well, of course, there are some risks. But some of them are not serious. I know some of the most popular. Birth defects is one of them. But the age of the mother is the primary risk factor in every case, no matter how the child is conceived. IVF increases the risk of multiple births if more than one embryo is implanted in your uterus. Use of an aspirating needle to collect eggs could possibly cause bleeding, infection or damage to the bowel, bladder or a blood vessel. Risks are also associated with general anesthesia, if used. You know, just don’t think about it and everything will be okay. I am sure in it. Well, IVF is not a painful procedure. There is nothing to be afraid of. Of course there may be a failure. But in different cases the reasons are different. Doctor’s mistake is one of them. Sometimes when a woman doesn’t follow all the recommendations, result may be the same

    #10788413

    Kris022
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    Okay, i’ve got it. Well, could you please tell me a bit about clinics? Maybe you can recommend me a good one.

    #10788414

    Lilly398
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    Well, you know, i turned only to one clinic. That is why i don’t know much about the others. But i can tell about a clinic i turned to. This clinic is called BioTexCom. Well, i can say that i liked it. The doctors were pretty friendly, always tried to help with everything. They conditions are pretty good. The procedure was run by true specialists, i just felt it. Pretty good clinic. I think that you may turn to it.

    #10788415

    Kris022
    Participant

    Thank you! You really helped me. I learnt a lot of new and useful information. I am so glad. I hope that it will help me to achieve my goal. Good luck to you and your family!

    #10788492

    Inkedmom
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    @kris022 Hello Kris, I’m sorry to hear about your infertility, unfortunately we’re on the same boat. Sending you hugs! Surrogacy is definitely a good alternative to adption is case you’re keen on passing down the gene pool to your kids. However, surrogacy is more of a last resort and should be take up only when everything else has been tried or rendered futile. If you don’t mind telling, how old are you and your spouse? How long have you been trying to conceive and what all have you tried so far? What exactly your current speciality say could have been contributing to whole infertility… or they are still trying to figure out? In case you’ve had conceived anytime during all these years of tries that means you can conceive… which is somewhat positive. Otherwise, have you considered if donor conception can help you? If the cause is not an unexplained type… I guess most of them get’s sorted or have an answer by the time you reach IVF level… and it’s needed as well to decide if you have hope in gestational surrogacy or need traditional one. No matter the land or clinic surrogacy everywhere have rules and litigation. You’ll need to not only have tried everything and the documents that you failed at it as proof to go for surrogacy. Or perhaps medical records that you cannot have a gestation or a full gestation could be life-threatening. Please consider each of the possibilities if you haven’t already, before moving onto surrogacy. Good Luck

    #10788493

    Inkedmom
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    @lili398 I totally agree with you! I have had a failed round of IVF though – twin transfer and sort of coping with it, pestering my Dr for some supplements to help me with egg quality for my 2nd round. Unless there is a specific reason as in why she’ll have to avoid gestation or a major impairment that makes gestation in particular impossible, IVF is as good as surrogacy. Oh! the clinic is damn important… a lot depends on it. In fact, a lot of people simply consider only reference when going for an assisted fertility procedure which is in a way not the right way to select the best clinic. One should consider case specific reference, that’s most relevant to her own infertility cause or if there’s isn’t a cause and it’s still unexplained, one should consider factors like age, symptoms, whether they have happened to conceive at all or not etc. The same clinic that’s great with IVF, in general, might not offer the same expertise or success rate with menopausal women, likewise, one needing ICSI+IVF should look into the same.

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